S2 Ep 4 - Adult Relationships: Building Impactful Relationships In and Out of the Office

Introduction: In this special bonus episode of Gen Authentic, host Stef Simich shares her excitement about attending Taylor Swift's concert and reflects on the power of embracing what makes us happy, regardless of others' opinions. She discusses Taylor Swift's journey and how the singer's resilience and self-confidence have inspired her own growth. Stef encourages listeners to find solace in knowing that their passions and preferences are valid, and that finding a balance in life is essential to living authentically.

Episode Notes:

1. Stef shares her anticipation for attending Taylor Swift's concert and discusses the quote about not making others feel bad for what they enjoy.
2. Reflecting on the incident at the 2009 VMA Awards, Stef recalls how people made her feel dumb for being a fan of Taylor Swift.
3. She emphasizes that enjoying pop music does not diminish its value or depth, and encourages listeners not to let others' judgments affect their enjoyment.
4. Stef highlights Taylor Swift's growth and resilience over the years, including her ability to overcome obstacles and stand up for herself.
5. She mentions the empowering lyrics from Taylor's songs and how they have personally resonated with her, serving as mantras for self-confidence and resilience.
6. Stef discusses her mid-year check-in and shares her progress in learning to love herself at 23.
7. She describes the balance she has achieved in her life, including work, hobbies, self-love, and relationships.
8. Stef emphasizes the importance of finding one's own balance and not seeking validation from others.
9. She encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves and be proud of their interests and passions.

Key Takeaways:

• Don't let others' opinions diminish the value of what you enjoy.
• Taylor Swift's journey showcases resilience and self-confidence.
• Empowering lyrics from Taylor's songs can serve as mantras for self-confidence and resilience.
• Finding a balance in life is essential for living authentically.
• Embrace your authentic self and be proud of your interests and passions.

Conclusion: Stef concludes the bonus episode by expressing gratitude to Taylor Swift for being a voice of a generation and for inspiring listeners to work more authentically through life. She encourages listeners to embrace their confidence, whether it's quiet or bold, and to know that their preferences and interests are valid. Stef's message emphasizes the importance of finding personal balance and living life on one's own terms, without seeking validation from others. By sharing her own journey and reflections, she invites listeners to love themselves and be proud of who they are.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of Gen Authentic with host Stef Simich. In this episode, Stef introduces special guest Candis Williams, a certified life coach, on-camera host, and creator of the Slow Year. Stef highlights Candis' lessons on the importance of slowing down and the idea that one must slow down to reach their desired destination. The conversation promises to be more than a typical interview as both Stef and Candis share their personal journeys of self-discovery and choosing alignment over allurement to achieve their goals. Candis brings her insights on devotion, while Stef adds her perspective on creating space and questioning the value of our actions.

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Episode Notes:

1. Stef introduces Candis and her background as a certified life coach, on-camera host, and creator of the Slow Year, a 13-month journey based on her own experience of slowing down.
2. Candis discusses her realization that she had been hustling and striving for success without understanding the purpose behind her efforts.
3. Stef shares her own experience of pushing herself too hard after her divorce and embracing the "100 Days of Bravery" challenge.
4. Candis explains her decision to slow down and the significance of giving herself permission to do so.
5. Stef reflects on the importance of creating space in life for change and growth.
6. Candis highlights the aha moment she had regarding the impact of heavy relationship energy and the need to declutter and prioritize her well-being.
7. Stef discusses her own realization about the value of saying no and the importance of aligning decisions with personal growth and authenticity.
8. Candis shares the principle of devotion as a key factor in her slow year and the intentional, connected, and ritualistic way of living it entailed.
9. Candis emphasizes the need to take control of our lives instead of being hopelessly devoted to external factors such as work, relationships, and habits.
10. Devotion is a transformative principle that allows us to be pulled by a better life and show up for it daily.
11. Candis shares her personal practice of devotion, which involves a morning routine of journaling, meditation, and dancing on her balcony as the sun rises.
12. Slowness is a state of being and starts from within, reshaping our perspective and allowing us to take more time for ourselves.
13. Stef and Candis discuss the possibility of having a slow year and highlight the importance of starting with a slow morning or consistent routine to connect with oneself.
14. Devoting oneself to a consistent practice, regardless of the busyness of life, leads to a more full and present experience.
15. The conversation challenges the notion of busyness and encourages listeners to remove the word "busy" from their vocabulary.
16. Candis emphasizes the need to reshape our thinking and beliefs about time and slowness, recognizing that our perception shapes our reality.
17. Taking intentional breaths and savoring moments can help extend the state of slowness into various areas of life.

