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    It Starts With Attraction

    Revealing secrets on how to become the most attractive you can be Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually (or as us insiders call it...the PIES). Listen to weekly episodes. Join a course or get more info at kimberlybeamholmes.com

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    #1 Dopamine Expert Reveals The TRUTH About The Unconscious Mind

    #1 Dopamine Expert Reveals The TRUTH About The Unconscious Mind

    Are you curious about what REALLY drives your choices, desires, and even your sense of purpose? The answer lies within your own brain! This video takes you on a fascinating journey into the world of dopamine, the powerful neurotransmitter that shapes so much of who you are.

    We'll delve into the science to answer: What is dopamine? How does dopamine function? We'll also explore how dopamine interacts with the mysterious depths of your unconscious mind. 


    Inspired by the groundbreaking work of Dr. Daniel Lieberman ("The Molecule of More"), we'll uncover:

    • What dopamine REALLY does (it's not just about pleasure!)
    • The power of the unconscious mind and how it influences your motivations without you even knowing it
    • Practical ways to harness the power of dopamine and your unconscious for a more fulfilling life


    If you're a seeker who enjoys a blend of science and self-discovery, this video is for you! Get ready to unlock the hidden forces that shape your life and create the future you truly desire.

    Today's Guest: Dr. Daniel Z. Lieberman

    Daniel Z. Lieberman, MD is the senior vice president of mental health at Hims & Hers Health. He is also a clinical professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at George Washington University, where he has received awards for teaching and research. He studied the Great Books at St. John’s College and attended medical school at New York University. He is the coauthor of the international bestseller The Molecule of More, which has been translated into more than 20 languages, and the author of Spellbound: Modern Science, Ancient Magic, and the Hidden Potential of the Unconscious Mind. Dr. Lieberman has published extensively in peer-reviewed journals and leading psychiatric textbooks, and has provided insight on psychiatric topics for the US Department of Health and Human Services, the US Department of Commerce, and the Office of Drug and Alcohol Policy.

    Get Dr. Lieberman's Book's Here!

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!


    Dr. Joe Beam - Are Traditional Values the ONLY Solution to Moral Decay?

    Dr. Joe Beam - Are Traditional Values the ONLY Solution to Moral Decay?

    Are you troubled by the direction of our culture? Witnessing the erosion of traditional values and what feels like an increase in moral decay and societal problems? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes offer a thought-provoking, and at times controversial, conversation exploring these pressing concerns.

    They delve into:
    The impact of childhood trauma on our health
    The dangers of unchecked emotions
    The loss of critical thinking & open debate
    Social media's influence on our values
    The impact of technology on human connection
    Changing social norms around gender and sexuality

    This isn't just about identifying what's wrong. Dr. Beam shares wisdom on how we can stand for positive social change, respect others even when we disagree, and create a better world.  He offers a call to action, grounded in the belief that our choices matter.

    If you're ready for a deep dive into the issues shaping our society, and a discussion of potential solutions, this video is for you!


    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

    Debunking The Top 10 Workout Myths

    Debunking The Top 10 Workout Myths

    Are you bombarded with fitness advice, but unsure what to believe? It's time to ditch the misinformation and gain real, science-backed knowledge.  Join Kimberly Beam Holmes as she exposes 10 workout myths and reveals the proven strategies to reach your fitness goals.

    We'll also cover:

    Can you target fat loss? The truth about spot reduction.

    Women, fear bulky muscles no more! Learn how weightlifting builds a lean, toned physique.

    The role of calories in weight loss and muscle gain. We dive into the importance of calorie deficit and weight loss.

    Is sweat a good workout indicator? It's time to rethink that! Discover how to truly measure intensity.

    When should you push through pain? We cover proper form, soreness, and preventing injuries.

    Why rest days are essential. Learn how overtraining can actually hinder your progress.

    Measuring progress beyond the scale. Explore the DEXA scan for fat percentage and other insights.

    The best exercise combo for results. Why both cardio and strength training are crucial.

    Sleep, nutrition, and VO2 max. Their impact on your fitness journey and how to improve your VO2 max.

