Why Do Kids Hire Porn? With Kristen Jenson [65]

In the season 2 finale of "Breaking the Silence," we navigate the intricate web of emotions and challenges that come with overcoming pornography use while answering a question submitted by a listener. Crishelle Simons, alongside Rachel Denton, embarks on a journey to unravel the layers of guilt, shame, and recovery that many face in silence. Through personal reflections and expert insights, this episode illuminates the path toward self-compassion and healing, underscoring the critical role of understanding our deepest struggles. Dive into a discussion that not only confronts the realities of pornography's impact but also celebrates the resilience of the human spirit in the face of adversity. Discover how embracing our vulnerabilities can lead to profound transformation and a renewed sense of self.

Important Links:

• Connect with Rachel Denton here.
• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Relive the inspiration from Chandler’s story here.
• Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here.
• Check out the previous episode with Rachel about change here.
• Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact us at hello@reach10.org.
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org
• Donate here: https://reach10.org/donate/

Join us in a moving episode of "Breaking the Silence," where we welcome Kodi Maki to share his inspiring journey through addiction recovery. Kodi opens up about the challenges he faced with pornography addiction and how the Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) became a beacon of hope in his life. His story is not just about battling addiction; it's about the power of faith, the strength found in vulnerability, and the transformative role of support systems. Kodi's experiences, from personal lows to spiritual highs, provide valuable insights into the journey of recovery and the relentless pursuit of personal growth and healing.

In this episode:

• Turning Point: Kodi shares how a personal tragedy leads him to confront his addiction and seek help.
• The 12 Step Program (ARP): Kodi discusses his initial reluctance and eventual involvement in ARP, highlighting its impact.
• The Role of Support: Emphasis on the importance of having a supportive network, especially the pivotal role of Kodi's wife and best friend in his journey.
• Challenges and Relapses: Kodi reflects on the challenges of staying consistent with recovery efforts and the consequences of stepping away.
• Spiritual Insights: Kodi shares profound spiritual experiences and moments of clarity that reinforced his commitment to recovery.
• Motivation for Change: Insights into Kodi's personal motivations for recovery, including the well-being of his family and living the principles he once taught.
• Tools and Resources: Discussion on various tools and support systems that have aided Kodi's recovery process.
• Advice for Others: Kodi offers advice to others struggling with addiction, emphasizing the importance of reaching out for help and staying engaged in recovery.

This episode serves as a powerful reminder of the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative journey of recovery. Join us as Kodi Maki shares his heartfelt story, offering hope and guidance to those on a similar path.

Important Links:

• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Relive the inspiration from Chandler’s story here.
• Find a 12 Step Program here.
• Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here.
• Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact me at crishelle@reach10.org or hello@reach10.org.
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

In this episode, we dive deep into the heart of human sexuality and its intersection with divine grace. We explore the complexities of chastity, marriage, and the continuous journey towards understanding our bodies and spirits with our guest Bonnie Young, therapist and author.

Join us as we peel back the layers of anxiety and expectation that often shroud discussions of sexuality. From the laughter and learning curves of adolescence to the sacred partnership of marriage, we grapple with the pulsating question: How can we reconcile our natural human experiences with the teachings of Jesus Christ and His infinite atonement?

We unpack the cultural dialogue that sometimes overshadows the gospel's core messages of love, trust, and mercy. With candid vulnerability, we share personal narratives that highlight the often rocky path to aligning our actions with our innate knowledge of right and wrong, emphasizing that Christ's reach and grace know no bounds.

As we address the turmoil and triumphs of sexual connection, we propose a shift in conversation—seeing sex not as a need but as a celebration of the soulful ties that bind us. In doing so, we shed the shackles of obligation and chore, instead stepping into a space of mutual joy and enrichment.

This episode is an invitation to a more compassionate understanding of our sexuality, a call to nurture the next generation with a narrative of hope, devoid of shame, and rich in joy. We aim to inspire an approach to sexuality education that is imbued with the spirit of Jesus, drenched in grace, and leads to a deep, authentic connection—both with our partners and the divine.