Key Takeaways:

• Slowing down and creating space in life allows for self-discovery, alignment, and personal growth.
• It is essential to question the purpose and impact of our hustle and busyness.
• Saying yes to everything may not serve our true desires and can lead to overwhelm.
• Devotion to intentional, connected, and ritualistic living can bring transformative changes.
• Removing the word "busy" from our vocabulary allows us to embrace a more full and present life.
• Reshaping our thinking and beliefs about time and slowness can transform our perception and reality.
• Taking intentional breaths and savoring moments can cultivate a sense of slowness in our daily lives.

Conclusion:
Stef and Candis conclude the episode by highlighting the transformative power of slowing down and aligning with one's authentic self. They emphasize the significance of creating space, questioning the value of our actions, and embracing a life-giving discipline. By sharing their personal journeys and lessons, Stef and Candis provide valuable insights for listeners seeking a more intentional and fulfilling approach to life. They invite listeners to embrace a present year, recognizing that being slow doesn't mean doing nothing but rather being fully engaged in everything we do. Tune in to this thought-provoking episode titled "The Slow Year: The Journey to Turn a Busy Life into a Fulfilled Life" with special guest Candis Williams and explore the power of presence and devotion for a more fulfilling life.

Connect with Candis: 

https://www.candiswilliams.com/

https://www.instagram.com/sincerelycandis/

https://www.facebook.com/sincerelycandis/

https://www.tiktok.com/@sincerelycandis

https://theslowyear.com/start

• Stef introduces today's guest, Robi, whom they were introduced to by a previous guest on the show. Stef shares how Robi has been a supportive partner in their podcast journey and highlights Robi's passion for ensuring voices are heard.
• Robi, a transgender queer artist living in Berlin, introduces themselves as a sound and media artist with a wide range of interests and expertise, including podcast sound, experiential sound, experimental composition, digital arts, film and games sound design, sound installations, and more. They emphasize the importance of storytelling, poetry, and the affective power of using one's voice in their work.
• Stef praises Robi's voice, mentioning how it conveys a storytelling quality and suggests they could excel at reading audiobooks.
• Robi shares their background, stating they are originally from Florida and moved to Berlin around four and a half years ago. They came to Berlin to be closer to someone and pursue a master's degree in sound studies and sonic arts at the University of Arts Berlin. Robi now teaches as an Extended Reality Workshop Leader at the Weizensee University of the Arts in Berlin.
• Stef expresses interest in Robi's work at the art university and remarks on the difference between larger and smaller educational institutions. Robi explains the benefits of working in a smaller setting, where there is more individual attention and a closer connection with the students.
• Robi discusses the affordability of universities in Germany compared to the United States and their decision to pursue studies in Germany to avoid accumulating excessive debt. They comment on the social differences and acceptance they've experienced in Berlin, highlighting the LGBTQIA-friendly environment.
• Stef and Robi talk about language barriers, with Robi sharing that they have a passive fluency in German, meaning they understand it well and can read proficiently but struggle with speaking. They mention the prevalence of English speakers in Berlin and the challenges of adapting to a different language and culture.
• Stef and Robi discuss the differences between German and English and share some humorous anecdotes about unintentional language mishaps.
• Robi reflects on their musical background as a singer and musician in Florida, playing in bands, touring, and working as a session singer. They explain how their interest in recording and the technical aspects of music production grew over time, driven by a desire to have more control over their own voice and creative ideas. Robi felt unheard and disregarded in traditional recording studio settings, particularly due to the dominance of male engineers and producers. This led them to pursue their own technical skills and reclaim control over their voice.

Welcome to Gen Authentic, the podcast that challenges you to work authentically through life. Everything we do in life is work; our jobs, our families, our friends, our hobbies, and ourselves - it all takes work and Stef is challenging you to do that work more authentically.

Welcome to the "Decoding Therapy" episode of the Gen Authentic Podcast with host Stef Simich. In this enlightening conversation, retired therapist Kimberly Gamauf shares insights into the world of therapy, discussing topics such as finding the right therapist, building a productive therapeutic relationship, navigating online versus in-person therapy, and recognizing red flags. Whether you're curious about therapy or seeking guidance, this episode provides valuable perspectives on decoding the therapeutic process.

Guest Introduction:

-          Kimberly Gamauf, a retired therapist, shares her love for travel, learning, and curiosity about life.

Impact of COVID-19 on Therapy:

-          COVID-19 prompted significant changes in the field of therapy, with a shift to virtual therapy appointments.

