As entrepreneurs, we can be really tough on ourselves in an effort to make everything “perfect.” You may think being an overachiever is what it takes to be successful, but in Jamie's experience, it can hinder success instead. Perfectionism, or the good girl mentality, can quickly lead to burnout!
In the sixth episode of The Limitless Podcast, we will discuss how the good girl mentality affects how we do business and stops us from achieving success. We cover how you can stop trying to be perfect by tapping into nourishment, consistency, imperfection, and energy. Allow yourself to be human and accept that you don't need to appear perfect all the time!
If you want to learn how to show up to your business on your own terms, this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to this episode:
- Learn how perfectionism harms your well-being and your business.
- Discover how to overcome perfectionism with Jamie's five tips.
- Understand that you’re human — imperfect and free to grow. Embrace your imperfections to create the perfect business and strategy suited for you.
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Episode Highlights
[03:38] What is the Good Girl Mentality?
- The good girl mentality is when women feel that they have value only when they’re perfect, accomplished, and productive.
- This mentality is often held up as an example to follow, but it can create limits for us.
- In Jamie’s experience, people who have this mentality are the same people who usually hide their flaws, feel crushed by mistakes, and cannot get over failure.
- They are also usually the type who will put others first before themselves.
- Womanhood should be about leading people to a better world and being supported by a strong community. It's not about being a martyr and forgetting to take care of ourselves.
[07:24] Stop Trying to be Perfect
- Working through the good girl mentality starts with perfectionism. Jamie shares having sprinters who spend two and a half hours on just one social media post!
- It's not about having perfect posts all the time; it's about showing that you're an active creator.
- Perfectionism tells us that people will judge us if we're not put together all the time.
- Meanwhile, some people may be achieving many things in their life, but they end up forgetting to take care of themselves.
[10:57] How to Know if You Have a Good Girl Mentality
- Jamie knows someone has a good girl mentality if they say they need to figure things out before joining a program.
- This mentality can stop people from seeking help because they see it as a weakness.
- People with this mentality also tend to be people-pleasing. However, this can easily lead to burnout and overwhelm.
- If you continue having this mentality, you will feel caged.
[13:56] How to Change Adrenaline into Nourishment
- Jamie wants to help entrepreneurs uncage themselves from the good girl mentality so they can prioritize themselves and lean into what they want to do.
- Adrenaline is all about the hustle and posting as much as you can. It commonly manifests in our to-do lists.
- Every day, you will have four hours of deep focus. Yet, we expect ourselves to work optimally every hour of the day.
- Instead of trying to accomplish 20 things on your to-do list, limit it to a maximum of three tasks. These should honor how you’re feeling and nurture you.
- Start the day with this question: what is the one thing I can do today that will make me feel empowered?
[20:13] It’s Not Always Positive
- You don’t need to feel positive and good all the time. Sometimes, it’s good for you to feel negative feelings.
- If we ignore our feelings, we’re not going to be as productive or creative.
- Anytime you’re hesitating to do something, ask yourself where the need for perfectionism is coming from.
- Jamie recommends sitting with this feeling for at least 3 minutes without distractions.
- Choose nourishment over adrenaline.
Jamie: “Achieve at the best you can, at the best mental capability that you can be productive — because you're taking care of yourself, not because everyone else is being more productive than you are.”
[23:05] Consistency in Your Own Terms
- For masculine energy, consistency is about the output and doing as much as possible.
- On the other hand, the feminine energy is all about what will move the needle for you and help you show up every day.
- Gurus would teach posting every day, and some would even post more than once a day. For them, consistency means giving up time for content.
- Instead of trying to post as much as you can, Jamie recommends just posting five days a week and seeing whether it works for you. She also recommends batching your content.
- Content creation is a marketing habit, and you need to define accomplishment and consistency on your own terms.
[28:14] Remember that You’re Human
- Remember that your products and services can change over time. You can redefine your ideal client; it doesn't need to stay the same forever.
- If you’re trying to please people, you will be trapped in the thinking that you can’t change anything in your business.
- Remember that you decide your future and how you want to create it.
Jamie: “You decide your future. You decide how you want to create it. No algorithm, no audience member, no client is going to change it because you're the person that shows up every single day within your business and you want to make sure it feels good to you.”
[31:18] Lead with Energy Rather Than Strategy
- A strategy may be helpful, but it will not win people over. Energy should come first.
- You may have the perfect strategy, but if you don’t feel good about it, you won’t be able to show up consistently.
- Know how you want to show up and the impact you want to create.
[35:01] Imperfection is Freedom
- None of us have everything figured out.
- Imperfection allows you to grow the most. If we’re “perfect” all the time, we won’t learn anything.
- Challenges are part of the journey. Instead of feeling defeated, ask yourself what you can learn from the situation.
- Accept your imperfections and be able to laugh about them. In the full episode, Jamie shares how you can release expectations with a simple exercise of taking photos.
Jamie: “Imperfection is key. The challenge is the journey — the challenges you face are going to exponentially lead you to success versus never having a hair out of place.”
[38:52] How Jamie Wants to Help You
- Jamie launched the Social Expansion program to coach people on using multiple social media platforms.
- Rather than creating the perfect strategy, Jamie helps clients create an empowered ecosystem around their business.
- She guides clients through deconstructing the good girl mentality, coming back to who they are, and how they want to show up in their business.
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