The UNCrushed Podcast #4 | MK Hurlbutt & Molli Sullivan, Founders & Hosts, She's Thriving

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Summary:
TJ Woodward is a revolutionary recovery expert, bestselling author, inspirational speaker, and addiction treatment specialist who has helped countless people through his simple, yet powerful teachings.

He is the creator of The Conscious Recovery Method, which is a ground breaking and effective approach to viewing and treating addiction.

I first met TJ in 2017 and started to recognize that there was a whole other approach to recovery, where I don't have to keep looking at how 'broken I am'. He posed the question 'what if I'm perfect and have always been perfect?' What if I have developed core false beliefs throughout my life such as 'I'm unloveable' or 'I'm not good enough', helping shame to thrive. I had to search deeper for the underlying roots that led to my destructive patterns.

TJ recently launched #UNHARMABLE - What if there is a place within you that is unharmable? What would knowing that create in your life? You are more than your past. You are more than your beliefs. You are a whole and perfect spiritual being.

Topics Discussed:

• A fresh perspective on addiction
• Addiction is not the ‘problem’. Need to look at the underlying root that causes destructive patterns
• Unresolved trauma, spiritual disconnection, toxic shame
• Letting core of core false beliefs
• Brilliant strategies we develop
• Finding light in darkness – Need to address the darkness and not ignore it
• The concept that we are whole and perfect
• Adoption of spiritual practices & principles
• Power of gratitude
• Power of forgiveness - Not living in the victim / martyr level of consciousness & making peace with the past
• The launch of UNHARMABLE

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Summary:
Marin Nelson is a Regional Vice President at Salesforce as well as co-founder of a new infinity group for Salesforce employees - SOBERforce. A community for any employee that is sober, for whatever reason (e.g. addiction, health, religious) and allies.

Marin shares her own journey to recovery, along with some great tips for the more difficult conversations between managers and employees and how to navigate the concept of anonymity.

There are many things organizations can do to create a more inclusive & supportive environment with Marin advocating for connection being at the core.

Topics Discussed:

• Challenges faced in the sales industry
• Struggles with addiction and journey towards sobriety
• Tips for difficult conversations between managers and employees
• The importance of connection and peer to peer support
• Navigating the concept of anonymity
• Alternative 'happy hour' team events 
• The creation of SOBERforce, a new group at Salesforce for sober employees and allies

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Summary:
Alyssa Felix, Partner Sales Manager at Salesforce and true mental health warrior, was one of the original contributors to UNCrushed. Alyssa opens up about her experiences navigating the rollercoaster of a journey towards mental health, the lowest points and highest points. She discusses how she asked for help, got the support she needed, and the things she does for self-care in her every day life now.

Topics Discussed:

• Challenges with Mental Health
• Seeking professional treatment
• How to navigate difficult conversations at work
• Finding love for herself again
• Letting go of control
• Prioritizing mental health & wellbeing, making time for self-care
• Ending stigma around mental illness
• Experiences at Salesforce
• Becoming a life coach

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Summary:
2020 has been different than any other year, both personally and professionally. In this episode, 5 members of the UNCrushed team come together to discuss their experiences of navigating this year, the highs, lows and what we are grateful for. 2020 may not have been the year where we got everything we wanted, yet we got to appreciate everything we have.

Topics Discussed:

• Personal and professional challenges faced in 2020 and how they were navigated
• The COVID-19 pandemic
• The importance of human connection
• Family and home schooling
• Grief and loss
• Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Suicidal Ideations and Addiction
• The impact of COVID-19 on the sales industry
• Telehealth and the evolution of behavioral health
• An attitude of gratitude

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Summary:
Naveli Garg, freshman at UC Davis studying neuroscience, is involved in a number of initiatives helping people and communities worldwide, including being the Founder & CEO of Charity Dress, an 501(c)3 organization that provides clothing and educational opportunities to low-income communities.

Naveli shares her journey of being very different throughout high school as well as a life-changing experience of sexual assault. When coming forward talking about her experience, she was the victim of cyberbullying and felt she had no voice. Through artistic avenues, platforms and more, she wants to change the way teens interact with one another online, especially in this digital world we live in.

