S02.E04 - Jomar Part 1: We tend to proceed before acknowledging

In this episode (Selflessly Selfish), I discuss with Darrin how he navigated obstacles such as long distance, being an entrepreneur, and infidelity prior to getting married as well as how those lessons learned has helped him become a good husband.

We focus on the challenges that come with trying to satisfy your passions as well as your partner. I talk about the importance of having someone that supports you and your passions. We explore the tough calls and tradeoffs you have to make when doubling down on pursuing your dreams and how critical it is to know when to get out or pivot. We also examine how generational differences impact how we view dating today, pursue relationships, and consider sources of advice. 

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In this episode (The benefit of truly learning somebody), I wrap up my conversation with Carlton as we talk through the benefit of truly learning someone and having a healthy sex life in a marriage.

We discuss the challenge that men have listening instead of problem-solving. We highlight the intentionality required to develop organic and strong relationships with the in-laws. We examine the importance of sex in a marriage and maintaining an active sexual dynamic throughout the years. We conclude on the idea that the head of the household being a collective effort.

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In this episode (The unfortunate part of dating), I discuss the value of knowing your person’s heart with Carlton as he shares more of his journey in marriage and in fatherhood.

We talk about why guys are okay dating more than one person at the same time and the tradeoffs you make while dating multiple people. We discuss how harder it becomes to date as people get older and considerations for living with your partner prior to marriage. We examine the need for parity in a relationship and being mindful of the development opportunities of who you choose to hitch your wagon. We highlight the importance of communication in the middle of conflict and investing in your relationship once kids are in the picture. We also debate what matters more: trusting or respecting someone for their opinions or feedback. 

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In this episode (Am I really willing to do the work?), I discuss the feeling of knowing when you know and how they led to Carlton dating someone he randomly met prior to graduating college as well as their journey in marriage. 

We discuss the importance of being intentional when getting to know someone. We break down the process of knowing that you know and how specific experiences can solidify how a guy feels about a woman. We also dive deep in what it means when a guy says “you know when you know”.

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In this episode (I could have went off the rails), I wrap up my conversation with Courtney discussing critical moments that challenged his marriage early onsuch as dealing with a miscarriage and overcoming a severe covid experience. We emphasize the need to find time and space for yourself in the midst of internal and external chaos so you can show up better for your partner and family.

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This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ 

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In this episode (From supporting myself to supporting three), I talk to Courtney about his journey of becoming a stepfather. We discuss the importance of creating boundaries and relationship norms while learning to be a stepfather. We dive into the conversations required to engage as a parental figure while dating. We highlight why you should break through taboo norms and not wait very long to have meaningful conversations on important topics (i.e., life goals, salary/income).

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In this episode (Shoutout to Bumble!), I discuss how Courtney’s match on Bumble turned from a casual dating scenario to a marriage. We talk about dating a woman with a child and navigating how to build individual relationships with both. We highlight his doubts and misconceptions. We also examine the natural progression men go through in their journey towards marriage.

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In this episode (I don’t want a cheerleader), I wrap up my conversation with Jourdan as he explains his need to have a partner he can trust and that can hold their own as he navigates his marriage with someone of a different ethic, cultural, and religious background. 

We run back their decision to not live with each other, despite moving to a new city together. We talk through navigating the differences between expectations and preferences. We discuss the importance of having tough conversations to get to a happy place even if you’re not happy with the outcome. We offer our perspective on compatibility and how vulnerability looks different for different people. We highlight the need for self-awareness in a relationship and to show up for your partner just as much as you do for yourself.

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In this episode (We never look at anybody’s Ls), I talk to Jourdan about his reluctance in participating in the dating game and how being honest with himself and what he wanted led to him finding his wife. 

We examine the world of dating today and thematic problems that people face. We discuss taking a different approach to dating and the importance of strong communication and being upfront with people from jump. We dive into navigating dating while focusing on life’s other priorities. We emphasize the necessity of being honest with ourselves first when it comes to dating - what we want, the realisticness of our expectations, and the tradeoffs we’re willing to make. We also spend time on the need to understand our mental health and benefits of seeing a therapist. 

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In this episode (We took the first baby for granted), I wrap up my conversation with Julian, reflecting on an emotionally tough period in his marriage, dealing with pregnancy issues, and having a rainbow baby

We talk about how it was supporting a pregnant wife while living long distance. We discuss the difficulty of having to terminate a pregnancy. We highlight the importance of not checking out during traumatic and emotionally heavy situations. We also dive deep on dealing with the fears and emotions while trying to navigate the pregnancy of a rainbow baby. 

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