-          The pandemic caused confusion, depression, and anxiety, leading many individuals to seek therapy.

-          Therapy helps restore balance, address confusion, and cope with life changes.

Finding a Therapist:

-          Seeking recommendations from friends and exploring online therapist profiles and websites.

-          Factors to consider when choosing a therapist include age, race, gender, ethnicity, and gender identity.

-          Online resources make it easier to find a therapist who aligns with an individual's needs and preferences.

Essential Qualities in a Therapist:

-          Empathy, active listening, and goal-setting are crucial for a productive therapeutic relationship.

-          A therapist serves as a guide, focusing on guidance rather than friendship.

-          Building trust is essential for personal growth and breaking down walls.

Elements of a Successful Therapeutic Relationship:

-          Empathy, positive regard, trust, rapport, and authenticity contribute to a successful therapeutic relationship.

Online vs. In-Person Therapy:

-          Preferences vary; some prefer in-person therapy for a sense of being away from distractions, while others find online therapy convenient.

-          Virtual therapy can overcome obstacles like travel and increase appointment attendance.

-          Insurance limitations may impact the choice between online and in-person therapy.

-          Sliding scale fees can be considered for affordability if insurance limits in-person sessions.

Trying Online Therapy:

-          Encouraging individuals to reach out to therapists specializing in their needs and try online therapy to assess comfort levels.

Challenges of Online Therapy:

-          Unplugging from work during online therapy sessions can be difficult, but creating a conducive environment can help.

-          In-office activities, such as writing on paper, may have a more significant impact.

Questions to Ask When Interviewing a Therapist:

-          Understand the therapist's approach and how they will address your situation.

-          Discuss session duration, frequency, fees, payment options, availability, and the therapeutic process.

-          Asking questions helps align expectations and find the right fit.

Seeking Additional Resources:

-          Asking questions and seeking information helps therapists determine if their services align with the client's needs.

-          Referrals to psychiatrists or outside support may be necessary.

Therapy Red Flags:

-          Red flags for therapists include missing or forgetting client information and asking repetitive questions.

-          Clients who dominate the conversation without actively participating can also raise concerns.

Therapist's Limitations:

-          Therapists should be aware of their limitations and involve other professionals if necessary, especially in cases requiring a different level of care.

Client Red Flags:

-          Red flags in clients include discussions of self-harm, harm to others, revengeful thoughts, substance abuse, and legal issues.

-          Clients who go through the motions without actively engaging in therapy may also raise concerns.

Working Towards Independence:

-          Therapists aim to empower clients to make good decisions and rely on the skills learned in therapy rather than fostering dependence.

Life Experience in Therapy:

-          Incorporating life experiences benefits both therapists and clients, drawing on personal and training experiences.

Ending the Therapeutic Relationship:

-          Clients may choose various ways to end the relationship, such as not showing up for appointments, leaving voicemails expressing dissatisfaction, disconnecting at the end of a session, or directly verbalizing their decision.

-          There is no definitive right or wrong way to end therapy; it depends on the client's comfort

Welcome to Gen Authentic, the podcast that challenges you to work authentically through life. Everything we do in life is work; our jobs, our families, our friends, our hobbies, and ourselves - it all takes work and Stef is challenging you to do that work more authentically.

In this captivating episode, we dive deep into the world of extreme sports and personal triumphs as we sit down with Jayme Linker, a remarkable multi-sport extreme athlete who is on the brink of an awe-inspiring feat: rowing across the vast expanse of the Pacific Ocean. But this journey isn't just about physical endurance; we also explore Jayme's courageous battle with an eating disorder and how she found the strength to overcome it. Lastly, we learn about her incredible vision to establish an eating disorder rehab facility nestled amidst the majestic mountains of Colorado. Get ready for an inspiring and transformative conversation.

Episode Highlights:

1. Embarking on the Epic Pacific Ocean Crossing:

   • Discover the motivation and inspiration behind Jayme's decision to row across the Pacific Ocean.
   • Explore the immense physical and mental preparation required for such an extraordinary undertaking.
   • Gain insights into the challenges and obstacles she expects to face during this grueling journey.

2. Triumph over Adversity: Conquering an Eating Disorder:

   • Hear Jayme's personal account of her struggle with an eating disorder and the impact it had on her life.
   • Learn about the pivotal moments and strategies that helped her overcome this challenging battle.
   • Explore how her experience shaped her perspective on health, self-acceptance, and the importance of seeking support.

