This Too Shall Pass With Jill Jardine

Shot@Love Episode Show Notes: "Setting The Stage For Love & Laughter"

Introduction
Host: Kerry Brett celebrates Valentine's Day and Shot@Love’s four-year anniversary.

Exciting guest: Laurie Hurd Ferreira discussing her journey from businesswoman to standup comedian and revitalizing the local performing arts scene.

Laurie's Story
Laurie shares her journey, starting with modeling, marriage, and motherhood.
The challenges of divorce and the impact on her life.
Struggling with alcoholism, reaching a breaking point, and deciding to seek help.
The power of sobriety: Laurie's transformation and the positive impact on her life and family.
Sobriety is a daily commitment; one day at a time.
Laurie emphasizes the importance of wanting sobriety and putting in the work.
Sobriety as a gift: improved relationships and a better life.

Overcoming Fear
Laurie's advice for those afraid to make a change: Fear is often behind our decisions.
Taking the first step, breaking stereotypes, and embracing change.

Comedy and Transformation
Laurie's journey into comedy as a result of overcoming challenges.
Comedy as a platform for sharing relatable stories and connecting with others.
The gift of finding one's purpose and joy.

The Live Event: Shot@Love Live
Announcement of a new live event for Shot@Love community on March 7th at Tosca in Hingham.
An evening of laughter, connections, networking, and surprises.
A unique opportunity for singles to meet in person, enjoy comedy, and build new relationships.

Welcome to a brand-new episode of Shot@Love! New Year, New Goals, New You! I'm thrilled to start this year with an extraordinary guest, Jill Jardine, a host of Cosmic Scene and a renowned Psychic Healer. Jill sets the stage for the new year to come and shares with us the upcoming astrology, lucky days to date, and Pluto's influential power, urging us to gear up for a warp-speed year ahead. Welcome to the cosmic party that 2024 ushers in.

As we transition from holiday festivities to a Mars-driven focus on work, Jill guides us through the energies shifting from Sagittarius to the practicality of Capricorn.

January presents pivotal lunar events—the new moon on 1.11 and a significant full moon in Leo on January 25th, promising opportunities for fruitful beginnings and expansive love.

Brace for the sun's move into Aquarius, heralding the Age of Aquarius, but remember, self-care takes precedence before embracing the accelerating Aquarian energies.

But it's not just about the stars; Jill shares how these cosmic movements will impact relationships, offering insights into zodiac signs poised for significant changes and highlighting auspicious periods for new and existing relationships.

We discuss celestial events influencing romantic energies, how to align with astrological forces to enhance dating experiences, and the essential aspects of navigating relationships, ensuring harmonious communication and understanding.

Join Jill as she decodes the cosmic party that 2024 brings, unveiling how the Leo full moon on January 25th invites us to let our love light shine while also preparing for surprises ahead. Jill shares insights on the impact of these cosmic currents on long-term commitments and offers practices and advice for singles seeking love amidst these celestial shifts.

Additionally, she sheds light on utilizing personal astrological charts effectively in the dating scene of early 2024, setting the stage for an accelerated, transformative year where it's time for each of us to shine brightly.

Join dating aficionado, renowned podcaster, videographer Brian Alves, and host Kerry Brett as they share their journey through the maze of modern romance. With Brian's unmatched expertise in the world of love and a reach of 250,000 listeners weekly on the DV Show – Video Production Just Got Easier Podcast, this episode promises a whirlwind of wisdom and wittiness.

Episode Highlights
It's all about first impressions: Explore the profound impact of initial encounters and unearth top-notch tips for leaving an indelible first impression.
Communication: Effective communication strategies emphasize the importance of active listening and genuine engagement on those pivotal first dates.
Navigating conversational terrain: Brian shares his go-to conversation topics and how he maneuvers through potentially sensitive subjects, ensuring smooth sailing through any dialogue.
Body language decoded: From door-holding debates to the silent language of attraction, discover the significance of body language in forging connections without words.
The texting artistry: Brian's secrets behind becoming a master texter, infusing personality and humor into messages while fostering genuine connections.
The bill-paying conundrum: We share a timeless debate of splitting or covering the bill. Gain insights and etiquette pointers on this hotly contested topic.
Honoring boundaries: Recognize cues and signals, ensuring respect and engagement 
while sidestepping the pitfalls of distracted interactions.
Punctuality and planning precision: From differing perspectives on planning efforts to the significance of punctuality, Brian and Kerry provide invaluable advice on this contentious subject.
Post-date feedback: Ghosting or honest communication? Explore the dos and don'ts of 
follow-up interactions after a date, navigating the delicate post-date landscape.
Embracing awkwardness: Laugh off the awkward with Brian's anecdotes, showcasing graceful navigation through uncomfortable situations, turning them into opportunities.

