Transforming The Way We Listen

Sometimes the word co-parenting is a myth. We have our own beliefs about what co-parenting should be like and get frustrated when that isn’t the reality.

My guest on this episode is Michelle Dempsey, the author of Moms Moving On: Real-Life Advice on Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting Through Conflict, and Becoming Your Best Self.

Episode Highlights:

• Setting realistic expectations about co-parenting
• What to do when rules are different for your kids in each home
• How oversharing and other types of communication with your ex can backfire 

If you’re looking for coparenting help, you can purchase my online masterclass on Parallel Parenting (another word for when coparenting doesn’t work) for just $25. Click here to purchase! https://startovercoach.kartra.com/page/dsQ65

Other resources:

Buy Michelle’s Book 

Linktree: Michelle Dempsey-Multack

Instagram: @themichelledempsey and @momsmovingon

Moms Moving On Website

How many times a day do you hear a voice inside you that is putting you down? I hear it multiple times. It’s not really my voice, though. It’s a culmination of voices that I’ve heard over the years criticizing me. 

My guest Jacquie Elliott has a name for it: abusive brain chatter. This episode will help you get the tools you need to find the loving voice that’s within you.

Jacquie is a certified life, relationship, and spiritual coach who leads retreats that help women find their purpose and let go of things that are blocking them from moving forward. 

You’ll also get a sneak peek of her forthcoming book the ABC's of Abusive Brain Chatter. 

Episode Highlights:

• How to quiet abusive thoughts
• Why it’s good to challenge your core beliefs
• How to tap into your inner voice and become your divine highest self 
• Why people pleasers are actually manipulative

Jacquie Elliott’s Website 

Spa For the Soul Retreat: Oct. 14-16

Instagram - @jacquieelliottclc

Being a good listener is critical to building healthy relationships. It’s easy for us to think we are good listeners when, in reality, there is still a lot to learn. 

My guest on this episode is Christine Miles, and she will help you transform the way you listen. Chistine is the founder of EQuipt, a training and consulting company that uses a method called The Listening Path to help improve organizations and create cultures of understanding. She has taught at various Fortune 100 corporations, universities, law firms, and privately-held companies nationwide.

Episode highlights:

• What good listening means
• What to focus on first during conflict resolution
• What you can do if you feel someone isn’t listening to you 
• Tips on communicating with children and teens 

Resources:

EQUIPT website

‘What Is It Costing You Not To Listen?’ book

This discussion with the founders of Best Self Magazine will help you avoid parenting mistakes during a breakup or divorce. Bill Miles and Kristen Noel are the creators of the Best Self Intuitive Divorce Coaching Program, which focuses on achieving the best outcomes for kids during a divorce. 

Together they help parents in the early stages of divorce avoid unnecessary pain and suffering, so they can take control of their divorce before it takes control of them.  

Episode highlights:

• What it means to have an intuitive divorce
• Using divorce to reframe and improve your next chapter in life
• Issues parents commonly struggle with during divorce
• How children process divorce

Best Self Intuitive Divorce Program

When I got divorced, I felt like I didn’t know anything about finances because my husband had always managed our money. It was a scary situation, and I had no confidence in my financial  future. If you find yourself in a similar situation, my guest Rachael Burns has some solid advice for women on how to achieve financial independence after the loss of their partner. 

Episode highlights:

• How to take control of day-to-day finances when you’re newly single 
• The importance of taking stock of your assets
• The process of negotiation 

About Rachael Burns

Rachael Burns is a certified financial planner and a certified divorce financial analyst. She helps newly-single women achieve financial independence after the loss of their partner to death or divorce. 

eBook by Rachael Burns

5 Things Newly Single Women Should Do to Protect Their Finances

Instagram: @trueworthFP

Rachael’s Recommended Resources:

Podcasts 

So Money with Farnoosh Torabi

Her Money with Jean Chatzky

Websites

Clever Girl Finance

HerMoney

Books

You Need A Budget

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I remember the time in my life when I was at my lowest. I honestly didn’t know how I was going to get out of all the pain alive. Maybe you have been there or you are there right now. 

