Accidentally Intentional

Never thought I'd be making a reaction video, yet here we are. America is in a 'loneliness epidemic,' and this now-viral Atlantic article floored me with its new findings, as well as the implications for our social health. My goal is to destroy loneliness by teaching you how to build RICH relationships, so in this episode, we are walking through this article, and unpacking the necessary steps we ALL need to take to change direction.

Read this shocking article for yourself here.

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Let's be real - I know how frustrating it is to struggle with constantly getting defensive and having absolutely no idea how to fix it. I've watched so many videos on this topic to help my own defensiveness...and none of them give you actual tools and scenarios that you can apply and work through! This video is different. Using hundreds of hours of therapy, research, and practice in my own life, I've condensed it down to 9 steps that actually work to help us remain calm, and not jump to defense mode every time we're triggered. It's just you and me here, working on getting better at this whole relationship thing, step by step. I've been there (and find myself back here again very often), and if I can make these changes 2 degrees at a time, so can you. Let's tackle this together.

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

You found this video because the thing you want most is to find happiness in your relationships, and also in your own life. And maybe that's because you are currently NOT happy. Or want to be happier. You're not alone. In fact...this is me too. Here's the good news. In this video, we are discussing the 3 key ingredients to becoming happier, and also the 4 necessary goals one needs to have in their pursuit of happiness - straight from the research and science of happiness directly! Let's go.

A lot of what was discussed in this episode is from the work and research of Dr. Arthur Brooks, the Harvard Happiness Professor who has spent decades of his life researching happiness, and also wrote the NYT Best-Selling book " From Strength To Strength" and now just recently co-authored a book with Oprah: "Build The Life You Want."

If you want to hear more from Dr. Arthur Brooks, I recommend his Diary Of A CEO podcast episode and his interview on the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast. 

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Feel awkward in conversations and/or hate small talk? Then this video is for you. In this episode, Zoe shares her personal experience on how she learned to ask better questions, revealing 5 killer techniques that you can use today! We are exploring open-ended questions, emotional intelligence, the power of "what" and "how" oriented questions, and more, all to help to create meaningful connections.

Special thank you to this episode's sponsor: The Party Q's App, the FREE app that offers a HUGE variety of thought-provoking and conversation-starting questions to break the ice and get the party going. Party Q's is the ultimate wingman for your social life.
Available on the App Store and Google Play, as well as a web version for you to play right now! Download Party Qs today - You will love it!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

The opposite of anxiety is peace, and in today's episode with Dr. John Delony, we are talking through exactly how to build a non-anxious life and ultimately find peace, in ALL of your relationships. We're discussing the complexities of vulnerability in relationships, plus the difference between trust-building and oversharing. We're then exploring the consequences of the 'I don't want to bother people' mentality, the overuse of the term "toxic," and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Then, we are discussing how and where to find peace-filled safe connections, and Zoe gets called out on her anxiety, and what can be done to turn the anxiety alarms down in our life.

You can connect with Dr. John Delony on IG here, and snag his new best-selling book "Building A Non Anxious Life" wherever books are sold!

Special thank you to this episode's sponsor: The Party Q's App, the FREE app that offers a HUGE variety of thought-provoking and conversation-starting questions to break the ice and get the party going. Party Q's is the ultimate wingman for your social life. Available on the App Store and Google Play, as well as a web version for you to play right now! Download Party Qs today - You will love it!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Imagine heading into college anxious to have some awesome conversations to make new friends, only to realize...nobody is talking. At all. At least not to your face. It's a digital wasteland. All other eyes glued to a screen. Scrolling endlessly hoping to find a replacement for the human connection you're trying to offer. Conversation and communication as you know it screeches to a halt, and is replaced with social connection on Snapchat. This is the reality for Gen Z today.

In this engaging episode, Sean Killingsworth (founder of the Reconnect Movement) and Zoe dive into the challenges and solutions of our digitally saturated age, how Sean counters today's screen-time epidemic, even discussing his personal switch to a flip phone. Together, they explore the power and nuances of real-world conversations, the frustrations, and the hope for a better future. Join us to learn more about fostering genuine connections in today's digital era.

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Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Do you get overwhelmed and feel that you nearly have social anxiety in group settings? ME TOO. I had so much trouble with it that I had to create a system and technique to help me navigate building relationships in a group setting. Now, I am able to thrive, and make friends and build great relationships while being in a crowd, and in this episode, I'm showing you how you can too!

