Don't Cut Your Own Bangs

We’re wrapping up our "Journal Your Way to Clarity'' series with an examination of purpose, which can feel like a very heavy weight for many of us. You are not alone if you’ve struggled with questions like, "What am I supposed to do with my life?" or "How do I make my life meaningful?" 

As a therapist, I've observed that people often struggle with defining their purpose because it's not just about a career or a role—it's about the totality of our experiences and values. And purpose evolves as our lives change, so the same questions arise during different life stages. 

Journaling about past jobs, relationships, hobbies, and the things that “light us up” can uncover common threads and values that help us visualize our purpose. But purpose is also about how others see us. Asking people you trust for their perspectives can provide valuable understanding of the impact you have on those around you.

So I invite you to participate in the exercises discussed in this episode. You might just find that you are the best gift you unwrapped this holiday season. 

Thank you for listening! I'm looking forward to all that we will explore together in 2024!

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

It’s not essential that you use The Treasured Journal for the exercises discussed in the “Journal Your Way to Clarity” series. A plain pad of paper will do. But, the questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal will help you examine important themes in your life so that you can gain the type of clarity that comes from meaningful self-reflection.

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I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback is invaluable. 

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Family. The dynamics can be so very complex. As we dive into the next-to-last life theme in our series from The Treasured Journal, we look at how structured communication exercises can uncover new perspectives and deepen interactions with family. 

We also explore the importance of curiosity. A shared history can create a trap that leaves you feeling like there is nothing new to know, nothing new to learn. But, setting your assumptions aside and digging a little deeper can have tremendous rewards. 

To foster this curiosity, our journaling exercise encourages you to adopt a mindset of "not knowing." This frees you to reflect on diverse expressions of love that you have received and helps you understand how you, in turn, express love to others. 

Thank you for listening to the latest episode of the “Journal Your Way to Clarity" series. Be sure to tune in next time when we finish up the series with ways to use journaling to identify your purpose. 

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

It’s not essential that you use The Treasured Journal for these exercises. A plain pad of paper will do. But, the questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal—along with this series of podcasts—will help you examine the important themes in your life  so that you can gain the type of clarity that comes from meaningful self-reflection.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE 

I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you'd like to share. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback is invaluable. 

Website: danielleireland.com

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Sex is the focus of Part 5 in our “Journaling Your Way to Clarity” series, which follows the seven life themes from The Treasured Journal:  career, relationships, money, love, sex, family, and purpose.

Because sex is such a broad topic, we'll narrow the scope to our relationship with pleasure and give special emphasis to the idea of worthiness. Do you believe you are worthy and deserving of the experiences you want to have? 

Sex is an especially good topic for journaling because an honest, raw examination of worthiness requires an open and vulnerable conversation between you and you.

As a lead-in to our discussion, I share the joy that I found when I put down the self-help books and work-related reading and instead took up a fictional journey where the details fly off the page and the characters come to life in my mind. I’m not reading the words so much as watching the story unfold!

I also give a quick update on Life with Lucas. David and I are starting to find a rhythm, but these early days as the mother in a four-person family have been challenging, surprising, and joyful! 

As you can see, pleasure can take many forms. I hope you’ll join me for the guided writing exercises in this episode so that you can find the pleasure that you deserve.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

You don’t have to use The Treasured Journal for these exercises. A plain pad of paper will do. But, the questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal—along with this series of podcasts—will help you examine the important themes in your life so that you can gain the type of clarity that comes from meaningful self-reflection.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE 

I greatly appreciate your support and engagement in the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you'd like to share. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback is invaluable. 

Thank you for listening!

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Hello! If you’ve been following along you know that I’ve been away having and taking care of our new baby boy. I am so excited to be back in front of the microphone again bringing you fresh, new content. In a future episode, I will share more on our unexpected but welcome pregnancy, the labor and delivery, and the unexpected but welcome challenges that arise in caring for two young children instead of only one! 

Until then, we’re continuing the “Journal Your Way to Clarity” series with the next theme: love. Our focus is on self-love and its impact on relationships. So, we start off with this beautiful quote that I pulled from The Treasured Journal:

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” - Rupi Kaur

I invite you to think about or write about this thought-provoking prompt: "If I loved myself more fully, I would..." 

