It's A Mess, Sis!

Hello, Hello!

Welcome back to the conversation. This Episode is all about being “weird”. We define it, discuss the impact of “being weird” in our lives, like the good, bad, ugly, and weird. Then round it out with how we cope.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
 
 OH, and if you vibe...we tribe!

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Mother's Day just passed and we used our recording time to not only discuss our beautiful mothers but also to explore how we are "Mothering" ourselves in life and carrying on their work.

So, join us.... as we have conversation about “Mothering” and  what it means to be a mother to oneself,  the impact of stepping into that maternal role as we learn to care for ourselves and conclude with how we are coping and intend to cope moving forward.  

OH, and if you vibe...we tribe! 

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Y'all are back!!!...and we love y'all for that!... 

This episode we have conversation about “healing” and “ambition” (define), how the two correlate (aka impact), and how we (cope) moving forward.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
 
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 Question: If the World was Ending, Would You Want to Know?

 

This episode we  have conversation about “knowing” talk about the impact and how we cope with having so much access to information, knowledge, and each other. 

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
 

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Back with a lighter conversation for you all!

We've all done it. Thought about something unsavoryr...illegal... a crime and said "no, I could never, it would cost too much, it's too much of a risk...but what if it wasn't? What if you had a real "Get out of Jail" card?

That's what we talk about in this episode...if there were no consequences, what crime would we commit, why, and what would be the impact?

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What do y'all think?

As the title implies, this week we talk about Black "Excellence" vs "Mediocrity" and find our selves on opposite sides of the spectrum. So give us a listen, hit us up on social media, and join the  conversation!

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BOOM, you're suddenly 25, 29, or 32...or whatever age and you look up and ask yourself, "Damn, where did my friends go?"

This is your episode.


Alot of us spend our years going through "Growing Pains" at different stages in our lives. When we are children, we go through physical growing pains from our bodys shifting and changing, as teens we tackle independence and sense of self as we learn to make our own decisions. And in our 20s (and 30s and ongoing really) we continue to grow as we hone our relationships as we transition  from our school age years, surrounded by friends, to seeing our socialization  needs and behavior change as that number of people dwindle down when enter our adult years.

 Suggested by a lovely listener (Jessica, You Rock!...see what we did there), This episode we explore friendship, growth, and releasing (aka "The Great Shed" as social media calls it) in our mid 20s (and beyond), the impact in our lives, and how we did/will cope.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you! 

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Ever hear of Pride and Prejuidice? Well today we bring you "Failure and Punishment"...LOL.

Seriously,  this episode we are talking about.....failure in our lives and the ways in which we punish ourselves, and the impact of it all.

This is a topic I think everyone actively avoids in both  action and thought. Even in describing this episode, I feel like I am failing to fully capture the weight of this theme in our lives.

So, if you have ever felt like you failed, feel like youre failing...wonder if you failed...wonder what it feels like to fail...check out this episode. This is one of our deeper and more vulnerable topics spanning two areas of our lives.

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Hey Everyone!

We're a week late and a few dollars short (we literally forgot to record and post last week)...and you know what?... we accept that!

And that is what our episode is all about.

ACCEPTANCE.

This episode we seek to explore our definitions or acceptance, analyze how acceptance shows up in our lives, and how we intend to cope. So listen in and feel free to contact us using the info below. Don't be shy!

If you vibe, we tribe...right?

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“Freedom is never given voluntarily by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed." - MLK
 
You know when you open something with an MLK quote...or a quote in general, we are about to be on 10!
 
On this MLK day (when recorded), we decided to discuss one of the pillars of Dr. King's movement and that was...FREEDOM.
 
Or maybe this topic came up because we found ourselves at work one day, commiserating with a fellow colleague, and exclaimed why must we work for a living and if FREEDOM is an illusion? 
 
You'll never know unless you listen to the episode...so just stop reading and go on and do that! 
 
But if you must continue to read, this episode we define freedom, discuss the impact and why talking about this is even important, and lastly, we discuss how to cope with all of this.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
  
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Here's to Another Year Y'all! ( Entering Year 4...We 80 episodes DEEP!!!!)

And back with our favorite recurring episode where we set our INTENTIONS for the new year, discuss last year's intentions, and share how we intend to cope in going forward. We welcome you to listen in and join us in setting intentions of your own!

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
 
 OH, and if you vibe...we tribe! So don't be shy and hit us up using the contact information below!

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Since Time is Money, and talk is cheap... Let's get straight to the point...

This conversation we talk about money, the perceptions of it, where those perceptions came from and what money is really about for us personally.

Give us a listen, and let us know your thoughts using our contacts below!
 
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We're Back!

