Courage Within You with Silvia Turonova

Hello, my brave soul. The time has come when I decided to say goodbye to podcasting for a while and focus on my writing instead. 

First, let me start by saying that I am beyond grateful for you, my dear listener who found my podcast helpful while always coming back for more. 

Although the journey of podcasting has been deeply rewarding for me, I decided to direct my attention to something I love the most - writing. 

Therefore, every Tuesday, I will publish blog posts with tools, tips, techniques, affirmations, quotes, and a little bit of storytelling to support you on your path of deep inner healing and growth. Also, stay on the lookout for some beautiful and healing meditations. 

Another reason why I decided to take a break from podcasting is a realization I recently had. 

The truth is that, for a while, I let the doubt get the best of me. 

Although I wanted to write my second book, I thought to myself: 

Who am I to write a book? 

No one will want to read it. 

Or my all-time favorite:

“I am not ready.”

It took a couple of months of solitude and looking within. I decided to confront my negative beliefs and break free from these self-imposed limitations. 

I am beyond excited to embark on this journey for the second time and pour my heart and soul into my second book, and I can’t wait for you to read it. 

Thank you again for being a part of this beautiful and fulfilling journey, and as I always say at the end of my podcast, I will talk to you soon. 

Stay brave. 

A while ago, I watched an interview with Jay Shetty where he talked about detachment as stated in the Bhagavad Gita, a 700-verse Hindu scripture. He says that, “detachment is not that you own nothing. Detachment is that nothing owns you.” I find this one of the most accurate and simply understood definitions of detachment. 

Also, it is worth noticing things and people we are attached to and then asking ourselves:” What does this person, thing, or achievement represent for me?” 

It wasn't long ago when I was attached to men who came into my life to validate how lovable I was. Or using the attachment to my work and to-do list to justify my worth. If I worked my butt off, I was worthy. If I took a break, I felt guilty for not doing, and worse, being enough. 

We often hear about detachment as an act of letting go. However, this episode isn’t about letting go but rather understanding duality, attachment to our preferences, things, and people that drive our emotions, and how to use the art of detachment to create and maintain emotional balance.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[02:05] Different types of detachment and how they show up in your life. 

[03:47] Why do we attach to other people, results in our work and business, or how many things we get done on our to-do list and use it to justify our worth? 

[07:50] Understanding the role of duality when it comes to attachment and how reframing from duality supports self-regulation. 

[11:06] Seeing things for what they are, detaching from our preferences and opinions while creating more emotional balance. 

[13:15] Sharing a part of chapter 4 from the Bhagavad Gita that talks about detaching from the results of our actions, eliminating suffering, and becoming free. 

Healing and walking a spiritual path doesn’t mean you don’t face challenges or that this path is linear. Therefore, having spiritual tools in place is important to keep evoking the love within while shedding off anything that doesn’t serve you. 

Love is your ultimate superpower. It gives you the courage to take the brave step, softens your heart, and shows you what you are worth. 

I always looked at growth from two different angles. 

You either grow by life itself when things you don’t ask for or don’t expect come into your life and challenge you to grow. The second is intentional growth. It means that you take into your own hands what needs to be addressed without waiting for life events to do it for you. 

In both cases, you need spiritual tools to support, regulate, and empower you. 

In today’s episode, I teach you two powerful spiritual tools to regulate your nervous system, improve heart coherence, and bring more love and kindness into your space while releasing stuck emotions and energy that don’t serve you. 

Here is a glance at this episode…

[00:38] What was my past idea of a “good life”, how did my perception change, and why do I deeply value balance and my mind being in a state of equilibrium. 

[03:02] Recognizing how these spiritual tools help activate the parasympathetic nervous system responsible for relaxation and basic understanding of the autonomic nervous system. 

[04:56] Using spiritual tools to regulate your thoughts and emotions and how they contribute to emotional restoration and healing.

[06:08] What is heart rate variability, and how does heart coherence support better mood and improve the immune system?  

[09:30] How these simple spiritual tools bring forth heartfelt emotions, help you feel relaxed and calm, support heart coherence, and release negative energy. 

When I found myself having Monday blues last week, this was the mindfulness tool I used to snap out of it while reminding myself of the true nature of my mind. 

There aren’t Monday blues, bad or good days, or happy Sundays (as people call it in America). 