Journaling can be mightily effective because it allows us to be free and honest. We don’t have to perform for others. We’re not obligated to play a role. We can think and consider and be who we truly are and how we truly feel. This makes journaling an unparalleled tool for self-reflection and insight.

So I encourage you to join in on the exercises in this series. And be sure to check out the next episode in the series when we explore the topic of sex and its interconnectedness with various aspects of our lives.  

It is so good to be back! Thank you for listening!

RESOURCES and MENTIONS

Rupi Kaur - https://rupikaur.com/

The Twilight Saga by Stephenie Meyer - https://stepheniemeyer.com/the-books/

Midnight Sun by Stephenie Meyer - https://stepheniemeyer.com/midnight-sun-2020/

A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas - https://sarahjmaas.com/books/a-court-of-thorns-and-roses-series/a-court-of-thorns-and-roses 

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Whether you use The Treasured Journal or a plain pad of paper, journaling can help you see yourself, and your situation, more clearly. If you opt for the journal, you'll get useful questions, prompts, and sentence starters that perfectly complement the concepts discussed in this series. 

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE 

I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you'd like to share. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback is invaluable. 

Website: danielleireland.com

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They say that “money makes the world go round” because it’s necessary to meet our basic needs. But another truth lurks within financial transactions:  money carries with it a tremendous amount of emotional weight.

Our upbringing and our experiences with money shape our perspective and perception of its worth. So it’s useful to examine how money influences our moods and behavior, our relationships, and even our own sense of self.

Toward the end of the episode, use the thought exercises to better understand how money makes you feel—both as a giver and a receiver. I recommend that you combine these exercises with journaling, especially if money is having an adverse effect on your well-being.

For journaling, a plain pad of paper will do. But, if you want a guided journaling experience, get The Treasured Journal, which includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems that will help you open up and get your thoughts flowing. 

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Thank you for listening. This special series is designed to help you clarify how your life is shaped by your career, relationships, love, sex, money, family, and purpose. 

If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us.

This episode originally aired as #120 on March 20, 2023.

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Hello! Grab a warm beverage and settle in. We’re continuing our discussion of relationships as part of the Journal Your Way to Clarity series. Relationships can cover a lot of territory. But, for now, I want to focus on two specific concepts:  (1) how relationships are like mirrors, and (2) the relationship fear loop.

The complexities of relationships can be confusing and maddening and difficult to sort given the intense emotions attached to the people in our lives. But I have found that journaling can help us learn to advocate for our needs, create space when necessary, and navigate challenging conversations with a new sense of confidence and self-awareness. This is why I recommend journaling to almost everyone!

Whether you use The Treasured Journal or simply a plain pad of paper, journaling can help you see yourself, and your situation, more clearly. If you opt for the journal, you'll get useful questions, prompts, and sentence starters that perfectly complement the concepts discussed in this series. 

Click for THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Thank you for listening. This episode originally aired as #117 on February 6, 2023.

I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you'd like to share. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback is invaluable.

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Welcome to the next installment in the Journal Your Way to Clarity series. This is the first of a two-part look at relationships, a topic that tends to dominate our thoughts and conversations. 

Whether it's the heartache, frustration, or anger that we feel toward a partner or someone else in our lives, these emotions usually reveal the need for work that looks inward, not outward. 

The desire to be seen and heard—to connect with others on a meaningful level—is universal. But achieving that type of connection hinges on our ability to define what "being there" truly means. 

So, when journaling about relationships, I encourage you to start with the following prompts: 

What do I really feel?

What do I really want?

How can I satisfy that for myself with some small action?

For this series of exercises, you don’t have to use The Treasured Journal—a plain pad of paper will do. But if you do use the journal, you can take advantage of questions, prompts, and sentence stems to move past the blank page and gain the type of clarity that comes from meaningful self-reflection.

Pick up THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Thank you for listening. This episode originally aired as #116 on January 30, 2023.

Thank you for being part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. I appreciate your support and engagement. Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you'd like to share. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback is invaluable. 

BOOKS I’M READING (visit your local bookseller or library):

Spare by Prince Harry - https://www.amazon.com/Spare-Prince-Harry-Duke-Sussex/dp/0593593804

The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté, MD with Daniel Maté - https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Normal-Illness-Healing-Culture/dp/0593083881

Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy - https://www.goodinside.com/book/

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron - https://juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

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Hello! Well, a lot has happened since we last connected. Let me bring you up to date.

