Sex and Aging w/ Melinda Porter

In this final summer sprinkle, we are chatting with Darlene Johnson. She is the co-founder of Her Secret Garden, located here in Dallas, Texas. Darlene is a licensed esthetician, herbalist, womb wellness practitioner, feminine energy coach, and owner of Her Secret Garden, a plant-based feminine care product line. She focuses on holistic health and wellness and improving womb health and mental health for her audience which is 97% women. Her focus is on creating products, classes, and content to educate and enlighten her on the many different ways to heal and live the best possible life.

Her Secret Garden V-Steam is available for booking on September 10th and 24th.

Guest info-

Website: https://shophersecretgarden.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hersecretgardenvsteam/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hersecretgardenvsteam/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@herbalistdarlene

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Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.

In this bonus episode/ Summer Sprinkle, we are taking a dive and dissecting friends with benefits! Friends w/ Benefits is not an uncommon way to do relationships and meet sexual needs, yet there is still so much taboo around it. I have been reviewing studies around these relationship styles and invited an intimacy coach to discuss her observed trends on this subject.

Shamaree Brissett is a Relationship & Intimacy Coach, specializing in empowering women to get the confidence and pleasure they deserve so that they no longer settle for a lack of satisfaction in relationships. Shamaree is also a Marriage & Family Therapist that has been providing counseling services for nearly a decade.

She started Shamaree L.A.B. LLC (Relationship & Intimacy Coaching Services) in 2021, with the intention to serve more people because she believes that everyone deserves real confidence, relationship satisfaction, and unlimited orgasms. As a sexual assault survivor, a modern Black woman, and a therapist Shamaree combines her personal and professional experience to best serve her clients.

Guest info-

Website: https://eztree.me/shamareelab

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/3077657329174177

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shamareelab/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/shamareelab

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shamareelab

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQPaosqg7B0a9OPvMmHMfyQ

Resources: Lehmiller, J. J., VanderDrift, L. E., & Kelly J. R. (2011). Sex differences in approaching friends with benefits relationships. The Journal of Sex Research, 48, 275-284.

Lehmiller, J.J. (2017, November). Experiences with kink and group sex among friends with benefits and romantic partners. Paper presented at the Annual Meeting of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, Atlanta, GA.

Lehmiller, J. J., VanderDrift, L. E., & Kelly, J. R. (2014). Sexual communication, satisfaction, and condom use behavior in friends with benefits and romantic partners. Journal of Sex Research, 51(1), 74-85.

Machia, L. V., Proulx, M. L., Ioerger, M., & Lehmiller, J. J. (2020). A longitudinal study of friends with benefits relationships. Personal Relationships, 27(1), 47-60.

This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, my #1 podcast tool. They provide a crystal clear sound and gorgeous HD video. I love that it records separate audio and video tracks for the guests and me. Plus, there is a secured cloud backup, so you never lose your interviews. It is super easy to use, and there is nothing to download. My guests just click on the link, and we start recording. Go to https://zen.ai/hersexualspacepod and get 30% off your first three months with a PRO account.

Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.

TRIGGER WARNING:

This episode is about working through sexual trauma, I have invited an experienced mental health clinician to share her work with clients who have experienced and are working through sexual assault trauma.  Blanca Kleinfall is a local therapist in the DFW area in Texas. Blanca's specialty areas are trauma-related issues involving: toxic/abusive relationships, grief/grieving, and sexual abuse. She provides a safe and authentic place for all people; men and women of color, the LGBTQ+ community.

It is possible that some of the content mentioned in this episode could trigger you if you or someone you know have experienced this type of hurt. 

For immediate support please call the national support hotline of the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN)

at 1.800.656.4673 or access their online chat hotline at https://hotline./rainn.org.online.

Guest info-

Website: http://www.kleinfallcounseling.com

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Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.

In today's episode, we are discussing pelvic health and chatting with Dr. Sutton about her career and what women need to know about working with a pelvic health physical therapist. Stacy Sutton, PT, DPT, is a Licensed Physical Therapist (PT) in Texas and is the founder of Sutton Health Advocacy LLC in Plano, TX. She is a board-certified Women’s Health Clinical Specialist (WCS) through the American Physical Therapy Association. 

Dr. Stacy Sutton,began her journey towards becoming a physical therapist because she wanted to help other women who experience pain and discomfort find real solutions without feeling alone in their health journey. Her clinic, Sutton Health Advocacy, makes its mission to empower women to heal themselves.

Dr. Sutton specializes in and has a passion for treating people with a variety of diagnoses including dyspareunia (pain with intercourse), pelvic floor dysfunction, pelvic pain, pelvic organ prolapse, pregnancy-related pain, postpartum pain, voiding dysfunction, pre-and post- mastectomy musculoskeletal pain, and those with osteoporosis.

Her favorite part about being a women’s pelvic health physical therapist is the connections she builds with other women and that she gets to help them get their lives back when they are going through a difficult time.

Guest info-

Website: https://suttonhealthadvocacy.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SuttonHealthAdvocacy

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suttonhealthadvocacy/

Resources:

Diaphragmatic Breathing: https://youtu.be/WmqD9caYwH8

Pelvic Floor Muscle Relaxation: https://youtu.be/VIqZScgpi8w

Kegels: https://youtu.be/iNQqBXRyDCg

Posture Reset: https://youtu.be/X-9M40JcTKU

Spinal Mobility #1: https://youtu.be/lz2egV_PZ58

Spinal Mobility #2: https://youtu.be/mbn8uqNP_Dk

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Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz

In this episode, we are talking about Sex and Aging with Melinda Porter. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor and owner of MCP Counseling in Carrollton, Texas.  Melinda is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who provides services to couples, polycules, and individuals with diverse sexuality and expressions.  

