Setting and Managing Boundaries with Manipulative and Controlling People Part 2

Narcissists, like Jekyll and Hyde, have the ability to switch between two distinct personas. They often manipulate others to serve their own selfish desires, putting on a facade of charm and charisma to gain admiration and control. However, beneath this mask lies a darker side, characterized by emotional volatility and a lack of empathy.

Today I’m talking about the never ending cycle of the narcissist, which is basically the behavioural patterns that reoccur again and again in the relationships of the narcissist. It’s a very predictable behaviour, if you look out for it. But it’s very effective for the narcissist.

Narcissists thrive on attention and admiration, often disregarding the feelings and needs of others. Their constant need for validation and superiority leads to a series of chaotic situations, confusion, and conflicts. This commentary will delve into the reasons behind these behaviors and the consequences they have on both the narcissist and those around them.

Relationships are an important part of our everyday life. We are social beings , we were born to communicate, relate to have relationships. Whether it’s at work, at home, at school, wherever we are, we need to interact with other people. Relationships help us to develop and mature as social beings. They can make us into what we are today, they can also break us.

Triangulation is a manipulative tactic the toxic person uses to create conflict and strife between two or more people. It’s an emotionally destructive act designed to intentionally devalue and invalidate the romantic partner. It is also intended to instil insecurity and jealousy. Triangulation is emotionally destructive as it causes division, creates mistrust and low self esteem.

Valentine’s Day, the day of love , it is the day that people in relationships go out of their way to show affection and love to their significant other half. Women can expect flowers, chocolates gifts as their partners express their endearing love and affection.
On the other hand, if you are in a narcissistic relationship prepare to be emotionally abused by your partner.

Today I want to talk about deflection. What is deflection? Deflection is when a toxic person changes the topic of conversation to something entirely different. It’s so they can avoid accountability. It normally occurs when people are challenged for their bad behaviour.

Narcissist are constantly filled with feelings of self loathing, self hatred and shame. Even though they portray this public persona of grandiosity and success, they are deeply insecure people, with extremely low self esteem, and fragile egos. They cover it up to the world with their false image that they project to the world. It’s a false narrative that they perpetuate to the whole world. They live in this fantasy world where they are gods they are not going to allow others to change that about themselves. This is why projection works for them to protect their fragile ego, but at your expense.

What is Gaslighting?
Gas lighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or members of a group, hoping to make targets question their own memory, perception and sanity. Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, it attempts to destabilise the target and delegitimise the target’s belief.

If you truly want to find yourself and love yourself, you need to stay connected to God.