    Ditch the workout myths and get on the path to achieving your best self!

    Links to research:
    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21804427/
    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20847704/
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3530110/
    https://www.researchgate.net/publication/8075169_Delayed_onset_muscle_soreness_Treatment_strategies_and_performance_factors
    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23247672/
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3925973/
    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16526835/
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3544497/
    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12574618/

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!


    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usFebruary 27, 2024

    How To Become More Attractive By Reducing Inflammation with Dr. Will Cole

    How To Become More Attractive By Reducing Inflammation with Dr. Will Cole

    Are you ready to heal your body, boost your mental well-being, and enhance your natural attractiveness? This episode, featuring Dr. Will Cole, delves into the world of functional medicine to address inflammation in the body. Discover the power of self-love as the foundation for lasting change, and explore expert strategies on how to remove inflammation from your body.

    Learn about:
    Functional medicine: Understand how this approach targets the root causes of inflammation.
    The mind-body connection: How inflammation impacts your mood and how mental health solutions can aid your healing.
    Be an attractive person: See how reducing inflammation naturally enhances inner and outer radiance.
    Taking actionable steps: Practical tips you can implement today to start feeling and looking your best.
    If you're seeking a holistic path to vibrant health, this video is for you.

    Today's Guest: Dr. Will Cole
    Dr. Will Cole, leading functional-medicine expert, consults people around the world via webcam at www.drwillcole.com and locally in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

    He specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing health programs for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal dysfunctions, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Cole was named one of the top fifty functional-medicine and integrative doctors in the nation and is a health expert for mindbodygreen and goop.

    Dr. Cole is the author of the book, The Inflammation Spectrum in which he explores how inflammation exists on a spectrum within the body, the various systems it can affect, and how you can discover your individual food triggers to overcome chronic inflammation. He is also the author of Ketotarian in which he melds the powerful benefits of a ketogenic diet with a plant-based one.   

    Website: www.drwillcole.com
    Podcast: The GoopFellas
    Book: The Inflammation Spectrum

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!


    Primal Questions Revealed: Uncovering the Purpose of Life with Mike Foster

    Primal Questions Revealed: Uncovering the Purpose of Life with Mike Foster

    Embark on a profound journey of self-discovery with Mike Foster and Kimberly Beam Holmes as they explore emotional needs and primal questions.

    Discover the transformative power of understanding your emotional needs through Foster's primal question framework. Uncover how childhood messages shape adult behaviors and gain insights into navigating personal primal questions for success and fulfillment.

    Explore the essence of self-understanding and the purpose of life, unlocking authenticity and fulfillment by embracing your primal truth. Dive deep into building meaningful relationships rooted in meeting primal needs and charting your path to living your purpose with the Primal Map tool.

    Join us in navigating personal growth and relationships with empathy and insight, recognizing the intrinsic connection between behavior, success, and the pursuit of purpose.

    Experience emotional attraction and personal growth through Mike Foster's book, "The Primal Question," and take the first step towards embracing your unique gifts with our free assessment and certification program.

    Join us on this transformative journey towards self-discovery and purposeful living. Watch now and unlock the key to a life filled with authenticity, fulfillment, and purpose.

    Today's Guest: Mike Foster

    Mike Foster is the creator of the Primal Question Framework which is a revolutionary new way to understand human psychology and core drivers of our lives. Mike has a unique ability to take the complexities of our traumatic experiences and simplify them in way that fast-tracks healing.

    He is a widely respected thought leader on emotional health, inner intelligence and how to maximize our primal gifts in the workplace. Mike’s projects have been featured in The NY Times, Good Morning America, and on FOX News.

    He also trains coaches and counselors in the Primal Question model in his 3-month certification program.
    Mike is the author of six books, including his newest best-seller, "The Seven Primal Questions: Take Control of the Hidden Forces That Drive You." (Published 2023)
    He lives in San Diego with his wife of 28 years.

    Get Mike's Book Here!
    Take The Primal Question Quiz!

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!