And grateful to be back!  This episode our conversation centers around what what it means to be grateful, what we are grateful for and how gratitude has been a powerful tool in our lives. And by now you should know that we organize every episode by DIC'ing it down which stands for Define, Impact, and Cope...and if you don't know, now you know!

Give us a listen, give us your input (using the social media and contact infor below)

and if you vibe...we tribe!

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Hey Y'all

Back w/ another conversation. This time the topic comes from one of listeners wanting to hear us DIC down and explore the our thoughts on the perceptions and  expectations of black men in relationships and under societal gender norms. For example ( via the abyss that is the twitter verse): Does a black man sleeping on his stomach make him less of a protector? Does  having a nose ring/ septum piercing mean he's gay?  These are the stereotypes and expectation we dive into in the episode.

I promise...this episode isn't the dissertation it sounds like. Listen in on the convo,  give the topic a thought for yourselves, and let us know your view!

The agenda for this episode: 

As always, is to DIC’ it down, which stands for:
 
 Define, Impact, and Cope

This conversation we define  what "gender norms" and "masculinity" are to us, discuss the our perceptions and interactions w/ masculinity, and decide how he would like to cope going forward.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
 
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Time to break the shackles off my feet so I can HEAL or whatever MARY MARY said... This really should have been the title but we were playing...

Randomness aside

This episode is about breaking generational curses, cycles, etc so that we can break free of trauma and usher in the lives we desire.

The agenda for this episode: 

As always, is to DIC’ it down, which stands for:

Define, Impact,  and Cope

This conversation we define what the term generational curse is on google and to us, possibly identify a “curse” we are dealing w/ personally. Then discuss the impact of these “curses” on our lives and how we intend to cope. 

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!

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Hey Everybody!

So, we've all felt guilt about something, right? 

But,

What do you do with it? Do you just let it consume you? What's the right amount of time to feel guilty before you move on? Do you avoid it? What does it REALLY mean?  Is it valid ? Can it be helpful? How do you release it?

These are questions we tackle in this week's conversation centers on "Guilt".

The agenda for this episode: 

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This conversation we define “Guilt” and what that means for us, discuss the impact of it inand on our lives, and how we cope  or deal with “guilt” from here on out.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!

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I don't know if it's mercury being in microbraids, or what, but there seems to be this feeling of change in the air? Have you felt that you are on the verge of beginning something, or even starting something...again?Do you have a desire to start something? Are you figuring out how to resume with like anew following changes in your life? or something that makes you feel like you are embarking on new beginnings?

Guess what? So are we!

and that's why we are having this episode's conversation where the agenda :
 
“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

 This episode we define “Beginning” and what that means for us and/ or what it means to “begin again”, what it looks like, and how we know when it is time to "start. Then we discuss the impact of "beginning" on our lives, and how we cope with “beginning” as we continue....existing?

We do a thing where...We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!

Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

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Hey Hey Y'all

Back with another episode and this one is all about Monogamy...which was often confused with "Monotony" throughout the conversation...Could it have been a Fruedian Slip...possibly...how about you give the conversation a listen and find out!

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC
 
“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope". 

This episode explores the definition of Monogamy, the impact in our lives, and how we cope with our understanding of the topic going forward.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!

Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

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Is "Quiet Quitting" the way? or is it just a way to get fired?

"Quiet Quitting" is the new term taking over Tik Tok, Twitter, Linked in, CNN, all the media sites for everyone's likes. Some deem it the perfect merger between life and work and others chalk it up to a vow of inadquacy that will do more harm than good.

So what do we think? That is what this episode is all about. Is "Quiet Quitting" the way? or is it just a way to get fired.

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This conversation we define “quiet quitting”, discuss the impact in our lives,  explore our thoughts on this emerging theme, and how we intent to incorporate this theme into our lives.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!
Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

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Well, well, wel...come BACK!

Have you ever felt ...distracted? Fidgety? Unfocused? Uninterested?  Described as flighty or immature?  and recently felt like your life and personality traits have been read for filth by a tik tok or instagram influencers with no credentials outside of a blue check serving as their only source of validity..? and yet it has made you question...

Do I have it?

ADHD that is....

Same

and that is what this episode is about...so join us as we explore ourselves and do some research on ADHD, develop our understanding of the term and explore the impact it has had on our lives and functioning, and what we plan to do about it.

This Episode's Agenda:

Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we define what ADHD is,  identify the role it plays in our lives aka the impact, and end things with how we cope with it in the future.

NOTE* This episode is not intended to be used to diagnose anyone but if you feel that based on the information provided (obtained from the CDC, NIMH, and mayo clinic websites) that you may have ADHD and would like to address it...please reach out to a mental health provider by either contacting your insurance compay for an in-network referral, reaching out to your primary care physician. or using a site such as Psychology Today or Therapy For Black Girls to find a practitioner.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just keep listening…do you!

Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with Y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

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