We Found Some Good In 2020

Cher and Jalen talk about what love means to us. Is there a difference between love and being "in" love and how does that feel?  They talk about Greek philosophers and the eight categories of love, how they feel to us, and with whom we feel the different kinds of love. They dive into how the generations love and what makes them feel loved. Love is an action word, so they talk about being "in" love as a short-term experience and love being more long-term, and sustainable. 

Jalen and Cher are talking about how they feel about New Year Resolutions, Their Word of the year, and what they are leaving behind and looking forward to. They also talk about new things that they want to add to old routines and/or their daily lives. 

Jalen and Cher have been on a hiatus, yet they were still out there living. They are reentering the podcast race with some accountability, letting you in on what they have been up to, and some of what we all have to look forward to with the podcast. Welcome or welcome back to the podcast where mom and son navigate through their lives, sharing thoughts from their generational perspectives, and proving that parents and adult children can have a friendship and operate in their roles. 

We wanted to take an episode to look at some of the African American pioneers that don't get talked about. 
We often just take what they tell us about in school and believe that that is all there is. We looked into people that have basically changed the way we ALL do things in the United States as a result of their intelligence and innovation in order to make the world we live in a better place. They paved the way for many others and bring a sense of pride to the African American community. We wanted to pay homage to them and others as we close out Back History month. 
We should all continue to research and celebrate the breakthroughs that have been made in the black community as well as the other communities. The United States is definitely a melting pot full of intelligent people who create in order to make all of our lives better, to extend our lives and create legacies that can be passed down and built on for generations. 

Intuition is the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. When we learn to acknowledge and listen to that part of us that is trying to protect us, we are tuning in to that intuition. Jay and I talk about when we listened to our gut feeling and the other times when we decided to make a different decision. Not every circumstance or situation that we find ourselves in requires reasoning, especially when we are tuned in to our gut. Our body knows what it needs more of as well as what it needs less of. We can learn the power of the "pause" and use it to tune into ourselves and our needs. How do you want to feel after that conversation or experience? Your intuition may jump in to tell you how to best serve yourself. 

Celebrating your wins can be so motivating for you and others. There are people that believe we should be modest and not mention what we have or earn. Jay and I talk about how we feel about bragging and boasting. What is the difference? We talk about that as well. 

We both agree that we should celebrate hoe far we have come. It is motivating and can help us avoid being depressed or feel like we want to quit. Life is good and we should celebrate our wins everyday, small and big wins. 

We have many people that we look up to and watch them win and celebrate. Why can't we do the same when we win. We have earned it. Celebrate! 

Come and hang out with us while we laugh and take a real look at how we and others feel about bragging...boasting....celebrating ourselves. 

We tackle the art of "fighting fair" in his episode. No relationship that we have is going to be rainbows and unicorns every single day. That is including the relationship we have with ourselves. Today we speak about what happens when we settle into a space in our relationship then a new war begins. What do we do? Do we settle into our old ways and act on our old feelings? Did we grow any from our last war and we now have the opportunity to practice what we have learned. Jalen gets transparent about his relationships and his struggle with getting comfortable in a space only to have events happen that put him at odds against himself and his wife at times. 
Come join us as we talk about what it means to "fight fair" and what it takes to navigate through the war at hand. We address what we experience before, during, and after the war. It is hard to move without emotions getting the best of us. What do you do when it is time to war with the one you love? Can you "fight fair" and see everyone involved win? 

As we all know, communication is such and important part of any relationship we decide to be in. We are not always given the tools for effective communication at a young age, so we go through life feeling our way through. We learn through our failed relationships what we need and do not need in when it comes to having others in our lives. 

Appreciative communication can let the people whom we love in our lives know that we care about what they have to say. It says that we value what they have to say and we all want to feel this way. We talk about what appreciative communication means to us and how we navigate through in our "ships". Very few things are more important to us than the people we love and we should learn how to communicate with one another in a way that says that they matter. 

We all want to feel heard and understood and this form of communication can help us get there. Another tool for the toolbox. 

Enjoy! 

In this episode, we talk about how important photos are and why we should go back to look at them often, maybe even print them and hang them for viewing. 

Many times we take pictures on our phones, pay for family, graduation and infant photos and send them out but do not display them or our own viewing pleasure. Today we talk to a professional photographer who can tell us more about why photos are so important, what we gain rom taking them, and why we cannot put a price on having the people we love together to capture special moments. 

We share so much more about why John decided to get into photography and where he can be found in order to have your memories captured with him personally. 

John English IV is the owner of Native Eye Media in the Florida area and also a podcaster, Bowties and Button-ups where he tackles the hard issues that men face in a world that tells them that they should always be strong. 

Hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did. Let us know what you think. Like, Subscribe, Comment, rate, review, and share! 

Why is it so hard to ask for what we want? We all have needs and we should feel safe enough to go to our spouses or partners, coworkers, friends, and family to express what those needs are. We cannot complain about our jobs and the people in our lives not meeting our needs when we have never given them the chance to actually meet them. In order to ask for what we really need, we need to know who we are. That way we can ask for what we really need. If you don't know yourself, chances are you don't know what you want. In turn, it will be impossible to ask for what you truly need. 
Speaking up for yourself and asking those we trust to meet our needs is not selfish or needy. We all have special needs that are going to get us through the day ...through life. Communicating those needs to the people we feel can meet them is a vulnerable space and can be a rewarding one.