The quality of our days, regardless of what day it is or what is happening around us depends on how aware we are and how well we manage our thoughts and emotions. 

This simple mindfulness tool is your internal resource available at all times and in any situation. Because paying attention to reality, to what is - is an art of self-regulation that’s not talked about.  

Often, we get stuck in our imagination. We either ruminate on our past or indulge in the vision of the future that doesn’t exist.  Often, these visions aren’t compelling, inspiring, or uplifting. 

In this episode, I will teach you a simple mindfulness tool to help you train your mind for the present while embracing the truth - this moment is all you ever have. 

When you learn to differentiate between what is here and now and what is only your imagination or inner critic acting up, you’ll become the master in regulating your thoughts and emotions. 

Here is a glance at this episode…

[00:45] How I found myself in my head having Monday blues while observing my critic in full force.

[03:14] How to use your awareness and attention as a mindfulness tool to regulate your thoughts and emotions.

[06:07] An exercise I do with my clients to show them how to change their emotional state.

[08:25] How to effectively use this mindfulness tool regardless of where you are or what is happening around you. 

[10:21] How to handle your mind if it rebels against the new ways of thinking and feeling while effectively applying this mindfulness tool to your life.  

Although healing childhood trauma is a challenging path to walk, it is also a path of deep fulfillment and self-love. 

When we become brave enough to look at our past and address earlier childhood experiences holding us back, we choose our destiny instead of settling for it.

I’ve been healing my childhood trauma for a few years now. And although I have made significant progress, I still find myself emotionally relapsing while feeling paralyzed by fear and unease. 

It is one of the reasons why I decided to record this episode and shine more light on what healing childhood trauma has been for me, how it shows up in my life and the lives of my clients, and what are the tools available to us to support us on this path. 

If you ever doubt whether healing your childhood trauma is possible, know that there are support systems, modalities, tools, and techniques that are available to you to make this process a healing experience. 

In this episode, I will share my journey while healing childhood trauma, why it is impacting us today, and what we can do to cope with it in a powerful and effective way. 

Here is a glance at this episode…

[01:49] The importance of honoring your emotions and why we need to pay attention to subtler negative experiences from our childhood which are easily overlooked. 

[03:55] Healing my childhood trauma and handling emotional relapse. 

[12:25] How memory without emotional charge becomes the wisdom that leads us forward. 

[15:55] The importance of seeking help when healing childhood trauma and the available options. 

[18:47] How yoga and meditation affected my process of healing childhood trauma and a personal practice I exercise daily. 

[25:48] Using the inner child’s work as a powerful modality while healing childhood trauma. 

Disclaimer: This podcast episode is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, psychotherapist, psychologist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Please do not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition. If you feel you need professional help, seek it. 

You can rewire your brain, change how you think and perceive life, and become in love with it by consciously choosing how you want to think. 

The moment you are born, your conscious mind isn’t formed yet, while the subconscious mind is fully open. Therefore, whatever you hear, see, experience, and perceive from that point gets stored in your subconscious. 

That’s where your mood, attitude, and personality form and then, often unconsciously, direct your life to this point. 

However, many things you learn and adapt to aren’t serving you. Therefore, to change the way you think and feel, you must learn to rewire your brain. 

What do I mean by rewiring? 

When you think a thought, something called a “neuropathway” is formed in your brain. The more you repeat this thought or behavior, the more this neuropathway strengthens. 

But what if you are repeating negative or self-defeating thoughts and behaviors? 

We can refer to this as an unconscious process of thinking. 

The good news is that we can make it a conscious one. Instead of letting your thoughts run on autopilot, you can rewire your brain by consciously choosing what you want to think. 

As Carl Jung said, “Until you make unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.” 

Life isn’t based on fate or some prewritten destiny that’s out of your hands. By consciously choosing who you want to be, and how you want to live and then actively working towards that goal - you can craft your destiny. 

After listening to this episode, you will have a clear understanding of what shaped you into the person you are today and why you may find it hard to change. You will also learn how to rewire your brain with a simple, yet effective 3-step process. 

Here is a glance at this episode…

[01:30] A science-based understanding that explains how we create habitual ways of thinking and feeling. Understanding how you wire and then rewire your brain. 

[04:42] How to consciously create new neuropathways and rewire your brain through a simple 3-step process. 

[05:25] What is required of you to successfully apply this 3-step formula, and how to handle your mind when it rebels against your new way of thinking. 

