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    Who What Wear with Hillary Kerr: Comedian and Writer Ziwe on Her Insightful, Hilarious New Book, Black Friend: Essays

    enOctober 18, 2023
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    Podcast Summary

    • Writing TransformationZ-Way's book "Black Friend" reflects a personal journey of writing and discovery, evolving over three years from a simple essay into an insightful collection. She is enthusiastic about re-engaging with live audiences during her book tour, moving from the challenges of solitary writing to connecting with readers and sharing her experiences.

      Z-Way, a talented comedian and author, is excited to release her book "Black Friend" and interact with her readers during her upcoming book tour. Reflecting on the writing process, Z-Way shares that creating the book took three years and has been emotionally challenging. It has transformed from a brief, humorous essay into a more personal narrative, allowing her to explore her thoughts and feelings more deeply. This journey of writing has been freeing, yet daunting as she navigated her vulnerability and creativity. The excitement of connecting with an audience and moving beyond the intense solitude of writing is a significant aspect she looks forward to as she promotes her work and shares insights from her life.

    • Writing JourneyThe writing process intertwines structure with organic moments. By blending personal experiences with broader themes, the author curates essays that balance humor and seriousness, creating an engaging and dynamic reading journey. Structures and themes help maintain reader interest, allowing them to navigate the collection in their own way.

      Writing is a journey that involves both structure and spontaneity. Over three years, the author learned to connect personal stories with broader themes, using both theory and pop culture as a backdrop. This process included crafting essays that mix humor with serious topics, creating a dynamic reading experience. By carefully curating the order of the pieces, the writer aimed to keep readers engaged and entertained, knowing that essays can be read in any order. The goal was to take readers on a compelling journey, smoothly balancing tension and humor, while encouraging them to stop and reflect as they read. Earnings from these insights crafted a book that respects both the writer's voice and the reader's experience.

    • Vulnerability in WritingBeing vulnerable in writing helps create a meaningful connection with readers. Initially hesitant, the author realized that sharing deeper personal stories is crucial for authenticity and relatability. Despite fears of judgment, this openness can transform the writing experience and enrich the audience's understanding. It's a balance of trust in oneself and in the creative process.

      Writing a book requires a deep level of vulnerability and honesty, especially when sharing personal stories. The author initially struggled with this idea and even considered giving back her advance to avoid revealing too much of herself. Observing how powerful and moving it is to read about others’ struggles, like in Steve Martin's memoir, motivated her to dig deep into her own past. Ultimately, she learned that to create something meaningful for her readers, she needed to be open about her experiences, not just surface-level funny stories. This process can be frightening, as external judgments can heavily affect an artist's feelings about their work. Nevertheless, it's essential to trust oneself and embrace the journey of sharing stories, knowing that genuine connection with the audience lies in vulnerability.

    • Creative ExpressionUnique life experiences, like growing up with immigrant parents, shape creative expression through storytelling. Different mediums, such as writing or comedy, require adaptation while still allowing for authenticity. Navigating these forms helps convey personal insights and humor, showcasing the value of diverse perspectives and the importance of staying true to one’s voice.

      Creativity often comes from unique experiences, like growing up in a different culture. These experiences, though they may seem unusual, can provide valuable stories and perspectives that others might not have. This is especially true for someone who navigates various forms of expression, such as writing, comedy, and television. Each medium requires different skills and allows for distinct ways to share personal insights and humor. Whether in a book or on a podcast, adapting one’s storytelling style while staying true to one's voice is important. It’s essential to understand how to engage the audience visually and orally, making adjustments as needed while still being authentic. Ultimately, these diverse backgrounds and experiences shape the stories an individual can tell, showcasing that everyone has unique perspectives worth sharing.

    • Versions of SelfPresenting different versions of ourselves to different groups is a part of human interaction. This can be reflected in writing, where a strong ending is vital, similar to comedy. The blend of tension and humor in storytelling allows for meaningful connections. Recognizing that good people can still hold problematic views is important for personal awareness and growth.

