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    Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox

    Buddhism for Everyone with JoAnn Fox is a weekly podcast that shares how to put the teachings of Buddhism into practice to be happier, more peaceful, or to become the spiritual warrior this world so desperately needs. JoAnn Fox has been teaching Buddhism for 17 years and does so with kindness and humor.
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    Episode 172 - Releasing Negative Self Concepts

    Episode 172 - Releasing Negative Self Concepts

    In Buddhism, the concept of "emptiness" (Sunyata) is a fundamental teaching that refers to the absence of inherent existence or independent selfhood. All things, including our self, are empty of inherent existence. The notion of a fixed, permanent, and independent self is an illusion.

     

    The concept of emptiness is closely associated with the teaching of dependent origination (Pratityasamutpada), which explains that all phenomena arise and exist dependently on other factors. In other words, everything in existence is interdependent and lacks a separate, inherent essence.

     

    When applied to the self, emptiness suggests that there is no autonomous, enduring self that exists apart from the ever-changing and interconnected nature of phenomena. Instead, the self is regarded as a fluid, composite entity, constantly influenced and shaped by various causes and conditions.

     

    Belief in a substantial, inherently existing self leads to attachment, craving, and suffering. It is a form of ignorance (avidya) that obscures the true nature of reality. By understanding emptiness of the self, one can overcome attachment, cultivate wisdom, and ultimately attain liberation from the cycle of suffering (Samsara).

     

    It is important to note that emptiness does not imply nihilism or the non-existence of the self. Rather, it emphasizes the lack of inherent, independent existence. The self does exist conventionally; it is a conventional designation. Understanding conventional truth, we see how labeling all the things in our world allow us to interact with each other and do things. The self we relate to is a product of interdependent causes—always changing—rather than an enduring, fixed entity.  

     

    Conventionally we do function in certain ways. Actions of body, speech and mind are generally beneficial, neutral, or harmful. Most actions are neutral: breathing, brushing our hair, driving unless we’re cutting someone off or something. If most of our actions are beneficial or neutral, that would cause people to label us as a good person. If a person does profoundly harmful things to others, with few good actions and many neutral actions, people would probably label them a bad person. Someone who frequently steals or physically abuses their partner, for example, might be labeled a bad actor who needs to be off the streets. But if that same bad actor turned his life around and started performing many good and beneficial actions while stopping their harmful actions, they would then be labeled a good person. 

     

    Labels like good and bad are not stuck to a person, they aren’t inherent, because the way a person functions changes. All the labels we’ve been called from “hardworking” to “angry” only exist for as long as we function in a way that supports that label. We can change. We aren’t inherently anything. 

     

    A blade can be used to kill someone in anger, then it’s a weapon, or it can be used as a tool to cook a nutritious meal. The blade could be a surgical instrument to remove a tumor. Whether we call it a weapon or a tool for good depends on how it is used. That is the same with our body and minds. Do we mainly use our speech as a tool for good or a weapon?

     

    Because we are an empty self, we can change and function in any way we choose. By changing certain ways we function, we will be able to let go of painful labels and exist in more healthy ways. To look honestly at ways we are functioning that harm ourselves or others requires compassion for ourselves. Compassion is the wish that someone doesn’t suffer, and it is a warm, loving mind. Practicing this self compassion helps us to see that we are a Buddha in the making, currently caught in the thorns of anger, attachment, and ignorance. Rather than grasping at our deficiency, we try to develop the compassion that sees our limitations as temporary. In fact, we simply need to create the causes to experience the permanent peace and bliss of enlightenment. Buddha taught that for all beings, our destiny is enlightenment. 

     

    Anyone who doesn’t cherish as “mine” Anything of body-and-mind 

    And who doesn’t grieve for that which doesn’t exist, 

    Is indeed called a bhikkhu. (367)*

    --Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011, pp. 78 (Link)

     

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy .of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

    https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=367




    Episode 171 - Wisdom, The Antidote To All Suffering

    Episode 171 - Wisdom, The Antidote To All Suffering

    Wisdom realizing emptiness is the realization that leads directly to enlightenment. This wisdom is also the direct remedy for all the misguided notions we harbor about our identity and the true nature of the world. As long as we carry the weight of these misconceptions, we find ourselves ensnared within a realm of self-imposed illusions, doomed to endlessly wander in the cycle of discontent we have forged. 

     

    The Buddhist concept of "empty of inherent existence" is a fundamental teaching that all phenomena, including ourselves and the world around us, lack inherent or independent existence. This means that nothing possesses an essential, fixed, or unchanging nature.

     

    According to Buddhism, everything is interdependent and arises due to various causes and conditions. Objects, people, and experiences are not isolated entities with inherent qualities, but rather temporary and contingent manifestations. They are composed of multiple parts and are influenced by countless factors.

     

    The concept of emptiness challenges our ordinary way of perceiving and conceptualizing reality. It invites us to recognize the illusory nature of inherent existence and to transcend our attachment to fixed ideas and identities. By understanding that things lack inherent existence, we can cultivate wisdom, alleviate suffering, and develop a more accurate and compassionate view of the world

     

    “Not coincidentally, he had gone from an inner-hell-realm experience to that of a pure realm (the Tibetan equivalent of heaven), even though his outer circumstances hadn’t changed. The Buddha taught that to live from our small sense of self (ego, meaning “I” in Latin) is a recipe for misery. To live with a vast sense of Self that includes all sentient beings is a recipe for happiness.”

     

    Anyone who doesn’t cherish as “mine” Anything of body-and-mind 

    And who doesn’t grieve for that which doesn’t exist, 

    Is indeed called a bhikkhu. (367)*

    --Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011, pp. 78 (Link)

     

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy .of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

    https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=367




    Episode 170 - Freedom from Envy

    Episode 170 - Freedom from Envy

    In Buddhism, envy is considered a painful state of mind because it arises from a fundamental misunderstanding of the nature of reality and the origin of happiness.

