My Friends are Better Than Yours

In this episode, Shawny and Melly Mel explore the intricacies of personal relationships and the pursuit of a "soft life". They candidly discuss the challenges of work-life balance, societal pressures on black women, and the realities versus social media portrayals of an effortless life.

Sharing personal experiences, they dive into the importance of emotional support in relationships, the dynamics of being a stay-at-home parent, and the quest for a balanced partnership. They also respond to a listener's concern about ambition disparities in marriage, emphasizing understanding and realistic expectations.

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After 4 years of flying solo, Shawny is ready to dip her toes back into the dating pool. I've learned a ton about myself, especially when it comes to communication and recognizing when it's time to walk away. I'm excited to share my insights on what I'm looking for in my next chapter of love.

Melly opened up about the whirlwind of being a stay-at-home mom to twins and how she and her husband are redefining traditional roles to create a more balanced home life. It's all about teamwork and tossing those outdated expectations out the window!

We got real about what a "soft life" means to us. It's not just about financial ease; it's about creating a life filled with peace, security, and the freedom to enjoy the little things—like spontaneous trips and dining out without the weight of the world on our shoulders.

Don't let those perfect Instagram lives fool you. We talked about the importance of substance in relationships and the dangers of comparing our behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight reel.

Beyond the laughs, we touched on the deeper aspects of relationships—finding that emotional and mental support that helps us navigate past traumas and build a future filled with genuine connection.

💌 Listener's Corner: We responded to a heartfelt letter from a husband feeling out of sync with his wife. Tune in to hear our 'expert' advice! 

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Timestamps:

Domestic Responsibilities (00:04:14)

Stay-at-Home Spouse (00:05:23) 

Soft Life Concept (00:10:46) 

Work-Life Balance (00:15:46) 

Financial Security (00:19:58) 

Soft Life and Financial Security (00:22:49) 

Challenges Faced by Black Women (00:23:47) 

Value of Education and Work Experience (00:24:46) 

Stay-at-Home Parenting (00:25:42) 

Relationship Dynamics and Pandemic Experience (00:26:45)

Creating a Soft Life and Financial Stability (00:29:21) 

Expectations in Relationships (00:32:23) 

Generational Perspectives on a "Soft Life" (00:33:26) 

Financial Expectations in Relationships (00:38:54) 

Dilemma in Marriage (00:43:21) 

Dating and Ambition (00:45:11) 

Support in Relationships (00:46:40) 

Creating a Soft Life (00:52:34) 

In this episode of Boldly Untitled™, Shawny and Melly Mel reflect on their holiday family traditions, comparing Caribbean and American customs. They delve into the complexities of family dynamics, discussing the challenges of large family gatherings and the nuances of generational traumas and curses.

They candidly share their own experiences with family secrets and the importance of breaking negative cycles for the sake of their children. The hosts also explore the delicate balance of parenting, striving to create open communication with their kids while avoiding the pitfalls they experienced in their own upbringings.

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We took a trip down memory lane, exploring our holiday traditions and how they've evolved over the years. From the vibrant Christmas Eve celebrations in Guyana to the intimate family gatherings that have shaped our lives, we've got stories that'll warm your heart and maybe even spark some of your own holiday nostalgia.

We got real about the impact of generational traumas and curses on our families. It's a topic that's close to our hearts, and we're committed to changing these patterns for our children's sake. Listen in as we share our personal journeys of self-awareness and the steps we're taking to create a healthier future for the next generation.

Parenting is no walk in the park, and we're not afraid to talk about the struggles and the wins. From fostering open communication with our kids to catching ourselves before we repeat the patterns of our parents, we're navigating this wild ride one step at a time. Join us as we discuss the delicate balance of guiding our children while also learning to let them grow.

Change isn't easy, but it's necessary. We're inviting you to commit to your own journey of transformation. Whether it's breaking free from past traumas, reshaping your family dynamics, or simply being a better version of yourself, we're here to support you every step of the way.

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In this episode of Boldly Untitled™, Shawny and Melly Mel kick off their second season by reflecting on their past year and setting intentions for the new one. They discuss the challenges of 2023, with Shawny revealing her travels and decision to close her brick-and-mortar business and consider returning to a 9-to-5 job.

They talk about goal setting, the pressure of new year's resolutions, and the importance of self-care and making decisions for personal happiness. The duo also touches on manifesting, with Shawny sharing her experience with self-worth in job offers and the power of positive energy in her work as a wedding planner.

They candidly explore the impact of language in interracial relationships and the influence of hip-hop culture. The conversation emphasizes the significance of setting boundaries, respecting cultural differences, and prioritizing one's own well-being.

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We've been besties for a quarter of a century (can you believe it?), and we've got some stories to tell. From the ups and downs of 2023 to the fresh vibes of 2024, we're getting real about our journeys. We're not just talking about the typical new year's resolutions; we're sharing the raw truth about what happens when things don't go as planned and how we pick ourselves back up.

Melly's got a confession: she's never been big on vision boards. But that doesn't mean she's not all about growth. This year, it's all about health for Shawny, and she's already taking steps toward that goal. Melly is taking life month by month, and honestly, it's a vibe we could all consider.

We're also peeling back the layers on some tough decisions we've made. I'm talking about the kind of choices that steer the course of our lives, like closing a business or diving back into the 9 to 5 grind. It's all about doing what's right for us, and sometimes that means saying no to things we don't love (even if it's just a TV show).