[09:42] How to use forgiveness and compassion as a support when working on your mindset and changing the habitual ways of thinking and feeling. 

[16:05] How to use questions to rewire your brain and change negative thinking patterns by reframing them. 

Since we tell ourselves affirmations all day, why not make them into positive affirmations that allow us to become who we want to be and attract things we want? 

There are two types of affirmations: conscious and unconscious. 

Unconscious affirmations are thoughts and beliefs that run on autopilot. Since we reinforce these statements in our minds many times, they become automatic. Often those are thoughts we don’t want to have but aren’t aware we have them. 

Conscious affirmations are positive affirmations we choose. Think of them as thoughts you choose to think that produce emotions you want to feel. 

In this episode, I will lead you through the process of creating positive affirmations, carefully selecting the right ones for you, and beginning to practice them. 

However, there is one more component that solidifies this process, and that’s visualization. When we say or think our affirmations and then visualize and feel that statement, we enter the realm of a possibility that goes beyond the logical mind. 

Positive affirmations serve as a tool to change your subconscious thoughts and beliefs, while visualization brings up the emotional state that feels as if you are already that person or have that thing that you think about and visualize. 

Here is a glance at this episode…

[00:52] Difference between conscious and unconscious affirmations and how we shaped who we are through positive affirmations

[05:28] How to create new beliefs about yourself and the world around you by creating new thinking patterns through conscious affirmations. 

[08:20] How to create positive affirmations and a few things to keep in mind to make this process as powerful as you can. 

]14:04] Using visualization as a way to empower your affirmations. And how it changes your emotional and energetical state to a higher frequency. 

Healing your inner child is about accessing the wounds or suppressed emotions while recognizing what parts of you need to be healed.

It’s also about identifying different parts or versions of your little self and then healing them individually. You may have a version of your inner child that’s angry, one that feels unworthy, untrusting, or insecure.

Attuning to each of them, giving them attention, validating their feelings, and loving them through it all is where deep healing happens.

As children, we adapt different coping mechanisms. Since our brain is still developing when we form these behavioral patterns, they aren’t often the most beneficial.

This is when, as adults, we begin observing patterns that we have but want to change.

Healing your inner child is about reparenting and reconnecting with disowned parts of yourself while learning and applying ways of thinking, feeling, and acting that support your well-being. 

In this episode, I will teach you how to identify different parts of your inner child that need healing.

I will give you 4 questions that represent 4 steps to take when using inner child work as a way to heal.

At the end of the episode, we will take a few minutes to do a simple guided meditation practice to heal your inner child. Once you listen to the episode, you can get the full version of this meditation here.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[02:04] Why is inner child work so empowering, and how does it help you to heal your past

[04:57] How to recognize different versions of your inner child and understand the experiences that shaped her

[07:54] The importance of healing the inner child through self-compassion and recognizing coping mechanisms you develop due to past experiences

[09:04] 4 questions to ask your inner child

[13:18] A simple, short guided meditation practice for reconnecting and healing the inner child

Are you stuck on your healing path? Do you feel you’ve tried almost everything, but nothing quite works? Today, I am sharing my 3 most powerful spiritual practices that I used and continue using every day to heal and keep myself in balance. 

Daily spiritual practices are essential for anyone on a healing path. When we have a practice in place and stay committed to it, what we are saying is “I love me to take care of me.” 

Developing spiritual practices that work and coming back to them daily became a ritual that I can't go without. It is like taking a shower or brushing my teeth. 

There is something that is called neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity is “the ability of the nervous system to change its activity in response to intrinsic or extrinsic stimuli by reorganizing its structure, functions, or connections.”

In simpler words, by exercising different spiritual practices, you are “molding” your brain into becoming a person who takes care of her mental and emotional health. For example, if you used to binge-watch a show every day but now you do your spiritual practices instead, you are training your mind to develop healthier habits and perceive yourself as a healthier person. 

In this episode, I talk about 3 spiritual practices I use daily to manage my mind, regulate my emotions, and break limiting thinking patterns. These spiritual practices keep me in balance and support me on my path to healing and personal growth. 

Here is a glance at this episode…

[00:40] How my spiritual practices became a roadmap to my healing and helped me in breaking the generational narrative. 

[01:38] Addressing what is spirituality and why it has nothing to do with religion and what it actually means to be spiritual. 