    Envy is rooted in the belief that one's own happiness and well-being are dependent on the possessions, achievements, or circumstances of others. This belief leads to comparison with others and a sense of inadequacy or lack, which actually causes the suffering of envy. Happiness and suffering both depend on the mind

    Envy is one of the 16 defilements of the mind. Envy can lead to negative actions and harmful behaviors towards others. These harmful actions create negative karma, perpetuating the cycle of suffering.

     

    In Buddhism, the path to freedom from envy involves cultivating a sense of contentment and gratitude for what one has, rather than longing for what others have. 

     

    Envy involves just two people, you and tge one who seems to have something you want. Such envy between you and a friend or if-worker separates them from your Lovingkindness. This ten year comes from discontent 

     

    Envy Antidote content, gratitude. Rejoicing 

     

    Jealousy antidote identify where it’s coming from. Rejoice in their happiness. Your love should make them feel free




    Jealousy with a partner creates a separation from them, where you don’t really care about their happiness or freedom. Jealousy comes from insecurity 

     

    One shouldn’t scorn what one has received, 

    Nor envy others. 

    The mendicant who envies others 

    Doesn’t become concentrated. (365)* 

     

    The gods praise the mendicant 

    Who lives purely and untiringly 

    And who doesn’t scorn 

    What he or she receives, 

    Even if receiving just a little. (366)

     

    Envy versus contentment 

    Envy = desire for what another has mixed with some anger toward that person

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011, pp. 78 (Link)

     

    Great Treatise on the Stages of the Path to Enlightenment, by Je Tsongkhapa, Volume 1. Pages 224-225. Translated by the Lamrim Chenmo Translation Committee. Joshua Cutler, Editor-in-Chief, and Guy Newlan, Editor.

     

    Simmer-Brown, J (2015). Transforming the Green-eyed Monster. Tricycle Magazine. Retrieved from https://tricycle.org/magazine/transforming-green-eyd-monster/

     

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    Episode 169 - Transforming Ordinary Life Into Spiritual Training

    Episode 169 - Transforming Ordinary Life Into Spiritual Training

    Many of us may have a spiritual practice but often struggle to maintain it amidst the hustle and bustle of our daily routines. Whether it's work, family, or simply the demands of modern life, it can be challenging to find the time and space for our spiritual practice. In this episode, we focus on the practice of lovingkindness, also known as Metta, and explore how it can help us integrate our spiritual practice into our daily lives. Lovingkindness is a meditation practice that involves sending love, kindness, and goodwill to ourselves, loved ones, acquaintances, and even strangers.

     

    The practice of lovingkindness can be used in various contexts, such as at work, with family and friends, and even with strangers. The benefits of this practice are profound: increased compassion, empathy, and resilience.

     

    The mindfulness practice suggested for the week is to integrate Lovingkindness into the main rivers of our lives. We might choose to practice with our close family in our household, job, extended family, or our neighbors. We contemplate how we can practice lovingkindness with them specifically, imagining what actions or mindsets we can develop toward them. We then use mindfulness to remember our determination to practice Lovingkindness in this way, transforming the rivers of our lives into spiritual training. 

     

    Loving Kindness practice:

    May you have happiness and the causes of happiness. 

    May you be free of suffering and the causes of suffering.”

     

    The Story of the monk Dhammarama

     

    Upon hearing of the Buddha's upcoming Parinibbana in four months, most of the monks without high realizations were depressed and stayed close to the Buddha. However, the monk called Dhammarama aimed to attain enlightenment before the Buddha's passing. He ardently practiced Insight Meditation in solitude. Some of the other monks, however, misunderstood his behavior..

     

    These monks brought Dhammarama to the Buddha, saying he showed no affection or reverence for him. Dhammarama explained to the Buddha that he aimed to attain enlightenment before Buddha’s Parinibbana and had been alone practicing Insight Meditation. Buddha was very pleased and said, "My son, Dhammarama, you have done very well. A bhikkhu who loves and respects me should act like you. Those who made offerings of flowers, scents and incense to me are not really paying me homage. Only those who practice the Dhamma are the ones who truly pay homage to me." Then the Buddha spoke in verse as follows:

     

    The bhikkhu who abides in the Dhamma, 

    who delights in the Dhamma, 

    who meditates on the Dhamma, 

    and is ever mindful of the Dhamma, 

    does not fall away from the Dhamma of the virtuous. (Verse 364)

     

    At the end of the discourse Thera Dhammarama attained enlightenment.

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

    https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=364



    Je Tsongkhapa. Great Treatise on the Stages of the Path to Enlightenment, by Je Tsongkhapa, Volume 2. Translated by the Lamrim Chenmo Translation Committee. Joshua Cutler, Editor-in-Chief, and Guy Newlan, Editor, pp 41-43.

     

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    Episode 167 - How Not To Cause Harm

    Episode 167 - How Not To Cause Harm

    One of the principle tenets of Buddhism is to try to avoid harming living beings. To avoid harming others we generally need to practice restraint out of lovingkindness. It’s just too easy to inadvertently hurt others, or not foresee the consequences of our actions. Even spiritual practitioners, wishing not to cause harm, have to mindfully practice restraint motivated by kindness. 

    The story of the monk who killed a swan

    “Once there was a bhikkhu [monk] who was very skilful in throwing stones; he could even hit fast-moving objects without fail. One day, while sitting with another bhikkhu after having their bath in the Aciravati River, he saw two swans flying at some distance. He told his friend that he would get one of the swans by throwing a stone at it. At that instant, the swan, hearing voices, turned its neck and the bhikkhu threw a pebble at the bird…The bird cried out in pain and agony and dropped dead at the feet of the young bhikkhu.

    Other bhikkhus seeing the incident took the young bhikkhu to the Buddha. The Buddha reprimanded him and said, "My son, why have you killed this bird? Why especially you, a member of my Order, who should be practising loving-kindness to all beings and who should be striving ardently for liberation from the round of rebirths? Even during the period outside the Teaching, the wise practised morality and observed the precepts. A bhikkhu must have control over his hands, his feet and his tongue." 