Key Takeaways:
Patience pays off: Understanding someone might need time, perhaps three dates, to open up.
Embrace authenticity: 
Be flexible, vulnerable, and resilient; authenticity triumphs over missteps.
Be present and caring: Show genuine interest, put away distractions, and cultivate kindness; it's the cornerstone of a successful first date.

So grab your favorite seltzer and buckle up for Shot@Love's whirlwind ride, where Brian Alves brings unparalleled expertise, humor, and authenticity to unravel the enigma of modern dating!

Get ready to be swept off your feet for this dynamic duo: The Golden Dating Doctors, Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers! These two aren’t just experts but are proof that love knows no age limits. They share their secrets to senior dating in their new book, Open to Love. Picture this:  psychologists and seniors who stumbled upon each other’s hearts on Silver Singles after enduring personal losses. Their love story isn’t just inspiring; it’s a testament to the endless possibilities of love, even when it seems out of reach. They share the highs and lows of dating, shining the pathway to success in finding love at any stage of life. This episode is for those seeking love and anyone who’s ever doubted that their best days are behind them and why you should never stop believing!

Kerry Brett, Dr. Gloria Horsley, and Dr. Frank Power cover much ground around dating. Topics include;

• Meet the Golden Dating Doctors, Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers, who exemplify love beyond age limits.
• Living Proof of Love: Their personal story reflects the limitless potential of love, as they found each other after personal losses through Silver Singles.
• Their Mission: Sharing insights on senior dating and addressing the loneliness and challenges faced in later stages of life.
• Gloria’s Transition: Following her partner's passing, she embraced grief groups and ventured into dating, encountering lessons that fueled the idea for their book.
• Finding Frank: Their meeting on Silver Singles sparked an immediate connection, leading to two years of shared love.
• Shared Loss: Both experienced personal tragedies that brought them closer together, understanding the depths of grief and healing.
• Dating Insights: Their shared experiences revealed crucial aspects often overlooked in dating, especially in the later stages of life.
• Overcoming Setbacks: Emphasizing reframing setbacks as learning experiences rather than failures.
• Compatibility: Stressing the significance of shared values, backgrounds, and companionship over superficial attractions in older relationships.
• Finding a Best Friend: Highlighting the value of finding a partner who becomes a best friend, fostering acceptance and understanding.
• Make a list of what you like and don't like regarding relationships because it will save you a lot of time.
• Why you need to get a dating buddy: Having a dating buddy will help your chances of success.
• Getting clear about what you're looking for in a partner.

Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Power's book Open to Love will be available on Valentine's Day in 2024. Listen to their podcast Open to Hope for more inspiring stories of finding love. Follow on Instagram @opentohopefoundation.

Today, we're joined by the trailblazer himself, Evan Marc Katz. Back in 2003, Evan made history as the world’s first dating coach, specializing in helping smart and successful women find lasting love. With four published books and a Love U podcast with over 2 million downloads, Evan's impact and expertise haven’t gone unnoticed. He’s been featured in hundreds of media outlets, from Today to the New York Times and The Wall Street Journal. CNN once called him a serial dater, but Evan’s journey would serve a higher purpose–to decipher the male mind, decode their actions, and uncover what they truly want. His mission? To empower women to raise their standards and never settle for anything less. This episode is for the incredible women who’ve got it all–except love. 

Throughout our conversation, we'll discuss Evan's coaching philosophy and learn how to break free from the cycle of attracting the wrong men. It's all about finding not just anyone but the right one for a fulfilling, long-term relationship. Evan's community-building efforts have seen over 13,000 women graduate from Love U, and today, he'll share how to become the CEO of your love life. And put us on the path to finding high-quality, commitment-oriented partners.

