FamilyConnections Podcast

Do you often feel like you do so much for your family but no seems to value or appreciate your efforts?

In this episode we outline and discuss what to do in this situation and learn to request for and appreciate the appreciation!

Here's what we discussed: 

Part 1: dealing with yourself

1. Validate the need for appreciation
2. Show yourself compassion for feeling this longing.
3. Notice when you do feel cared for
   1. Name the feeling
   2. Stay with the feeling
   3. Growing resource to draw upon.
4. Appreciate yourself. Allow yourself to feel good when you do something for others. Pat yourself on the back. Say “that’s like me”.

Part 2: Deal with overfunctioning

1. Why are you doing what you are doing? Do you feel forced? “I should” “I have to”. These signs that you feel compelled – breeding ground for resentment.
2. Notice choice. And get in touch with the value and meaning of doing things for your family.
   1. Love for family
   2. Own values about cleanliness for example
   3. Pleasing God

Part 3: Dealing with others

1. Lead by example. Role model appreciation. Value yourself and value others
2. Figure out if it is not valuing or not expressing
3. Speak up: xyz. Not blaming but sharing your experience and need
4. Request change
5. Appreciate their appreciation – give positive feedback. It felt really good.
6. Learn to take compliments gracefully
7. Grow your circle – build culture of appreciation with friends and colleagues

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What’s more, the factors that caused your self-doubt in the first place are not always the same ones that are maintaining it now. Perhaps bullying as a child caused your habit of self-doubt initially, but as an adult, your mental habit of asking other people for reassurance is what’s maintaining it.

Have you heard the saying "When Mamma isn't happy, nobody's happy"? It is true that mothers have an enormous influence on the emotional climate in the home. In this episode we discuss the impact of mother's wellbeing on the family and what we can do as women to work towards our own wellbeing

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Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. How well we do during challenging times depends upon our resilience. In this episode we explore compassion as a practice to build resilience 

This is from a live session for  youth on building resilience. 

We have heard the saying: When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. In this session, we explore the ways in which we cope with adversity, attitudes and practices that are helpful and those that are unhelpful. We also talk about the idea of post traumatic growth and what we can all do to learn and grow during challenging times.

Many of us have been struggling with too much togetherness in our families during the lockdown. The stress of changes around us, the anxiety of the unknown and the fact that everyone is struggling are making it more challenging than ever to get along. In this episode we discuss some of the ways we can manage. 

In this short presentation, we outline three simple and practical ways to manage family relationships during the lockdown

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As parents we are busy taking care of our families and can sometimes feel that we are running on empty. When we feel like we are running on empty, it can impact the emotional climate of the home and that is a big reason to remember to take care of ourselves as well. 

In this session, we had a very interesting discussion about what it means to take self-care seriously and how we can adopt it as a way of life

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We all know the saying “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.” But what happens after that? The transition from “married” to “married with children” can be tough. Suddenly your time is not your own, you are tired, sleep deprived and pulled in so many directions. Although having children is a big blessing, it is also a huge responsibility and the challenges that come with parenthood can put a strain on the strongest of relationships. In this session, we will explore ways to navigate the challenges and nurture your marriage while parenting.