3. Building a New Path: Creating an Eating Disorder Rehab in Colorado:

   • Discover the vision behind Jayme's groundbreaking project to establish an eating disorder rehab facility in the mountains of Colorado.
   • Learn about the unique approach and holistic methods she plans to incorporate into the rehabilitation process.
   • Gain insights into the potential impact and transformative opportunities this facility will provide for individuals seeking recovery.

4. Personal Growth and Life Lessons:

   • Hear Jayme's reflections on the personal growth and life lessons she has gained through her extraordinary experiences.
   • Explore the ways in which her journey as an extreme athlete and her battle with an eating disorder have shaped her outlook on life.
   • Discover the powerful messages of resilience, self-discovery, and finding purpose that Jayme imparts to others.

Conclusion: Join us as we delve into the incredible world of extreme sports and personal triumphs with Jayme. Through her upcoming Pacific Ocean rowing expedition, her journey of overcoming an eating disorder, and her visionary approach to rehabilitating others, Jayme exemplifies the strength of the human spirit and the limitless potential we possess to conquer our fears and transform our lives!

Facebook pages: 

Team page: https://www.facebook.com/alohakai2023 

Jayme’s Page: https://www.facebook.com/jayme.linker

Atlantic Campaigns (race directors): https://www.facebook.com/atlanticcampaigns

Instagram pages: 

Team page: https://instagram.com/alohakai2023?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= 

Jayme’s Page: https://instagram.com/linker.jayme?igshid=ZDdkNTZiNTM=

World's Toughest Row: https://www.instagram.com/worlds.toughest.row/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=3a9aeaf0-254e-4724-820f-22febee6ee2c

Where you can buy team shirts:

https://www.bonfire.com/aloha-kai-2023/

Welcome to Gen Authentic, the podcast that challenges you to work authentically through life. Everything we do in life is work; our jobs, our families, our friends, our hobbies, and ourselves - it all takes work and Stef is challenging you to do that work more authentically.

Join Stef as she shares personal stories and actionable tips to identify and overcome burn out symptoms. 

• Burnout is a real issue that can impact our well-being, productivity, and engagement at work.
• As middle managers, the responsibilities and pressures we face can make us particularly susceptible to burnout. But fear not, we have strategies to help you navigate and prevent it.

Understanding Burnout

• What is burnout? We explain the signs and symptoms to watch out for.
• Impact of burnout: Discusses how burnout affects both individuals and teams in the workplace.
• Middle managers and burnout: Explores why middle managers are particularly vulnerable to burnout due to their dual responsibilities and role in the organization.

Prevention Strategies

• Self-care is crucial: Emphasizes the importance of self-care activities like exercise, relaxation techniques, and maintaining a healthy work-life balance.
• Setting boundaries: Provide tips on setting boundaries between work and personal life, including the importance of unplugging and taking breaks.
• Building a support network: Encourages middle managers to seek support from colleagues, mentors, or professional networks to share experiences and seek guidance.
• Prioritizing and delegating: Discusses the significance of prioritizing tasks, delegating responsibilities, and avoiding overloading yourself.
• Continuous learning and growth: Encourages middle managers to seek new challenges, develop new skills, and find inspiration in their work to prevent stagnation.

Overcoming Burnout

• Recognizing the signs: Encourages listeners to be aware of burnout indicators and stress the importance of seeking help early.
• Taking a break: Discussing the benefits of taking time off, whether it's a vacation or a mental health day, to recharge and rejuvenate.
• Seeking support: Highlighting the value of seeking professional help through therapy or counseling to address burnout and work through related challenges.
• Realigning priorities: Encouraging middle managers to reevaluate their goals and focus on what truly matters, aligning their work with personal values.
• Finding purpose: Explore ways to rediscover purpose in work through new projects, collaborations, or personal development opportunities.

 Conclusion

• Remember, prioritizing self-care, setting boundaries, seeking support, and finding purpose are key to maintaining engagement and preventing burnout.
• By taking proactive steps, middle managers can create a healthier work environment for themselves and their teams.

Share this with the middle manager in your world today!

Welcome to Gen Authentic, the podcast that challenges your to work authentically through life. Everything we do in life is work; our jobs, our families, our friends, our hobbies, and ourselves - it all takes work and Stef is challenging you to do that work more authentically.

Join Stef as she shares a raw, unedited episode sharing her alcohol-free journey she began on her birthday. 

• Stef was motivated by a desire to improve her mental health and combat depression.
• By day 35 without alcohol she was free from almost all anxiety symptoms.
• By day 100, she felt proud of honoring her commitment to herself and achieving incredible milestones while remaining sober.

