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    Poison (Pt 1) - The life of Tom Parfett

    enApril 26, 2023
    How does LinkedIn help find potential candidates?
    What tragic story is highlighted in the podcast "Poison"?
    What impact did societal expectations have on Tom Parfitt?
    Who is emphasized as needing greater accountability in the podcast?
    What challenges did Tom experience during his school transition?

    Podcast Summary

    • LinkedIn: Unique Access to CandidatesLinkedIn provides exclusive access to potential candidates not found on other job sites, making it a crucial platform for businesses seeking top talent.

      LinkedIn is a valuable resource for hiring professionals, especially those who aren't actively looking for new jobs. Sandra, a potential candidate, emphasizes that she wasn't found on other leading job sites, but instead on LinkedIn. Moreover, over 70% of LinkedIn users don't visit other leading job sites, making it an essential platform for businesses looking for top talent. Meanwhile, in a different context, the podcast "Poison" highlights the importance of raising awareness about suicide and its causes. The story of Tom Parfitt, a young British man who took his own life, underscores the potential dangers lurking online. The podcast investigates the role of a specific website and an individual in Tom's tragic demise, emphasizing the need for greater vigilance and support for those at risk. In summary, LinkedIn offers access to a unique pool of candidates, while the "Poison" podcast underscores the importance of addressing the complex issue of suicide and its root causes.

    • A father's quest for answers after his son's suicideThe lack of accountability and understanding around suicide leads to preventable deaths, impacting families and communities. It's crucial to address this issue and hold those responsible accountable to prevent future tragedies.

      The lack of accountability and understanding surrounding the issue of suicide is leading to preventable deaths. The story follows a father's quest for answers after his son took his own life, having purchased a substance from a man who ships it to the UK. Despite the devastating impact this is having on families, the man responsible is not being held accountable. In England and Wales, around 5,500 people take their lives each year, with men accounting for three quarters of those deaths. The father, David Parfit, believes it's never too late to talk about suicide and change someone's mind. He shares memories of his son Tom, who was a calm and chilled baby, and the impact of his loss on their family. The conversation highlights the importance of addressing this issue and the need for motivated law enforcement to prevent suicides.

    • Tom's Transition to Secondary School and Diagnosis of AutismTom, an academically gifted boy with autism, faced challenges during his transition to secondary school. His anxiety intensified, leading to attendance refusal and eventual diagnosis. Family changes impacted his experiences, but societal expectations led to tragic consequences.

      While Tom, a quiet and well-behaved boy with a love for football, showed signs of anxiety and different behavior as a child, his challenges became more apparent during his transition to secondary school. His anxiety intensified, leading him to refuse attendance, and he was eventually diagnosed with autism. The family went through significant changes, including a divorce and Tom living with his father, which impacted their relationship and Tom's experiences. Despite these challenges, Tom proved to be an academically high-achieving student, earning straight A's in his GCSEs and A-levels. However, the pressure of seeing his former classmates move on to university while he took a year out to work led to tragic consequences, as one of them took their own life. This story underscores the importance of understanding and addressing the unique needs of children with autism and the potential long-term impact of societal expectations on their mental health.

    • University student's mental health struggle and parents' involvementUniversities may involve parents in students' mental health concerns, but every mental health journey is unique. Support and open communication are essential for navigating complex mental health challenges.

      Mental health struggles, especially during academic pressures, can be complex and multifaceted. Tom's experience at university, where he was diagnosed as depressed and prescribed antidepressants, highlights the challenges parents face when their children are dealing with mental health issues. Tom's father, David, expressed skepticism about the use of medication, but ultimately had no control over his son's treatment. The discussion also touches upon the ongoing debate about whether universities should automatically inform parents about their students' mental health problems. Tom's story tragically ended just a month after his return to university in 2021. It's crucial to remember that everyone's experience with mental health is unique, and understanding, support, and open communication are key to navigating these challenges.

    • David's Experience with His Son's Mental Health CrisisAddress mental health issues seriously and promptly. Don't dismiss them as mere mood swings or bad episodes. Seek professional help if needed.

      It's important to address mental health issues seriously and promptly. In the discussion, we learned about the experience of a parent, David, who had to deal with his son Tom's mental health crisis. Tom was a university student who seemed to be doing well but then suddenly expressed suicidal thoughts. David tried to help, but ultimately, Tom was sectioned under the Mental Health Act and hospitalized. Although it was a difficult situation, David continued to support Tom and eventually, Tom decided to come home for a while to receive better mental health care. Meanwhile, we also learned about two practical matters that can make life a little easier. First, if you're looking to hire professionals, LinkedIn is a great platform to use. Second, if you're in the market for an engagement ring, Blue Nile is an option that offers convenience and customization. However, the most important takeaway is the importance of addressing mental health issues. If you or someone you know is struggling, don't hesitate to reach out for help. It's crucial to take such situations seriously and not dismiss them as mere mood swings or bad episodes. Mental health issues can be complex and require professional intervention. In summary, whether it's hiring professionals, designing a custom engagement ring, or dealing with mental health crises, it's essential to take things seriously and tackle them with the right approach.

    • Reaching out to a loved one can have a profound impact, even if a response is not immediately received.Communication is crucial in maintaining relationships, and even a simple message can provide comfort and hope.

      Communication and reaching out can make a significant difference, even if a response is not immediately received. The speaker tried to connect with Tom in the days leading up to his death, but didn't receive a response. The last contact was a text expressing hope for Tom's wellbeing. Despite this, the speaker felt a deep sense of responsibility and wondered if there was more they could have done. Tragically, Tom took his own life, leaving the speaker and his family with a profound sense of loss and regret. The funeral was held a month after his death, and the family chose a location that held special meaning for Tom. In the aftermath, the speaker was initially in shock, but later felt a strong desire to understand why Tom had taken his own life and to find a way to come to terms with his grief. However, as time passed, the speaker's emotions shifted to anger, as he grappled with the unanswered questions and the feeling of powerlessness in the face of such a devastating loss.

    • The tragic tale of Tom Parfit and the seller of poisonous substancesOne man's actions led to the tragic death of Tom Parfit and the potential harm of over 100 people in the UK. The importance of accountability and awareness of online dangers is emphasized.

      Key takeaway from this episode of "Stories of Our Times" is the chilling realization of how one man's actions can lead to devastating consequences for innocent lives. Tom Parfit, a bright young man with potential, tragically took his own life after being sold a poisonous substance online. The seller, who saw himself as the arbiter of life and death, had sent the poison to over 100 people in the UK alone. This harrowing story highlights the importance of accountability and the far-reaching impact of our actions. Furthermore, the podcast also sheds light on the efforts of a woman working to seek justice for families affected by similar tragedies. The University of Saint Andrews expressed their sympathies for Tom's family and friends, acknowledging his potential and the tragedy of his death. Throughout the podcast, the host, James Beale, emphasized the importance of being aware of the potential dangers lurking online and the need for greater accountability from those who sell harmful substances. The episode serves as a reminder to always consider the potential consequences of our actions and to support efforts to keep our communities safe. Lastly, the podcast also featured sponsor messages from 1-800-Flowers and Stamps.com, offering listeners convenient solutions for gift-giving and mailing needs, respectively.

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