Have you ever heard of the Oscar Curse? Neither had I until I read an article about how many actors screw up their lives after winning the golden statuette.
What!? Wouldn't logic dictate otherwise?
After more research, I made a connection to a popular self-help theory: self-sabotage is most common when life is at its best. In The Big Leap, best-selling author Gay Hendricks calls this the "upper-limit problem."
So what is self-sabotage is this context exactly? What this means is we only feel comfortable with things going well in our lives for a certain period of time. When we hit our set threshold of happiness, something inside of us says, You don't deserve to be this happy, and we do something entirely subconsciously that cools our bliss and halts our forward trajectory.
This isn't intentional. Most people don't mean to screw things up on purpose. But sometimes, our sneaky, fundamental human fears get in the way. Hendricks says this type of self-sabotage is rooted in four hidden barriers that prevent us from fully enjoying success. This video shares what they are - and how to bust through them!
Where can you increase your happiness tolerance right now? What part of your life can benefit from you kicking off the artificial lid of how good things can be? Understanding that we have limited ourselves can release new energy in us. We view opportunities differently. We can see the present moment more clearly. We allow (and welcome) the flow of good feelings more fully.
Transcending your upper limits is possible. You can choose an upward spiral. Your very own big leap awaits.
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