Going forward, Stef's relationship with alcohol will be limited and purposeful. She is happy to have learned so much about herself and is on the path to learning how to love herself.

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Welcome to Gen Authentic, the podcast that challenges your to work authentically through life. Everything we do in life is work; our jobs, our families, our friends, our hobbies, and ourselves - it all takes work and Stef is challenging you to do that work more authentically.

Join Stef as she connects with Nicole Bathuaer, a Denver Photography and Health Care Administrator who shares her story of sexual assault and her jounrey aiding in putting a chronic abuser behind bars. 

• April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, a time to bring attention to the issue of sexual assault and the impact it has on survivors and their communities.
• Sexual assault is a pervasive issue that affects people of all genders, ages, and backgrounds.
• The episode featured a survivor sharing their experience with sexual assault and the journey to healing, emphasizing the need for compassion and support for survivors.
• They emphasized the importance of breaking the silence and speaking out against sexual violence, including educating oneself on consent and understanding the dynamics of power and control.

Remember, if you or someone you know has experienced sexual assault, there are resources available to help. You can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or visit https://www.rainn.org/ for more information and support. Let's work together to end sexual violence and support survivors.

Additional Resources:

• National Sexual Violence Resource Center: https://www.nsvrc.org/
• Joyful Heart Foundation: https://www.joyfulheartfoundation.org/
• Me Too Movement: https://metoomvmt.org/
• It's On Us: https://www.itsonus.org/

It's important to remember that help and support is available for survivors of sexual assault, and that they are not alone in their experiences.

Welcome to Gen Authentic, the podcast that challenges your to work authentically through life. Everything we do in life is work; our jobs, our families, our friends, our hobbies, and ourselves - it all takes work and Stef is challenging you to do that work more authentically.

"Networking for Neurodivergents" started by acknowledging that networking can be challenging for all people and especially for those with ADHD, who may struggle with social anxiety, distractibility, and forgetfulness. However, we also pointed out that having ADHD can also be an asset in networking, as it can make you more creative, spontaneous, and memorable.

Some of the strategies discussed include:

• Developing a clear purpose for networking: When you have a clear goal in mind, it can help you stay focused and motivated when networking. You can also be more strategic in the types of events you attend and the people you connect with.
• Using technology to stay organized: There are many tools available that can help individuals with ADHD to stay organized and remember important details about their contacts. For example, you can use a CRM system to keep track of your contacts, or an app like Evernote to capture notes and ideas on the go.
• Practicing active listening: People with ADHD may struggle with listening skills, but it's an essential component of networking. By practicing active listening, you can make a better impression on others and build deeper connections.
• Being authentic and genuine: People with ADHD can often be very enthusiastic and passionate about their interests. By being authentic and genuine when networking, you can make a strong impression on others and build relationships based on shared interests.

Overall, networking can be challenging for individuals with ADHD, but it's also a skill that can be developed with practice and the right tools. By using strategies like developing a clear purpose, using technology to stay organized, practicing active listening, and being authentic and genuine, you can build valuable connections that can help you achieve your personal and professional goals.

Thank you for listening to Gen Authentic and for being the voices of a generation working more authentically through life. 

March 8th is celebrated as International Women's Day around the world. This day is a celebration of women's achievements, as well as a call to action for gender equality. In this episode, we bring together three inspiring women from different parts of Stef's history to share their perspectives on this important day.

Cathy

Our first guest is Cathy. She has been a vocal advocate for women's rights throughout her life; from the corporate setting to brunch with girlfriend. Cathy shares her thoughts on why International Women's Day is important and how we can create more opportunities for women to thrive in their personal and professional lives. She further discusses why it is important to never suppress a generous thought. 

Desi

Our second guest is Desi. She is a beacon of hope for women navigating finding a seat at the proverbial table as she breaks glass ceilings in the world of competitive dance. Desi talks about the progress that has been made throughout the dance community and the challenges that still exist. If there's one thing for sure about Desi - She's Got It!

Ariel

Our third guest is Ariel. She is an ever evolving mother, wife, and lover of Jesus. Ariel talks about her journey as through growing up surrounded by addiction and how setting boundaries saved her life.  She also shares her advice for other women who are looking to take charge of their life. 

International Women's Day is a reminder of the progress that has been made towards gender equality, as well as the work that still needs to be done. Our guests have provided valuable insights into the challenges and opportunities that women face in different parts of the world. As we celebrate this day, let us remember that we all have a role to play in creating a world where women can thrive and reach their full potential.