Reflecting on: Multitasking, Letting Things Go, & Becoming Less Selfish

I loved this chat with Laura and found learning about womanhood in a more holistic and spiritual way truly fascinating! I just wish I had learnt about this sooner as I really believe I'd have understood myself and my emotions many years before it actually all started slotting into place. I loved what she said about how our babies already exist but we have to do inner work, heal passed traumas and mother ourselves before our baby can come to us in physical form! Gosh that was so powerful and emotive. How Laura mentioned the art of surrendering and putting our faith in the universe to deliver what is meant for us was so lovely especially as I think so many of us can feel like innocent control freaks yet sometimes the best thing to do is surrender to the 'what will be will be' mantra. I often say that the bits in between is hard enough without having to analyse and understand our emotions and PMS every month and I truly believe this conversation with Laura has made me connect with myself and my body more than I ever have done before! So looking forward to sharing this beautiful holistic wisdom to my daughtrs when the time is right!
*Trigger warning* Laura refers to her Ectopic pregnancy within this episode.

Laura is such a lovely lady and a real champion of females! Please go follow and support her. There is so much more to learn and she is a wonderful teacher.
Connect with Laura
https://www.instagram.com/laura_beddoe_Coach.mentor/
Laura's membership will be opening soon too!

Laura's Podcast 
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spiritual-and-sassy/id1551863818

Women Who Run With Wolves
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Women-Who-Run-Wolves-Contacting/dp/1846041090/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=1180876387300616&hvadid=73804974661263&hvbmt=bp&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=69091&hvnetw=o&hvqmt=p&hvtargid=kwd-73804913214356%3Aloc-188&hydadcr=11896_1899971&keywords=the+women+who+run+with+wolves&qid=1651099355&sr=8-1

Say hi!
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

If you would like to find out more about my online facial self-care workshops please do drop me a message - fireflyformula@gmail.com

Book a Gua Sha 1:1 with me - https://10to8.com/book/fireflyformula/

Purchase a Gua Sha - https://fireflyformula.bigcartel.com/products

I've learnt in recent years how SO many of mine and other womens insecurities are pretty much all centred around judgement and worrying about being judged by others! I've tried to disect it and really understand where this fear comes from and the further into motherhood I go I realise that judgement is natural! How can we avoid being judged? We simply can't!!! So many of us are being robbed of our freedom and joy for fear of something we cannot control or change. We will be judged whether we like it or not and we will judge others too but i've become very at peace with the fact judgement isn't always a bad thing. We can be judged positively just as much as negatively and since starting to live my life and navigate motherhood and becoming prepared and accepting of being judged I feel so free and at home with myself.  The bits in between is hard enough without even more pressure on ourselves to never put a foot wrong - that's a quick way to feel miserable I'm sure of it! So now my youngest is a year old I spent the weekend of her birthday reflecting on my 3.5 years of motherhood and what advice I would give anyone wanting to live a care free life void of fear of judgement... So here are my thoughts and here's to caring less, a hell of a lot less!

Say hi!
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

If you would like to find out more about my online facial self-care workshops please do drop me a message - fireflyformula@gmail.com

Book a Gua Sha 1:1 with me - https://10to8.com/book/fireflyformula/

Purchase a Gua Sha - https://fireflyformula.bigcartel.com/products

I can't pin point the time where dressing myself and it being a daily dose of pleasure turned into a "Eurrrgh I have nothing to wear and I hate everything in my wardrobe" type moment but I can confidently say it happened! We have to dress ourselves day in and day out and if we're parent we have to dress our kids daily too!! But when it comes to 'The Bits In Between' my aim is to take an everyday chore and find a way of turning it around to be something that is enjoyed and looked forward to! Well, I can most definitely say that a few tweaks have been made and I am getting far more joy out of dressing myself everyday and speaking in this episode to Charlotte from The Charlotte Edit has enabled me to beome even more determined to stay creative, buy less clothes, wash my clothes less and to shop from my own wardrobe.

Charlotte is amazing! Please go and support her:
Website - https://www.thecharlotteedit.co.uk/all-services
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thecharlotte_edit/

Come say Hi on Instagram 
Firefly Formula - https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

How are we a quarter of the way through the year already? I have past form that in March/April time my intentions for the year ahead slowly start to go to pot... I become less motivated, less self-aware, less intentional and old habits (that I've tried hard to ditch) come creeping back in! But it's not all doom and gloom, there are a few things so far this year that I'm incredibly proud of too and I figured, if I could mark the end of the first quarter of 2022 with some self reflection I will hold myself accountable for what's been and gone and be ready to receive whatever is coming next!
So many people just don't subscribe to self development with the attitude of 'I am who I am' and I fully respect that opinion but for me I just can't relate to that notion. I am not changing who I fundamentally am, I want to enhance who I am and become the best, less frazzled and stressed version of who I am so I can handle the bits in between as best as I possibly can!

