First Time Parents Podcast

It’s often the small things that make or break a relationship.

In our last session with our Communication Coach, James Fish Gill, we revisit some of the big (small) popcorn moments that have impacted our relationship most, as well as the baby number 2 scenario… 

Thanks for coming on the journey with us!

Heidi & Griff x 

Relationship eps and homework sheets

https://www.heidileeanderson.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

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This is deep! Heidi catches up with her former NXFM breakfast co-host and dear friend, Heath Piper, in his very first podcast interview.

Shit gets very raw and very real.

• True feeling confessions about your newborn 

• Processing the concept of death when you become a parent

• How to find your purpose again when your career ends and you’re a parent 

• Having a vision for your life and family 

• Personal daily regrets  [LINK TO] Heath’s podcast Playback Interviews - https://playbackinterviews.com.au/

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Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100089691273653

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When our therapist James Fish Gill didn’t rock up to our last session, Griff and I felt called to have our own chat about how we think we’ve been going in our relationship and in parenting.

Links referenced in the show: My article for Mama Mia 'My husband is "one and done", but I want another baby.' -

https://www.mamamia.com.au/one-and-done/

My book ‘Drunk on Confidence’ - https://www.heidileeanderson.com/Drunk-On-Confidence-Book

James Fish Gill on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/james_fish_gill/?hl=en-gb

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THERAPY SESSION 5 BABY #2 UPDATE

"Do I really want baby number 2 or is it society telling me I want baby number 2?" Heidi's words in therapy session number 5.

This podcast not only saved us from divorce court but it has given us the space to speak and dive into this big decision without conflict and since sharing our dirty laundry live to the public, the conflict between as actually dissolved.

In today's therapy session we dive into where the couple are with having baby number 2!!!

THIS IS A BIG ONE!!!!!

To listen to therapy session in FULL& get your homework https://www.heidileeanderson.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

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Does it feel like your toddler pushes the boundaries with mum so much more than dad?!

Why is this?

Mandy from Raise Toddlers todays special guest drops in to tell us WHY and answers some of your qs

How we should communicate with my toddler? 

Rewarding my toddler for good behaviour - yay or nay? 
Talking all things toddler behaviours and best practices.
Stalk Mandy: https://www.instagram.com/raisetoddlers/?hl=en

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Why is my child getting up at 5am?

Why wont my child go to sleep?

All the hard hitting questions answered in todays pod with sleep expert Donna Moala.

Stalk Donna https://www.instagram.com/bub2sleep/

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From room mates to sex almost every day...Nikki opens up about her current sex life with her hubby. After 16 years of being together and 2 kids, Nikki still has sex almost every day thanks to 5 things she shares in the pod! 

Nikki Chamberlain has momentum in the bedroom with her hubby & she joins Heidi to speak honestly about how they got their MOJO back. 

Stalk Nikki https://www.instagram.com/nikkiccoaching/

https://www.mamamia.com.au/sex-everyday/

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Talk dirty to me? This X-rated, NO BS sex chat is for parents who are struggling to get it on and have lost momentum...

Heidi & Griff have been a borefest lately, they've forgotten how to play in the bedroom & their sex life hasn't been a priority.

Today they are joined by Luke Skewes Intimacy & Relationship Coach who drops in with simple & sexy tips to get your libido going...

Stalk Luke https://www.instagram.com/lukeskewes/?hl=en

ALL LUKES FREEBIES https://www.heidileeanderson.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

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Ex-child Abuse Detective & former Cop Kristi is on a mission to NORMALISE child protective behaviours & conversations in your family.

THESE STATS ARE WHY THIS CONVO IS SO IMPORTANT ON THE POD TODAY.

1 in 3 girls are /will be a victim of child sexual abuse.

1 in 5 boys are/ will be a victim of child sexual abuse.

MORE than 90% of the time, it IS someone YOU know who harms your child.

Kids wont tell YOU anything unless you empower and educate your little ones & it starts NOW with protective behaviours. 

Let's NORMALISE these conversations to keep our kids safe.

Stalk Kristi and get her book Operation Kids Safe

https://cape-au.com/book

https://www.instagram.com/kristimcvee/

Books for your children

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Alan was coming home from work angry... His automatic response was to react & yell at his kids.

His wife Jess, would lovingly tell him to "fuck off and take 5"... this has changed the game for him and his family. In this ep we dive into HOW Alan STOPPED using fear to stop his kids being naughty and how he is breaking the cycle from his upbringing. 

If you or your partner go to FEAR & ANGER when parenting, this is a must listen on how to take 5, regroup and learn a new way.