Special thank you to this episode's sponsor: The Party Q's App, the FREE app that offers a HUGE variety of thought-provoking and conversation-starting questions to break the ice and get the party going. Party Q's is the ultimate wingman for your social life. Available on the App Store and Google Play, as well as a web version for you to play right now! Download Party Qs today - You will love it!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

"Any day now...someone is going to figure it out. They'll discover I'm not who they thought I was. I'm a total fraud." This is your imposter syndrome talking, and you're certainly not alone. In this episode, we are talking with National Best-Selling Author & Speaker Christy Wright on how to demolish Imposter Syndrome so that it no longer holds back, so that you can do the dang thing (whatever said "thing" is for you). We then deep dive into how to launch a business post-covid, and how doing it scared is the absolute best thing you can do! You will feel encouraged and energize to take action after this episode!

To learn more about Christy's speaking courses, and get the free downloadable resource, click HERE.
Check out her podcast HERE.
Follow Christy on IG and thank her for being on the show! 

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

High school is NO JOKE. If you are in or about to enter high school this year, this video is for YOU. (And if not, please share this with a high schooler!) This is a virtual letter to high school me (sharing EVERYTHING I wish I knew, or had been told in high school). Why? Because, quite frankly you're worth it. And I'm so proud of how far you've already come.

You can hear my full bullying story here.
Feel awkward when meeting new people? This episode will help!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Crowdsourced from over 22 million people, we are discussing some really profound life tips of sort. The sooner we learn and apply these pieces of relationship advice in our own lives, the richer and deeper we will find all of our relationships to be!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

You may find yourself in this exact situation right now. Feeling ignored, abandoned, forgotten, and more. You're frustrated because you didn't do anything wrong, and want to know why its happening and what you can do next. In this episode, we cover what science actually reveals about this phenomena, as well as action steps you can take to preserve your friendship, and not let this current feeling have the final word.

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

I think it's safe to say that we honestly ALL want amazing relationships. The problem is, so often, we are the ones standing in our own way. So in this episode, speaking from personal experience and SO so many conversations with others in my life, I've gathered up 7 major assumptions/excuses/negative thoughts/limiting beliefs that we tend to believe and hold onto as truth, and then share 7 mindset shifts we NEED in order to unlock these awesome relationships we've been searching for.

Previous Accidentally Intentional episodes that were referenced in this one:
How To Be Less Awkward When Meeting Someone
10 Ways & Activities To Meet New People And Make New Friends

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

No matter how much or how little you know about AI, and regardless of how you feel about it...AI is here to stay. Will it take over our lives? What will it replace? Is the state of humanity and all of our relationships and connections doomed forever? We discuss all of it in this special edition episode, or more appropriately called a Relational Wealth State Of The Union address.

The A.I. podcast episode referenced in this video is from the Diary Of A CEO,  "E252: EMERGENCY EPISODE: Ex-Google Officer Finally Speaks Out On The Dangers Of AI! - Mo Gawdat" You can find it on YouTube wherever your listen to podcasts.

Special thank you to this episode's sponsor: The Party Q's App, the FREE app that offers a HUGE variety of thought-provoking and conversation-starting questions to break the ice and get the party going. Party Q's is the ultimate wingman for your social life. Available on the App Store and Google Play, as well as a web version for you to play right now! Download Party Qs today - You will love it!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

As a cultural commentator and social media influencer, Chris Durso often takes to social platforms to not just share his mind, but share what he believes are important truths with the masses, in effort to challenge and provoke thought in a new way. As you can imagine, this approach comes with constant backlash from many. In this episode, Chris shares how he became so bold, how he deals with being misunderstood, and so much more!

To follow Chris and see what he's culturally weighing in on, search @chrisdurso on IG.
To purchase his book "The Heist" click here.
To purchase his book "Misfit" click here.

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Grief is a hard topic, but unfortunately a necessary topic as well, since we will all experience grief in our lifetime, and probably can think of someone who currently is grieving as well. Our relationship with grief impacts how we show up in all of our other relationships, so I have brought Grief Coach Sherrie Dunlevy onto the podcast today to help improve our relationship with grief,  and how to best show up and support others who are grieving as well.

