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    Why we become bored with our lives (and how to find joy again)

    en-usJune 11, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Habituation and Finding JoyUnderstanding habituation can help us recognize when we've grown too accustomed to aspects of our lives and find ways to bring back excitement through new experiences, noticing the world around us, and staying informed.

      Our brains have a tendency to get used to things, a phenomenon called habituation. This can make everyday life feel dull and uninspiring. However, understanding this tendency can help us disrupt our routines and find joy in our experiences once again. The cognitive neuroscientist Tali Sherritt explains that habituation is a natural response seen in all species and serves a purpose in helping us adapt to our surroundings. But, it's important to recognize when we've habituated to certain aspects of our lives and find ways to bring back the excitement. Tali, along with legal scholar Cass Sunstein, wrote a book called "Look Again: A New Approach to Life with the Art of Noticing" which offers tips on how to disrupt your routine and revitalize your life. So, whether it's through trying new things, traveling, or simply noticing the world around us with fresh eyes, there are ways to break free from the monotony and find pleasure in our everyday lives. Stay informed about the world around you with NPR's newsletters and podcasts, each offering unique perspectives on global events and political news.

    • Habituation and peak happinessPeople experience peak happiness during vacation around the 43-hour mark, but happiness decreases as they get used to their surroundings. To maintain joy, find a balance between exploration and exploitation, and intentionally change routines to rediscover familiar things.

      Even the greatest things in life can lose their excitement if they become too familiar. This idea is illustrated in an episode of The Twilight Zone, where a man is given infinite wealth and pleasures but eventually grows unhappy. Research shows that people experience peak happiness during vacation around the 43-hour mark, but happiness decreases as they get used to their surroundings. This phenomenon, called habituation, can lead us to constantly seek new experiences. However, constantly seeking new experiences can also limit our ability to fully appreciate the good things in life. The solution is to find a balance between exploration and exploitation, and to practice "disubituation" - making intentional changes to rediscover joy in familiar things. If you find yourself in a rut, try taking breaks or diversifying your routine to introduce new experiences and rediscover joy in the things around you.

    • Appreciation and JoyTaking breaks and inducing variety can help you appreciate the good things in life and experience greater joy. This can be achieved through physical or mental means, and new experiences or learning can put you in a state of joy.

      Introducing breaks and inducing variety in your life can help you appreciate the good things you have and experience greater joy. When you remove yourself from familiar environments or experiences, you can notice and appreciate them more upon returning. This can be achieved through physical breaks like vacations or mental breaks like reflection. Additionally, inducing variety through new experiences or learning something new can put you in a state of learning and induce joy. This concept is similar to religious practices that encourage gratitude and reflection. It's important to remember that true happiness and meaning in life often come from experiences rather than material possessions.

    • Material possessions vs experiencesExperiences bring more long-term joy as they are less prone to habituation, while new experiences and changing environments can increase joy and creativity

      Material possessions provide less long-term joy than experiences due to the faster habituation process. Experiences, such as going to a concert or trying a new hobby, may not last long but can bring joy every time we recall them. To increase joy and creativity, introduce more variety into your life through new experiences. Changing environments, even in small ways, can also boost creativity by disrupting habituation and encouraging new ways of thinking. However, be mindful of the impact of social media, which can contribute to anxiety and stress but the extent of its effect is not always clear.

    • Social media detox, life changesTaking a break from social media or making changes in life, no matter how small, can lead to increased happiness and better mental health. The initial discomfort often outweighs the long-term benefits, but the adjustment period can be challenging.

      Taking a break from social media or making changes in life, big or small, can have a positive impact on mental health and well-being. A study conducted by Hans Alcott showed that people who went off Facebook for a month reported increased happiness, less depression symptoms, and more real-life interactions. Another study by Stephen Levine found that people who made any kind of change, no matter how small, reported being happier on average. However, people tend to resist making changes due to fear, but the studies suggest that the benefits often outweigh the initial discomfort. It's important to remember that the adjustment period after making a change can be challenging, but with time, people tend to habituate and grow accustomed to their new circumstances.

    • Habituation vs changeHabituation can bring comfort but also neglect, assess feelings towards changes, add variety for progress, expect transition pains, balance routine and change

      Our ability to habituate to certain situations can have both positive and negative effects on our lives. While getting used to routine can bring comfort and stability, it can also lead to neglecting the things that truly matter to us and becoming desensitized to societal issues. To avoid this, it's important to periodically assess our feelings towards changes and evaluate what we still find negative after some time has passed. Additionally, incorporating more variety and change into our lives can help prevent the midlife slump and keep us feeling engaged and progressing. However, it's important to remember that transition pains after any change are normal and should be expected. Overall, finding a balance between routine and change is crucial for maintaining happiness and fulfillment in our lives.

    • Navigating life challengesExplore NPR's podcasts and news sources like LifeKit, Track Change, State of the World, and Consider This for guidance and information during life's challenges

      There are numerous resources available to help navigate life's challenges, whether it's starting a new hobby, making a difficult decision, or seeking to break free from cycles of addiction and incarceration. NPR offers podcasts like LifeKit and Track Change, as well as news sources like State of the World and the Consider This newsletter, to help keep listeners informed and engaged with the world around them. Take the time to explore these resources and don't hesitate to share your feedback or episode ideas. Remember, small steps can lead to significant progress and understanding.

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