      Understanding the different versions of ourselves that we present to various groups of people reveals a lot about human nature. Just like a comedian structures their routine, writers and speakers also need to find a way to tie their messages together meaningfully. Effective essay writing, similar to stand-up comedy, thrives on the balance of tension and humor. A well-crafted ending or kicker can elevate the entire piece, making the audience reflect and laugh. Additionally, the realization that even "good" people can hold problematic views highlights the importance of awareness and personal growth. Ultimately, the interplay of these concepts encourages deeper connections through honest storytelling and humor.

    • Creative GrowthCreativity is a journey that requires patience and practice. Writers often discover their best ideas while revising. Growth comes from struggles, and every effort counts. Validation from peers can help clarify thoughts, as artists trust their process and hope for better success, like finding hidden treasures that reflect their evolving taste.

      Creativity involves a process of discovery, where sometimes the best ideas come before finishing a piece, but often they reveal themselves after revisiting the work. As a writer evolves, their personal taste grows, guiding them toward quality. Even successful artists acknowledge periods of struggle, learning, and improvement. The journey of creativity requires patience and dedication. Artists might feel discouraged along the way, but every effort contributes to their growth. They seek validation from trusted peers, recognizing that things can seem clear to them but might confuse others. Ultimately, the belief that persistence pays off fosters hope for the future, as every artist strives for greater success and fulfillment in their craft, akin to finding hidden treasures in thrift stores or seeking gold.

    • Exploring ConnectionsFootnotes enhance the reading experience by providing extra context without interrupting the main flow of ideas. They allow readers to choose how deeply they wish to engage with the content and offer insight into their personal experiences. This approach enriches both the author-reader connection and the overall understanding of the narratives shared.

      Footnotes serve as a unique tool for exploring thoughts and ideas without disrupting the flow of the main text. They allow writers to include additional perspectives and historical contexts that enrich the reading experience. Just like individuals connect with different essays based on their personal experiences, footnotes offer a path for readers to delve deeper into topics they're curious about. They create a 'choose your adventure' reading environment, where readers can engage as much or as little as they want. This thoughtful way of presenting information can reveal a lot about readers based on the essays they resonate with, mirroring how personal connections can deepen through shared experiences. Each essay can reflect parts of a person's life, contributing to a better understanding of the reader's perspective and emotions.

    • Journey of AuthenticityWriting should come from a personal place, focusing on authenticity rather than trying to please others. When writers stay true to themselves, they create connections with their audience through humor and relatable stories. The journey of writing is about personal fulfillment, regardless of how well-received the work is.

      Writing is a deeply personal journey that reflects an individual's unique voice and experiences. The process of creating essays can involve sharing personal stories that resonate with others, while also being a source of humor and advice. It's important for the writer to stay true to themselves, as genuine storytelling connects with audiences. Celebrating one's individuality, rather than conforming to external expectations, enhances creativity and leads to authentic expression. The connection between the writer and readers is fostered through shared laughter and relatable experiences, making art a collective exploration. Ultimately, the joy of writing comes from the journey, regardless of the book’s commercial success; it is about finding fulfillment in the process and in making readers think, laugh, or feel understood.

    • Podcast HighlightsIn this episode, host Hilary Kerr expresses her appreciation for guest Zehle and encourages listeners to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast. The episode features a promotion for Spanx, showcasing their versatile clothing designed for busy lifestyles, perfect for any occasion. Listeners can use a discount code for savings on their purchases.

      In this podcast episode, the host, Hilary Kerr, shares a warm and enthusiastic goodbye, expressing gratitude towards their guest, Zehle, who is the author of "Black Friends." The host encourages listeners to engage with the podcast by subscribing and leaving ratings and reviews. Additionally, there’s a promotion for Spanx, highlighting their versatile clothing options suited for various activities, from casual outings to professional settings. Spanx aims to simplify life with comfortable and stylish pieces that can easily transition from day to night. By using a discount code, listeners can also receive a special offer for their purchases. Overall, the conversation emphasizes appreciation, connection with listeners, and the joys of finding practical yet fashionable clothing.

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