[05:07] How silence and solitude embraced my healing and allowed me to know myself on a deeper level. 

[09:58] Understanding the deeper aspects of yoga as a spiritual practice, and how it skyrocketed my healing and became a way of life. 

[14:33] What responsibility and the power of choice have to do with spirituality, and why practicing both is more spiritual than you may think. 

What if instead of focusing on what you want to accomplish externally, you look within and focus on who you need to become and how you can reinvent yourself to reach the healing, growth, and goals you desire? 

The external world can fall apart, but how you manage your internal system and the magnitude of your is something no one can take away from you.

Inner resilience and self-belief rooted in self-trust are all you need when embarking on a committed spiritual path while transforming the subconscious and subtle patterns that keep you stuck. 

If you focus on your present reality, how wounded you are, or how many things you need to “fix” about yourself, it’s natural to feel discouraged by the amount of work you need to undergo. 

Therefore, I want you to look at the other side of the spectrum. I want you to look at the possibility you represent and explore ways to reinvent yourself. 

This meditation is designed to look deep inside yourself, identify patterns you want to change, and then use your imagination to create a picture of who you want to become. Not who you think you can be or should be but who you WANT to be. It is your tool to reinvent yourself from the ground up. 

How can you use this meditation:

• Commit to doing the meditation at least once a day, preferably twice in the morning and at night. 

• Write down the habits, patterns, or traits you want to change ( this is optional). 

• Write down a clear picture of who you want to become and what it looks like to reinvent yourself. Include as many details as you’d like, and then use this vision in your meditation (this is also optional). 
  

Why is this meditation powerful?

This guided meditation to reinvent yourself and reach your full potential is meant to pull you out of survival mode and into the seat of the possibility of who you can become. It helps you to identify subconscious patterns you may not be aware of and directs your attention toward inner healing.

Beyond the tools and techniques we use to better self-regulate, there are 4 mindset shifts that create change on a level of perception. And as Wayne Dyer said, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."   

So often, women come to me and say, “I tried everything, but I feel stuck.” 

Often, it is one of these mindset shifts that they haven’t yet established. Although tools and exercises are essential for building a diverse self-care toolkit and raising awareness, when we choose to expand our perception, growth is inevitable. 

During this episode, I am taking the fluff out of the conversation. I encourage you to look at what is, not what you wish it would be. I invite you to let go of the stories and ruminations that keep you stuck and instead build a strong foundation for your growth. 

Some of these mindset shifts may be already established in your life, and some may be missing. However, one thing I know for sure: If you take each of these mindset shifts to your heart and fully exercise them for the next 30 days, you will certainly see changes in your life, no questions about it. 

Here is a glance at this episode…

[01:45] What spirituality is and what is not, the misconception about being a bigger person, and why it’s time to be real with yourself

[03:20] Two most common excuses that keep you stuck and how commitment to your spiritual growth fuels change in your life 

[09:05] How to be aware of compulsive thoughts that sabotage your progress and how to become more conscious and less reactive throughout the day 

[12:20] Understanding the power you hold to change your life and eliminating the negative story you are holding onto 

[13:50] Embracing the idea of a single-minded goal and asking yourself one powerful question 

There is a quote from Swami Vivekananda that empowers me every time I read it. He says, “Tell your body that it is strong. Tell your mind that it is strong and have unbounded faith and hope in yourself.” That, to me, represents a deep sense of self-belief. 

Regardless of the circumstances we are brought up in, every single person can change their life and write their destiny by building a strong self-belief.

Every belief you currently have (whether you consider it good or bad) is an accumulation of information and things you received throughout your life. However, if these beliefs stop you from creating the life you want, it’s time to break them. 

I’ve met so many people (and was one of them) who believed that I couldn’t change my life and redesign my belief system. What a giant piece of a lie. 

Although building a strong self-belief and breaking through the psychological limits we create may seem challenging, I want you to consider this: growth is not comfortable (but we love it). Stagnation or limiting beliefs aren’t comfortable either (and we don’t like it). Taking this perception into account, deciding to work on your belief system is a no-brainer. 

When you build a strong self-belief, you invite clarity, confidence, and awareness into your life. 

Even believing you can’t build a strong self-belief is a limiting belief. And this is where many of us need to start and address the (often) hidden or subconscious limits we impose on ourselves. 