Kerry Brett and Evan Marc Katz cover a lot of ground. Topics include;

·      Evan's journey into coaching stemmed from his dating failures; necessity is the mother of invention. His passion for finding love turned into decoding male actions and helping women understand what men truly want.
·      Empowering Women: The mission is to elevate women’s standards and help them avoid settling for less in relationships.
·      Challenges for Smart, Successful Women: The Smartness Factor: Discussing if being highly intelligent creates relationship challenges.
·      Tripped Up by Intelligence: How intelligent women might face difficulties in dating.
·      Diverse Backgrounds: Addressing successful women's challenges in various fields such as science, business, and academia.
·      Balancing Success: Exploring the downsides of dating someone equally successful.
·      Money and Happiness: Delving into advice for women dating someone who earns less.
·      Expectations and Emotional Availability: Understanding men’s responses and emotional availability in relationships
·      Dead-End Relationships: Avoid investing time in unfulfilling or ambiguous situations ships.
·      Identifying Red Flags Early: Recognizing and gracefully exiting unsuitable relationships without guilt or pressure.
·      Breaking Negative Patterns: Actionable steps to break the cycle of attracting the wrong partners.
·      Chemistry's Role: Exploring the significance of chemistry beyond common interests.
·      Why chemistry alone doesn’t sustain a relationship in the long run.
·      Balancing Act: Distinguishing between settling and compromising in relationships.
·      Identifying Long-Term Compatibility: Understanding signs that indicate a partner is suitable for the long term.
·      Advice for individuals who've struggled despite trying various methods.
·      Addressing the complexities of modern dating and simplifying approaches.
·       Identifying common limiting beliefs and encouraging women to leave their comfort zones.
·     Practical methods for women to boost self-worth and confidence in their dating journey.

To find out more about Evan Marc Katz, go to www.evankatz.com/kerry. To find out the Seven Mistakes You're Making In Dating, go to evankatz.com/kerry

Dr. Christie Kederian is a nationally renowned relationship expert specializing in helping clients create the lives they want and find the love they deserve. With an extensive career as a professional matchmaker and relationship expert for eHarmony and Match.com, Christie has helped hundreds of people find love and improve relationships. She is a "Triple Trojan," receiving her Bachelor's, Master's & doctoral degree at the University of Southern California in Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy. Christie has been a featured expert in ABC, NBC, KTLA, The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, and many more. She is also a professional speaker and provides training with the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.

Kerry Brett and Dr. Christie Kederian cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
How to navigate dating during the holidays.
How relationships impact who we are as people.
Dr. Christie's online and offline dating strategies for dating during the holidays.
What Dr. Christie's learned about compatibility from working at eHarmony.
How to avoid falling into the scarcity mindset.
How to reset when you get discouraged with the online dating process.
Dr. Christie's Criteria Sandwich and why you should clarify your core values.
Dr. Christie's Silver Bullet Swipe and why you should focus on the main thing you want in another person.

Get ready for some exciting news! Today, we’ll hear all about Lola, a brand-new dating app exclusively launching in Boston. I think it’s safe to say that intentional daters are tired of mindless messaging, time-consuming chats, and the frustration of virtual dating pitfalls. Lola is designed to get you on real dates with real people on your schedule. Lola is about to revolutionize your dating experience by creating genuine connections, scheduling dates at your convenience, and eliminating the clutter of multiple conversations. Imagine conversing solely with only those you're interested in meeting face-to-face. Get ready to say goodbye to endless swiping, catfishing, and ghosting and say hello to dating because Lola is putting dating back into dating apps. 

This week, we have the privilege of hearing from the masterminds behind Lola, its founders, Paul English and Rachel Cohen. Paul English is an entrepreneur, philanthropist, the founder of six start-ups, and the co-founder of the travel industry giant Kayak.com. Rachel Cohen has a background in Human Resources for renowned fashion and luxury brands such as David Yurman and Diptyque Paris. Together, they combined their expertise to create a dating app that focuses on matching based on availability. They'll share why Lola stands apart from traditional dating apps and how it could redefine your dating journey. And they’ll also share with us their story and what’s in store for us with Lola.

Kerry Brett, Paul English, and Rachel Cohen cover a lot of ground around what’s working in online dating and how Lola plans to create a new community and change the dating culture. Topics include;
·      The benefit of a dating app centered on matching based on availability.
·      Their Journey to love and the inspiration behind Lola:
·      Paul and Rachel shared their serendipitous meeting on Bumble four years ago, sparking a conversation that eventually led to identifying the common problems in existing dating apps and, later, falling in love, getting engaged, and launching Lola.
·      Rachel discusses the experiences that fueled their passion for addressing these dating app challenges, emphasizing the need to reinvigorate hope for the discouraged.
·      Rachel highlights Lola's calendar-based matchmaking system. Introduces the 4-day timeline, benefitting users and empowering women to take control of their dating schedules.
·      Fast-tracking dating: Paul explains from a male perspective why immediate in-person meetings can revolutionize the dating landscape, expediting genuine connections.
·      Rachel sheds light on how Lola caters to single parents or individuals with restricted availability, maximizing dating opportunities.
·      Paul draws from his tech experiences to simplify and enhance Lola's user interface, ensuring it's both familiar and efficient.
·      How Lola plans to filter out non-intentional daters.
·      Lola's review feature, offering constructive feedback while eliminating non-genuine or uninterested users.
·      Why Lola values quality over quantity: addressing the trend of excessive conversations Lola's commitment to quality interactions rather than volume.
·      Enforcing rules for genuine engagement: Paul advocates for a no-nonsense approach to discourage habitual cancellations.
·      Anonymous feedback system: the benefit of anonymous post-date feedback, aiding users in self-improvement and finding better matches.
·      Rollout plans and recruitment events: Insights into Lola's rollout strategy, inviting potential users to join and engage.