    Then the Buddha spoke in verse as follows:

     

    The one with Hands restrained, 

    Feet restrained, 

    Speech restrained,

    Who is foremost among the restrained, 

    Inwardly delighted, 

    Composed, 

    Solitary, 

    And contented,

    Is called a bhikkhu. (Verse 362)

    —Buddha, The Dhammapada 



    The Buddha gave a talk on the 11 benefits of loving-kindness meditation, and according to this article, some of which are now supported by science (Nash, 2019).

    11 Benefits of Practicing Lovingkindness 

    You sleep well.

    You awaken refreshed.

    You don’t have bad dreams.

    Other people regard you with affection.

    Animals and pets regard you with affection.

    Celestial beings protect you.

    You will be free from injury from fire, weapons, and poison.

    You can concentrate quickly.

    You have a bright complexion.

    You will die peacefully, free of fear and agitation.

    If you fail to attain enlightenment, you will have a pleasant rebirth (Nash, 2019).

    References and Links

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

    https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=362

     

    Nash, J, Ph.D. (2019). What is Loving-kindness Meditation. PositivePsychology.com. https://positivepsychology.com/loving-kindness-meditation/

     

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    Episode 166 - Restraint

    Episode 166 - Restraint

    The practice of restraint is a crucial part of the Buddhist path to enlightenment. It involves abstaining from harmful thoughts, speech, and actions that lead to suffering for oneself and others. In this episode, we look at the practice of restraint to protect and help ourselves. The Buddha speaks so much about the wisdom of guarding the sense doors and practicing restraint. For if we don't practice restraint at all, we have no control over where our life is headed. We are like a wheel spinning out of control.

     Guarding the sense doors: 

    • eye, ear, nose, tongue, body and mind

    Restraint is part of the practice of ethical discipline, one of the three pillars of Buddhist training, along with universal compassion and wisdom. Restraint is essential for cultivating virtue and good karma and developing a calm and focused mind. By restraining from harmful actions, we purify our minds and develop a sense of self-control and discipline.

     In Buddhism, the practice of restraint is guided by the Five Precepts, which are basic ethical guidelines that many lay followers vow to live by. 

     These Five Precepts are:

    1. Refrain from taking the life of any living being

    2. Refrain from taking what is not given

    3. Refrain from engaging in sexual misconduct

    4. Refrain from false speech

    5. Refrain from taking intoxicants that cloud the mind

     In addition to the Five Precepts, there are other guidelines for restraint, such as refraining from harsh speech, divisive speech, and gossip. The practice of restraint is not just about avoiding negative actions, but also about cultivating positive qualities such as kindness, generosity, and compassion, which we will look at in the next episode. 

     The Week's Mindfulness Practice of Restraint 

    In your life as it is now, is there Anything you should practice restraint with? Is there Anything you're doing that feeds non-virtue? Are there habits that are harmful to yourself or others?

    Examples of guarding the sense doors:

    • The ear: Is there some way you should practice restraint in listening? For example, someone may have a bad effect on you; when you talk at length, it encourages you to be angry at others. 

    • Nose and tongue: restraint regarding food

    • Body: restraint in body, sex, stealing, killing, hurting

    • Mind: restraint of mind, refrain from thinking and dwelling on something that causes delusion

     JoAnn suggests choosing one way to practice restraint in the coming week. Specifically, select the practice of restraint that will bring you the most benefit and peace. You may find that restraint looks like moderation, or it could mean restraining completely from something.

    In daily practice, watch for the moment when restraint is called for. Then, with mindfulness, practice restraint as you've planned. But don't be hard on yourself when you slip up! Progress is progress; perfection is enlightenment (and we aren't there yet).

     The Story of Five Monks

     

    “While residing at the Jetavana monastery, the Buddha uttered Verses (360) and (361) of this book, with reference to five bhikkhus [monks].

     Once there were five bhikkhus in Savatthi. Each of them practised restraint of just one out of the five senses and each of them claimed that what he was practising was the most difficult. There were some heated arguments over this and they could not come to an agreement. Finally, they went to the Buddha to ask for his decision. The Buddha said to them, "Each of the senses is just as difficult to control as the other; but all bhikkhus must control all the five senses and not just one. Only those who control all the senses would escape from the round of rebirths."

     Then the Buddha spoke in verse as follows:

     Restraint in the eye is good, good is restraint in the ear; restraint in the nose is good, good is restraint in the tongue. (Verse 360)

     

     Verse 361: Restraint in body is good, good is restraint in speech; restraint in mind is good, good is restraint in all the senses. A bhikkhu [monk] restrained in all the senses is freed from all ills. (Verse 360) 

    Source

     References and Links

     Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

    https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=360

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    Episode 165 - The Jewel of Spiritual Community

    Episode 165 - The Jewel of Spiritual Community

    Wealth destroys those who lack in wisdom, But not those who seek the beyond. Craving wealth, those lacking wisdom Destroy themselves As well as others. (355) 

     

    Weeds are the ruin of fields; Passion is the ruin of people. So offerings to those free of passion Bear great fruit. (356) 

     

    Weeds are the ruin of fields; Ill will is the ruin of people. So offerings to those free of ill will Bear great fruit. (357) 

     

    Weeds are the ruin of fields; Delusion is the ruin of people. So offerings to those free of delusion Bear great fruit. (358) 

     

    Weeds are the ruin of fields; Longing is the ruin of people. So offerings to those free of longing Bear great fruit. (359)

     

    The Sangha is one of the Three Jewels of Buddhism, alongside the Buddha and the Dharma (the teachings of the Buddha). Traditionally, the Sangha is comprised of monastics, spiritual teachers, bodhisattvas and enlightened beings. Taking refuge in the Three Jewels is considered the doorway into Buddhism, the way to become a Buddhist. Even if one has no intention of becoming a Buddhist, refuge in a teacher, the teachings, and a spiritual community is a fundamental step towards simply attaining inner peace. But refuge can be seen as the first step, or realization, toward attaining enlightenment, complete liberation from suffering.

