Vampire Relationships in Romantic Partnerships

In this episode, I discuss the concept of vampire relationships, which are characterized by a strong early survival instinct, the need for relationship in order to survive, and a deep, primal fear of abandonment. I explain how this instinct is wired in our brains from infancy and how it can affect our adult relationships if early development gets thwarted. I also explore the dynamics of the "host and parasite" roles in these types of relationships, as well as the concepts of being overly protective as a form of possessiveness, being a muse, and relational fusion. Throughout the episode, I provide insights and reflections on the complexity of these dynamics and the impact they can have on our lives. Listen to gain a deeper understanding of vampire relationships and their psychological implications! #energyvampire #relationships #love #healing #psychology #marriage

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction

00:30 - Pregnancy as a Beginning Place

01:21 - Primal Fear of Abandonment & the Threat to Our Survival

02:40 - Vampire Relationships: A Hard Wiring of the Need for Another in Order to Survive as an Adult

03:50 - Feeding Off of Another in Order to Survive

05:04 - Early Bonding Experience That Stays Stuck or Frozen in Us

05:27 - Host-Parasite Relationship

08:50 - Vampire Love Stories in the Movies: Twilight

10:00 - Being Protective vs. Being Possessive

11:40 - Having a Muse Might Be Another Way "Vampires" Feed

13:00 - The Muse vs. Being a Source of Inspiration

14:05 - Fusion as a Factor in Vampire Relationships

17:20 - Final Reflections on Vampire Relationships

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In this episode, I delve into the intricate process of when relationships begin and when they come to an end. I discuss the importance of inner subjective realities, rather than simply relying on when couples have "the conversation" to be exclusive or decide to end their relationship by a declaration of some sort. I emphasize the various stages of relationship beginnings and endings, as well as the significance of defining boundaries. I also discuss the messy nature of endings, as well as the concept of getting closure. There is something for everyone in this one, so be sure to give it a listen! #relationships #divorce #love #dating

Chapters
00:00 - Introduction
00:35 - Inner Reality
01:23 - When You Decide You're Looking for Love
02:06 - Love Stories Start Before Two People Meet
04:10 - Ross & Rachel: Two Different Understandings of "The Conversation"
05:18 - Relationships Begin Before the Conversation around "What are we?"
07:00 - Our Next Relationship Begins the Moment Our Current Relationship Ends
11:15 - Relationships Can End While We Are Still in Them
14:04 - Relationships Don't Internally End Just Because of a Conversation "Calling It Off"
15:40 - Closure Conversations
17:55 - Messier Endings With Shared Assets & Children
20:35 - Death of a Partner

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In this episode, I discuss the different valences of Venus in each zodiac sign and how these affect how we personally define love, beauty, and relationships. I provide insights into the potential unique qualities and preferences of individuals with Venus in different signs. By exploring Venus through a psychological astrology perspective, I encourage listeners to reflect on their own values and desires in partnership. This exploration opens the door to understanding how compatibility and incompatibility might be defined by each individual, according to their psyche's innate disposition. Hopefully the information shared can deepen the listener's understanding of love and relationships in a personally meaningful way! #astrology #love #relationships

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In this episode, I discuss the significance of Valentine's Day and explore different perspectives on the holiday. I delve into the cultural and societal aspects of Valentine's Day, the commercialization of romantic love, and the psychological impact it can have on individuals. I also offer suggestions on how to approach the holiday in a more meaningful and self-reflective way. It serves as an opportunity for introspection and open-mindedness as we explore what Valentine's Day might represent for different people. #valentinesday #love #relationships

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction

01:00 - Americans Will Spend Just Under $26 billion on Valentine's Day in 2024

02:22 - Society Values Valentine's Day

04:00 - Early Exposure in Valentine's Day in Elementary Schools

07:57 - Critics of Valentine's Day

08:45 - The Struggles for Singles

09:30 - Reframe as a Day of Self-Love

10:56 - Performative Pressures Put on People

13:29 - Reflection on the State of the Relationship

15:00 - Can Test of How Well We Know Our Partner

16:55 - Gives Couples Opportunity To Do Something Special

18:46 - Final Reflections & Questions

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In this episode, I delve into the concept of twin flames, which is characterized as an intense and profound soulmate connection. I discuss the differences between twin flame relationships and other relationships, highlighting the spiritual and transformative aspects of twin flames. I also explore the challenges and vulnerabilities that come with seeking and finding a twin flame. Throughout the episode, I emphasize the importance of self-reflection, personal growth, and conscious choice in navigating twin flame partnerships. Join me as we uncover the deeper meaning and potential of twin flame connections. #twinflame #twinflames #spiritualrelationships

