Reset Your Mindset Q & A

Today we have a special guest!  And I got to tell you, I have never laughed so much while talking about really hard topics.   

Tuck Cornelius is a comedian, artist, poet, filmmaker and trans rights advocate who bends steel and breaks stereotypes.  He's joining us today for a conversation about defying social expectations, surviving traumatic things and having the audacity to be yourself even when the costs are high.

In this episode Tucks tells us about his experiences with domestic abuse, suicide and violence as he unfolds his powerful story of survival, tenacity, love and connection.

He is a breathe of fresh air and a trailblazer in the field of authenticity and courage.  I'm sure you will enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

And as mentioned, we get into potentially triggering and activating topics, so get yourself some extra support from the resources below. 
You matter. You belong here.  You have the right to feel safe. 


Connect with Tuck and thank him for his courage and openness on instagram here.

SUPPORTS & RESOURCES:

United States:

Trevorproject text 678-678

Translifeline Call 877-565-8860

Crisis Textline: Text home to 741741

The National Domestic Violence Hotline (200 languages): 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY). Advocacy information and safety planning. Email (English) and chat (English and Spanish) are also available.

Forge Forward: Support for trans people & trans victims of violence. 

Crisis Services Canada:  Established in 2002, Crisis Services Canada is a nonprofit national network of existing distress, crisis, and suicide prevention line services that assist populations across Canada.

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Have you ever felt the world spinning a little too fast, leaving you gasping for a moment of peace? I certainly did, and that's why I took an unexpected step back from the show to move from juggling all the things to prioritizing on the necessary things.  We're talking about how to find some 'white space' in our routine and creating a life that isn't just about ticking boxes off the to-do list.

And if you're looking to make some big changes in how you are showing up in your own life and your relationships, the bold as love solo experience may be for you.

I am opening spaces for 3 women who want to go deeper in healing, changing negative habits and feeling more confident and free in their lives, conversations and relationships.

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Have you ever noticed how there's a change that you want to make,  you make a declaration, you say now's the time I'm going to start to take this seriously, I really need to get my act together, and you go all in, but soon it all falls flat?  Often we find ourselves right back in the same place where we started, feeling totally defeated and frustrated.

I want to tell you, the problem is not you. The problem is you're approaching change in a way that does not work.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you why what you've been doing hasn't been working and how you have likely been sabotaging your efforts towards change when you're trying to break old habits.   And I'm going to show you how one of the ways we approach change in the Bold as Love Collective,  a way that actually works, is much easier, kinder and way more effective that what you've probably been doing.

and some ways that you can actually start to create change that actually work, ways of doing change that are easier, more sustainable and way more effective.

The Bold as Love Collective is starting January 22/ 24.  This is a group for women who want to grow, evolve and get rid of old habits that don't serve them for good.  Get the details here: https://aprilboyd.ca/reset-your-mindset

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Have you ever felt like a change as small as a new hat could throw your entire circle of friends into a tailspin?  In this episode I'm sharing how a questionable fashion choice revealed the unspoken rules that my friends and I were putting on each other without realizing it.   

So today, we're peeling back the curtain of comfort provided by your closest relationships to reveal how sometimes, even though you love each other and want the best for each other, you may need to step outside of your usual group of friends to find some new room to grow.

We explore the balancing act of valuing and maintaining these connections while also creating and finding new spaces where you are more free to redefine who you are, try on new hats, and aspire for more.

Want a safe place to grow & expand who you are?  The Bold as Love Collective is an online personal growth and support group that's a haven for women ready to reinvent their lives. This program is all about shedding outdated selves and warmly welcoming in the new, all within a nurturing community that revels in each other’s transformations. It’s a place where challenging the norm isn't just accepted; it's celebrated. So, if you're longing for a tribe that cheers on your desire to grow, join us and be part of an empowering journey that acknowledges and applauds the beautiful complexities of change.

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I was working in a coffee shop the other day when I couldn't help but overhear a conversation between the two women sitting next to me.   Listening to this meeting between a boss and junior employee, I was struck by how hard to the younger woman was working to be the "okay maker," to remain pleasant, accepting and tolerant of the utter nonsense of this conversation she was being forced to participate in, a conversation where she was having to explain and defend a list of insignificant micro differences between the ways she took care of herself in the workplace and what her boss wanted a "team player" to act like.

It reminded me of all the times when I had normalized being treated like less than,  times when I had thought it was normal and fine to just put up with weird abuses of power, environments that compromised my values, and relationships where I was held in a dehumanized, inferior position.  It reminded me of how I had accepted all of this without question, without noticing how easy it would have been to just treat people better, without taking in how dysfunctional and abusive these dynamics really were at times.

 So in today's episode I'm encouraging you to consider a new question.

Where in your life do you need to raise your standards?