     

    The Sangha plays an important role in Buddhist practice. It provides a supportive community for practitioners to learn from and practice with. So we can say that the people we practice with and the teachers we learn from are part of our Sangha, spiritual community.

     

    The Sangha also creates a field of merit. Merit refers to “good karma.” When you have seen people, perhaps on TV,  visit monasteries and make offerings to monks and nuns, they are making offerings to the field of merit in order to create exceptionally powerful “good karma.” But we can create good karma towards the field of merit in many ways. For example, the Buddha or any Buddhist spiritual teacher, would be so happy for you to practice patience or compassion as an offering. This episode explains many ways we can create good karma towards the field of merit and practical ways to build or strengthen Sangha, a spiritual community, for ourselves.

     

    Wealth destroys those who lack in wisdom, But not those who seek the beyond. Craving wealth, those lacking wisdom Destroy themselves As well as others. (355) 

     

    Weeds are the ruin of fields; Passion is the ruin of people. So offerings to those free of passion Bear great fruit. (356) 

     

    Weeds are the ruin of fields; Ill will is the ruin of people. So offerings to those free of ill will Bear great fruit. (357) 

     

    Weeds are the ruin of fields; Delusion is the ruin of people. So offerings to those free of delusion Bear great fruit. (358) 

     

    Weeds are the ruin of fields; Longing is the ruin of people. So offerings to those free of longing Bear great fruit. (359)

    --Buddha, The Dhammapada



    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

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    Episode 164 - Taking Refuge in Dharma

    Episode 164 - Taking Refuge in Dharma

    Taking refuge in the Dharma means we turn to the spiritual teaching of Buddha to help us solve our problems to alleviate pain. It means we commit to working on ourselves. Having taken refuge in the Dharma, reality itself becomes our greatest teacher. If we see everything as an opportunity for learning and growth, everything we experience becomes usable on our path toward freedom. We find solutions to our problems inside. 

     

    People turn to many sources of false refuge: drugs or alcohol, relationships, television, food…the list of possibilities is endless. You find that false sources of refuge cause more problems, unwanted side effects, and give only the briefest relief. Sometimes they just cause suffering when you hope for relief. 

     

    There is a four point way to check whether what you are turning to is false refuge or real refuge:

    1. Does it create any unwanted side effects or more problems?

    2. Does it address the real source of the problem?

    3. Does it create peace in the mind?

                4. .       Does it always give you relief when you turn to it? 

     

    If you answered yes to all four questions = real refuge 

    If you answered no to any of these questions = false refuge 

     

    To engage in the mindfulness practice offered in this episode, we try to solve some recurrent problem in our life by going for refuge to dharma by putting the teachings of Buddha into practice. We might respond with real refuge by developing compassion, practicing patience, or observing how our mind is creating the problem (wisdom). 

     

    We can also check and mindfully observe when we are taking false refuge. For example, we can ask ourselves in a moment if observation, is what I'm doing now false refuge, does it have unwanted side effects, or cause more problems? Each of us can discover the real refuge or solution for ourselves. What a relief! 

     

    The gift of Dharma surpasses all gifts. 

    The taste of Dharma surpasses all tastes. 

    The delight in Dharma surpasses all delights. 

    The destruction of craving conquers all suffering. (354)

    --Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

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    Episode 163 - Refuge in Buddha

    Episode 163 - Refuge in Buddha

    At the start of this three part series on Refuge, this episode explores what it means to take refuge in Buddha. The most simple way to take refuge in Buddha means relying on Buddha as a teacher. This requires studying and applying dharma in daily life, which leads to an understanding that dharma and daily life are inseparable. 

     

    To take refuge to a deeper level, what is called ultimate refuge in Buddha, means to identity with our Buddha-nature, to take inspiration from beings who were once just like us but are now enlightened, and follow their teachings. At this point, we start identifying ourselves with the enlightened beings of the past, present, and future. We see them as examples of what we can become and as guides to that same state of awakening. Right now awakening is just a seed, but this seed is indestructible. Awakening is in our nature, indestructible, just as sleeping and waking are irrevocably part of our daily rhythm. 

     

    To say, “I take refuge in Buddha” means I put my faith in my Buddha-nature, not a man who lived in India 2500 years ago. The meaning of the man who attained enlightenment in ancient India is that he points to what we can do and what he can teach us. This is similar to what we do when we take any teacher. If we want to learn to paint with watercolors, we find a teacher whose skill we believe in, and we learn from them. What we’re trying to learn from Buddha is how to experience our real nature. And to have faith in Buddha is to have faith in our pure nature and potential.

     

    When we take refuge in Buddha this way, as revealing our Buddha-nature, we identify with our indestructible seed of enlightenment. At the moment it may seem like that seed is dormant in a field of weeds, with thorny trees and patches burnt to the ground. But if we see examples like Buddha and take refuge in Buddha's teachings by practicing them, that seed begins to sprout and then take root. The more we believe in our basic goodness, the more inspired we are to nurture that pure seed. And soon the seed becomes a sapling and then a great tree of wisdom that shelters other living beings beneath it. 

     

    Through refuge in Buddha, great compassion, great wisdom, and great skill will take root in us so that we ourselves come to embody these qualities. Eventually, from refuge in Buddha as a guide, we ourselves become the teacher, the Buddha, and, as such, can give immeasurable help to all beings.

     

    “I am all-conquering, all-knowing, 

    Stained by nothing. 

    Letting go of everything, 

    Released through the destruction of craving 

    And having known directly on my own, 

    Whom could I point to [as my teacher]?” (353)*

    --Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011, pp. 78 (Link)

     

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    Episode 162 - Overcoming Fear

    Episode 162 - Overcoming Fear

    Fearlessness is much talked about in Buddhism, particularly the idea of becoming fearless. In this episode we look at that which causes us fear, antidotes to fear, and tapping into our own bravery.  It’s important to begin a discussion on fear according to Buddhism, to understand that Buddha distinguished between skillful fear and unskillful fear. Skillful fear can be a helpful tool to motivate us towards skillful action, like a person who sees a train barreling down the track and feels fear of sitting on the tracks. If the fear is unskillful, however, it leads us to unskillful action instead. This episode explores unskillful fear and how to overcome it. 