In January of this year, I decided to devote a series of podcast episodes to the seven life themes found in The Treasured Journal:  career, relationships, money, love, sex, family, and purpose. I recorded and published episodes on three of the seven themes and invited listeners to journal along with me. 

The ideas and questions discussed in each podcast supplied listeners with guided exercises that helped them go deeper and explore the themes further. The “Journal Your Way to Clarity” series was going well, and then… I found out I was pregnant!

Somehow, the excitement of the pregnancy, the need to make room for a fourth human in our house, and all the other planning activities commandeered my brain. So now, in October, after giving birth to our sweet baby boy and taking time off to focus on my family, I am ready to re-engage with the podcast and the “Journal Your Way to Clarity” series.

I am so excited to be back and can’t wait to get in front of the microphone again! To level set, I’m going to start by replaying the episodes that were published previously and then I’ll be back with fresh content for the remaining themes. 

In Part 1 of the series, I focus on career. People tend to have a lot of unconscious bias, complicated feelings, and self-identity wrapped up in their careers. So it’s worth examining through journaling how we perceive its value and its effect on us.

Journaling is one of the most powerful tools we have for gaining clarity and understanding. Whether you’re experienced at journaling or brand new to it, I encourage you to take advantage of these guided exercises to explore the seven themes in your life.  

You can get a copy of THE TREASURED JOURNAL here: https://danielleireland.com/journal

It’s not essential that you use The Treasured Journal for these exercises—a plain pad of paper and pen will do. But, along with this series of podcasts, the questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal will help you move past the blank page and gain the type of clarity that comes from meaningful self-reflection.

Thank you for listening to the Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs podcast. This episode originally aired as #115 on January 23, 2023.

BOOKS MENTIONED

The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté, MD with Daniel Maté - https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Normal-Illness-Healing-Culture/dp/0593083881

Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey - https://thenapministry.com

Spare by Prince Harry - https://www.amazon.com/Spare-Prince-Harry-Duke-Sussex/dp/0593593804

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE 

Website: danielleireland.com

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

Even with all of the progress we’ve made in our attitudes toward mental health and therapy, many people still find it hard to admit that they need help. And often, if they do ask for help, they’ve waited far too long. 

Granted, therapy is not the only modality for emotional healing. Talking with friends, exercise, travel, and dozens of other things can help the healing process. But, only therapy is therapy. 

Most of us look long and hard for reasons to avoid therapy. But, ultimately, THINKING about starting therapy is way harder than ACTUALLY starting therapy, and it’s because of these three myths. 

1 - Something is wrong with me. (Not true.)

2 - I have failed. (Again, not true.)

3 - I have to know why I want it to start it. (No, you don’t.)

Feeling the need to suck it up, to swallow our pain, to push through the hard times on our own is not only unnecessary, it also can be quite harmful. 

If you’ve been thinking about starting therapy, don’t wait until the walls are crashing down around you. Taking that first step is easier than you think. If starting therapy seems scary and disempowering, consider this—therapy can be whatever you want it to be. 

Thank you for listening. 

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For me and many others, journaling has been a life-changing practice. Sometimes you can grab a pen and any sheet of paper and the thoughts flow easily. But if you’re feeling blocked and having trouble finding the clarity you need, consider using the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you organize your thoughts and feelings. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us. 

This episode originally aired as #111 on November 7, 2022.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

Website: danielleireland.com

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

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Lauren Rieker, RDN, is a registered dietitian and owner/manager of Collaborative Counseling & Nutrition, an outpatient nutrition and body image counseling center in Indianapolis. I talk with Lauren about her own history with food, exercise, and health—and how it led her to pursue an approach to eating disorders, body image, and intuitive eating that emphasizes compassion, mindfulness, and holistic treatment.

This is not a typical discussion about our bodies and food-related struggles. In today’s environment, virtually all women are affected by pervasive messaging—and often misinformation—about body weight, size, and shape. So, I hope you will join us as Lauren shares her experience and perspective on these and related topics: intuitive eating, eating disorders versus disordered eating, conventional diet culture and health outcomes, trusting our bodies, and combining therapy services and nutrition for healthy living.