My guest George Kalantzis has also been at that point. George is a combat veteran, a podcast host, and author of the book Nowhere To Go. He shares his story of overcoming a suicide attempt and finding a life of meaning, inspiration, and empowerment.  

Episode Highlights:

• Why George decided not to commit suicide
• His journey toward making peace with his family and childhood
• How you can trust the unknown 

Instagram: @_georgekalantzis

DM George on Instagram for a free digital copy of his book. 

Website: https://sociatap.com/georgekalantzis/

When we are triggered, our initial instinct is to fight back or stand up for ourselves using words that often come out as confrontational. Immediately after the trigger, we produce a negative thought, which leads to a negative emotion, which always produces a negative outcome. But if you use my ABC method, it will mitigate the negative thought from occurring, and thus, give you a much better outcome!

“Always Be Curious” will help you put resentment and unresolved anger aside and give you the upper hand, rather than leaving a situation feeling hurt and vulnerable. It will save you a lot of stress, so take a listen! 

Episode highlights:

• How not to engage with or react to a person’s bad mood
• How to stay grounded and remain your authentic self when you are caught off guard
• How to neutralize power struggles 

What is happiness and how do we achieve it? My guest Mike Duffy actually has a formula for it, based on his research and the wisdom of thought leaders. Our conversation on forgiveness, especially, could help you get one step closer to being happy! 

Episode Highlights: 

• Managing negative thinking
• The ‘purpose + progress = happiness’ formula and what it means
• The law of reciprocity and how it relates to happiness
• Finding your purpose 

Resources:

Happiness Hall of Fame
Mike Duffy Speaks
Happiness Wealth Management
TEDxBerkley talk 

About Mike Duffy:

Author and speaker Mike Duffy is the founder of the non-profit Happiness Hall Of Fame, which recognizes and encourages people and organizations that have advanced the cause of happiness. 

Duffy is also CEO of Happiness Wealth Management, which helps clients with money management so they can do the things that make them happy, like traveling and engaging in philanthropic giving. 

You meet someone for the first time. The passion is head-spinning. You feel like you’ve known them forever. But then, they begin to pull back. And just when you’re ready to say goodbye, they come back into your life. And the cycle keeps repeating itself. 

I call this drunk love. In this episode, I break down the characteristics of a love addict and a love avoidant, and how you can be both. But more importantly, the key indicators for a healthy relationship, and how you can break the cycle of unhealthy love.  

And, if this sounds like you, and you are serious about ending this unhealthy love pattern, schedule your FREE breakthrough session today and let’s talk! 

Episode highlights:

• What typically causes love addiction
• The difference between a love addict and a love avoidant and why they attract
• The characteristics of healthy love 
• How things can get better and how I can help - because I’ve been there, too!

This month, I’m taking on new clients who are interested in solving their love addiction. Reach out to me and schedule a breakthrough session! I hope to hear from you soon! 

I want to share with you an inspiring story of a warrior who overcame what she once thought was impossible. Susie Pettit went through a tumultuous divorce and knew she had to break a pattern of codependency if she wanted to create a life filled with happiness. 

She is now taking the important lessons she learned during this difficult time and coaching others about setting healthy boundaries and breaking away from people-pleasing. 

Our conversation might help you or a loved one identify codependency issues and stop these harmful patterns of behavior. 

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: Boundary Bootcamp TOMORROW

Are you wanting to gain confidence in setting and communicating boundaries? I know how hard it can be and I can help. Join me TOMORROW, June 29, for my Boundary Bootcamp! If you can't make it live, there will be a recording available for a limited time to those who sign up.

Episode Highlights

• How to recognize codependency
  
  
• The difference between codependent and interdependent relationships
  
  
• How books and movies often promote codependent behavior
  
  
• The importance of realizing we are not responsible for other people’s feelings

About Susie Pettit

Life Coach Susie Pettit is the owner of Strength: Mind & Body, LLC. Her goal is to help women create lives they love. She helps her clients through mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral coaching. 

Susie teaches on topics like battling codependency, parenting teens, and overcoming stress. She is the mother of three sons. 

Episode Resources

SMBWELL

Love Your Life Show podcast

Instagram: @smb.wellness

Parenting Teens: A Survival Course