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction

01:02 - Defining Twin Flames

02:02 - The Desperation and Seeking

03:00 - High Stakes in Twin Flame Relationships

05:25 - Beyond Physical Attraction

06:46 - The Importance of Individuality

08:08 - The Shadow Side of Twin Flames

09:49 - The Work and Personal Growth

11:11 - Jung's Process of Individuation

11:40 - Meeting Your Opposite

14:50 - Differences Lead to Self-Awareness & Personal Growth

16:48 - Who Defines the Relationship?

17:35 - Meeting a Version of Ourselves on the Outside

18:56 - Reflections and Higher Purpose

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In this episode, I delve into the concept of transactional relationships. I discuss the difference between "I-it" and "I-Thou" ways of relating, according to philosopher Martin Buber, where one objectifies the other while the other offers a deeper connection based on empathy and curiosity. I explore how this applies to romantic relationships and marriages, as well as how it can evolve over time. I also touch on the impact of external factors, such as having children and the state of the American economy. I offer some tips and advice on how to improve the quality of communication and restore the balance in marriages and relationships. Be sure to watch or listen to gain insights and reflect on the quality of your own relationships! #marriage #relationships

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
00:21 Transactional Relationships
01:20 Martin Buber: I-it vs I-Thou Relating
04:48 Applying Transactional Relationships to Romantic Relationships
07:00 Adding More Roles & Responsibilities Can Lead to More Transactional Relating
09:00 When We're More Focused on What We Want in Our Lives & How the Partner Can Be a Vehicle to Get This
11:00 Relationships Breakdown When There's an Imbalance Between Transactional & Quality Relating
13:38 American Society's Transactional Nature
15:34 Ways to Reconnect Beyond the Transactional Realm

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In this episode, I discuss the common phenomenon of roommate relationships within romantic partnerships. I explore the reasons why couples may find themselves in this situation and the emotional implications it can have. I also provide insights on how to revive the relationship and navigate the complexities of co-parenting. I discuss a new model for marriage called a "parenting marriage" as one creative solution for couples with children who want to stay married but no longer stay in a romantic love relationship with one another. Be sure to listen to this episode to gain a deeper understanding of roommate relationships and discover potential solutions.

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In this episode, I discuss six reasons why romantic grand gestures can sometimes fall flat in relationships. Often times real life attempts to swoon our beloved doesn't quite pan out like they do in romantic comedies or the movies. I explore possible explanations for this, including the potential for mismatched love languages, the "too little too late" phenomenon, and the danger of narcissism or selfishness in the attempts. By understanding these reasons, we can reflect on our own actions and expectations in relationships. Listen to this week's episode to gain insights and improve your understanding of how you see and experience romantic gestures. #love #relationships #couples #hopelessromantic #grandgestures

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:30 Romantic Grand Gestures & Why They Flop

01:39 Reason 1: Too Little Too Late

04:10 Reason 2: Not in the Same Place as One Another

06:50 Reason 3: Doesn't Translate to the Partner

10:30 Reason 4: Differences in Personality Preferences

13:00 Reason 5: Feels More About the Person Doing It Than Receiving It

15:30 Reason 6: More About One's Own Arrogance & Narcissism

20:00 Romantic Gestures Are Meant to Keep Things Fresh

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In this episode, I delve into the allure of Hallmark Christmas movies and why they captivate Romantics. These movies transport us to a world of romance and nostalgia, where love is celebrated amidst the holiday spirit. I explore how these films provide a reprieve from stress and offer a sense of hope and possibility. Additionally, I discuss the themes of unexpected love and the power of changing perspectives that these movies portray. Join me as we explore the magic and pure-heartedness of Hallmark Christmas movies this holiday season! #hallmarkchristmasmovies #love #hopelessromantic #relationships

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In this final episode of our four-part series on Love at First Sight, I delve into the common thread of consciousness and the power of the unconscious that connects different theories on this phenomenon. I share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing that Love at First Sight doesn't always lead to a lifelong connection. Active participation and engagement are required to navigate the complexities of love. Join me as we explore the beauty and profoundness of these moments and discuss the importance of balancing our spiritual and human selves. #love #relationships #synchronicity #meaningfulconnections #personalgrowth 

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