Sex and the Cost of Living Crisis with Carly Newman

Feeling good in your body is hard for lots of us at the best of times and can be made so much harder if you have had kids and are thinking of dating again. Our relationships with our bodies are hugely complicated, but are there any ways we can tap into some confidence and look good naked?

This week I am joined by the massively inspiring Yolanda Copes-Stepney, an expert in body confidence, founder, lingerie model, presenter and producer-and an all-around hottie. We talk about where some of those insecurities come from, how to navigate being a woman in a body out there in the world, and how to start gaining some confidence.

If you have ever wondered how to look good naked, this is the one for you.

We have all heard a lot in the media about the cost of living crisis and how it will impact our lives-but did you know this also includes our romantic lives?

In this episode I am joined by poverty activist, campaigner, and single mother Carly Newman for a dive into how the current economic climate affects who and how we date. We talk the ways in which our love lives are inextricably linked to the world around us, why single parents are uniquely impacted at this unprecedented time, and what to do about it if you need extra support.


Find more from Carly at:

Website- https://www.carlynewmancoaching.com/

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mumpowermentgroup

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/carlynewmanhere/

Links and where to go for help:

https://www.entitledto.co.uk/ - benefits calculator

https://benefits-calculator.turn2us.org.uk/
 
Citizen's Advice Bureau- https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/debt-and-money/get-help-with-the-cost-of-living/

Universal Credit eligibility check-https://www.gov.uk/universal-credit/eligibility

Gingerbread Charity which has a get benefits calculator and loads of info -https://www.gingerbread.org.uk

It's official! We are back for season two of M.I.L.F. School, and I can't wait to start jumping into the deep end of all things shagging, dating, and feeling great as a single mum!

In this episode, I tell you what life is like with a new baby, how delivery and postpartum recovery have shaped my sex life and give you all the juicy gossip of what's coming up this season. If you have ever wondered what it's like dealing with breastfeeding boobs, getting back into sex postpartum, and how time really does make us forget things...this one is for you.

 Come and re-enrol in the filthiest mum-school in town!

When you find yourself a single parent, it can be a really exciting time to forge a new path for you and your family.  Lots of us find ourselves questioning our long-held beliefs about love, sex, and romance, and it can be a great time to make big changes. You may want to explore different types of relationship like polyamory or other forms of non-monogamy/multi-gamy...but how do you start? and will your kids be ok?

I talk to the relationship coach and expert in all things challenging mono-normative mindsets, Roy Graff, on some of the taboos and fears single mums face when they consider opening up to the non-exclusive.
-What is non-monogamy and how can it work?
-What can you expect when you first start challenging your previous value systems?
-How do go about "coming out" to friends, family and co-parents?
-Is it safe and healthy for kids to be around?

This was such a wonderful conversation to have, and I can't thank Roy enough for coming and sharing his wisdom. If you are in a non-monogamous dynamic, are thinking it might be something to explore, or even if you are just curious about how it might work around parenting, this one is for you.

Go and find Roy at www.openrelating.love or on Insta, Facebook, and Twitter @openrelating

S*xual empowerment is not all about having more s*x with more people. For some mothers, authentic s*xual liberation looks like no s*x at all. 
In this week's episode, I am joined by the incredible Khalifa who you may know from the epic Happy Single MOM Podcast. We talk about her post-baby journey towards celibacy and how that has shaped her sense of self and understanding of future relationships.

Kahlifa gives some amazing advice about:
-The healing properties of celibacy, especially if s*x has been a coping/validating activity for you.
-How to fight the urges and remain truthful to yourself and your higher goals.
-What to do if things don't go to plan-how to grieve and give grace.
-What to expect in the world of modern dating if you are not going to be having s*x.
-The judgement you might face as a celibate mother and how to deal with it.

I am so grateful to have had this conversation with Kahlifa and feel much more informed about a lifestyle that is not my personal path. Remember your s*exual journey is your own and there are so many wonderful and powerful ways to go about healing, relating and intimacy.

Find more from Kahlifa at:
www.instgram.com/happy_singlemompodcast
Happy Single MOM Podcast-wherever you listen to your favourite pods.

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In this week's episode I am joined by the fabulous El from the ShiftYourFocus Podcast who is a fountain of knowledge on all things narcissistic abuse. 

I hear from mothers all the time who are struggling to healthily co-parent with their former abusers, or those who have high levels of narcissistic traits or NPD. So, in this episode we go deep into parenting life post narc. We answer some of the most common questions I get asked:

Are you dealing with a narcissist? What are the warning signs?
How do you co-parent with someone who is controlling, abusive and unreasonable?
What can you expect when you start to move on with your life or get into a new relationship?
Will they ever get better at parenting?
How to manage your own and children's expectations of their non-resident parent?
What steps you take to start rebuilding your self-esteem when a relationship with a narcissist ends?

This is for you if you are struggling to disentangle from a former partner over parenting conflict. We talk court processes, confidence boosters, and how to finally regain control of your life from a ex...even if you have to share custody.

Come and find El on Instagram on her incredible page:
www.instagram.comshiftyourfocusthepodcast

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In Today's episode, I talk with my partner Alan about how pregnancy has affected our intimate life.  Many couples find pregnancy changes their sexual dynamic in ways they weren't expecting, and for us, that is no exception. We talk candidly about:

-What it is like having sex with a pregnant person and how it can affect your relationship
-What it is like sleeping with someone who has children from a previous relationship
-What it is like to be pregnant with a partner who is not the father of your other children
-Body changes and insecurities during pregnancy
-Fluctuating desires
-Feelings of rejection/isolation
-Intimacy fears and solutions

This episode is for you if you worry about what a new partner may think about your post-children body, if you are going to have babies/pregnancies with a new partner, or if you experienced a shift in your sexual dynamic around pregnancy, birth and the postpartum period (who doesn't?!).

Come and find me at:
www.juliakotziamani.com
www.instagram.com/juliakotziamani

On today's episode, I Talk to Erin Heisen about attachment styles and learning healthy communication tools. Erin is a communication and relationship expert who has been a professor of communications for more than 14 years...so who better to help us understand how we experience attachment in relationships than her?!

I loved talking to Erin, and realising how we can all learn to have healthier bonds with people, and how we are never alone in our experiences. This is for you if you want to understand why you feel certain ways in relationships, how our attachment styles affect the way we interact with others,  and what we can do to try and heal some of our age-old destructive patterns. Wherever you are in your romantic life, come and have a listen, there is so much we can learn here. 

Come and find more from Erin at:

www.instagram.com/erinheisen
www.facebook.com/erinheisencomm
www.erinheisen.com

It's been a little while since I released a podcast...and it's set off my mum-guilt in an epic fashion!

We all experience mum-guilt whether it's around work, staying home with the kids, our bodies, our romantic lives...as a mum it often feel like you can't do right for doing wrong! We cannot be everything to everyone all of the time, and in this episode, I let you into where I have been and what I have been up to since having a social media break. No apologies, an explanation.

Anyway, I am back and have some incredible guests lined up and the energy to go in deeper and dirtier to all things love, sex, and relationships around being a mum. I cannot wait to dive in.

This week I am joined by an amazing women's empowerment coach and former brand and PR  strategist Ellie Collister. 'The Modern Female Parent' is her new venture helping female parents and entrepreneurs balance their business aspirations with the realities of life as a modern woman. 

We talked all things business around being a parent and she has an incredible story to share about how to bounce back when life throws you the unexpected. This is the one for you if you are a solo parent who wants to build a life that works around your family, and how. to do it in massive style. Go and find more from Ellie at www.instagram.com/themodernfemaleparent and at www. genetrixstudios.com.