     

     When we look at things which cause us unskillful fear, they range from:

    • fear of things which may or may not happen 

    • fear of the unpleasantness of things which will happen, like aging 

    • fear for those we love 

     

    The Story of Mara Trying to Frighten the Buddha’s Son 

     

    “While residing at the Jetavana monastery, the Buddha uttered Verses (351) and (352) of this book, with reference to Mara who had come to frighten Samanera Rahula, son of Gotama Buddha.

     

    On one occasion, a large number of monks arrived at the Jetavana monastery where Buddha was staying, together with his followers and his son, Rahula. To put up the guest monks Rahula decided to go and sleep near the door, just outside the chamber of the Buddha. Mara, representing a devil figure, wanting to annoy the Buddha through his son, took the form of an elephant and encircling the head of the samanera with his trunk made an alarming noise hoping to frighten him. But Rahula was unmoved. The Buddha, from his chamber, knew what was happening, and said, "O wicked Mara! Even a thousand such as you would not be able to frighten my son. My son has no fear, he is free from craving, he is vigilant, he is wise."

     

    Then the Buddha spoke in verse as follows:

     

    Verse 351: He who has attained arahatship [Buddhahood] is free from fear, free from craving, and free from moral defilements. He has cut off the thorns of existence (such as lust). This is the last existence (for him).

     

     

    Verse 352: He who is free from craving and from attachment, who is skilled in the knowledge of the significance of terms, who knows the grouping of letters and their sequence is indeed called "one who has lived his last, a man of great wisdom, a  great man."

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

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    Episode 161: Manifesting Dreams and Goals

    Episode 161: Manifesting Dreams and Goals

    Sometimes we find it hard to reach goals or put effort into things we desperately want to improve. Why is this—when the wish is there? Attachment to what is meaningless or nonvirtuous might be the obstacle when the wish to change is there but effort is lacking. For example, someone might want to improve their health, but they’re also  attached to relaxing on the couch after work rather than exercising. Someone might deeply wish to improve their relationship, but they’re also attached to playing videos games rather than spending time with their loved one. 

     

    We only have a limited amount of time to devote to what is truly important to us. A turning point comes when we decide to put energy into our most important goals.  Check out this episode to discover how to clear the path to attaining what we value most.

     

    Verse 349: In a man who is disturbed by (sensual) thoughts, whose passions are strong, and who keeps seeing objects as being pleasant, craving grows more and more. Indeed, he makes his bondage strong.

     

     

    Verse 350: A man who takes delight in calming (sensual) thoughts, who is ever mindful, and meditates on the impurity (of the body, etc.) will certainly get rid (of craving); this man will cut the bond of Mara.

     

    At the end of the discourse, the young bhikkhu attained Sotapatti Fruition.”

    Source

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

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    Episode 160 - Attachment To What Is Non-virtuous

    Episode 160 - Attachment To What Is Non-virtuous

    Buddha said, “with effort, we have all attainments.” We can achieve any goal, no matter how lofty, with enough continued effort, even becoming a bodhisattva and attaining enlightenment. So why do such noble goals seem so hard to achieve? Because there are obstacles to effort, and, often, they playa do,I aTM role in our life. 

     

    The three main obstacles to effort are as follows:

    • Procrastination 

    • Discouragement 

    • Attachment to what is meaningless or non-virtuous 

     

    It is said that if you have one of these obstacles, you have all three. In this episode, we look at attachment to what is meaningless or non-virtuous, and how it keeps us from putting energy into what is most important to us. The weekly mindfulness practice that follows is to watch our mind and see how attachment is functioning to impede the attainment of important goals and investing effort into what we value most.

     

    The Story of Culadhanuggaha, speaks of attachment impeding one young monk’s goals to keeping his vows.

     

    “While residing at the Jetavana monastery, the Buddha uttered Verses (349) and (350) of this book, with reference to a young bhikkhu, who was a skilful archer in one of his previous existences.

     

    Once a young bhikkhu took his alms-food in one of the shelters specially built for bhikkhus in town. After his meal he felt like drinking water. So he went to a house and asked for some drinking water, and a young woman came out to give him some water. As soon as this young woman saw the young bhikkhu she fell in love with him. Wishing to entice him, she invited the young bhikkhu to come to her house whenever he felt thirsty. After some time, she invited him to her house for alms-food. On that day, she told him that they had everything they could wish for in the house, but that there was no male to look after their affairs, etc. Hearing those words, the young bhikkhu took the hint and he soon found himself to be more and more attached to the young, attractive woman. He became very much dissatisfied with his life as a bhikkhu and was getting thin. Other bhikkhus reported about him to the Buddha.

     

    The Buddha called the young bhikkhu to his presence and said to him, "My son, listen to me. This young woman will be your undoing just as she had been to you in a previous existence. In one of your previous existences you were a very skilful archer and she was your wife. On one occasion, while the two of you were travelling, you came upon a gang of highwaymen. She fell in love with the gang leader. So, while you and the gang leader were engaged in fighting and you called out to her to give you the sword, she gave the sword to the robber who promptly killed you. Thus, she was the cause of your death. Now, too, she will be the cause of your ruin if you go after her and leave my Order for her sake."

     

    Then the Buddha spoke in verse as follows:

     

    Verse 349: In a man who is disturbed by (sensual) thoughts, whose passions are strong, and who keeps seeing objects as being pleasant, craving grows more and more. Indeed, he makes his bondage strong.

     

     

    Verse 350: A man who takes delight in calming (sensual) thoughts, who is ever mindful, and meditates on the impurity (of the body, etc.) will certainly get rid (of craving); this man will cut the bond of Mara.