Naveli navigates us through how she moved forward and found her strength, discussing how cultures and experiences that we have in other countries changes everything about how we appreciate our lives. She tells us that it’s about gaining perspective in life. Most importantly, she reminds us that we’re not alone.

A growing scholar in neuroscience, she shares aspects of her studies and research that incited a passion in her. She mentions being an integral part of a Women’s March, portraying that standing your ground and using your voice whenever you can is important to better both yourself and the world around you.

Sharing about the people who are rocks in her life, through good or bad times, Naveli wanted to tell her story because of the importance for us to grow as a society and for the benefit of the human race.

Timestamps:

• 0:17 - Introductions
• 2:08 - India, Charity Dress, and Naveli’s first pivot
• 8:05 - In the broader picture, how are you helping? ‘Cause connect’ was born
• 12:55 - What’s next for this 17 year-old phenom? - Naveli talks more about her future, career path, and what’s next
• 17:10 - What’s it like being a 17-year-old prodigy at your high school?
• 21:07 - Something happened that changed Naveli forever - Sexual assault and bullying
• 25:20 - How and when Naveli found her superpower? The difference between cultures and experiences
• 29:41 - What brought Naveli to UNCrushed? - Naveli’s message to others about gaining perspective
• 32:53 - Who are Naveli’s rocks? The people she leans on when needed
• 36:53 - Cyberbullying - How Naveli finds her generation responding to negativity online 
• 46:00 - The trauma of sexual assault - Ways to fight back, groups of supportive people, victim blaming and supporting the perpetrators
• 52:57 - The wrap up - Being able to help others after knowing oneself

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Summary:
The Journey To UNCrushed

Tim and James discuss how UNCrushed became a focus for Tim Clarke through his journey from darkness to light. The movement has brought to light a conversation that is much needed in business today. Yes it remains a taboo subject. Tim talks us through his own experiences of mental health and tells how UNCrushed plans on changing the perception of mental health in business today along with how we can all be more aware of the stigma that often follows it.

Timestamps:

• 1:03 - Introduction to Tim Clarke
• 2:30 - How UNCrushed became more than a thought
• 4:38 - Company Values and what they mean
• 8:16 - A journey into the hard stuff
• 18:46 - Compassionate Listening, Programs, Therapy, and other ways to be supportive
• 32:31 - The mission, the goal, and the future of UNCrushed
• 41:19 - How UNCrushed supports management teams
• 54:09 - It doesn’t have to be an extrovert thing
• 58:25 - Overusing the word “Sorry”
• 59:09 - Thanks for joining us on The UNCrushed Podcast

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Summary:
For our 10th episode, we put the host in the guest seat. James Buckley is interviewed by CEO and Co-Founder of UNCrushed, Tim Clarke. James talks of his battle with cocaine addiction, and leaving his first wife. James is one of thousands a year that struggle to keep a relationship with his own children after a messy divorce where bad mouthing and slander corrodes the image of parents in the minds of children. Stories like James' are all too common in today's high divorce rate world, and every mistake you ever made is held against you in highly contested divorce proceedings.

Timestamps:

• 0:49 - Introduction to James Buckley
• 3:39 - Why did James leave Miami? 
• 9:05 - James realized he was unhappy when he sobered up. How he walked away from it all
• 11:55 - Where did the vice come from? James’ history of drug use
• 14:40 - Who was James back then? Doing a good job working the door
• 17:25 - Some steps that have worked for James’ recovery. The first thought when James wakes up
• 25:33 - How James deals with shame. What really worked well for James
• 33:19 - If you had asked people 20 years ago where James Buckley is today, what would they say? This was not planned
• 40:05 - James and Tim on sales, connection, and how UNCrushed fits a need in the sales community
• 46:50 - What would James recommend to someone struggling with addiction? Turn to your family, no matter the past
• 50:31 - What are some your best takeaways from the UNCrushed podcast guests?
• 56:52 - Closing thought from James

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Summary:
The search for success in life, love, and career is hard enough all by itself. When a lifetime of trauma lands you in a position working in the mental health space, you become acutely aware of your own needs and focus points. Janelle Cronk talks candidly about her decisions, mentalities, and lessons in this episode of the UNCrushed podcast.

