S2E10: Listening With Respect and Engagement

This is an episode we recorded back in July 2020 before the election madness. It's about how things like working on yourself, personal growth, and other seemingly "trivial" things can help you find a little balance amidst the craziness. Along with a few digressions about the pandemic and other current events, as per usual. Enjoy!

Music from Epidemic Sound:

- Enjoy the Heartbreak by Martin Hall
- Yes Darling by Orjan Karlsson

Back from what some might consider a vacation, but I just consider a ton of WORK. This episode is one that Carter and I felt we needed to do, even though it felt weird, and a little awkward. Like many of you, we're trying to be better. Come join us as we talk through the idea of "all lives matter" versus "black lives matter". See what you think, and if it maybe gives you a different perspective. 

I hope you all are staying safe, being healthy, and taking good care of each other. Be good to one another. Talk to you next week!

Music via Epidemic Sound:

- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin Hall
- Limited Edition Love (Sting Version) by Anders Ekengren

Today I'm joined by my friend Carter and we're continuing in the same vein of militant authenticity talked about in Season 3 Episode 6. Listen in as we discuss being an authentic jerk, how you may be defining yourself, and how - perhaps - patent leather pants aren't quite the thing for work. 

Being true to who you are is important. It can get in your way sometimes, too. How do you find the balance? How can you think about who you are in a way that still lets you be flexible, adaptable, and open to growth? Join us for a discussion!

Referenced in this episode:

• S3E6: Militant Authenticity: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/when-authenticity-gets-in-the-way/

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Have a wonderful week!

Music via Epidemic Sound:

• Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin Hall
• Limited Edition (Sting Version) by Anders Ekengren

Multitasking is kind of one of those things where you might feel like you SHOULD be doing it, or maybe you think you should be doing it better. The reality is though, multitasking prevents you from doing an individual task well, it prevents you from actively listening, can damage your relationships, and can be flat-out dangerous. 

Join me, Emily, and John for a great discussion on multitasking, how it can hurt you, and what you can do to avoid it.

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Have a wonderful week!

Music via Epidemic Sound:

- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin Hall

Even in the best of times, self-care and self-compassion are so very important. In these times, it becomes even more critical to safeguard your mental and physical wellbeing. Even though you may be locked down right now, there are things you can do to do your self-care even when stuck at home.

Referenced in this episode:

• Coping with the Quarantine: 102 Self-Care Ideas & Activities to Do At Home | TCN Behavioral Health: https://www.tcn.org/news/2020/3/24/coping-with-the-quarantine-100-self-care-ideas-amp-activities-to-do-at-home

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Music via Epidemic Sound:

- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin Hall

Militant authenticity is when you have such a strong allegiance to "you being you" that you get in your own way. Or worse, you have a negative impact on those around you or their respect for you. I have always been a strong advocate for people being themselves, and I still strongly believe that. I also believe that we have choices about when and how to express that authenticity, and we can do it in a way that still allows us to be present to the needs and feelings of those around us. 

Referenced in this episode:

• The Fine Line Between Helpful and Harmful Authenticity | Adam Grant | NY Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/10/smarter-living/the-fine-line-between-helpful-and-harmful-authenticity.html
• Book Review: Option B: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/book-review-option-b-by-sheryl-sandberg/
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Music via Epidemic Sound:

- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin Hall

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Communities are powerful when they pull together. In times like these, the strength of a community will help people come out the other side. As a leader, you have a large impact on the communities you're a part of. How are you showing up? Are you building up your community, or are you tearing it down? Let's give our people strength and fortitude by building bonds with them and doing what we can to build up our families, teams, and communities.

Show Notes and Transcript: 

Referenced in this episode:

• Listening with respect and engagement | CPB S2E10: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/active-listening/
• Keep Calm and Lead On: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/calm-leadership-during-a-crisis/
• How to Inspire Community Spirit in Times of Social Isolation | Alexandra Laxmi Iyer | Salesforce.org: https://www.salesforce.org/how-to-inspire-community-spirit-in-times-of-social-isolation/
• The Kindness Postcard and Other Heartwarming Gestures Sparked By Coronavirus | Lucy Handley | CNBC: https://www.cnbc.com/2020/03/16/coronavirus-compassion-the-kindness-postcard-and-other-heartwarming-gestures.html
• Compassion in the Time of the Coronavirus | Nicholas A. Christakis | The Washington Post: https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2020/03/11/compassion-time-coronavirus/
• Facing COVID-19 With Community Instead of Fear | Lornet Turnbull | Yes Magazine: https://www.yesmagazine.org/health-happiness/2020/03/10/coronavirus-covid19-community/

Face Masks:

I found this set of tutorials super helpful in sewing my own face masks for my husband, son, and their coworkers: https://sweetredpoppy.com/how-to-sew-a-surgical-face-mask/

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Music via Epidemic Sound:

- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin Hall

If you're one of the millions of people being asked to work from home, you might be struggling with some of the challenges that working remotely can present. Or maybe you're just looking for some tips to make your work-from-home life a little bit easier! Either way, never fear, because us three veteran remote workers are here to share some of the challenges, benefits, and our best tips for working from home. 

Whether you're working from home or not, I hope you're staying safe and healthy, in both body and mind. Be well. 

Referenced in this episode:

• 5 Tips to Build Stronger Relationships
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The world is going crazy right now. Our personal worlds are turned inside out, upside down. In situations like this, it's easy for our emotions to jump in, take control, and ruin our ability to make rational decisions about what's happening. We get emotionally hijacked! I struggle with this a lot, and found some ways that I think will work well to help us to regain control over our emotions and get some mastery over our emotions when they threaten to overwhelm us. 

If you're struggling, please don't wait to ask for help. Times like these can make us feel more alone than usual, maybe than we've ever felt before. Everyone needs help sometimes.

Referenced in this episode:

• Empathy and Emotional Intelligence | Coffee, Grit, and Inspiration
• Strong Emotions: Name It To Tame It! (video)
• The A-Z Guide to Feelings and Emotions | Laughter Online University
• Reduce Emotional Hijacking With Emotional Intelligence | TTI Success Insights
• Tame Reactive Emotions By Naming Them | Mindful.org
• What Was I Thinking? Handling The Hijack | Dr. Relly Nadler, True North Leadership | Psychology Today

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Music via Epidemic Sound:

• Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin Hall

This week I'm talking about what happens when we use "but" to say something and then immediately negate it, or when we start our sentences with "no", "but", or "however". This seemingly harmless habit can cause our communications to break down, or to cause us to be seen as ineffective communicators or people who don't listen. 

Note that no butts were harmed in the making of this podcast. 

Referenced in this episode:

• S2E9: Overapologizing and Minimizing Yourself
• What Got You Here Won't Get You There [affiliate link] by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter

Have a wonderful week!