Why Women are Attracted to "Bad Boys"

In this episode, I go deeper on the topic of codependency in parenting.

I talk about what codependency is and how it shows up in the parent/child relationship - through a lack of healthy boundaries, enmeshment, over-involvement, and more.  

Codependency in parenting also correlates to permissive parenting.  

Single parents need to be especially vigilant, as codependency can unconsciously cause them to treat the child as their spouse.  They may fill an internal void with the child's life and not give them space to develop their own sense of self.

I speak about the negative impacts codependency in parenting has on children and teenagers, and also speak about energetic cords and energetic standpoint of problems it can cause.

Ultimately, every step forward in your own healing of codependence will benefit your child (or future children).  I hope this episode is helpful for you; please reach out if you need support.

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

• Book a Free 30 Minute Call
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram
• Leigh-Anne's Website
• Substack Articles
• Free Guide: How to Choose a Partner Wisely

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.

Resources:

The Trap of Codependency + How to Break Free:

https://www.love-evolved.us/the-trap-of-codependecy.html

Here for the Truth Episode #167:  The Art of Conscious Relationships

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-for-the-truth/id1570026970?i=1000645752674

Sexual Sovereignty:

https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/towards-sexual-sovereignty-the-alchemical

The War on Love, Sex + Relationships:

https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/the-war-on-love-sex-relationships

The Rise of Narcissism with Dr. George Simon:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-conscious-relationships/id1589898399?i=1000625190054

Alfa Vedic #219 - Neo-Shamanism with Joel Schafer:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/alfacast/id1474419082?i=1000645915329

Book Recommendations:

Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody

The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary

The Purpose of Boys by Michael Gurian

This is a very special episode where I asked my client Alysondra Duke to share her story of building an incredible life of empowerment, self-love, expansion, and conscious relating.  Alysondra has come from a life that has not been easy - a tough childhood with less than ideal caregiving that led to relational wounding that impacted her adult relationships.  When we met, she was settling for way less than she deserved in relationships.  Now, with committed work and dedication to building a life that she is proud of, she is a completely different person.  I can't wait to share this inspiring conversation with you!

We talk about:

- How childhood dynamics with parents/caregivers imprint us and play out in our adult relationships
- Rebelling against being told you can't do something/be something (using it as fuel)
- The pattern of choosing unavailable partners and where this comes from
- The wound of 'needing to be chosen'
- People pleasing and needing to caretake others, abandoning our own needs
- Developing healthy self-love and self-worth as a foundation for healthy relationships
- Learning to put ourselves first when we are 'givers' or empaths
- Moving towards secure attachment from avoidant or anxious attachment
- Owning your patterns and healing them as a source of empowerment vs. being stuck in victim mentality
- The empath-narcissist dynamic and the importance of boundaries
- How gaslighting chips away at self-esteem and creates confusion and self-distrust
- Calling bad behavior what it is vs. being overly nice and accepting
- The 'high tolerance for bullshit' that is so common with empaths
- Spotting red flags and developing discernment while dating
- How to use the body as an instrument, tuning in to what it's telling you when you're around other people
- How trauma can impact our sexuality
- Watching our attraction patterns as we are healing (when we know we are typically attracted to partners who don't treat us well)
- Our grand visions for what incredible relationships look like

Connect with Alysondra below:

• Alysondra's Website
• Alysondra's Instagram

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

• Book a Free 30 Minute Call
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram
• Leigh-Anne's Website
• Substack Articles
• Free Guide: How to Choose a Partner Wisely

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast!

In this episode, I define this concept of sexual sovereignty that I've been speaking about over the past few months, offering a casual chat/intro to this work that I took much deeper on Substack. 

Here's the article I referenced - a great resource to take this work deeper.

