Pre-Nups with Sandy Roxas, Esq.

Elena Rossini calls social media a "honey pot" for data mining and targeted advertising. In her upcoming documentary, THE REALISTS, the followup to her first feature length doc, THE ILLUSIONISTS, Elena shines a light on the dark side of social media. We talk about how our devises are listening, why we should act like a spy, getting a signal-blocking pouch, bluetooth and grocery shopping, how Zuckerberg covers his cam and mic on his phone, have we given up on privacy, how social media has changed over the years, that Ashton Kutcher ruined Twitter, social media isn't terrible, but it's being used against us in a terrible way...and we aren't pissed off about that enough, the creation of Facebook "reactions" and them giving "angry" the highest score, being 'punished' by the algorithm for not being a regular user, old milk, the importance of 'new', using Tweetdeck and Lists for Twitter, taking control over how we use social media because it has used us for so long, deleting Facebook products (FB, Insta and Whatsapp), going off social media and getting into meditation, staying off devices in front of babies/children, addiction to social media/attention/validation, going viral and TikTok fame, living life through a screen, no one is explaining the algorithm or where this data is going, Face ID, AI, deep fakes, revenge porn, voter apathy, BOOK RECS: AMUSING OURSELVES TO DEATH and TECHNOPOLY by Neil Postman, the intentional harm of the algorithm, how quickly Facebook can radicalize, cite your source, the amount of time young people are on social media, hacking your home internet to block ads, websites and tracking in your home and on specific devices (NextDNS.io), NO is a complete sentence, being impacted my the internet/social media and how women get the brunt of that, child predators, and that social media is an option and we can opt out.

You can find Elena on Twitter @_elena and on her websites elenarossini.com and therealists.org

Episode recorded on 11/04/21

Episode released on 03/09/22

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Sayra Player created Guided By Glow during the pandemic as a guided meditation to connect with our bodies. The app and website launched in May 2021 and has over 80 sessions to get you going and is GOOP approved. While we might be comfortable  talking about sex or our sexuality, we aren't so comfy talking about "alone time" (AKA masturbation). Erotica has always been around (hello, Anaïs Nin) and 50 Shades may have made it more common, it can be helpful to those who may not be comfortable with the porn their partners enjoy. Guided By Glow sessions are about you (not other people). We talk about the importance of getting connected and staying connected with our sexual selves, giving yourself permission, not thinking it's "dirty", "wrong" or "bad", mindfulness, getting to know the voice, creating a playground, not being uptight about sex, moving past shame, allowing yourself to explore, learning to relax and be, maintaining our health (mental, spiritual, physical), slowing down, being in your body, how sex (just the word) is being censored on Facebook and Instagram. Sayra was kind enough to give listeners $20 off the annual subscription. Use the code SASSY to get the discount (good through December 2021). You can try out Guided By Glow for free with trial sessions available on the free app and on their website.

You can find Sayra at https://guidedbyglow.com and on Instagram @guidedbyglow

Episode recorded on 11/09/21

Episode released on 11/24/21

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Nathaniel Hodder-Shipp found breathwork while in treatment, then went on to study with a mentor for 11 years. He's the founder of Breathwork for Recovery and we talk about the transformative nature of breathwork, the explosion of it, how we are all recovering from something, trauma is something we all share, exploitation in the wellness community, ethics, breathwork training, Nathaniel's certification requires 800 hours of training while others will certify with 30 hours, breathing properly, the autonomic nervous system, Amy Dresner and My Fair Junkie, how certain conditions like epilepsy may not be right for breathwork, disclosures, access and resources, The Recovery Circle.

You can find Nathaniel on his websites at https://breathworkforrecovery.com and nathanielhoddershipp.com and on Instagram @breathworkforrecovery and @spiritandceremony

Episode recorded on 10/12/21

Episode released on 11/17/21

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Super Lawyer Sandy Roxas is back to talk about divorce and her advice on getting out quickly (or quick-er) so you can get on with moving forward. Preplanning is key. Think about all the issues that need to be addressed. The spouse who makes more likely pays more (support). A lazy spouse. What the courts will consider. Minimizing consequences. Dealing with a litigious attorney. (Sandy Pro-Tip: If the fees are running up, terminate the attorneys and try mediation.) Making sure you have an attorney with your best interest at heart. Attorney fees as sanctions. Spending more money to ask for more money. Custody games. The effect on the kids. Manipulations. Document everything (record audio/video--but disclose it per the law, keep texts, emails, put verbal agreements in writing). Needing evidence. False allegations. It's all about credibility in family court. Emotions and fueling fire. Aiming for amicable. Focusing on the finish line. Getting therapy to get you through it. The expense of divorce and the options if you can't afford it. Court self-help and workshops. Rules of separation. Date of separation matters. Keeping things separate. Lawyer-up early. Sandy's work in the AAPI community to Stop Asian Hate and pro bono work for hate crime victims. Final Tip: Have our cell phone at the ready to record (let them know you're recording per the law) and back away.