James Buckley and Janelle Cronk discuss the loss of her father and the impact it had on her life. They discuss issues about balancing personal and professional life. Janelle has many tips for coping and dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression. James and Janelle also discuss methods to finding success despite coming from a background of trauma.

Timestamps:

• 0:00 - Introduction to Janelle
• 0:54 - Janelle’s history
• 10:49 - Janelle learns to balance career and personal life
• 19:22 - Let’s talk about control
• 24:53 - What makes Janelle who she is?
• 35:34 - Death in the family. I need hugs. People become line items
• 41:00 - What personal experiences shape Janelle as a professional
• 47:45 - Contact Janelle if you’re in need of assistance
• 50:20 - Have a personal Board of Directors
• 53:00 - Routines, best practices and roles. Working for your customer and not for your pay check
• 59:02 - Janelle’s message to strategic account managers

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Summary:
James Cardamone and James Buckley talk about the importance of unconditional family love. Without his family and the support they showed him, he would have been lost to his addictions and vices. James C. speaks earnestly of his battle with alcohol and drugs. He wears his survival on his sleeve like a badge of honor at work so that others can hear his roar loud and clear. James C. acts a beacon of hope for those around him that are fighting a good fight.

Timestamps:

• 0:00 - Introduction to James Cardamone
• 0:48 - James Cardamone shares his family experience, and how he started on a path to addiction 
• 6:24 - Using alcohol to numb the pain. Freshman year
• 11:23 - How addictions affected other people. Assumed rock bottom. European trip
• 17:00 - Taking a job I didn’t want. Getting introduced to cocaine
• 19:37 - Support system was always my family. Addiction knows no insecurity. I wasn’t ready for help
• 25:00 - After 5 years of therapy, James C. Talks about what’s he’s gotten out of it. The white knuckle time and the apocalypse. Families that care for our well being. Outpatient programs vs inpatient programs
• 35:19 - Making up rules instead of fixing the problem. Making an honest effort requires honest effort. Living in the grey
• 40:04 - Helping others. Being a mental health advocate at work. Peru with 20 others in recovery
• 46:41 - From player to coach. Mental health from the HR perspective. Sales events and the hard stuff
• 52:37 - Partnering with UNCrushed. Internal company events around mental health. Judgement + fear = am I good enough? But it’s not about me. Labels attached to having a mental health issue
• 56: 31 - How people can reach James Cardamone

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Summary:
In this episode of The UNCrushed Podcast, Lindsey Boggs discusses the loss of her sister and the mental breakdown that soon followed. Running away from the trauma with distractions, and the recognition that she needed helped turned things around. She discusses her processes for grief, and tells of how she overcame with the help of support from therapy, family, and the colleagues and coworkers that supported her in her time of need.

Timestamps:

• 0:00 - Introductions to Lindsey. What brought her to UNCrushed?
• 1:35 - Where is your courage to face this coming from? The death of my sister and how it changed me. Diving into work to get away from the trauma. Clinging to our support systems for comfort
• 7:08 - Being open about my mental health. How my company handled my family loss. “Come back when you can.”
• 11:07 - What our 100% looks like after a traumatic event. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to get over it. Bouncing back took therapy and a mental hospital. Career was first, but now my priorities are aligned. Quality over quantity
• 16:32 - Sometimes you just have to be an ear in times of loss. Lindsey’s champions are her life line. She speaks to them every day. They get her through. You can’t be all of someone’s happiness, but you can be a contributor
• 24:49 - Lindsey’s message for the UNCrushed audience. Be vulnerable, take that first step, get the help you need. Writing your story helps to get it out of your body
• 27:27 - Sunshine and rainbows turns to darkness. So many people have reached out and said that my story has helped them. That makes all my risk worth it
• 32:43 - The grieving process. Unhealthy looking back at photos
• 33:42 - How one contacts Lindsey. UNCrushed sign-off