Today I cover:

• Just as we are shaped and molded and conditioned throughout our life by external influences, our environment and everything around us, the same thing happens with our sexuality.
• What this means is, for those of us who are interested in getting to the truth of who we really are, the path from the false self to the true self, we should include a deep dive into our sexuality to find out what is true and what is not true for us.
• I don't hear many people talking about this, instead it's just a debaucherous celebration of anything goes and all urges running wild without questioning or caring where some of these impulses came from.
• I understand that there's a collective process happening and some people need to throw off the reigns when it comes to sexuality to explore.
• However, we also need to be aware that the larger forces that be are VERY intent on programming us in a certain direction.
• They are taking advantage of this collective urge and turning it haywire.
• What I see clearly within this is that there is an attack on love, sex, and relationships (I began talking about this in 2021).
• Within this, there is an attack on healthy, stable, long term monogamous relationships.
• And, there is an attack on God.  because all of this is very anti-life and anti-God.

Much more on all of this in today's episode.  As always, would love to hear your questions and comments, and I'll be speaking a lot more about sexuality and how we can elevate it moving forward.  Be in touch if you need support, you can book a free call with me below.

Connect with me below:

• Book a Free 30 Minute Call
• Website
• Instagram
• Substack
• Email List

I hope you enjoy this episode!  Please rate, review and subscribe to support this work.  

Thank you for listening!  I do this for you 🙏

In this powerful conversation with Khatija Dadabhoy, we speak about our undying love and devotion to men collectively, seeing their greatness and welcoming them into their greatness, despite both of us having very difficult and hurtful experiences with men.

We share our stories around relating with men, starting from childhood, why we feel like women still have faith despite being hurt, and what our grand visions are for the future of the relationship between men + women.

We also speak of:

• Our inner longing for redemption 
• Our desire keeps it alive, this continued search for union with men
• Women needing to be clear about what they really want from men - we are sending confusing mixed signals
• Men not trusting women’s word - how many women are not truthful and transparent in relationship about what they want, need, etc.
• The problem of men shapeshifting into what women want - instead, knowing who he is and operating from that place (and how this actually makes him trustworthy)
• Men stuck collectively in an immature dynamic, not fully mature men.  What is preventing them from growing into a full grown man taking responsibility, etc?  Lack of male initiations as in the past, and strong male mentors?
• Women:  checking our rescuer/caretaker (fine line between inspiring him and controlling him)

This was an important conversation where we try to see the bigger thing, take ownership for our part, and also reflect on where men can step up.  Let us know what you think - reach out to either of us with any comments or questions.  Thanks for listening!

References:

• Mikaal Bates on what his partner said to him
• Jeddy Azuma on men fearing emotional vulnerability
• Lorin Krenn on the willingness to do the work

Connect with Khatija below:

• Khatija's Instagram
• Khatija's Website

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

• Book a Free 30 Minute Call
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram
• Leigh-Anne's Website
• Substack Articles
• Telegram Group
• Grab the Free Guide: How to Choose a Partner Wisely

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.

Listeners have been asking me to share more of my personal story, and I speak about intergenerational trauma within the relationship between men + women and why I was literally born for this work.  This was a tough episode for me to record, but I hope it helps you to better understand where all of my work has emerged from, how it all ties together, and why I am devoted to this mission.

Sister Episode:  The War on Love, Sex + Relationships

Connect with me below:

• Book a Free 30 Minute Consult
• Love, Evolved - my website
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.  Thank you for listening!  I do this work for you.

I'm so happy to share this conversation that I had with my friend Katrina Hart, talking about the journey of evolution through integrating and working with the inner masculine (Carl Jung refers to this as animus integration).

This episode is for any woman who wants to learn more about working with the inner masculine for overall balance and harmony - both within herself and with relationships with others.  We speak about the importance of discernment, boundaries, logic, courageousness and overall strength.

When we develop our inner masculine in healthy ways, it can help hold our embodiment of the feminine principle at deeper levels.  This also helps us to learn the energetic agility to dance between both energetics as needed in our day to day lives - in addition to knowing the energetic signature of the healthy masculine so we can spot it in men if we are choosing partners.