In today’s episode, I will talk about the types of beliefs we have and the 2 most common limiting beliefs. Also, I share 4 steps on how to build a strong self-belief. 

Here is a glance at this episode: 

[01:50] Beliefs that create possibilities vs. beliefs that create boundaries and walls 

[03:45] two common beliefs many of us have that prevent us from healing and growing beyond our current circumstances and what to do about it
 
[08:15] How awareness of your subtler thoughts helps with strengthening your self-belief and how to break some of the limiting beliefs

[10:50] 4-step process on how to build a strong self-belief and overcome limiting beliefs that keep you stuck 

Healing with grace means honoring the stage of your growth while nurturing a sense of respect and meeting yourself where you are. 

Think about it - the number one reason you turn to emotional healing and spiritual growth is to experience more joy, happiness, and ease in your life. 

But how often do you end up entangled in this process: judging yourself for the slightest mistakes, striving for perfectionism, or feeling guilty because you aren’t meeting some unrealistic expectations?

The most common barrier I see with my clients is that instead of love, support, or encouragement, they keep themselves in old patterns of judgment and guilt. Unconsciously following these patterns can also make healing toxic. 

To prevent this from happening while positively supporting your growth, you must become conscious of these unconscious patterns and bring a sense of support and grace into the process. 

In today’s episode, I will talk about two main events that inspired me to record this podcast, how to honor your path without judgment and embrace healing with grace. 

Here is a glance at the episode: 

[01:02] What inspired me to record this podcast episode and how healing with grace changes and supports the process 

[05:58] The most common barriers we face when it comes to healing and what stops us from moving through it with grace 

[10:15] The idea of “where we should be” and the impact of comparison to someone else’s journey 

[12:55] The best support you can offer to yourself when walking your healing path and how to stay from judgment and unrealistic expectations 

[14:55] A simple heart-opening technique to embrace loving emotions while healing with grace 

When I say “feeling empowered’ - what comes to your mind?

Living a life with no fear? Overcoming self-doubt? Setting boundaries? Not letting the opinions of others affect you? Or maybe something else? 

What if you can live your life in this place? 

One of the most inspiring things I understood about empowerment is that it comes from within and builds an immense level of self-respect. We feel empowered when we overcome our fears, heal a wound that has been there for a while, take a step while our legs are shaking, or set boundaries that were long overdue.  

Although none of it means comfort, it means life. We get consumed or tricked into believing that comfort is what we should strive for. 

But think about it, what is comfort? A dull place of self-protection. 

When you choose to step out of your bubble (which you are capable of, BTW) - feeling empowered is inevitable. Once you get the boost of self-assurance and trust that you can conquer your fears, limits, and even your wounds, you’ll begin to understand the power that’s been your physical body and mind. 

Today’s podcast episode is exactly about what feeling empowered while trusting yourself means and, mostly, how to get there. 

Here is a glance at this episode:

[01:40] Living from a place of empowerment while trusting your inner guidance. A personal story of fear, stress, and anxiety that prompted me to question how I live my life and what thoughts predominate in my mind. 

[05:58] What it means to trust yourself and how to practice looking within. The importance of being selective about the information that enters your mind. 

[09:02] Handling self-doubt while feeling empowered through self-trust. How to identify the reason you feel dissatisfied with your life. 

[14:56] Teaching you 2 exercises to practice this week to create a possibility in your life and overcome fears while feeling empowered. 

Can you eliminate all your negative thoughts for the rest of your life? 

Maybe not, but you can certainly manage them effectively. 

When you try to resent your negative thoughts, they often persist and become louder. 

Therefore the trick isn’t stopping your thoughts in track or exercising fake positivity (trust me, I tried, and it doesn’t work), but rather, not identifying with everything you think. 

Let’s say there is a limiting belief you adopted in your childhood which you label as negative. Since this pattern of negative thoughts has been reestablished over many years, it’s natural for your mind to keep bringing the same recycled thoughts back. 

Since your mind is literally like a muscle, you want to learn to train it as such. 

In today’s episode, I will talk about how identification with our negative thoughts keeps us stuck in limiting thinking patterns. I will also teach you about the power of the pause, how to become an observer of what you are thinking without being sucked into it and share a mindfulness exercise to help with mind identification. 

Last but not least, we will also look at the most obvious power we all have - the power of choice. 