     

    At the end of the discourse, the young bhikkhu attained Sotapatti Fruition.”

    Source

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

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    Episode 159 - Let Go Of The Past Present and Future

    Episode 159 - Let Go Of The Past Present and Future

    One way of practicing non-attachment can be expressed with the popular phrase, “Let go.” In verse 348 of the Dhammwpada, Buddha says, “ Let go of the past, 

    let go of the future, let go of the present.” But what does it mean to let go? When we are attached to something, we are attached because of the way we’re thinking about it. For example, we don't suffer today because of what someone did to us in the past, but because of the resentment we are have thinking about it. If we worry about not having enough money in the future, it's not because that will actually happen (for how would we know), but because of how of we're thinking. To stop the suffering that comes with attachment to things of the past, present, and future, we first identify the obsessive or painful way we think about them. Then we find a new way to think about them that beings us peace and contentment rather than pain and longing. I like to call the practice:

     

    “Let go into peace.”

     

    This practice of non-attachment involves mindfully noticing the disturbing way of thinking, then replacing it with a beneficial way of thinking. In the example above with a past resentment, when we catch ourselves thinking about what someone did and it causing a painful feeling to arise, we change our thoughts to compassionate ones about that person who harmed us. We let go of resentment into something beneficial, compassionate. 

     

    Some ways to practicing letting go into something beneficial:

     

    • Let go of the past: forgive yourself, forgive others. Let go into lessons learned.
    • Let go of regrets and guilt. If we understand impermanence, we know we’re not even the same person. Let go into compassion for our self and lessons learned.
    • Let go of the present; let go of expectations so you can enjoy. 
    • Let go of the present and practice contentment. Enjoy the wonder of the moment. 
    • Let go of the future and stop worrying. Have hope. Have faith that you can handle anything that comes. 
    • Let go of the future, wishing for something obsessively, greener grass, and enjoy what you have. Let go and practice gratitude and contentment. 

     

    The verse Buddha spoke about keep letting go car from the story of Uggasena that follows. 

     

    The Story of Uggasena

     

    “While residing at the Jetavana monastery, the Buddha uttered Verse (348) of this book, with reference to Uggasena, a rich man's son who fell in love with a dancer.

     

    Once, a wandering theatrical troupe consisting of five hundred dancers and some acrobats came to Rajagaha and performed on the grounds of the palace of King Bimbisara for seven days. There, a young dancer who was the daughter of an acrobat sang and danced on top of a long bamboo pole. Uggasena, the young son of a rich man, fell desperately in love with this dancer and his parents could not stop him from marrying her. He married the young dancer and followed the troupe. As he was not a dancer nor an acrobat, he was not of much use to the party. So, as the party moved from place to place, he had to help carry boxes, to drive the carts, etc.

     

    In course of time, a son was born to Uggasena and his wife, the dancer. To this child, the dancer would often sing a song which ran thus: "O you, son of the man who keeps watch over the carts; the man who carries boxes and bundles! O , you, son of the ignorant one who can do nothing!" Uggasena heard the song; he knew that his wife was referring to him and he was very much hurt and depressed. So he went to his father-in-law, the acrobat, and requested him to teach him acrobatics. After a year's training, Uggasena became a skilful acrobat.

     

    Then, Uggasena went back to Rajagaha, and it was proclaimed that Uggasena would publicly demonstrate his skill in seven days' time. On the seventh day, a long pole was put up and Uggasena stood on top of it. At a signal given from below he somersaulted seven times on the pole. At about this time, the Buddha saw Uggasena in his vision and knew that time was ripe for Uggasena to attain arahatship. So, he entered Rajagaha and willed that the audience should turn their attention to him instead of applauding Uggasena for his acrobatic feats. When Uggasena saw that he was being neglected and ignored, he just sat on top of the pole, feeling very discontented and depressed. The Buddha then addressed Uggasena, "Uggasena, a wise man should abandon all attachment to the khandha aggregates and strive to gain liberation from the round of rebirths” (Daw Mya Tin, 1986).

     

    Let go of the past, 

    let go of the future, 

    Let go of the present. 

    Gone beyond becoming, 

    With the mind released in every way, 

    You do not again undergo birth and old age. (348)*

     

    —Buddha, The Dhammapada 

     

    References and Links

     

    AccessToInsight.org. The First Noble Truth.

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

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    Episode 157: Constant Craving Versus Letting Go

    Episode 157: Constant Craving Versus Letting Go

    Buddha taught that no chains are as powerful as attachment, and nothing bonds us to suffering like our attachment. In the First Noble Truth, Buddha didn't just say, "Life is pervaded by suffering," but defined suffering:

     

    In short, the five clinging-aggregates are dukkha (suffering).

     

    "And what is the cause by which dukkha (suffering) comes into play? Craving is the cause by which dukkha comes into play.

     

    The five aggregates are what make up everything, including our self: physical form, feelings, perceptions, mental fabrications, and consciousness. But the aggregates aren't the problem. It's everything in us that is clinging. In particular, pain and problems are caused by craving that leads us to be attached to something; whether we are attached to gems, children, our expectations, opinions, or money. Craving is an action; because it's an action, we can stop craving. If we can stop craving, we can stop suffering. Craving is the inappropriate attention we give to the object we want by dwelling on its desirable qualities. At first, we just encounter a desirable object or situation we want. But it is inappropriate attention---the thinking-dwelling-craving-- that eventually causes attachment to arise. Feed it long enough, and attachment will arise and bind us to what we want so tightly that we can't be satisfied without it. When we don't get what we're attached to, suffering follows like the shadow of a body.  

     

    So what can we feed our minds instead when we very much want something? We can feed it non-attachment. We can let go. Let go of others' opinions of us…let go of how others behave…let go of ideas about how an experience would be…let go of expectations of others…let go of needing a particular thing…let go of a person that isn't healthy for us. Practicing non-attachment in this way helps us let go of disappointment, dissatisfaction, and toxic situations. And wouldn't that be wonderful?