Thank you for listening!

CONNECT WITH LAUREN

Website: Collab-counseling.com 

Instagram: @laurenrieker.rd

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For me and many others, journaling has been a life-changing practice. Sometimes you can grab a pen and any sheet of paper and the thoughts flow easily. But if you’re feeling blocked and having trouble finding the clarity you need, consider using the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you organize your thoughts and feelings. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us. 

This episode originally aired as #109 on October 17, 2022.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

Website: danielleireland.com

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

Women have always known that building community with other women creates a powerful force for good. Leslie Bailey, the co-founder and CEO of Indy Maven and Maven Space, has transformed that knowledge into a lifestyle media company and community for women that epitomizes her spirit of collaboration, support, and inspiration. 

I love the wisdom and vulnerability that she brings to our discussion on managing success, giving away too much of yourself, setting boundaries, asking for help, and understanding that self-care is about more than bubble baths. This is an invaluable discussion for anyone who has ever felt overwhelmed, in need of support, or out of control despite their achievements.

Thank you for listening!

CONNECT WITH LESLIE and INDY MAVEN

Indy Maven Website: https://indymaven.com/

Maven Space website: https://mavenspace.co/

Leslie Bailey Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lesalina/

Leslie Bailey Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Lesalina

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For me and many others, journaling has been a life-changing practice. Sometimes you can grab a pen and any sheet of paper and the thoughts flow easily. But if you’re feeling blocked and having trouble finding the clarity you need, consider using the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you organize your thoughts and feelings. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us. 

This episode originally aired as #104 on May 16, 2022.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

Website: danielleireland.com

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

My guest is an absolute powerhouse of a woman, Betsy Murphy. Betsy is the author of several popular books, including the "Autobiography of an Orgasm" and "Write On: A Daily Writing Practice for Anyone with a Story to Tell." 

Betsy is a screenwriter, performer, speaker, writing coach, and guide for women to help retrieve the hidden parts of their stories. She discusses the things most people don't want to talk about, but does so in a way that makes you feel comfortable being part of the conversation. 

I found several key takeaways in our discussion, including how gratitude can keep us alive, how feeling it all is necessary, and why we need to pay attention to the footprints. I'm confident you’ll find valuable inspiration here, too. 

Thank you for listening!

CONNECT WITH BETSY MURPHY

Website: http://betsybmurphy.com/

Instagram: @Betsybmurphy

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For me and many others, journaling has been a life-changing practice. Sometimes you can grab a pen and any sheet of paper and the thoughts flow easily. But if you’re feeling blocked and having trouble finding the clarity you need, consider using the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you organize your thoughts and feelings. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us. 

This episode originally aired as #90 on November 1, 2021.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

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Kate Kennett is a mother, SCUBA diver, whale enthusiast, content creator, entrepreneur, and life and business coach who wants to help you realize your passion and expand your reach so that you can live a life you deserve. She is a disruptor in the best sense of the term.

As a coach, Kate speaks from experience. She knows the value of taking risks, facing change head-on, learning from mistakes, and saying “yes” even when you don’t feel ready. She believes in asking yourself “why” until no more “why” is left.

We talk about dreams and goals and how to manage the journey in between. How do we stay inspired? What about the steps needed to get to the goal? Can we just ignore the naysayers? Where can we find accountability?

Kate is an absolute delight and her experiences make for great conversation. 

Thank you for listening!

CONNECT WITH KATE

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/itskate-16a327193/

Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/content_monkey/?hl=en

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For me and many others, journaling has been a life-changing practice. Sometimes you can grab a pen and any sheet of paper and the thoughts flow easily. But if you’re feeling jammed up and having trouble finding the clarity you need, consider using the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you organize your thoughts and feelings. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us. 

This episode originally aired as #79 on January 27, 2021. 

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE 

Website: danielleireland.com 

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

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Hello. I invite you to join me as I revisit one of my favorite episodes—a discussion of compassion fatigue and empathy with Liesel Mertes. Liesel is a workplace empathy consultant and founder of Handle with Care Consulting. 

The need for compassion and empathy after loss or disruption is vital to every aspect of our lives. Even though this can be a heavy topic, our discussion is light and gentle. I’m confident that anyone whose life and worldview have been disrupted over the last several years will find benefit in Liesel’s experience and insight.