To learn more about Lola, visit www.lola.com and follow on Instragram @lola_dates.

Dating after cancer: Runway to Romance –Navigating Love's Catwalk with Cancer Disruptor Christine Handy.

Get ready to be inspired by an incredible guest who is the epitome of strength, courage, and true beauty, both inside and out. Meet Christine Handy, a 40-year veteran in the modeling industry, a devoted mother, a best-selling author, a breast cancer survivor, a cancer disruptor, and a breastless model for Victoria's Secret. Being a breast cancer survivor, having four mastectomy’s resulted in her ultimately losing her chest–she learned – it was up to her how she felt about herself. And that the only place beauty comes from is within. Today, she shares secrets about finding self-love and, most importantly, keeping it. And why it’s important to feel confident and love yourself before stepping into the dating world. Christine’s commitment to working on herself, rebuilding her self-esteem, and feeling worthy of love led her to find it. We must remind ourselves and remember that our self-esteem and self-worth are at the core of all the decisions we make in life and love. 

 Christine Handy is an international model, cancer survivor, motivational speaker, and inspiration to all. Christine Handy is an international print and runway Model for brands such as Guess, JCREW, Target, Pepsi, and Victoria’s’ Secret. Christine is the author of the book Walk Beside Me, a fictional depiction of Christine’s life. Christine became a keynote speaker after her book was published in 2016. Christine is a mentor, a breast cancer advocate, a public figure, a Social Media Influencer, a Nationally recognized Humanitarian, and a Mother of two sons. Christine serves on the board of three non-profit organizations: EBeauty, People of Purpose, and the Break Free Foundation. Christine’s first novel is currently being adapted into a film called Hello, Beautiful.

Kerry Brett and Christine Handy's discussion covers a lot of ground. Topics include;
· Christine's remarkable journey
· Modeling industry realities: A glimpse behind the scenes of the modeling world and its impact on self-worth.
· Health journey begins: Christine's life as a self-proclaimed athlete and the initial signs of her health challenges.
· Diagnosis and despair: How Christine faced the devastating news of her aggressive breast cancer diagnosis.
· The power of community: The importance of showing up for others and building a support network.
· The path to self-love
· Self-indulgence to selflessness: Christine's journey of self-discovery and becoming selfless.
· Loving yourself enough to fight: The central theme of Christine's book, "Walk Beside Me," and the importance of self-love in her healing process.
· Christine's strategy for not letting the pain show on her face and her advice for those suffering.
· Overcoming fear of dating after illness: Christine's initial apprehension about finding love post-divorce and illness.
· Rediscovering confidence
· Challenges during the pandemic: Christine's experience with MRSA during the pandemic and its impact on her confidence.
· Realization of self-sabotage: How Christine recognized that she was the one holding herself back.
· Embracing New Challenges: Christine's determination to fight for her confidence and accept new opportunities.
· Dating and Career Advancements: Christine's experience in the dating world while advancing her modeling career.
· Resilience in the Face of Adversity: Christine's strength and resilience after a negative experience.
· Current Success: Christine's achievements as the first breastless model for Victoria's Secret and finding love.
· Inclusivity and hope: Christine's mission is to help people feel less alone.

To learn more about Christine Handy, go to www.christinehandy.com or follow on Instagram @christinehandy1.

In this week's episode, meet Joe Heroun, a man who’s mastered the art of capturing attention. He’s a multifaceted talent in the world of photography, fashion, art direction and design. Joe’s been the creative force behind iconic magazine covers for decades and was a driving force at the Improper Bostonian Magazine. Today, his mission is to help men elevate their style and up their dating game. He’ll share secrets to online appeal and what’s behind the perfect image for the digital age? How to enhance your image through clothing, from the timeless white tee, layering up,  or choosing the right accessories.  What makes a lasting impression visually, and how to be yourself in front of the camera.  And what it takes to look put together in a photograph. Because in the world of dating, appearances matter. 