     

    The wise do not say that bonds made of iron, of wood, and of hemp are strong bonds; 

    they say that only passionate attachment to and care for gems and jewelry, children and wives are strong bonds. 

    These drag one down (to lower planes of existence) and although they seem yielding are difficult to unfasten. 

    The wise, cutting off this bond (of craving) and resolutely giving up sensual pleasures, renounce the world. Verses 345 & 346:

    —Buddha, The Dhammapada 

     

    References and Links

     

    AccessToInsight.org. The First Noble Truth.

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

    https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=345

     

    Thanisarro Bhikku. The Clinging to End all Clinging. Tricycle Magazine, https://tricycle.org/article/end-clinging/



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    Episode 156 = Practicing Non-attachment with Family

    Episode 156 = Practicing Non-attachment with Family

    We must work on our minds to overcome the habits of attachment--which always bring suffering--whether one is a monk or a family man. The context of a monastery versus a home with young children will make the practice different in some ways, but in other ways achieving levels of nonattachment remains the same! 

     

    Loving our family is not in contradiction to the practice of non-attachment. Attachment is self-focused: we are attached to what we think will make us happy. Love, the opposite of attachment, is focused on what will make our friend or loved one happy. In fact, improving our practice of non-attachment is what will make our love more unconditional and stable. 

     

    We might practice non-attachment with a family member by examining what we are very attached to in our relationship with them. The things we are most attached to can be identified by looking at what causes the most discord. How sad this is. We may discover that our attachment to them being different than the way causes the most suffering. Or we are very attached to our children or partner being what we consider successful. We can then practice mindfulness with the intention to let go of attachment to that particular thing and to accept them just the way they are. That person might not know you’re practicing non-attachment, but they will like it! This non-attachment will make our relationship with them much happier-- and we’ll be more at peace too.



    The Story of an Ex-Bhikkhu

     

    “While residing at the Veluvana monastery, the Buddha uttered Verse (344) of this book, with reference to a bhikkhu who was a pupil of the Venerable Mahakassapa.

     

    As a pupil of the Venerable Mahakassapa, this bhikkhu had achieved the four mental absorptions (jhanas). But one day, as he went for alms-food to his uncle's house, he saw a woman and felt a great desire to have her. Then he left the Order of the bhikkhus. As a layman, he was a failure as he did not work hard. So, his uncle drove him out of the house, and subsequently he became mixed up with some thieves. All of them were caught by the authorities and were taken to the cemetery to be executed. The Venerable Mahakassapa saw his pupil as he was being led out and said to him, "My pupil, keep your mind steadfastly on a subject of meditation." As instructed, he concentrated and let himself be established in deep mental absorption. At the cemetery, while the executioners were making preparations to kill him, the ex-bhikkhu was very much composed and showed no signs of fear or anxiety. The executioners and the onlookers were awe-struck and very much impressed by the man's courage and composure and they reported about him to the king and also to the Buddha. The king gave orders to release the man. The Buddha on hearing about the matter sent his radiance and appeared to the thief as if in person.

     

    Then the Buddha spoke to him in verse as follows: 

     

    [Though] clear of the underbrush 

    And out of the forest, 

    Someone attached to the forest 

    Runs right back to it. 

    Come, see that free person 

    Run back into bondage. (344)*

    --Buddha, Dhammapada



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    Episode 155 - The Heart of Awakening

    Episode 155 - The Heart of Awakening

    When we’re being selfish, our actions are motivated by attachment to our happiness, reputation, opinion, expectations being met, etc. As we practiced after the last episode, we again practice cherishing others as an opponent to attachment. This time, however, we try to motivate our practice of cherishing others by a wish for all living beings to be happy and free from suffering. The following story and accompanying verses of the Buddha illustrate how living beings are trapped in a cycle of suffering and uncontrolled rebirth. The escape route is enlightenment. So the motivation for our practice of cherishing others can go as deep as the wish to become enlightened yourself. For who else can point to the escape route?

     

    The Story of a Young Sow

     

    “While residing at the Veluvana monastery, the Buddha uttered Verses (338) to (343) of this book, with reference to a young sow.

     

    On one occasion, while the Buddha was on an alms-round at Rajagaha, he saw a young dirty sow and smiled. When asked by the Venerable Ananda, the Buddha replied, "Ananda, this young sow was a hen during the time of Kakusandha Buddha. As she was then staying near a refectory in a monastery she used to hear the recitation of the sacred text and the discourses on the Dhamma. When she died she was reborn as a princess. On one occasion, while going to the latrine, the princess noticed the maggots and she became mindful of the loathsomeness of the body, etc. When she died she was reborn in the Brahma realm as a puthujjana brahma but later due to some evil kamma, she was reborn as a sow. Ananda! Look, on account of good and evil kamma there is no end of the round of existences." (Translated by 

    Daw Mya Tin, M.A.)

     

    The following verses were spoken by Buddha after this discussion with Ananda.

     

    Verse 341: In beings, there flows happiness that is smeared with craving; those beings attached to pleasure and seeking pleasure are, indeed, subject to birth and ageing.

     

    Verse 342: People beset with craving are terrified like a hare caught in a snare; held fast by fetters and bonds they undergo dukkha (round of rebirths) again and again, for a long time.

     

    Verse 343: People beset with craving are terrified like a hare caught in a snare. Therefore, One who wishes to free himself from craving should eradicate craving.

     

    -Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    May I be a protector for the protectorless 

    A guide for those on the path

    A boat, a raft, a bridge for those who wish to cross the flood

    May I be

    a light in the darkness

    A resting place for the weary

    A healing medicine for all who are sick

    A vase of plenty, a tree of miracles

    And for the boundless multitudes of living beings

    May I bring sustenance and awakening

    Enduring like the earth and sky

    Until all beings are freed from sorrow

    And all are awaken

    —by Shantideva, Buddhist sage 700 A.D., India

     

    We take a practical step in that direction and make the intention to cherish others. With the mantra “May you be happy”, may you be free of suffering” 



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    Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma.