I mentioned in the pod I listened to a great podcast about focusing. Here it is - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/228-johann-hari-on-how-to-reclaim-your-attention/id1333552422?i=1000547609183

Here is my podcast episode 'How To Become More Grateful' 
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/im-trying-to-be-more-grateful/id1600587652?i=1000549773867

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

If you would like to find out more about my online facial self-care workshops please do drop me a message - fireflyformula@gmail.com

Book a Gua Sha 1:1 with me - https://10to8.com/book/fireflyformula/

Purchase a Gua Sha - https://fireflyformula.bigcartel.com/products

Speaking to Sophie was not only such a lovely conversation and for me it's felt like the gift that kept on giving! I've had Sophie's words in my mind so often this last week and my breath  awareness has really grown and I actually caught myself mouth breathing the other day and I was convinced I never breathed through my mouth so I soon put that right!!

I also really loved hearing about Sophie's behind the scenes of the bits in between, I have definitely used the 'house ick' term of phrase since our chat and something she said that really resonated with me was how she often doesn't feel like she is doing anything well and I feel that so often - I think so many modern day women know that feeling!

Sophie has been so kind to offer the listeners to the podcast £10 off their first month of the Mind You Club or the 6-monthly package. Use the code CARELLE upon checkout and follow the link below to join! Sophie is so passionate about breathework because it has changed her life and it's her go-to when life throws her curveballs and whose life hasn't thrown them a curve ball or too!?

Please see how you can connect with the lovely Sophie!

https://www.mindyouclub.com/membership (use CARELLE upon checkout)

Instagram - @mindyouclub

Come and say hi to me!
https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

Well well well... this chat got me good and proper! I didn't expect to get so teary talking about this but when those flood gates open you know what happens! It's so important to me to share a true representation of 'the bits in between' so when things aren't going well and I need to check in and reevaluate a few things then that's exactly what I'll do.
I personally feel so frustrated with the amount of smoke and mirrors out there on social media. So much bending of the truth and I just feel it can become very toxic. On social media I gravitate to the accounts and people that represent honesty, real life and true representation of what it's like to spin so many plates where one day it's all going well and we feel like we have our shi*t together and the next day it all comes tumbling down! It happens to us all right?

So here's how things have been the last few days and here's an example of that magical moment when you feel like your back is against the ropes and then suddenly things change for the better. Every problem births a solution and I have been reminded that in the midst of a problem the solution is literally just around the corner... A few tears and sleepless nights later of course! 

Thank you always for your lovely words of encouragement with the podcast. It means so so much. 

Come and say hi over on Instagram @fireflyformula and please do leave a little review on here if you have a few seconds to spare. Each review really helps with the visibilty of the pod - thank you thank you thank you!

xx

Gua Sha tools - online shop. If you are interested in purchasing a crystal Gua Sha please do click the link to find out more! https://fireflyformula.bigcartel.com/products

I am really starting to view my Podcast as my own little personal diary. I really wanted to share my house stress because I feel like I am often looking at the 'bigger picture' of a problem when actually all I need to do is break it down and notice the smaller niggles... If lots of smaller niggles are addressed then the impact over time is huge! There is no shoddier feeling than not being totally relaxed and at ease in your own home
I am so impacted by my environment! I hate mess and clutter but struggle to find the time at the moment to keep things how I want them, I am much calmer when my environment is reflected in that. This is why I get such a kick out of packing a bag and going away for a few days because I actually love only having a limited number of posessions, I like only having access to things I need and I love the ease of having less stuff. This is how I want to live but I find it hard with two young kids and a busy lifestyle, it takes constant tweaking, sorting, organising and I am currently feeling very time poor (although I'm doing something about that which is exciting!).
It felt quite liberating to share all this because by saying it out loud I feel even more determined to follow through on the solutions I have up my sleeve for when we move house! I am feeling grateful more than ever for the safe and wonderful home I live in. What is happening in the world at the moment is truly devastating and I hope you are able to join me on my charity facial workshop to raise vital funds for Unicef to help Ukranian Children. Please see the link to my online shop to book your place...x

Come and say hi on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

Online store - https://fireflyformula.bigcartel.com/product/charity-facial-workshop

Before I met Sarah I had never heard of Tapping but I now think to myself... Where has this technique been all my life!!?? It just makes so much sense to me. Giving our feelings validation, a colour, a place where we feel the emotion in our body, giving the emotion a number on the scale of 1-10 and then giving it the permission to leave our bodies! Seeing the emotion play out and come full circle! I said to Sarah that the technique is amazing but there always needs to be someone that is incredible at sharing the magic of the technique and allowing it to really resonate with people - Sarah has that gift! I truly believe this is the most perfect self help technique for the busy and overwhelmed modern day woman! 