Stalk Alan here

https://www.instagram.com/alanhowle/

Alan's Mamamia article 

https://www.mamamia.com.au/how-to-be-a-better-father/?fbclid=IwAR1iso8HsCZb1zVOxQqN67lto1lVOQ9J_c9bi6gHY89FAHCMoBIYeNoylt4

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MIC DROP moment from Debbie, "Date night is cheaper than divorce"

Let's be honest, most of us post kiddies, can't be bothered to woo our partners anymore, and SEX? What is that? 

Soooo...how do you keep the spark alive?

Or reignite it? 

Debbie Rivers, dating expert joins our first time parents this week to give some super simple dating tips to bring back the spark.

This is a must listen, if you aren't feeling like jumping your partners bones. 

Stalk Debbie here https://www.instagram.com/debbieriversdatingexpert/

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In therapy session 4 our First Time Parents GO deep into baby number 2 debate.

Griffo doesn't want another one, as he felt depressed after their son Memphis was born.

Heidi is desperate for baby number 2 and she bravely speaks into what this feels like.

The couple get very REAL & candid about their therapy session in a post chat, Heidi wants Griffo to feel more into her pain.

You will need tissues for this one, it's a BIG session of both of them FEELING each other. Lots of tears & pain.

BONUS - WE have been published in Mamamia online - read our story https://www.mamamia.com.au/one-and-done/

SPONSORED BY First time Mum our very own Heidi Anderson 

Pick her book up in all good book stores or online here is a list of book stores  https://www.heidileeanderson.com/Drunk-On-Confidence-Book

Or listen on Audio book as Heidi reads it herself. (there is 3 sample chapters for you to listen on her website above)

TAG Heidi on insta listening to the podcast!!

https://www.instagram.com/_heidianderson/

The full therapy session and worksheets is available here https://heidi-anderson.mykajabi.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

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Relationship Therapy session 4...and the first time parents talk about how they communicate with their 3.5 year old son.

Griffo gets upsets and refuses to talk to Memphis at daycare pick up, when he ignores him.

Heidi calls Griffo out on it, in their therapy session and they discuss.

TAG Heidi on insta listening to the podcast!!

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The full therapy session and worksheets is available here https://heidi-anderson.mykajabi.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

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Welcome to the NO bullshit chat on HOW to communicate with your toddler, create deeper connections & stop scrolling with Childhood Educator & parenting coach Victoria. 

Parents are busier than ever...but our children are suffering because of it. Today's guest give YOU some really easy, simple actionable steps on HOW to communicate with your toddler.

SPONSORED BY First time Mum our very own Heidi Anderson 

Pick her book up in all good book stores or online here is a list of book stores  https://www.heidileeanderson.com/Drunk-On-Confidence-Book

Or listen on Audio book as Heidi reads it herself. (there is 3 sample chapters for you to listen on her website above)

TAG Heidi on insta listening to the podcast!!

https://www.instagram.com/_heidianderson/

The full therapy session and worksheets is available here https://heidi-anderson.mykajabi.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

Stalk Vic https://www.instagram.com/the.victoria.r/ & book a 1-1 https://calendly.com/the-victoria-r/1-1-meeting-zoom-call-47-clone?month=2023-05

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First Time Dad Sparky "Griff Daddy" sits down with relationship coach Tully O'Connor to talk about mens mental health, WHY asking for help is most peoples biggest cock block and HOW he went from not wanting baby number 2 to just announcing!

CSA - all men need to listen to this chat! Just sayin!

This is a game changing ep...

SPONSORED BY First time Mum our very own Heidi Anderson 

Pick her book up in all good book stores or online here is a list of book stores  https://www.heidileeanderson.com/Drunk-On-Confidence-Book

Or listen on Audio book as Heidi reads it herself. (there is 3 sample chapters for you to listen on her website above)

TAG Heidi on insta listening to the podcast!!

https://www.instagram.com/_heidianderson/

The full therapy session and worksheets is available here https://heidi-anderson.mykajabi.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

Stalk Tully https://www.instagram.com/tullyoconnor/

Link for free training: https://www.tullyoconnor.com/4pillars
Link for new program: https://tullyoconnor.kartra.com/page/relationshipmastery

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Griffo sits down with relationship coach Tully O'Connor to talk about not wanting another baby.

Tully wasn't ready for baby number 2 either...

This is 2 blokes sitting down having a real chat about parenthood & Tully's perception on what the issue is with couples. He sees a lot of blokes not being ready but they're not willing to look at WHY they aren't ready and sit in the uncomfortable.

This is a game changing ep...