Books:

The Archetypes and The Collective Unconscious - Carl Jung

Animus and Anima - Emma Jung

The Animus: The Spirit of Inner Truth in Women - Barbara Hannah

Nathan Martin - The Unity Process 

Mark Passio - The Unholy Feminine

Connect with Katrina via email - katrina@loveyoutobeyou.com

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

• Book a Free 30 Minute Consult
• Love, Evolved - my website
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.

In this episode, I speak about this huge problem that I see with the women who come to me for support - they continually get themselves involved with men who do not treat them very well.  The sexual attraction to these "bad boys" is so strong that despite their best intentions, they get pulled in and mixed up in very unhealthy relationships.

I talk about why this problem is so widespread, what we can do to rewire our sexual attraction so that we desire healthy, stable partners, and how to begin deconditioning ourselves from the programming that has influenced us around what traits are desirable in men.  

I also speak about the link between sexual abuse and trauma and how healing these wounds can help heal your sexuality by removing the mixed up abuse and sexual energy so that you can experience relationships filled with love and support while reclaiming your right to have a fulfilling sex life.

Links mentioned in this episode:

• Raise the Bar
• The War on Love, Sex + Relationships
• Mark Passio: The Unholy Feminine

Connect with me below:

• Book a Free 30 Minute Consult
• Love, Evolved - my website
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.

In Episode #30 of the Love, Evolved podcast, I welcome on a very special guest: Dr. George Simon.  Dr. Simon is the leading expert on manipulators, narcissists and other disturbed characters, and has studied this phenomenon for over 42 years. 

This episode is for you if you are a kind-hearted, compassionate individual who finds yourself getting taken advantage of in relationships.  

Dr. Simon and I speak about the rise of narcissism and what has contributed to this problem, what some of the common tactics that people with narcissism and other character disorders use to manipulate others, and how to protect yourself if you find that you get tangled up with these types of people.   Is the phrase, "Hurt people hurt people" always true?  And where are we with treating narcissism and character disorders today?  

This episode is one of the most important ones I have recorded to date.  Please keep in touch with Dr. Simon's work below, and contact me with any comments or questions.

Connect with Dr. George Simon:

• Website + Blog
• In Sheep's Clothing
• Character Disturbance
• The Judas Syndrome
• How Did We End Up Here?
• Essentials for the Journey

Connect with Leigh-Anne:

• The Empath-Narcissist Trap
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.  And please share this episode with others who need to know this information. Thanks for listening!

This episode is short and sweet, and is for you if you've ever shape shifted or molded yourself into someone you're not in order to get love (whether consciously or unconsciously, and especially during dating or the beginning stages of a relationship.) 

We've all done this, so there's no shame.  But there is a way out, especially because this usually comes back to bite us in the end.

In this episode, I speak all about the importance of authenticity and how to create relationships from the true self.  The payoff is worth everything.

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

• Love, Evolved - Leigh-Anne's website
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.

On this episode, Roy Wang and I speak about the theme of men, women, and power.  

What is true power vs. false power, and how can the journey towards empowerment sometimes look different for men and women?

How can power be a healthy goal for all of us, a spiritual journey, and an essential part of becoming integrated men and women?

We speak about so many different expressions of power: physical strength, beauty, authenticity, knowing your true self, and women as oracles.  

Ultimately, we believe that both men and women can both claim their unique gifts of power in order to help lift each other up vs. compete with each other.

This is an essential episode to listen to in order to understand how empowerment is our birthright, how returning to traditional gender roles may not be the way, and what the path forward can look like for collaborative relationships between men + women.

Roy Wang is a coach with a mission to help men end cycles of shame, discover their inner strength, awaken to their true self, and be of service to the world.

Please reach out to Roy or myself with any comments or questions - we would love to hear your thoughts on this discussion.

Connect with Roy below:

• Roy's website
• Roy's Instagram

Connect with Leigh-Anne below:

• Love, Evolved - Leigh-Anne's website
• Leigh-Anne's Instagram

I hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the work.