I always feel very appreciative when my guests share a little window into their home life, their family dynamics and their own personal boundaries etc. This side of things always fascinates me and I liked knowing Sarah is terrible with maths and timings too!! A women after my own heart - ha!

Please do come and check out our LIVE over on Instagram where Sarah will be talking me through a little tapping taster! It will be saved as an IGTV so you can be sure to watch it on the replay!

Please go and support Sarah

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarah_tobin/
Booking link and more info where you can book a 1:1 or become part of her online community https://tapping-into-motherhood.mykajabi.com/sarah-tobin
Sarah's Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/tapping-into-with-sarah-tobin/id1533245525

Come and say hi to me!
https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

You know... that heart sinking moment when you aren't prepared for someones unwanted and unasked for opinion to be hurled your way? We are all entitled to an opinion and I'm a big girl and I can take it but not all the time. If I'm not expecting it, if I'm not prepared for it and if it's from someone I don't want to hear it from then I'm not impressed!! I am really starting to see the difference between giving and receiving advice and giving and receiving an unwanted opinion and I am trying my best to follow my own advice because I definitely muddy the waters myself. Sorry friends!!

So here's my techniques to create my 'Supportive Sisterhood' that are guaranteed to give me the very best advice and not an opinion in sight!!

Please meet:

Dilly Carter!! I know if my house is in chaos it's the first thing that makes me feel so stressed and overwhelmed. Dilly, the organisational guru really supports me in getting up off my arse and get the house into shape! I have her in my head telling me to not over buy, to not hold on to things that don't serve and she most definitely encourages me to not buy into fast fashion, to buy quality and give it the love and respect it deserves. Dilly's voice in my head is the difference between me loving my home and hating my home and since I've channeled my inner Dilly I have been loving my home more than ever!

@Declutterdollies
https://www.instagram.com/declutterdollies/
Book - Create More Space
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Create-Space-Declutter-your-clear/dp/0241479282
Sort Your Life Out - BBC 
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m00116n4

Jess is so flippin kick ass it's a joke! Mother of 4 and such a hustler, you know when you can just tell someone is the ultimate grafter and has worked so very hard to achieve the amazing things in her life! Her body confidence inspires me and when I'm feeling self conscious I channel my inner Jess and let me tell you, it works!

Jess @thefatfunnyone
https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone/
Book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Own-Confidence-Completely-Yourself-Embrace-ebook/dp/B09KNZPRTZ/

Luisa Zissman is my go to when I need a little fist bump or nudge to be totally unapologetically myself.  She also gives me the confidence to verbally justify my opinions and to embrace the fact I have a voice and I musn't be afraid to use it. When I listen to her speak her mind I so admire her courage to be so authentic - she will stick up for herself, stick up for what she believes in,  be fiercely loyal to those she loves and she lives by the sword and dies by the sword and often I need a little sprinkle of Luisa to give me that extra courage to confidently be the real me.

Luisa Zissman @luisazissman
https://www.instagram.com/luisazissman/
Luanna The Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/luanna-the-podcast/id1496019465?uo=4

And finally my girl Jojo! Whenver I doubt my business dreams thinking I cannot pour love into both my business and my precious two babies I feel so utterly inspired by Jojo. I don't set limitations on myself and I have certainly stopped pigeon holing my own career and stopped labelling myself because I know Jojo hasn't dont that for herself so why should I? Her interior style is worthy of a good drool... She's witty and she's just lovely! I most definitely channel my inner Jojo when I see my future path look a little shakey and uncertain. Always so inpired by what Jojo achieves whilst playing Mummy too!

Jojo @houseninedesign
https://www.instagram.com/houseninedesign/
Interiors website - https://www.housenine.co.uk/
The T Store clothing brand - https://www.thetstore.com/ 

Come and say hi!
https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

Welcome to my BRAND NEW podcast The Bits In Between! Now I've always known I love talking but I never thought I'd be podcasting alongside my Gua Sha and Face Yoga business Firefly Formula but this podcast idea has been burning inside of me for as long as I can remember now so I've just gone for it!!

The Bits In Between sees me opening up the unglamorous yet hugely relatable conversation surrounding life admin. We all have it but we don't seem to talk about it! I want to create a platform where we can vent and rant about the boring bits in between but also learn from other peoples tips and tricks on how they approach their life admin so we can reduce the mental load and stresses in the hope our precious free time sees us spending more time on ourselves and less time having to look after everyone else.

Come and say hi!
https://www.instagram.com/fireflyformula/

Connect with Kirsty!

Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/kirstykianifard/
Listen to Kirsty's brilliant podcast. It has been invaluable to me!
https://www.instagram.com/kirstykianifard/