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    Episode 153 - Root of Attachment

    Episode 153 - Root of Attachment

    In this episode and subsequent mindfulness practice, we are working toward severing the root of craving (also known as attachment). What is the root of craving? Suffering is said to have three roots: anger, attachment, and--the root of anger and attachment--ignorance. In particular, the root of craving is ignorance of the way things exist as opposed to how they appear to us. When we crave something, it appears to be inherently good; we don't think our Mind has anything to do with making that object pleasant or desirable. Due to our ignorance, we believe our Mind has nothing to do with making an object desirable. For example, if we become attached to a diamond ring, this attachment ultimately arises from ignorance. 

     

    Attachment arises as follows:

    pleasant appearing object or person + inappropriate attention = attachment

     

    Something we desire manifests like an illusion, and we are the magician. For this process of attachment to be set in motion, ignorance must veil the truth that we make the object appear attractive. We never say, 'Mind, why do you make me have expectations for my birthday to be so great?' We don't protest and think, 'Mind, why do you make that married person appear so attractive? Let's not.'  

     

    Yet attachment can't arise unless we give inappropriate attention by dwelling on its good qualities, how it will make us happy, etc. If we continue to dwell in this way, attachment will arise and the illusion will be complete. We will then believe we can’t be happy without that object or person: whether it is wanting a person, a situation to go the way we want, or a diamond ring.   We can stop the attachment equation by giving appropriate attention and using wisdom thoughts to stop attachment in its tracks. For example, we might think, "The only reason I want to keep dating this person is because I am so attached. This relationship is actually toxic for me. If I break up with them, then after a while, my attachment will naturally fade, and they will appear like any other person." Wisdom thoughts can set us free, initiate the return of contentment, and keep our mind peaceful. 

     

    This I say to you: Good fortune to all assembled here!

    Dig out the root of craving  As you would the fragrant root of bīrana grass. 

    Don’t let Māra destroy you again and again, 

    As a torrential river [breaks] a reed. (337) 

     

    Just as a felled tree grows again 

    If the roots are unharmed and strong, 

    So suffering sprouts again and again Until the tendency to crave is rooted out.

    -Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

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    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

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    Episode 152 - Examining Attachment To Our Self

    Episode 152 - Examining Attachment To Our Self

    Attachment to the self causes suffering, just as suffering invariably follows attachment to any object. In general, attachment arises when we perceive an object we find attractive and become fixated on it; we exaggerate its qualities until we become glued to the object, so that it is painful if we are separated from it. For example, attachment to self might arise as a fixed sense that we have a certain quantity, like intelligence. We are attached to being perceived as intelligence so that when someone slights our intelligence in some way, we feel pain and might become angry and defensive. 

     

    The following experiences come from attachment to our self:

    • anxiety
    • feeling defensive 
    • depression, self-loathing, guilt 
    • pride 
    • defense mechanisms

     

    A suggested mindfulness practice is to watch our mind for a week, attempting to notice when we experience any of the symptoms of attachment to self. Other ways to gain knowledge about your own attachment is to observe what triggered the attachment to arise. Or determine what exactly you're attached to in that moment. Observe any pain or problems this attachment causes. Discover what ways your attachment to self most often arises, In the next episode, we will explore ways to lessen the attachment to self that most often plagues you. 

     

    Sorrow grows Like grass after rain 

    For anyone overcome by this miserable craving 

    And clinging to the world. (335)* 

     

    Sorrow falls away Like drops of water from a lotus 

    For anyone who overcomes this miserable craving 

    And clinging to the world.

     

    This I say to you: Good fortune to all assembled here!

    Dig out the root of craving 

    As you would the fragrant root of bīrana grass. 

    Don’t let Māra destroy you again and again, 

    As a torrential river [breaks] a reed. (337) 

     

    Just as a felled tree grows again 

    If the roots are unharmed and strong, 

    So suffering sprouts again and again 

    Until the tendency to crave is rooted out.

    -Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

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    Episode 151 - The Three Steps To Lessen Attachment

    Episode 151 - The Three Steps To Lessen Attachment

    In this episode, we look at a three-step process to lessen attachment. The first step is to notice the craving mind and examine it. The craving mind focuses on its object of desire, exaggerates its good qualities, and fixates on it until it feels it can not be happy without it: it is at this stage that attachment has arisen. We might be attached to a new car, a person, being right, or an experience going the way we want it to. Our mind of attachment makes these things so desirable, imbuing them with attractiveness, and yet the attachment to them sets us up for disappointment, painful longing, or dissatisfaction. Attachment is like tasting honey on the raiser’s edge; the first taste is sweet, but pain is soon to follow.

     

    A three-step practice to lesson attachment

    1. Notice the craving mind
    2. Loosen the fixation
    3. Make offerings

     

    You can meditate on the breath to loosen a fixation. Once you’ve noticed your mind glued to its object of attachment, this meditation frees and settles the mind because it focuses on a completely neutral object—the breath. 

     

    Offering a purified version of your object of attachment to all living beings is a profound way to lessen craving and create causes to be free of it completely, eventually. For example, you might be attached to buying a new home. Your mind is fixated on it; you feel you can’t be happy unless you buy a new house, but financially it would be reckless at this time. You could settle your mind and think, “may all living beings have safe and comfortable shelter.” Feel that your offering creates the cause for all beings to have shelter. Giving up your object of attachment now has a universal purpose. Or it might lift you up from the narrow mind of craving to a feeling of connection and love to all living beings. If you're attached to a person for whom its inappropriate, you could think “may all beings experience pure love.” Make the offering a purified version of your attachment. 

     

    The craving of a person who lives negligently 

    Spreads like a creeping vine. 

    Such a person leaps ever onward, 

    Like a monkey seeking fruit in the forest. (334)*

    --Buddha, The Dhammapada

     

    References and Links

     

    Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011. (Link)

     

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