So tune in, and let's journey together towards a world where every step in our sexual journeys is met with compassion, understanding, and a celebration of the beautiful, complex beings we are created to be.

Important Links

• Connect with Bonnie here: www.bonnieyoungcounseling.com
• Find a therapist through Azure Counseling: www.azurecounseling.com 
• Get Bonnie’s book Sex Educated.
• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Relive the inspiration from Chandler’s story here.
• Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here.
• Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact me at crishelle@reach10.org.
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

In this episode, we delve deep into the heart of faith, exploring the transformative power of Christ's love and the journey to find worthiness. Hear personal stories of redemption, struggles with self-worth, and the life-changing moments where grace shines its brightest. Join us as we discover the infinite love that Christ offers, and how it shapes our identity, purpose, and relationships. 

Alan Larsen joins to share his insights gained through years of serving with youth and young single adults as a bishop. Hear firsthand accounts of divine interventions that changed lives forever, serving as testaments to the miracles that Christ's unyielding love can bring. Whether you're a lifelong believer or just beginning your spiritual journey, this episode seeks to inspire a deeper understanding and appreciation of the boundless grace available to all.

In this Episode:

• Nourishing seeds vs. weeds
• Pornography as a “weed”
• Christ’s grace and mercy
• Anxiety vs. faithful action 
• The power of nourishing
• Contrast between worldly and Spiritual view of sexuality 
• Creation 
• Facing temptation and finding strength 
• Grace and worthiness
• The role of church leadership

Important Links

• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Relive the inspiration from Chandler’s story here.
• Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here.
• Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact me at crishelle@reach10.org.
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Are you caught in a cycle, repeating the same mistakes that are affecting your personal growth and the quality of your relationships? In this enlightening episode, Rachel and Crishelle unveil the curtain to a transformative journey of breaking free from these unyielding patterns.

Rachel, with her rich background in social work and pornography issues, teams up with Crishelle to bring you a blend of real-life experiences, professional insights, and research-backed strategies aimed at empowering you to foster change. They are armed not just with tools but the compassion and encouragement to reassure you that change, though a journey, is indeed within your grasp.

In a world that often labels and confines, this episode is a breath of fresh air, offering not just hope but practical steps to rewrite your story, to step out of the vicious cycle, and to build relationships that are rooted in understanding, respect, and love.

You're not alone on this journey. Unearth the possibilities of a life where you’re not defined by your past or current struggles. Dive into Rachel’s profound insights, the efficacy of the tools shared, and resonate with real stories of change and transformation.

Remember, every step towards change is a step towards freedom and flourishing relationships. Join Rachel and Crishelle in this empowering episode – because you are worth the journey, and so are your relationships.

Important Links:

• Connect with Rachel Denton here.
• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Relive the inspiration from Chandler’s story here.
• Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here.
• Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact us at hello@reach10.org.
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

In this riveting episode of "Breaking the Silence", join Crishelle as she engages in a heart-to-heart with the insightful Tammy Hill, diving deep into the realms of trust, intimacy, and the resilience of relationships. Tammy's wealth of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist comes alive as they traverse topics from the pivotal role of trust as the foundation of relationships to the transformational power of spiritual creation in our daily lives.

Learn about the intricate ties between trust and all facets of intimacy, be it emotional, spiritual, financial, or sexual. Tammy delves into practical strategies and impactful insights on rebuilding trust after setbacks, offering hope to those navigating the complexities of relational breaches.

With discussions that touch upon infidelity, sexual abuse, the importance of genuine apologies, and the power of daily "repairs", this episode promises a treasure trove of knowledge for anyone seeking to strengthen, salvage, or simply understand their relationships better.

Whether you're in the thick of relationship challenges or just keen to enhance your connection with your partner, this conversation serves as a beacon of light, offering guidance, understanding, and hope.

