Reframing Your Money Story with Bari Tessler

We're back with Season 2 (after a break to heal various broken body parts). And we have a fantastic guest to--very gently--kick it all off. 

Bari Tessler tells the story of how and why she brought her work as a Somatic Therapist to the world of finances. She  shares tips and personal stories to help you start reframing your relationship to money for the better. We especially love how she encourages you to add your own splash of meaning to your relationship with your finances. Recognizing your emotions around money doesn't have to feel "woowoo" (unless you want it to--you do you, Boo).

PS If you haven't listened to our previous episodes about money, you might want to do so before or after this episode.

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Bari Tessler, M.A. is a Financial Therapist and Founder of The Art of Money, a year-long money school, and a 4-month Mentor program for therapists, coaches and financial professionals. Bari trained as a Somatic Therapist and received her Masters degree from Naropa University in 1998. She then ran a bookkeeping business for therapists and artists. In 2001, she merged all her training and created a somatic-based Financial Therapy methodology that she has been teaching for 20+ years. Bari is the Author of The Art of Money: A Life-Changing Guide to Financial Happiness and The Art of Money Workbook. Her work has been featured on Oprah.com,  Inc.com, US News & World Report, Reuters Money, The Fiscal Times, USA Today, The Cut, Girlboss, Nerd Wallet, Real Simple, MindBodyGreen, and REDBOOK. She has also been featured on the cover of Experience Life and Mindful. Bari loves to read, dance and enjoy dark chocolate. She lives in Boulder, CO with her husband, son, many cats + a big puppy. You can find her here: baritessler.com

It's the hubbub of the holidays, and for some highly sensitive people, it can lead to burnout. In this episode, we chat with Dr. Desiree Howell about how to navigate the holidays as a Highly Sensitive Person. 

Check out this website for more information on HSPs and to take a self-test.

Read Desiree's latest blog post on Surviving the Holidays. 

And here are some articles about the differences between high sensitivity and the Autism Spectrum.

• https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-highly-sensitive-child/202112/no-being-autistic-is-not-the-same-being-highly-sensitive
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/highly-sensitive-refuge/201905/do-highly-sensitive-people-have-autism

In this episode, we chat with  Beverly A. Zavaleta, MD, a board-certified family physician, cancer survivor and long-time advocate of patient education. She's also the author of the best-selling book, Braving Chemo. Dr. Zavaleta joins us in recognition of National Caregivers Month to talk about what it means to be a caregiver, how to manage stress and fatigue as a caregiver, and tips for caregivers during the holidays. 

Some apps and resources for caregivers:

• https://www.whereyoulivematters.org/best-caregiver-apps/
• https://www.aarp.org/home-family/personal-technology/info-2019/top-caregiving-apps.html
• https://cancercarenews.com/more-cancer-freebies/free-apps/

Patrick Keller is an educator, speaker, and the host of the Big Séance Podcast, which is a forum for “paranerds” to have an open dialogue about all things paranormal. In this episode, we chat with Patrick about what he acknowledges as his "spiritual shift," the impact of family, teaching, and music on his paranormal experiences, and all things paranerdy. 

Due to the rescheduling of a guest interview, Dacia and Dr. Kim switched things up this episode. Dr. Kim assigned Dacia some homework--to listen to a podcast episode between Dr. David Kessler (grief expert) and Tyler Henry (clairvoyant medium) and give her thoughts. What resulted was an authentic conversation about their own experiences with death, dying, and grief and their thoughts on the afterlife, spirituality, and our connection to each other in this life and beyond.

Relevant Resources:

• Continuing Connections on Grief and the Afterlife (podcast episode with David Kessler and Tyler Henry)
• Forever Family Foundation
• Survival of Consciousness After Death (Article by the Institute of Noetic Sciences)
• Six Feet Under (TV show)

In this episode, we expand more on the topic of people-pleasing behaviors by digging into what it means to over-function and to under-function. Both types of functioning are ways we often try to cope with stress, and paying attention to our go-to pattern can help us shift into more effective coping strategies.

For more reading about over- and underfunctioning, check out Dr. Harriet Lerner.

We usually know when we are people pleasing, but it can be hard to figure out how to stop trying to make everyone happy all the time. In this episode, we talk about the different motivations behind people pleasing (mindset, behaviors, emotions) and how knowing what motivates you can help you curb the need to please and have a more balanced sense of self. 

To sign up for 21 days of motivation and encouragement to lessen your need to please, check out Dr. Kim's Mind Over Manners self-paced program. Think of it like 10 minute workouts with a personal trainer--only the muscle you're building is your ability to say NO and reclaim your sense of self! 

Is sleep productive? YES! In this episode, we share our own journeys of overwork and how prioritizing sleep and rest restored a sense of balance. We also talk about the science behind why sleep is, indeed, productive and why Sleep Leadership (advocating for employee rest) has become a new focus for organizational well-being.  

For more information on how to get a better night's sleep, check out these sites:

• The National Sleep Foundation
• AASM Sleep Education
• Dr. Kim's Instagram account (featuring loads of sleep tips!)

Other sites mentioned in the episode

• Headspace sleep casts
• Hilarious TikTok videos about work boundaries

It's been awhile, so Dr. Kim and Dacia catch up and chat a little about Kim's recent paranormal vacation. It's a perfect segue into whether or not ghosts have secrets and into part 2 of our hiding places series where we talk about the power of imagination for kiddos and for adults. 

For all you paranormal nerds out there, here are the folks we mention in the episode:

• Kindred Spirits
• The Big Seance Podcast 
• Greg Lawson
• Weird Lectures (John Tenney)
• Strange Escapes

In this episode, we dust off Dr. Kim's dissertation and dive into the world of secrets and secret hiding places. Not only do young children understand the concept of secrecy and have a fairly complex view of what it means to have a secret, they also designate spaces for play and spaces they retreat to when they want to be alone. And they go to great, magical lengths to ensure that no adults or big siblings are allowed!

Did you have a secret hiding place when you were a kid? Do you have one now? Leave us a voice mail about it on Speakpipe--we might just feature you in the next episode.