Here is a glance at this episode: 

[02:10] Managing our internal system, looking at stress and anxiety in today’s world and why we shouldn’t accept it as the only way of life. 
[04:24] What it means to identify with our thoughts, how to work through them, and an example of mind identification 
[06:44] Practicing the power of PAUSE, being conscious instead of compulsive 
[09:37] Detaching from what you think or what your thoughts mean by using this simple, yet powerful mindfulness exercise 
[12:32] Choosing growth over comfort, summing up what it means to detach from negative thoughts and become in charge of how you think and feel. 

In this episode, we’ll dive into what it means to find the courage within you by confronting your fears and embracing living boundlessly. 

We both know that fear is real, no doubts about it. However, I refuse to sit here and accept that this is how “things are.” Are you with me?

We were programmed to believe that living with anxiety is “normal” or that living with stress is “just’ a part of daily living. Both are a product of our fears about what may go wrong, whether we have what it takes, what people think of us, and so many other reasons. 

Fear keeps us paralyzed. And the highest price we pay is that deep down, we know we are downplaying ourselves. We know we have that courage within us to live boundlessly. I’ll bet my life on it that you feel it too. 

It is my deepest hope this podcast episode will allow you to see things differently while understanding that the worst-case scenario of what can go wrong when you decide to pursue your life’s deepest desire is nothing compared to what you are losing if you don’t. 

Forget the “next time” thinking. There have been so many next time - I encourage you to make this one your last. I encourage you to find the courage within and start designing the life you dreamed of and so well deserve. 

In today’s podcast episode, we will cover 

• The fear of uncertainty and how our mind perceives it. 
• The story and what it means to let go.
• The most important question to ask yourself when finding the courage within.
• What can you do to prime your mind for change and overcome your fears.
• A 3-step process on how to handle it while finding the courage within. 

Here is a glance at this episode: 

[01:28] How fear stops us from making change and what it means to live courageously 

[03:14] Fear of uncertainty and how your mind perceives it 

[05:29] Committing to your healing and growth by asking yourself this profound question. 

[11:05] Breaking down the concept of fear - what are you afraid of and how to face it 

[12:50] Understanding what it means to choose your discomfort and how it activates the courage within to face your fears 

[16:05] A few tools you can use to manage your mind and the impact of fear and a simple 3-step process to use daily 

What if I tell you there is a simple way to retrain your mind while going about your day as usual? And what if I tell you that you can use my 3-step process to accomplish just that?

If I ask you, “Who are you?” Would you be able to answer that? (spoiler alert: If you are not sure, that’s okay. Neither am I. But that’s beside the point).

You may not know who you are, at least not just yet, but we both can agree you are NOT your mind - you HAVE a mind. 

Even better, we can think about your mind as a tool. You can sharpen it, change it, redesign it, retrain it, transform it, mold it, and so much more.  

In this podcast episode, I will share a 3-step process to retrain your mind from judgment, negative thoughts and beliefs, or even unhealthy habits. What if you can retrain your mind from being a madman to an obedient servant? 

I will take you from awareness to forgiveness to a new way of thinking. And a pretty cool thing about this is that you can practice this anywhere and anytime in the comfort of your mind.

After you listen to this episode, I recommend you check out this mindfulness exercise, try my forgiveness meditation, and read my recent blog post on how to create powerful affirmations. You’ll understand how these additional tools support you on your way to retraining your mind from negative thought patterns to feeling more empowered, inspired, and grateful. 

Here is a glance at this episode:

[01:56] How can you use this 3-step process to retrain your mind, and how it is changing the lives of my clients and my own.  

[03:20] The example of one of my clients using the 3-step process, 

[05:12] The one unhealthy but subtle pattern many of us have when it comes to self-awareness and how to overcome it. 

[08:50] Understanding your mind and its behavior when changing unhealthy thought patterns, habits, and beliefs. 

[13:20] Implementing forgiveness into this process and how lack of it often keeps us stuck 

[15:04] How to replace your old patterns of thinking with new ones and some examples to help you get started  

Self-validation allows us to acknowledge, feel and process our emotions, while self-responsibility is where we step out of victimhood and into our power. 

When you begin to look at any area of your life that is asking for healing, acknowledging what you feel is the first step. So often, we carry our pains silently because, as adults, aware only of our logical brain, we ridicule what our emotions try to tell us. 