Get a notebook and pen, press play on this episode and come join me as we start to change the way you let others treat you and how you treat yourself.


If this speaks to you, I encourage you to check out the Bold as Love Collective.  It's a small intimate coaching group for women who are ready to look at the patterns they've co-created in their lives, get untangled from limiting beliefs and relationship models that no longer serve them and get into alignment with a happier, healthier, more vibrant and alive version of themselves.

Get the details here. We start in January.
https://aprilboyd.ca/reset-your-mindset

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Ever felt like conversations with your friends are running on a loop, touching the surface but never getting into the stuff that actually matters?   If you're finding resistance when you try to go deeper, if you find yourself holding back parts of yourself, and staying quiet when you're tempted to share more about your thoughts, your creations or what you really want, because you're afraid you'll be seen as intimidating, triggering, or "showing off," this episode is for you.

In this episode, I walk you through the subtle yet significant signals that it's time for you to expand your social circle.   We explore the profound effects of our closest relationships on our happiness and growth, and what happens when you hit a ceiling with the circle of you love.



P.S. Calling all women who crave deeper connection, better conversations and personal growth: this is your call to action! Starting in January, I'm excited to welcome you into our circle of wonderful women, a collective committed to breaking patterns, uplifting our mindset and cheering each other on along the way.

Get the details here.
We start in January.

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As I was at the movie theatre last night, I noticed a strange little habit that I was doing mentally, a habit that I've probably done a million times without realizing it. It got me thinking about beauty standards, competition among women and how much time and energy so many women spend hating on themselves.

In this episode we're talking about beauty standards, self-criticism and self-worth, why we can't seem to stop chasing the beauty ideals that the partriarchy has set for us, and how we can start to build ourselves up instead of tearing ourselves down.

If you find yourself falling into comparison, feeling like you're not measuring up and getting obsessed with trying to improve your appearance, today's episode is for you.  We're breaking down the self-attacking thoughts we all face, why being a "trophy wife" might be the worst prize you could possibly win and how we can start to create our own defintions of beauty and worthiness in a culture that will always tell us we're not enough.

WOMEN'S GROUP IS STARTING IN JANUARY:
get all the details here.
https://aprilboyd.ca/reset-your-mindset

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What would change if you started treating your own wellness, aliveness and vitality as if they were really important things to nurture and to care about? 

Many of us go through our weeks and lives acting like our own needs don't really matter- that we don't really matter. 

We focus more on just getting things done and just getting through, instead of actually enjoying our time, tasks, activities and our lives.  Navigating life's ups and downs has definitely taught me that life needs to be more than just surviving- we need to be able to love our lives, so that when everything gets knocked over and the rug gets pulled from under us, we already know how to take care of ourselves, how to dig deep and how to rebuild a life that is worth fighting for.

 I've come to strongly believe that joy, ease, and authenticity aren't just lofty ideals but necessities for a truly satisfying, fulfilling life.  Join me as I open my heart and share how these experiences and share how they've shaped my approach to every day living.

Women's Group Invitation:
The Bold as Love Collective is a 9 week course to reset your mindset and start living bigger, happier and easier.  Get the details here:
https://aprilboyd.ca/reset-your-mindset

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Ever found yourself tongue-tied when an aunt passes judgment on your career choices or your mother in law shots a passive aggressive arrow your directions?   Many of us are moving through the holidays with a lot of anxiety and dread as we know we are going to be confronted by some of the people who most push our buttons, get under our skin and who may seem to even enjoy offending us.  

This episode is your guide to handling those tense, risky moments with grace and assertiveness.  We delve into the power using simple questions to stand up for ourselves, hold someone accountable while inviting opportunities for repair and genuine connection. 

You're going to want to get your notebook for this one because you'll be learning some new ways to strike that delicate balance between accountability and kindness when someone steps over the line.  From discussing how past role models influence our conflict resolution styles, to techniques like setting conversational checkpoints and subtly holding up a mirror to the other person, this episode is going to help make the hard interactions a lot easier.   So, grab a cup of mulled cider, get cozy, and let's get ready to turn those difficult conversations into opportunities for growth and greater self-respect.

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Are you finding it hard to keep up with the chaos of life, feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list? This time of year is especially crazy, particularly for women who do most of the behind the scenes to make the holidays magical for everyone else. 

I'm April Boyd, and in this conversation, I promise to guide you on how to sort through the madness, prioritize tasks, and most importantly, find more peace and time to yourself.  Grab your journal, because you'll want to jot down your thoughts and answers as we journey through these transformative questions together.

Join me as we navigate the thin line between striving for the standards we hold for ourselves and the reality of our to-do lists and and get out of the trap of perfectionism that often leaves us over-loaded and over-worked.   Let's break out of old habits of overfunctioning together and have some honest, brave, and kind discussions about how to manage life's demands.

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