SPONSORED BY First time Mum our very own Heidi Anderson 

Pick her book up in all good book stores or online here is a list of book stores  https://www.heidileeanderson.com/Drunk-On-Confidence-Book

Or listen on Audio book as Heidi reads it herself. (there is 3 sample chapters for you to listen on her website above)

TAG Heidi on insta listening to the podcast!!

https://www.instagram.com/_heidianderson/

The full therapy session and worksheets is available here https://heidi-anderson.mykajabi.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

Stalk Tully https://www.instagram.com/tullyoconnor/

Link for free training: https://www.tullyoconnor.com/4pillars
Link for new program: https://tullyoconnor.kartra.com/page/relationshipmastery

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Heidi talks to Mum of one, Kirstin about the decision to NOT have baby number 2....

Her hubby made the decision after her mental health landed her in hospital after their first child. 

This chat could be triggering for some, as they talk about grief and mental well being of Mum Kirstin.

SPONSORED BY First time Mum our very own Heidi Anderson 

Pick her book up in all good book stores or online here is a list of book stores  https://www.heidileeanderson.com/Drunk-On-Confidence-Book

Or listen on Audio book as Heidi reads it herself. (there is 3 sample chapters for you to listen on her website above)

TAG Heidi on insta listening to the podcast!!

https://www.instagram.com/_heidianderson/

The full therapy session and worksheets is available here https://heidi-anderson.mykajabi.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

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Griffo told Heidi, he was worried sick about their finances and was struggling to be present because of this.

Clare Wood, Author of "Intentional Profit" & Money Mindset Coach spoke to the First Time Parents about how to navigate money conversations with couples, her top tips to be intentional with spending and how to master your mindset when it comes to money!

Not to be missed!!! TAG Heidi and Clare on insta listening to today's ep 

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https://www.instagram.com/clare_wood_coach/

Stalk Clare Wood & pick her book up here https://clarewood.com/intentionalprofit/

Listen to part 1 of Heidi & Griff's chat https://omny.fm/shows/first-time-parents/griff

SPONSORED BY First time Mum our very own Heidi Anderson 

Pick her book up in all good book stores or online here is a list of book stores  https://www.heidileeanderson.com/Drunk-On-Confidence-Book

Or listen on Audio book as Heidi reads it herself. (there is 3 sample chapters for you to listen on her website above)

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Griffo is ONE and done.

PART 2 of the great baby debate, Griffo dives into the guilt he feels in not wanting another baby.

Fish our Therapy Communication Coach, coaches the first time parents into truely seeing, feeling and understanding each others desires.

If you haven't listened to part 1 - press play on last weeks where Heidi is desperate for him to see her pain... ep https://omny.fm/shows/first-time-parents/griffo-im-95-sure-i-dont-want-another-baby

Let us know what you think of the ep by tagging us in your stories @_heidianderson on insta 

SPONSORED BY KITCHEN LANGUAGE perfect for potty mouths 18+

www.kitchenlanguage.com.au  

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Kitchen Language is an Australian business (based in Melbourne) that is perfect for potty mouths 18+ It's run by Simone, a sweary bitch and she loves that her customers get a giggle from her sweary offerings.

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Are you sick of buying your partner the same old shit? Kitchen Language has you covered! We sell aprons, tea towels, stubby holders, keyring bottle openers, cardboard coasters and greeting cards with a whole lotta fucking swearing! 

STALK https://www.instagram.com/james_fish_gill/

The full therapy session and worksheets is available here https://heidi-anderson.mykajabi.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

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Therapy session #3 Heidi & Griff speak openly about having another child. Griff is a no & Heidi is desperate for another. Her words, "I feel broken."

The couple had to bring a conflict to their therapy session with Fish, they both came with the topic - baby number 2.

This is a very personal, vulnerable insight into their relationship and the conversation they are trying to have around baby number 2 and seeing each others pain instead of fighting about it.

Heidi's heart is OPEN in this ep in a big way, you may need to grab some tissues.

ITS A BIG ONE!!!

let us know what you think of the ep by tagging us in your stories @_heidianderson on insta 

SPONSORED BY KITCHEN LANGUAGE perfect for potty mouths 18+

www.kitchenlanguage.com.au  

https://www.instagram.com/kitchenlanguage/

Kitchen Language is an Australian business (based in Melbourne) that is perfect for potty mouths 18+ It's run by Simone, a sweary bitch and she loves that her customers get a giggle from her sweary offerings.

USE CODE LOVE for free shipping 
Are you sick of buying your partner the same old shit? Kitchen Language has you covered! We sell aprons, tea towels, stubby holders, keyring bottle openers, cardboard coasters and greeting cards with a whole lotta fucking swearing! 

STALK https://www.instagram.com/james_fish_gill/

The full therapy session and worksheets is available here https://heidi-anderson.mykajabi.com/FTP-relationship-therapy

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.