We also spend time talking about the workplace specifically. Management must reckon with the fact that today’s workforce values compassionate leadership and that translates to greater productivity, loyalty, and employee retention. I know you’ll appreciate Liesel’s expertise as she walks us through several examples of how managers can realize empathy and compassion as essential leadership skills.

Thank you for listening!

CONNECT WITH LIESEL MERTES

Website: https://www.lieselmertes.com/ 

Podcast: https://www.lieselmertes.com/blog-2 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lieselmertes/

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Journaling can be life-changing. Grab a pen and put your thoughts on paper—you might be amazed by how much it helps. But, if you’re having trouble getting started or sorting out your thoughts, consider getting a copy of the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us. 

This episode originally aired as #72 on November 23, 2020, and was updated with a new introduction in May 2022 after the tragic school shooting in Uvalde, TX. 

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE 

Website: danielleireland.com 

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

When doing the emotional work toward healing and recovery, you will at times wonder whether you’re on the right path. Eventually and inevitably, you'll ask how you will know when you are “done” or healed.

This is an important question, so I want to revisit a discussion that explores what it means to heal, how we can identify areas that need attention, and how we can gauge our progress.

I delve into how our bodies can help us pinpoint areas that need healing as well as the nuances that differentiate being triggered from feeling activated.

The level of activation we feel with painful emotions—anger, grief, worry, frustration, and sadness—can tell us a lot about where we are on our journey. The less these emotions consume us, the more healed we become.

One useful way to gauge our level of activation is through journaling about our relationships, memories, and experiences. If you’ve tried journaling, but find yourself getting stuck—not knowing what to write or having trouble going deep—I invite you to get a copy of the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems that will help you open up so that you can realize the benefits of journaling. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at this link:

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Please feel free to reach out to me with any questions, comments, or experiences that you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this podcast and makes it easier for new listeners to find us. 

Thank you for listening!

This episode originally aired as #52 on June 24, 2020. 

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE 

Website: danielleireland.com 

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

We are inundated every day with images and messaging and even well-intentioned remarks that we are not beautiful enough or thin enough or good enough. The cost of consuming, comparing, and self-criticism in our beauty culture is far too high. 

But, the good news is that each of us can learn to re-think the images and re-frame the messaging. We really can get to a place where we love the person we see in the mirror.

Marianne Talkovski is a licensed acupuncturist and esthetician. As the owner of Project Gorgeous, Marianne focuses on organic skin care and acupuncture for stress relief, healthy aging, and fertility. 

Her journey, including her own struggles with our cultural standards of beauty, has fueled a passion for helping her clients prioritize self-care, improve their health and energy, pursue their desires, and love the skin they are in.

In this discussion, Marianne explains how our most authentic expression of beauty can be found in radical self-acceptance. We talk about the connection between our emotions and our bodies, the role of awareness in healing, and the way our face reflects the life we live. 

I know you’ll find some interesting ideas here. Thank you for listening!

CONNECT WITH MARIANNE

Website - https://projectgorgeous.com/

Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/projectgorgeousindy/

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Journaling can be life-changing. Grab a pen and put your thoughts on paper—you might be amazed by how much it helps. But, if you’re having trouble getting started or sorting out your thoughts, consider getting a copy of the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us.

This episode originally aired as #50 on June 9, 2020.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

Website: danielleireland.com

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

At the time of this interview, Corey Sleet worked his magic as a Senior Stylist at Bobby Cooper Salon. Now, Corey is co-owner and Master Stylist at Lux Lab Hair + Body in Carmel, Indiana.  

Corey describes how, as a kid growing up in Gary, Indiana, he knew at a very young age that he wanted to be a stylist, but he struggled with how others might perceive that desire so he kept the dream to himself for a long time. Today, Corey is one of the leading professionals in his field and I love the story of how he got here. 

I first sat in Corey’s chair about a decade ago. I appreciate his unique blend of humor, honesty, and professionalism. We talk about some of my favorite subjects: what it means to have a vision for your future, what happens when doubt sets in, and what it feels like to turn a dream into reality.

I know you’ll enjoy this fun chat with Corey. Thank you for listening!  