Kerry Brett welcomes the incredibly talented Joe Heroun.  It's an engaging conversation between Kerry and Joe as they dive into photography, art direction, and dating. Whether you are looking to upgrade your dating profile or want to enhance your style, this episode is packed with practical advice and creative insights. 

Joe's expertise extends beyond the world of magazines and media. Today, he's on a mission to help men elevate their style and enhance their dating game. This episode is filled with valuable insights, dating tips, and secrets to online appeal, all brought to you by an industry veteran.

Key Talking Points:

• Joe's unconventional path to becoming an art director.
• The chaos and creative problem-solving behind iconic magazine covers.
• The significance of preparation and clear authority on set.
• The art of styling and how to enhance your personal image for dating success.
• The importance of the leading photograph in online dating.
• Joe's collaboration with dating expert Blaine Anderson and the importance of variety in dating profile photos.
• The psychology of getting your subject to open up during a photoshoot.
• The impact of first impressions in online dating.
• The nuances of looking well-groomed, confident, and approachable in photographs.
• Embracing personal style and projecting confidence in your online dating profile.

Joe's message is clear: it's not just about what you wear but how you wear it, and confidence and authenticity play a vital role in making a lasting impression in dating.

Tune in to discover how to make a memorable impact in your dating journey. To learn more about Joe Heroun's work, go to  jherounportrait.com or follow him on Instagram @jheroun.

In this special  episode, I’m honored to welcome Natalie Lue, someone who has profoundly influenced the lives of countless individuals, including myself. Natalie Lue, a beacon of inspiration, joins us today. As a podcaster, speaker, artist, and renowned author, her remarkable works, particularly "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl," have left an indelible mark. Natalie's narrative is a testament to the transformative power of self-discovery.

Natalie's story is a tale of metamorphosis. In 2005, a debilitating illness and a tumultuous breakup with an emotionally distant partner ignited a spark of self-realization. Her experiences became the cornerstone for her incredible journey, which encompasses five best-selling books, the creation of Baggage Reclaim, an archive of over 16,000 enlightening blog entries, and a podcast that has touched the lives of millions of women across 140 countries. Her unwavering mission is to help others overcome abandonment, rejection, trauma, and the damaging effects of people-pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feelings of inadequacy.

Natalie Lue's impact extends far and wide. Her candid, compassionate, and humor-infused approach to relationships has gained her a global following. She's been recognized by esteemed outlets like The New York Times, NPR, and the BBC. Her books, including "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl," "The No Contact Rule," "The Dreamer and Fantasy Relationship," and "Love, Care, Trust & Respect," with over 140,000 copies sold, have been pivotal in reshaping perspectives. Her podcast, "The Baggage Reclaim Sessions," has surpassed 2 million downloads. Furthermore, Harper Horizon published her latest book, "The Joy of Saying No," in October 2022.

Natalie's expertise is not confined to the world of self-help and relationships. She's also the founder of the kids' lifestyle blog, Bambino Goodies. For the past 13.5 years, she has dedicated herself to full-time blogging, leaving behind a career in advertising. Natalie has shared her insights on relationships at numerous conferences worldwide, and her current focus encompasses subjects like people-pleasing, boundaries, mindfulness, and creativity.

Kerry Brett and Natalie Lue dive into a rich and enlightening conversation. Natalie's remarkable ability to unravel complex relationship dynamics and her skillful articulation in "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl" are highlighted. If you've ever grappled with feelings of unworthiness or questioned your value in the world of dating, this episode is a game-changer.

Natalie's unparalleled ability to identify and address relationship issues with unfiltered candor.
Unpacking the enigma of "Mr. Unavailable" and the emotional turmoil it entails.
The enduring impact of the book "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl."
How Natalie's work resonates with women worldwide, illuminating shared pains.
The societal conditioning that often leaves women with the short end of the stick in toxic relationships.
The imperative of never settling in matters of the heart.
A sobering glimpse into relationships with "Mr. Unavailable."
The importance of recognizing and navigating "Future Faking."
The phenomenon of "Fast Forwarding" and its fleeting intensity.

Connect with Natalie:
Stay connected with Natalie Lue on Instagram @natlue or visit her website at natalielue.com. You can find all her empowering books on Amazon and access her podcast, "The Baggage Reclaim Sessions," on all major podcast platforms.