Rape / Sexual Violence

Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2. It is a call in show. Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch USA – 323-843-2826 or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2 You can also find Our Podcasts on: iHeartRadio, iTunes, Stitcher, & Speaker Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally. Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com Nature verses nurture: Why are people highly sensitive? Usually an interactive combination of nature and nurture, Highly Sensitive People (HSP) are sensitive to sound, light, and even the feel of clothing. From a nurture perspective, when we are smothered/spoiled or emotionally dis-regulated, we never develop the thick enough skin necessary to protect us from emotional toxins. Signs of emotionally sensitive people include being easily triggered by others, and on a positive side, having more empathy, creativity, and ability to be intuitive. THANK YOU to all who called in and shared their triggers and sensitivities. With better boundaries and self-care, we can better shield our emotions and prevent ourselves from being vampired by people who can take advantage of these vulnerabilities. We Shrunk That Tune...”I’m Sensitive” by Jewel.

Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2. It is a call in show. Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch USA – 323-843-2826 or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2 Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally. Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com THANK YOU all for calling in and getting on the couch with Dr. Judy. Many questions today were directed at how the Mind Map transforms and creates "Aha" experiences. Thank you callers, especially for the wonderful update by "Greg" who 2 years ago had a core belief that he is a "loser" and has recently lost over 200 pounds, is finishing his dissertation, and has gotten married! Greg, thank you for acknowledging the Mind Map System. What an honor it is to be of service to you and others. Narcissistic injuries are epidemic and lead to "hole in the soul" symptoms of low self-esteem and painful emotional symptoms. To get at the CAUSE of symptoms, we have to identify childhood wounds of abuse, neglect and smothering/spoiling, how they embed, and how to morph out of them. The Mind Map is focused on identifying the wounds of childhood, how they encode into the fiber of our being, and how to shift out of what Dr. Judy refers to as our "cracked lens of perception way of thinking." Once we can identify the mis-information or lies that we have encoded as truths about who we are (based on messages we encode during our childhood), we can shine the TRUTH LENS on the lies and begin the dismantling process. We Shrunk That Tune - Justin Timberlake "Can't Stop The Feeling!"

Social media is doing a lot of harm to self-esteem. As people compare their worst to other people's best, social media can trigger negative core beliefs such as "I'm not... lovable, beautiful, thin enough, smart enough, successful enough, etc." Our guest Jillian Sorkin, MA, one of the team therapists at the Psychological Healing Center talked about the impact she is seeing on the patients. Social media triggers low self-esteem, body dysmorphic issues, and can be a forum for bullying. Instagram seems to be a big culprit, and YouTube on the other hand less so because it is a place where people can educate themselves. Wee Shrunk The Tune Mean by Taylor Swift.

Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2. It is a call in show. Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch USA – 323-843-2826 or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2 Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally. Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com We had a “Double Show today!” We had WTF – What the Freud, and WTF – What the Film. We shrunk the 1940 film, “Gaslight” staring, Charles Boyer, Ingrid Bergman (Her 1st well-earned Academy Oscar Award) and in her movie - Angela Lansbury! It one of the movies “They Say” you must watch before you die. Gaslighting is a way of driving someone crazy behind gaslighting is an agenda, usually an agenda to manipulate or control. Gaslighting is a way to make people crazy. There is always an agenda behind it, and the gaslit person is left questioning him or herself, wondering if he or she is distorted in thinking. Today's callers were gaslit by various people in their lives and the struggle to recover from this very underhanded form of manipulation is not easy. One form of gaslighting is when mother gaslights her son or daughter into believing that becoming independent and leaving home is a way of abandoning the family. This unhealthy dependency is about mother's or father's need to be attended to, and ignores the adult child's need to leave and thrive. Hence, it's about the narcissistic parent's needs, and not the needs of the child We Shrunk That Tune… " Narcissus ", by Alanis Morissette

Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2. It is a call in show. Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch USA – 323-843-2826 or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2 Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally. Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com We had a “Double Show today!” We had WTF – What the Freud, and WTF – What the Film. Today we shrunk the movie Gaslight by turning DOWN the Gas and UP the Light and answered questions from callers and their experience with being gaslit. We shrunk the 1940 film, “Gaslight” staring, Charles Boyer, Ingrid Bergman (Her 1st well-earned Academy Oscar Award) and in her movie - Angela Lansbury! It one of the movies “They Say” you must watch before you die. Gaslighting is a way of driving someone crazy behind gaslighting is an agenda, usually an agenda to manipulate or control. We are not crazy we are made crazy. We soak in the perception of others, namely our parents and believe their perspective on how they see us. This is both good and dangerous, and can swing either way. To get a reality check. It's important to have an enlightened witness. A person outside the system like a therapist can give some clear I perspective. We Shrunk That Tune… "According To You", by Orianthi

Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2. It is a call in show. Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch USA – 323-843-2826 or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2 Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally. Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com Marriage discord affects the entire system of the family, friends and community. By taking responsibility for healing our childhood wounds, we can reboot the system and give the relationship another opportunity. We talked about Fighting, Flight-ing, Freezing and Flowing in the context of a marriage that is done and on the way outs. It’s about finding that little – tiny – bridge to keep communication open so the two of you and slowly build trust and your bond back – better than before. We Shrunk That Tune...”Somebody That I Used to Know” By Gotye

Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2. It is a call in show. Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch USA – 323-843-2826 or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2 Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally. Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com Our caller spoke about feeling relieved by her decision to divorce. In some cases it is best to do so. If possible and both parties are willing to heal, It is better to try to dump the problem and keep the person. Marriage discord affects the entire system of the family, friends and community. By taking responsibility for healing our childhood wounds, we can reboot the system and give the relationship another opportunity. We Shrunk That Tune...”I’m So Happy I Can’t Stop Crying” by Sting

Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2. It is a call in show. Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch USA – 323-843-2826 or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2 Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally. Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com More conversation about the effects of narcissistic families on the children. Sibling rivalry seems to be a dysfunctional system that narcissistically injured parents create in order to be the center of attention. From a mind map perspective the more the siblings clash the more the parents can gain the attention and primary position in the family. In terms of contact versus no contact, it is a personal decision as to how to handle parents and family who demean devalue and destroy. Many people who are severely triggered by their parents opt out or limit contacting them for fear that the injuries will continue. It's OK to put yourself first, and it's OK to set strong boundaries. Thank You to all who are calling in and leaving comments. We Shrunk That Tune… “For You” by Staind

Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2. It is a call in show. Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch USA – 323-843-2826 or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2 Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally. Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com Thanks to all the callers who shared their story. At the end of the day, it is a personal decision whether or not you choose to go contact or no contact and oftentimes not easy to make. In some cases it is injurious to the sense of self to continue to be in communication with people who demean, devalue and continually destroy. For some it is just too difficult to imagine life without ever having further contact with mom and or dad, as examples. If you must stay in touch, keep the conversation away from subjects that can lead to detonation, and make sure your boundaries are intact. Don't be hesitant to look out for #1, and that is YOURSELF! We Shrunk That Tune...”Smooth Operator,” by Sade

The conversation continues as callers seek advice on whether or not to cut ties with family or significant others who have caused psychological injuries by demeaning, devaluing, destroying and discarding. "Hurt people" hurt people, and oftentimes spew their psychological poison on their children and significant others. You don't have to be in the line of fire, and it's OK to put yourself first. How much or little contact you want to have with those who have hurt you is an individual choice. Strong boundaries are necessary, and in some cases, a complete cutoff is therapeutic. Watch out for revengeful behavior, and CYAN (cover your ass) to protect yourself.Remember that narcissistic parents can create negative core beliefs in people such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm worthless and unlovable" as examples. Being around them can easily trigger these negative core beliefs and re-injure. The best intervention is to work on the core of the self, clear out past childhood wounds, and deactivate the triggers.