Travel has been a game-changer for us, and we're urging you to pack your bags and see the world. It's about more than just sightseeing; it's about the transformation that comes from new experiences and perspectives.

We're not shying away from the tough topics, either. We're tackling the complexities of interracial relationships and the importance of language and respect. It's a candid conversation that might just challenge you to think differently.

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Hosting a holiday event can be draining, especially when you have about 20 people over. We both agreed that the joy of the event can sometimes be overshadowed by the responsibilities of hosting. 

We delved into the often-overlooked aspect of parenting - the energy drain. As introverts, we sometimes struggle to find that much-needed alone time to recharge. 

We reflected on our podcasting journey, from our humble beginnings to Shawny's third microphone. We've learned so much along the way and can't wait to bring you more engaging content next season.

We touched on the allegations against Diddy and the importance of recognizing red flags in relationships. We also discussed the stigma around mental health, particularly among men, and the need for healing and seeking help.

We explored the complexities of love, especially when it's not well-received due to past traumas. It's crucial to understand where people come from, but also for individuals to take accountability for their own healing.

We discussed the importance of effective communication and avoiding triggers to foster healthier relationships with our children. We're determined to break the cycle of toxic behaviors.

We delved into how issues with parents can affect trust and lead to difficulties in forming healthy connections in future relationships. We also acknowledged the importance of self-reflection and seeking professional help to heal and learn from past experiences. 

As we look forward to the Christmas break, we're prioritizing creating memories and experiences over material gifts. And who knows, maybe next season we'll bring a therapist on the podcast!

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This week Shawny and Melly Mel welcome one of their lifelong friends Dree. They have a blast discussing their friendship through the years, sharing hilarious stories of being rebuked, laughing at inside jokes, and answering our first listener question about balancing boundaries as a follower of Christ. This fun episode is packed with jokes, thought-provoking discussion and a real conversation about maintaining TRUE friendship throughout the years.

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This week, Shawny and Melly Mel discuss their personal experiences with forgiveness. They explore different perspectives on forgiving and cutting off people in relationships. Melly Mel shares her struggles with forgiveness and grudges, while Shawny is more open to giving second chances. They also discuss the importance of understanding and respecting each other's needs in a relationship, the role of communication, and the significance of self-reflection and accountability.

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We kicked off the episode discussing our shared exhaustion, partly due to the recent time change. Does it really give us extra hours, or does it just rob us of our precious sunlight? We'd love to hear your thoughts!

We navigated the tricky waters of forgiveness. While Melly tends to hold grudges, Shawny is the forgiving type. We shared personal experiences and pondered what it takes to cut someone off from our lives. It's a topic that's close to our hearts and we hope it resonates with you too.

 We also touched on the double standards in forgiveness, using the example of Nelly and Ashanti's reunion. It's a fascinating discussion that we believe will spark some interesting conversations.

We questioned societal norms and expectations around relationships and marriage. We believe in creating our own rules that work for us, rather than conforming to society's expectations. 

We emphasized the importance of communication, sincerity, and genuine remorse in seeking forgiveness. We also discussed the significance of self-reflection and accountability when receiving feedback.

We wrapped up our discussion with a thought-provoking question and we'd love to hear your responses.

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In this episode of "Boldly Untitled," Shawny and Melly Mel discuss parenting struggles, and societal pressures surrounding motherhood. They share their experiences with their children's education and the challenges they face, including dealing with ADHD and dyslexia. They also touch on Sherri Shepherd's child support situation, emphasizing the importance of discussing children before marriage.

The duo criticizes societal pressures to marry and have children and discuss the unrealistic portrayals of parenting on social media and the importance of granting oneself grace as a parent. The episode concludes with a discussion on societal pressure for children to attend college.

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We delved into the stress of school applications, financial concerns, and the rollercoaster ride of motherhood. It's not always sunshine and rainbows, but it's a journey we wouldn't trade for anything.

We also touched on the importance of discussing children before marriage and the societal pressures to tie the knot and start a family. It's crucial to have these conversations early on.

From dealing with ADHD to navigating the education system for children with special needs, we shared our personal experiences and the lessons we've learned along the way.

We discussed the unrealistic expectations we often set for ourselves as parents and the importance of granting ourselves grace.

Remember, there's no such thing as a perfect parent. We explored the impact of words on mental well-being and how they can leave a lasting impression.

It's not just about what you say, but how you say it. We wrapped up by discussing the pressures of school, bullying, and the importance of being honest about the challenges of parenting. It's a tough job, but it's the most rewarding one.

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In this bous podcast episode, long-time friends Shawny and Melly Mel discuss relationships and personal growth Melly shares about married life and Shawny takes us through her journey of celibacy and her past attraction to 'hood niggas'.

She also talks about her ongoing healing process from past relationships and the importance of prioritizing her own mental health. This thoughtful episode provides valuable insights into the complexities of relationships and personal growth, highlighting the significance of self-reflection, healing, and establishing boundaries for a healthier and happier life.

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Shawny opened up about my celibacy journey and how it has helped me not to be swayed by physical intimacy.

She shared my journey of healing from past relationships and the importance of not carrying negative energy into new ones. It's crucial to take time to heal and date with intention and purpose.

We discussed the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing our own needs. It's okay to say 'no' and to take care of ourselves first.

We had a blast recording this episode and we hope you'll enjoy listening to it as much as we enjoyed creating it!

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