Melinda has also worked in the queer community since 2012. Working with children, teens, individuals, couples, and families to process sexuality and gender questions and/or transitioning. She provides safe space and education on the journey to congruency. Her goal is for her clients to find self-understanding and skills to be in the moment.

Guest info-

Melinda's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/melinda-chats/id1537457611

Website: https://mcpcounseling.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melindachats

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melindachats/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmuZ7Jb7vSg3mHMH0U9hlng

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melindachats

Resources:  Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, She Comes First by Ian Kerner, and Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

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Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.

Kelvin Pace is back for another Bonus episode!! This episode is for our butt stuff enthusiasts. In this episode, we discuss how to have safe, pain-free, and pleasurable anal play and anal sex.  We discuss consent, communication, lubrication, relaxation, positions, toys, and aftercare.

Kelvin Pace is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Therapist.  Kelvin is the owner of KpaceCounseling, LLC where he serves clients in private practice in Alaska and Colorado.  He provides services to couples and individuals dealing with sexual or relationship issues that include low desire, anxiety surrounding sex, and infidelity. 

His current focus is on mindfulness-based interventions to manage sexual concerns and works with persons that are either in or looking to explore non-traditional relationship orientations that fall under the umbrella of consensual/ethical non-monogamy.

Guest info-

Website: https://kpacecounseling.net/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KpaceCounselingLLC

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kpacecounseling/

Resource: https://thevelvetbox.com/classes/

Book: Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women by  Tristan Taormino

Alex Foxx is a sensual scientist, contemporary courtesan, and sex educator - with a degree in psychology. She is certified in various somatic modalities such as sexological bodywork, mystical dance, massage therapy, tantra/Taoist feminine arts, and yoga. Alex's sex work affirmative approach draws on over a decade worth of industry insight to support erotically curious women to empower their everyday life through sensual embodiment and pleasure.

In this episode, we explore her background and her sacred sensual work with erotically curious women who like to access  their own deep sensual expressions. Towards the end of this episode, we  engage in a breathwork exercise, a simple practice that can help stroke your sexual fire. 

Guest info-

Website- https://alexfoxx.com/

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/arousingcuriosity

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/sacred.sensual.science/

This episode is sponsored by SimplePractice. Get your first $100 towards your first month of SimplePractice when you sign up for an account today. This exclusive offer is valid for new customers only. 

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Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.

Today, we have a powerhouse and badass on the podcast. Shervana Francis is a Trauma-informed Trauma Recovery & Transformation Coach from Saint Lucia. She is the Founder/CEO & Visionary of Espoir Life & Learning Inc.,specializing in helping Caribbean women heal unresolved trauma from childhood, past relationships, increase their self-worth, confidence,  and radically transform their lives and relationships so they can truly own their power.

In her practice, Shervana combines traditional therapy modalities with quantum embodiment practices (including breath work, somatic experiencing, energy alignment, and manifestation). Her trauma work takes on a psycho-somatic approach that focuses on feminine embodiment and empowerment with emphasis on healing relationship/attachment trauma, money trauma, and sexual trauma, and restoring self-love.

She is sharing the story behind her coaching practice, observed trends amongst Caribbean women, her coaching process, programs, and challenges. Shervana is dropping truth bombs and gems in this entire episode. If you are on the journey of healing and transcending then this episode is for you!

Guest info-

Website- https://espoirlifeandlearning.com/

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/iamshervana

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/iamshervana/

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Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.

Kris Bailey has 10  years of experience in childcare and 6 years in the  birth and postpartum wellness industry. She is the founder of Birth and Baby services LLC where she offers a well-rounded doula experience: birth doula, postpartum doula, attachment parent coach, childbirth educator, certified lactation counselor, and fertility advocate in training. At the core, Kris values evidence-based research, unbiased and non-judgmental support, and delivers in a calm and encouraging manner. 

In this episode, Kris chats with us  about the birth of her business, her engagement with families, and the many other ways she supports individuals.  Kris and Janice also get personal about their unique birth stories, sharing what went well and areas where women continue to need birth and postpartum support.

Guest info-

Kris Bailey

Website- https://birthandbabyservices.com/

Twitter - https://twitter.com/thebirthbabe

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/birthandbabyservices/

This episode is sponsored by SimplePractice. Get your first $100 towards your first month of SimplePractice when you sign up for an account today. This exclusive offer is valid for new customers only. 

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Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.

Shayla is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who believes that emotional well-being and mental health is the key to having a healthy lifestyle. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, her clientele varies from adjusting to Life Transitions, Stress & Anxiety, Women's Issues, Burnout Prevention, Self-esteem, Communication, Assertiveness, Healing from Superwoman Syndrome, Personal Development, and desire to be Emotionally Healthy.  In the Fall of 2020, Shayla released HEY Sis, a 40-day journal of daily encouragement and self-reflection as a companion to work that she does with modern millennial women. 

In this episode, we discuss the balance model;

B-  Boundaries with your time

A- Acknowledging our thoughts and feelings

L- Letting go

A- Alignment with our values and what's important to us

N- No

C- Compassion

E- Embracing positivity and Gratitude mindset

Guest info-

Shayla Peterson, LCSW, LISW- CP (S)

Website- https://www.ctrlshiftbalance.com/

Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/ctrlshiftbalance/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/CtrlShiftBalance/

Hey Sis, 40-day Journal for Daily Encouragement and Self Reflection- https://www.ctrlshiftbalance.com/heysis

This episode is sponsored by SimplePractice. Get your first $100 towards your first month of SimplePractice when you sign up for an account today. This exclusive offer is valid for new customers only. 

Go to https://www.simplepractice.com/partners/hersexualspace to learn more. 

Her Sexual Space is an independent podcast created and hosted by Janice Leonard. Produced by Vibez Productionz.