To learn more about Sherrie's work, click here.
Are you ready to graduate grief? Take the quiz here.
To learn more about Sherrie's "Graduating Grief" course, click here.
Get Sherrie's book, "How Can I Help?" here!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

In this short episode, Zoe discusses 10 of the best ways to meet new people and make new friends this. year, in a list curated by...you, the listeners!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Did you know that scientific research has actually proven the amount of hours it takes to make friends? But that's not the entire story. Separate research shows 3 types of interactions that are necessary to create meaningful relationships, and in this episode, we are covering it all! The amount of hours, the types of interactions necessary, and all that is necessary in order for you to commit to building deep relationships this year!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

According to an 80 year study (the longest study in recorded history), we now have scientific data to point towards what 4 types of friendships one needs in order to be happiest in life! So in this podcast episode, we outline what the 4 types are, the philosopher Aristotle's thoughts on friendship categories, and also where you can find these types of friendship in your life!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Maybe you're seeing all of the recent studies on loneliness and thinking to yourself: "this is me, and dang, I need to make some friends." If this IS you, you're not alone. Not even close. But it begs the question...what will it take to make genuine friends this year? This is the beginning of a 3 part series where we answer some of the biggest questions people have today around the idea of friendship.

Would you believe that a conclusive number has been scientifically revealed as to the healthy amount of friends we should have. We unpack the science and the results, as well as what you can do about it in this episode!

Chapter Markers
0:35 - Intro
1:47 - The 2 Types of People Asking This Question
2:41 - Introduction to the Dunbar Principle
3:35 - The "Core" Explained
6:01 - Close Friends Circle Explained
7:17 - Meaningful Contacts Circle Explained
7:52 - Acquaintance Circle Defined
9:17 - How Many People Do We Have the Capacity to Recognize?
9:43 - Signs of A Good Friend, According to BetterHelp
12:31 - Signs of A Bad Friend
14:25 - 2 Challenge Questions

Special thank you to this episode's sponsor: The Party Q's App, the FREE #1 Questions App for conversation starters! With over 2,000 curated questions, Party Q's is the ultimate wingman for your social life, and helps you PUNCH awkward silences in the face! Available on the App Store and Google Play, as well as a web version for you to play right now! Download Party Qs today - You will love it!

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Between trying to decipher what is a "good" food vs. an "unhealthy food, body shame, calorie counting, new food recommendations, and a now defunct food pyramid...the topic of food is CONFUSING. In fact, it is a Google search topic that a ton of people are searching for more answers on. And dietician Anna Rohar is here to set the record straight today to help us figure out how we can SIMPLIFY our understanding of food, and create a healthy relationship with it, which will ultimately positively impact all of our other relationships as well!

Special thank you to this episode's sponsor: The Party Q's App, the FREE app that offers a HUGE variety of thought-provoking and conversation-starting questions to break the ice and get the party going. Party Q's is the ultimate wingman for your social life. Available on the App Store and Google Play, as well as a web version for you to play right now! Download Party Qs today - You will love it!

0:00 - Intro
2:10 - How Should We Think About What We Eat?
3:56 - How Do We Learn The Balance Of When We Should Have Dessert?
6:08 - Why Do We Get So Offended When Someone Calls Out Our Food Choices?
8:08 - How To Know When and How TO Address Concerns Over Someone's Eating Habits
12:11 - How To Build A Healthy Relationship With Food?
14:21 - How To Get Out Of The Shame Spiral With Food?
15:29 - Foods That Give Us Energy vs. Slow Us Down
16:54 - How Can I Simplify Nutrition?
19:13 -  What Is Considered A "Good" Protein?
22:40 - Calories Are Scary! Why?
23:58 - Tips For What To Eat When Going Through A Physical Or Emotional Traumatic Event
27:14 - Do Nutritional Facts and Stats Tell the Whole Story?
29:39 - When Is Satisfying Cravings Actually Important?
33:31 - Fueling Your Body Correctly
35:33 - What To Do When Your Choices To Eat Healthier Are Unsupported At Home?

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher

Remember, you're worth having and building relational wealth! The connection you’ve been looking for is on the way, and it all starts by being Accidentally Intentional.

Did you know we also have a YouTube channel?! It's true, just for all of you lovers of visual formats! For the video version of this episode, head to the Accidentally Intentional YouTube channel!

Join the conversation and follow along on Instagram! I respond to DM's! Let's converse! Say hi, or share your biggest takeaways! I'm all ears! @accidentallyintentional or @zoeasher