Show Notes:

• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Listen to Chandler’s story on Episode 2.2 here.
• Tammy’s website: https://www.tammyhill.com/ 
• Listen to Live Your Why - Tammy’s Podcast 
• Follow Tammy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tammy_hill_lmft/  
• Learn more about Tammy’s upcoming events: https://www.tammyhill.com/events-2/ 
• Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.
• Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact us at hello@reach10.org.
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Listen to learn what your role and what the bishop’s role is in helping you heal and change. Learn how to draw nearer to the Savior by meeting with your bishop and in all your interactions in your church community.  

Doug Kleven is a husband, father of 5 ranging from 22 to 10. Co-owner of Blue Valley Insurance. He likes watching baseball and boxing - specifically getting punched in the head. He is almost addicted to reading.  

Show Notes:

Email Doug at douglas@bluevalleyinsureance.net

Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence

Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series, Ecclesiastical Leader series, or share your story here.

Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!

Contact us at hello@reach10.org.

Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

If you are dating someone that is currently struggling with pornography but is taking the steps to recover, is there hope? Should I stay in the relationship? Should I run? If we were to get married, is this something that can be overcome or will I have to deal with this in the future forever? Listen to learn some principles to navigate these tough questions. Only you can know what is best for you. This episode will help you know how to move forward whether you are the person struggling with pornography or the person in a relationship with someone struggling with pornography. 

Rachel grew up in Portland and came to Utah for school. She graduated from the University of Utah with her masters in social work. Rachel worked with different agencies that specialize in pornography and addiction issues, including Fight the New Drug, until she had her adorable baby girl and decided to focus on her private practice. She is also on the board for Reach 10, the non-profit that makes this podcast possible. 

In this episode:

• Hope and opportunity for growth.
• Honesty and trustworthiness.
• Trusting yourself. 
• Creating and maintaining equal partnership.
• Will this be a forever problem?
• How to do “the work”.
• Is my partner who they say they are?

Show Notes:

• Find Rachel Denton here.
• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Listen to Chandler’s story on Episode 2.2 here.
• Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.
• Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact us at hello@reach10.org.
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Listen to learn how to create a marriage worth having through greater intimacy and fantastic sex. You and your spouse deserve it and can have it. Dan shares his story and principles that will help you and your spouse (or future spouse) create the best marriage possible. 

Dan and his wife Emily Purcell are the founders of Get Your Marriage On! They are on a mission to strengthen marriages by making love-making incredible and deepening couples’ connection through physical and emotional intimacy. They are the creator of the popular Intimately Us app that has been downloaded over 300,000 times. They host romantic retreat getaways for couples, host the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast, and coach couples on how to have a great sex life and deeper intimacy. 

Dan and Emily have been married for over 19 years and have 6 kids. Dan loves cracking dad jokes, running marathons, planning the next creative date night with his sweetheart, and enjoys the magnificent outdoors around their St George home.

Show Notes:

• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Listen to Chandler’s story on Episode 2.2 here.
• Dan’s website: https://getyourmarriageon.com/ 
• Listen to Get Your Marriage On 
• Follow Dan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/getyourmarriageon/ 
• The apps - Anatomy of Marriage, Intimately Us, Just Between Us, Life After Pornography: https://getyourmarriageon.com/our-apps/
• Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.
• Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact us at hello@reach10.org
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Shame can be demoralizing and keep someone stuck thinking they will never be lovable or worthy ever again. Madi shares her story in how she overcame the shame of being a young woman struggling with porn with courage and support. She has since started sharing her story to help other people know they aren’t alone and they are worth the fight. 

She runs a podcast called Sisters On The Front Lines, where she has young women share their stories about their struggles with pornography, and interviews experts on their insights. She is also a presidency member of the Unalone Club at BYU, a club dedicated to providing a space where those struggling with pornography/those supporting one who is struggling can come to share their burdens and feel "Unalone.” 

Show Notes:

Listen to Sisters on the Front Lines Podcast

Follow Madi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sistersonthefrontlines/

Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence

Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.

Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!

Contact us at hello@reach10.org.

Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: 
The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.