You can find Sandy on her website https://roxaslaw.com on Instagram @roxaslaw and Facebook @Roxas-Law

Episode recorded on 09/18/21

Episode released on 11/10/21

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Meghan Breen, LCSW, talks with us about the courage and character it takes to admit when you're wrong, the core belief that being wrong is the most human thing we can experience, normalize owning it, the value on being right, shame, competition/winning, room for redemption, the human experience of fucking up, gratitude for growing up before the internet, practicing repair, dialectics, discernment, being right and wrong at the same time, agreeing to disagree, not being neutral, making space and letting it go, forgiving what feels unforgivable, not demonizing, finding common ground, validate what's valid, wanting to understand, starting over, emotional Olympics, only being able to move through it if both sides are willing, not making it about winning/losing or right/wrong, no scores are being kept, meeting vulnerability with grace, reinforcing people doing the right thing, acknowledgement doesn't automatically make it better, character building, cultivating resilience, admission over apology, deserving a second chance, giving people an opportunity to F up, no one is perfect, we are not always our best selves, personal assessment, the difference between shame and guilt, reaching out to people when they need it, the strength it takes to hold the olive branch, owning your wrongness, smugness, hurt, emotional intelligence, the machine behind wrongness, being in a vulnerable time.

You can find Dr. Breen on her website meghanbreen.com and Instagram @meghanbreentherapy

Episode recorded on 09/06/21

Episode released on 11/03/21

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What is microdosing and why do people do it? Studies have shown that shrooms (psilocybin), MDMA and ketamine help relieve or treat depression and PTSD, quieting the mind or reframing traumatic events. Noel Teubner has gone on her own microdosing journey and helps others on their path. The co-host of The Bliss Project podcast talks with us about how microdosing delivers a "mini" effect, it's not a "one and done" process, integration, Human Design, shared trauma and the tsunami of grief from the pandemic, respecting the plant, doing the work, creating new habits and patterns, being honest, being responsible, treating yourself well with food, movements and thoughts, being kind to and accepting of ourselves, The Bliss Project podcast.

You can find Noel on Instagram @noelteubner and her podcast website at theblissproject777.com

Episode recorded on 09/16/21

Episode released on 10/27/21

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We all can find ourselves in a dead-end relationship. An unhappy coupling. One-way friendships. A thankless job or jerk of a boss. It's said that people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty, keeping us stuck. While there is no crystal ball as to how things will work out, Dr. Cynthia Pizzulli has over 30 years' experience and she can tell you that, if you leave a dead-end relationship, you'll be glad you did. We talk about relationships being a two-way street, blame, being brave, repeat and repair, awareness to break the cycle, inconvenient feelings, relationships are no 50-50, dealbreakers, people change and that changes the relationship, resentment and unrealistic expectations, avoidance and denial, sharing values, connection, being ripe for the picking, job loyalty that is not reciprocated by the employer, being held hostage in a negative situation, self-efficacy, being indecisive, no one wants to be the bad guy, the pain of being stuck, judgment, being in a job or relationship that seems "good enough" is never tolerable, communicating expectations, how staying in a dead-end relationship affects your mental health, not always getting support if people have a stake in your relationship, getting unbiased advice, the effect of staying for the kids, what we are teaching our children, expressing appreciation, more communicating.

You can find Dr. Pizzulli on her website https://cynthiapizzulli.com

Episode recorded on 09/03/21

Episode released on 10/20/21

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Dr. Janja Lalich (NXIVM documentaries, "Heaven's Gate: The Cult of Cults" on HBOMax, and author of TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE) joins us to talk about coercion and how it's a type of social control. Manipulation and gaslighting are a part of it as is "Us vs. Them" thinking that's happening politically, the effect of the pandemic and spending too much time on the internet, rabbit holes and algorithms, not wanting to admit that you were duped, cognitive dissonance, the concept of charisma, an imbalance of power, high-arousal technique, being able to communicate, having critical compassion, breaking through the barrier, a nation divided, being the adults in the room, keeping the door open, remembering that people are human and make mistakes (even you, even big ones), idealism, having doubts, being a safe haven, planting seeds, seeing the flags, love bombing, re-socialization, social influences, critical thinking, knowing how to fact check, being a good consumer, being able to disagree and dissent, the path out, educating ourselves about trauma and narcissism, new resourced needed, complex PTSD and specialized therapy.

You can find Dr. Lalich at https://janjalalich.com, and on Twitter and Instagram @Janja_Lalich.

Her book TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships can be found here.

Episode recorded on 09/10/21

Episode released on 10/13/21

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