Self-validation or validating our emotions means honoring what is there, without judgment, ridicule, or a need to change the truth within. Once we allow ourselves to be fully expressive in our authentic, raw, and unapologetic selves, we create an outlet for stuck traumas and energies to find the way out. 

I also believe there is a sense of power in our self-expression. The energy we use to hide, pretend, or deny transmutes into letting go and feeling it through. 

Therefore, self-validation and recognition of our emotions is the first step toward healing the wounds. In today’s podcast episode, I will also lead you through 4 steps to apply this process to your life. 

Once we embrace what we feel and express it in a way we choose, we can acknowledge what part of us is playing a victim in a situation. 

Although this (often) hard look in a mirror is intimidating and confronting, it is the only way to take charge of our thoughts and emotions and become in control of ourselves. Responsibility means response which we are always able to choose. 

How do I want to respond to the behavior of my parents? How do I respond to my old thoughts that keep me stuck? How do I respond to the limiting beliefs that hold me back? 

As you can see, there is a reason why validation comes before responsibility. However, choosing how we want to think and feel ultimately seals the deal and allows us to heal fully. 

Here is a glance at this episode…

[01:16] How self-validation affects our healing and what happens when we acknowledge and feel our emotions. 

[01:56] What is the most common barrier within our healing, and how does lack of emotional validation affect our progress 

[04:11] A 4-step process to acknowledge, recognize, validate, and feel our emotions. 

[06:42] An affirmation I use during this 4-step process and how it allows me to open up while withstanding the discomfort of feeling deep emotions. 

[10:29] How understanding the depth of our wounds allows us to understand more about what happened to us and use compassion instead of judgment 

[14:10] Moving on the other side of the spectrum, stepping out of the victimhood, and recognizing where the power is. 

Tune into this guided meditation to ease anxiety while embracing a safe space within you. 

Here is the thing, my friend. At what point in our lives have we accepted that living with this fearful feeling lingering in the back of our mind is normal?

Whether it is because of the negative information we mindlessly consume or the dysregulated nervous system, is this the only way to "do life?"

Learning to self-regulate while managing your thoughts and emotions is a useful skill to acquire during your healing process and something we all can learn and practice. 

You and I know that keeping our anxiety at bay while maintaining inner calm isn’t always easy. 

Whether this results from past experiences, unhealed childhood wounds, or overthinking mind, dysregulated nervous system requires some time to heal and get organized. 

Therefore the question is: "How can you regulate your thoughts and emotions and rewire your brain from trauma to healing?"

There are many ways to do that, and meditation is one of them.  

In honor of mental health awareness month, I designed a 15-minute guided meditation to ease anxiety while providing you with a sense of protection and nurturing. 

When you approach your healing from the place of inner grounding, you are more prone to open your heart and embrace emotions that give you support, courage, and desire to heal. Also, you are learning how to create a safe space within you that you can access anytime. 

Enjoy! 

Namaste.

In today’s episode, I will be sharing five powerful coaching questions that transformed not only my life but also the lives of my clients, and I hope they will do the same for you. 

We all have what I call blind spots. These are things others may see, but we are blind to them. It often happens when we are in the arena, dealing with the rawness of life while trying to figure out and handle things in the best way possible. 

The power of coaching questions is to uncover these blind spots, give us more options, and offer solutions or bring us back to what matters the most when we get off track. 

Each of these coaching questions serves a specific purpose to allow you to think bigger and with more potential. 

For the first four questions, I suggest you make some time and write your answers down. Often, when we put things on paper, we gain more clarity and make whatever we write more real. 

The last question is truly one of my favorites! I encourage you to ask yourself this question as often as you want. It is a fun and playful way to uplift your spirit and embrace the fact that you should always be your biggest fan. 

Enjoy the episode!

Here’s a glance at this episode

>> [02:25] How to use your innate intelligence and potential to answer these five coaching questions and why you have answers already within you 

>> [04:30] Focusing on becoming the person you want to be and one thing no one can take away from you 

>> [07:20] The most transformation question I asked myself when I was in India and how it can change your life on a fundamental level 

>> [15:15] Taking a look at the role of stress in your life and what to ask yourself when you feel stressed, worried, or anxious 

>> [17:40] The importance of regulating your emotional state and using this simple coaching question to find the right way for you.

>> [20:25] My favorite coaching question I encourage you to ask yourself every day to uplift and empower your spirit and emotional state