CONNECT WITH COREY 

Lux Lab Hair + Body: https://luxlab.aurasalonware.com/login

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luxlabhairandbody/

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Journaling can be life-changing. Grab a pen and put your thoughts on paper—you might be amazed by how much it helps. But, if you’re having trouble getting started or sorting out your thoughts, consider getting a copy of the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. Get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us.

This episode was originally published as #47 on May 20, 2020.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

Website: danielleireland.com

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

Tanorria Askew is a DEI consultant and coach, personal chef, cookbook author, public speaker, podcast co-host, and social justice activist. She is passionate about creating connections and community by gathering people around a dinner table to share a memorable meal and unforgettable conversation. 

Growing up, she learned to associate food with community and then, as an adult, worked as a corporate trainer focused on diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI). But her appearance on season 7 of MasterChef with Gordon Ramsey prompted a leap of faith and sent her down a new path as a business owner who uses her many gifts to unite people of disparate races, cultures, and backgrounds.

You will love Tanorria’s fantastic energy and presence. And I know you’ll find hope and inspiration in her commitment to creating inclusive spaces, breaking down barriers, encouraging uncomfortable conversations, and promoting action in the face of injustice. 

Thank you for listening!

CONNECT WITH TANORRIA

Tanorria’s Table: https://www.tanorriastable.com/

Black Girls Eating podcast: https://www.blackgirlseating.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanorriastable/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tanorriastable/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanorria-askew-5379b255/

Cookbook: Staples + 5: 100 Simple Recipes to Make the Most of Your Pantry: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Tanorria-Askew/author/

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Journaling can be a life-changing tool. Grab a pen and put your thoughts on paper—you might be amazed by how much it helps. But, if you’re having trouble getting started or sorting out your thoughts, consider getting a copy of the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. You can get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Please feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us.

This episode was originally published as #43 on April 27, 2020.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

Website: danielleireland.com

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

"becauseOne" is an online platform that connects people's passions with the needs of those served by non-profit organizations. This remarkable initiative sprang from the collaborative vision of sisters Stephany Dolan and Stacia Jones and was driven by their family's desire to strengthen community and make it easier to help others.  

We look at how to use becauseOne to get involved with organizations that match your specific areas of interest. And, as part of our discussion about the enthusiasm and challenges around developing their idea, Stephany and Stacia explain how elevating the good being done in the world is a key part of their vision. 

I’m excited to bring you this discussion because the platform is transforming how we give while also serving as an antidote to online negativity. With becauseOne, anyone can embrace philanthropy, spread positivity, and witness the direct impact of their contributions. 

Thank you for listening!

RESOURCES

becauseOne website: https://becauseone.com/

Call: 463-444-8301 

Email: info@becauseOne.com 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087037890605

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becauseone_community/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/becauseone/

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Journaling can be a life-changing tool. Grab a pen and put your thoughts on paper—you might be amazed by how much it helps. But, if you’re having trouble getting started or sorting out your thoughts, consider getting a copy of the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. You can get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Please feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us.

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE

Website: danielleireland.com

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

Danielle starts with an update on her pregnancy and ongoing home renovation, recent reading and recommendations, and then shares what listeners can expect from the show this fall while she is getting acquainted with her newborn son.

The main focus of the discussion, however, centers on the often daunting task of setting, communicating, and upholding boundaries. Danielle compares the hard work of identifying the need for a boundary and finding the courage to discuss a boundary with the hard work of pregnancy, because, why not? Of course, the most challenging aspect of boundary setting can be upholding the boundary—keeping it alive—especially when faced with resistance or backsliding.  

Boundaries have consequences, but managing them successfully is integral to healthy relationships, including your relationship with yourself. So, remember, (1) clear is kind, (2) less is more, and (3) someone else’s reaction to your boundary does not change anything about that boundary. 

This is an important topic for all of us. Thanks for listening!

REFERENCES

The Myth of Normal by Daniel Maté and Gabor Maté

Tell Me Everything by Minka Kelly 

Good Inside by Becky Kennedy, PhD

becauseOne - https://becauseone.com/

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Journaling can be a life-changing tool. Grab a pen and put your thoughts on paper—you might be amazed by how much it helps. But, if you’re having trouble getting started or sorting out your thoughts, consider getting a copy of the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. You can get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below.

THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Please feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us. 

CONNECT WITH DANIELLE 

Website: danielleireland.com 

Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW

Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW