The Pain of Unmet Expectations: How to Navigate & Overcome

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Betsy Jordyn, a brand positioning strategist who helps consultants and coaches clarify their messaging. Betsy's mission resonates deeply with me - empowering professionals to expand their positive impact. Drawing from over 30 years as an organizational consultant, Betsy witnessed firsthand the toxic cultures and unethical practices that can arise. She understands the toll of workplace betrayal, burnout and existential crises on passionate individuals striving to make a difference. "I think a lot of it comes from unresolved issues… like what got you into entrepreneurship." During our discussion, Betsy unpacked the unresolved issues that often propel people into entrepreneurship. She emphasized the need to address these deep-rooted matters through a process of acceptance and forgiveness in order to truly move forward. Together, we explored the insidious nature of toxic positivity - the pressure to always remain upbeat and deny difficult emotions. Betsy wisely advocated for acknowledging how we feel, setting boundaries, and disengaging from environments that don't respect our humanity. The key takeaway is that personal, professional and spiritual growth intertwine. By doing the work of forgiveness and healing past hurts, we build a solid foundation for success across all life arenas. This conversation holds particular relevance for high-achievers venturing into consulting or coaching. It provides a compassionate roadmap for the challenges and opportunities that arise. To connect with Betsy's wisdom further, visit her website and podcast "Enough Already." Her insights are invaluable for creating businesses and lives we love. I'm grateful to Betsy for this candid look at integrating our whole selves into our work. Tune in if you're ready to expand your impact through self-awareness and forgiveness. Resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com

Today, I address a question I recently received, "How do I know I have fully forgiven someone?" As a forgiveness coach, I share my insights on the misunderstood nature of forgiveness and its power to transform lives. And this question is quite common. "It doesn't make what they did right, it doesn't condone their behavior, it doesn't mean you reconcile… it means that you love yourself enough to do the work for you, not for them." Thanks for listening, and please share with someone you know who might benefit, I appreciate it. Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Notes and More Episodes – https://brendareisscoaching.com/

In this episode, I address the complex dilemma of family estrangement in response to a listener struggling to reconcile with their child. Drawing from my experience as a forgiveness coach, I offer guidance on navigating the challenges of strained family relationships. Having helped many individuals and families heal over the years, I understand the intricacies of estrangement and the deep emotions involved. I emphasize the importance of honoring each family member's personal journey and highlight that estrangement can occur beyond blood relatives. "We know in our heart of hearts what we've done or not done as a parent." My advice stresses self-reflection, personal growth, and forgiveness as crucial first steps before attempting to mend the relationship. I acknowledge every family dynamic is unique and share real examples to illustrate the complexities many face. My goal is to create a compassionate, non-judgmental space for people experiencing estrangement to explore their feelings and find acceptance. This episode offers insights for parents struggling to reconcile with estranged children. "We can only make amends for what we've done, not how someone else is interpreting what we have done." While there are no easy solutions, through thoughtful inner work we can find peace and clarity. I encourage parents to be gentle with themselves on this difficult journey. My door is always open to those needing support. Tune in to gain perspective on family estrangement and discover pathways to healing. With an open heart, we can understand our loved ones and ourselves more deeply. Thanks for listening, and please share with someone you know who might benefit, I appreciate it. Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60 Brenda’s Website/Links Website – https://brendareisscoaching.com/ Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/Brenda.Reiss.Coach/ Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/brendareisscoaching/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/brendareiss1 LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendareiss/

In this episode, I share my journey of self-forgiveness after caring for my husband with dementia. Drawing from the transformative process I underwent, I offer guidance for you if you are also navigating your own path to self-forgiveness. "Forgiving yourself is an act of self-love and growth." As an experienced forgiveness coach, I understand the complex emotions that surface when we face situations requiring self-forgiveness. I empathize with those dealing with guilt, remorse, and regret. My own experience taught me the importance of acknowledging my actions and facing my feelings instead of suppressing them. I discuss the value of creating awareness, reflecting on the impact of my actions, accepting responsibility, and finding self-compassion. I emphasize treating ourselves with the same kindness we would show a friend during difficult times. Self-forgiveness is an act of understanding, not justification. My journey illuminates how self-forgiveness leads to self-acceptance and inner peace. I outline the steps you can use to embark on your own healing process. My goal is to provide compassionate support, so you can find forgiveness, and move forward. "Accept imperfection, embrace the fact that no one's perfect and mistakes are an inherent part of life." I hope my story inspires you to show yourself grace and understand that you, too, can find freedom through self-forgiveness. Thanks for listening, and please share with someone you know who might benefit, I appreciate it. Resources - Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/ Brenda’s Website – https://brendareisscoaching.com/

In this episode, I talk with Staci Danford about the transformative power of forgiveness and the importance of incorporating it into our daily lives. Staci, a joyful mix of positivity and neuroscience, holds a master’s degree in mind brain education and speaks publicly on gratitude, including for ABC’s “Good Morning Texas.” With over 25 years of teaching and communication experience, Staci runs the Grateful Brain, using neuroscience to promote understanding of our brain power. Staci’s mind brain education credentials make her the perfect guest to explain the science behind forgiveness and its mental and physical impacts. She describes how our brains create negative self-patterns that release cortisol, harming our bodies. Staci shares practical strategies to interrupt these patterns, like using your name to refocus or positive self-talk to retrain your brain. "We cannot hate ourselves into a version that we love." - Staci Danford During our discussion, Staci emphasizes that gratitude is about experiencing the emotion, not just saying thanks. She provides six quick ways to spark joy, including finding one good thing and describing it thoroughly. This episode is essential for anyone seeking to unlock forgiveness and self-love. Whether you struggle with self-loathing, past trauma, or want to improve overall wellness, Staci’s insights and tips will inspire and guide your happier, healthier life journey. Listeners ready to embrace brain power, forgiveness, and gratitude can discover more about Staci at www.thegratefulbrain.com. They can also get free motivational messages and practical brain tips by texting 817-242-6831. Don’t miss this chance to unleash forgiveness and transform your life! More info and resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/

In this episode, I talk about the concept of being a people pleaser and the steps I took to overcome this behavior pattern. I share my own experiences as a recovering people pleaser and emphasize the importance of self-reflection and self-care in the process of letting go of this coping mechanism. "Learn to establish and communicate your own personal boundaries. It's okay to say no when something doesn't align with your values or priorities." Thanks for listening, and please share with someone you know who might benefit, I appreciate it. Resources: Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/podcast-resource-optin/

In this episode, I talk about the concept of guilt, specifically focusing on distinguishing between healthy guilt and unhealthy guilt. I share my expertise on the topic, discussing the characteristics of each type of guilt and how they impact our emotions and actions. "When we can sit with ourselves... it can help you observe guilt as it arises, and then you can decide whether it serves as a constructive purpose or it is detrimental to your well-being." I provide valuable strategies for managing guilt effectively. I emphasize the importance of self-reflection, defining personal values, and seeking feedback from trusted individuals. I also encourage mindfulness and self-compassion as tools for recognizing and addressing guilt. Join me on this insightful episode as I help you navigate the guilt maze and find ways to ease the burden of unhealthy guilt. I would love for you to live a guilt-free life. Thanks for listening, and please share with someone you know who might benefit, I appreciate it. Website – https://brendareisscoaching.com/

Today, meet Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, author, and relationship coach who is passionate about helping women overcome shame and codependency. Dr. Zoe's approach incorporates psychology, faith, and a touch of feminism, creating a unique lens through which she guides her clients towards self-acceptance and personal growth. This is another special conversation from my recent summit: Unlocking the True Power of Forgiveness Secrets to Incorporating Forgiveness into Your Daily Life. “Overcoming complex shame is where you find freedom and the ability to smile again.” - Zoe Shaw In this episode, you will be able to: - Uncover the root causes of complex shame and discover healing techniques that can transform your life. - Learn practical steps to release shame and cultivate self-compassion, leading to a greater sense of freedom and acceptance. - Explore the power of self-forgiveness as a crucial part of the healing process, and experience the transformative effects it can have on your well-being. - Understand how shame can manifest in physical symptoms and discover strategies to alleviate the impact on your body and mind. - Discover a holistic approach to healing, integrating cognitive, spiritual, and physiological practices to create a comprehensive path towards healing and self-discovery. And more! Thanks for listening, and please share with someone you know who might benefit, I appreciate it. More info and resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/

Carol Cox helps women entrepreneurs to be vulnerable and share their stories to make a bigger impact in the world. Learn how powerful it can be to release your inner thought leader and redefine your personal brand. This is another special conversation we had as part of my recent summit: Unlocking the True Power of Forgiveness Secrets to Incorporating Forgiveness into Your Daily Life. "Your story matters because your audience will find the lesson for themselves. Share your story and own it, because it has shaped you and it matters." - Carol Cox In this episode, you will be able to: - Enhance your personal branding and establish yourself as a thought leader by leveraging the power of vulnerability and storytelling. - Share your authentic personal stories to empower other women and inspire positive change. - Explore the impact of personal stories on your audience and learn how to connect with them on a deeper level. - Receive expert coaching and guidance to elevate your thought leadership and amplify your message. - Unlock the secrets to effective storytelling and captivate your audience with your unique journey. - Discover the strategies to create a memorable personal brand and position yourself as an authority in your field. - Gain confidence and effectiveness in thought leadership by harnessing the power of storytelling and vulnerability. And more! Thanks for listening, and please share with someone you know who might benefit, I appreciate it. More info and resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/

My special guest is Lorree Appleby, an incredible individual who has dedicated her life to helping others find inner peace and personal growth through the power of forgiveness. This is a special conversation we had as part of my recent summit: Unlocking the True Power of Forgiveness Secrets to Incorporating Forgiveness into Your Daily Life. Does this sound familiar? You've been told to simply forgive and forget in order to find inner peace and personal growth. But deep down, you know that it's not that easy. You've tried to suppress your pain, bury your past mistakes, and ignore the nagging feeling that something is missing. Yet, despite your efforts, the pain still lingers, and you're left feeling stuck, unfulfilled, and disconnected from yourself. It's time to break free from the ineffective action of surface-level forgiveness and discover the power of radical forgiveness as a lifestyle. "Radical forgiveness has changed everything for me. It changed how I thought, how I felt, and how I saw myself. It helped me unravel all the stories I had and gave me tools to move from judgment to peace." - Lorree Appleby In this episode, you will be able to: - Discover the transformative power of Radical Forgiveness as a lifestyle and find inner peace like never before. - Learn the importance of self-forgiveness and unlock the key to releasing emotional baggage and embracing personal growth. - Develop trust in yourself and your intuition, empowering you to make confident decisions that align with your true desires. - Shift perspectives and reframe challenging situations, allowing you to find meaning and growth even in the most difficult circumstances. - Harness the healing power of playfulness and imagination to unlock your creativity, cultivate joy, and experience deep emotional healing. And more! Thanks for listening, and please share with someone you know who might benefit, I appreciate it. More info and resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/