    Mastering Stress Management with Dr. Marsha Brown

    Mastering Stress Management with Dr. Marsha Brown

    In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the world of stress management with the expertise of Dr. Marsha Brown, a licensed psychologist with extensive experience in high-conflict environments and corporate stress mitigation. Whether it's the overwhelm of daily tasks, the high demands of our jobs, or the challenges of maintaining work-life balance, Dr. Brown shares invaluable insights and practical strategies for coping with stress. Discover how to set effective boundaries to prevent burnout, identify stress triggers, and find joy in restorative activities. If you're looking to enhance your resilience, improve your well-being, and foster healthier relationships despite life's pressures, this conversation is a must-listen. Dr. Brown's experience with organizations like the US Chamber of Commerce and the Red Cross of Florida, coupled with her media features, positions her as a leading voice in stress management and mental wellness. Tune in to transform your approach to stress and unlock a more fulfilling, balanced life. Let's dive in!

    Today's Guest: Dr. Marsha Brown

    Dr. Marsha D. Brown is a Licensed Psychologist with extensive experience in the assessment,  evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment of individuals of all ages. Dr. Marsha has worked in the  mental health field for over 15 years, much of it in high-conflict, court-involved settings. As a  mental health expert, Dr. Marsha is needed and present for intense, critical, and complicated  situations. She is also often tasked with helping those who are struggling to overcome extreme  crises. Dr. Marsha is the Founder and CEO of Deconstructing Wellness, LLC (DW). DW works with  organizations to implement procedures that prioritize wellbeing and teach their teams skills to  conquer stress. Dr. Marsha has provided trainings for organizations including the U.S. Chamber  of Commerce, The Red Cross of South Florida, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI of  Broward County), and the United Way of Broward County. She has also been featured in media  outlets including the New York Times and USA Today.

    Links:
    drmarshabrown.com

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!


    The Power Of Secure Attachment: Julie Menanno

    The Power Of Secure Attachment: Julie Menanno

    In this episode, we welcome Julie Menanno, a renowned Marriage and Family Therapist and the voice behind the successful Instagram account, The Secure Relationship. With over a million followers and a groundbreaking book titled "Secure Love," Julie brings her extensive expertise in attachment theory and couples therapy to our listeners.

    Discover the transformative power of secure attachment in your marriage as Julie delves deep into the heart of relationship dynamics. We explore critical topics such as:

    • Understanding Secure Love: Learn what it means to have a secure, loving relationship and why it's essential for marital harmony.
    • Attachment Styles Unveiled: Julie sheds light on different attachment styles and their impact on your marriage. From the anxious-avoidant dynamic to the path towards secure attachment, gain insights into the patterns shaping your relationship.
    • Communication as the Key: Uncover the core issue in most relationship problems – communication. Julie discusses how verbal and non-verbal communication can build or erode emotional safety, and how to transform this critical aspect of your relationship.
    • The Journey to Secure Attachment: Julie provides practical advice for moving from anxious or avoidant attachment styles to a secure, mutually fulfilling relationship. Learn how to make essential internal changes and foster a nurturing environment for both partners.
    • Healing and Growth: For couples affected by affairs, trust issues, or other challenges, Julie offers hope and strategies for healing. Learn how to rebuild trust and intimacy through understanding, empathy, and secure attachment practices.

    This episode is not just an exploration of theories; it's a guide to revolutionizing your marriage. Whether you're looking to heal from past hurts or enhance the emotional bond with your spouse, Julie's insights offer a pathway to a deeper, more secure love.

    Join us for an episode that could change the course of your marriage. Embrace the power of secure attachment and start your journey towards a more fulfilling, loving partnership.

    Today's Guest: Julie Menanno

    Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.

    Get her new book here!
    Visit her website

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!


    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usJanuary 30, 2024

    Dr. Richard Tedeschi: Turning Trauma Into Growth

    Dr. Richard Tedeschi: Turning Trauma Into Growth

    In this episode, we dive into the transformative journey of post-traumatic growth with the renowned Dr. Richard Tedeschi. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Tedeschi unveils how traumatic experiences can lead to profound personal growth and a renewed sense of purpose.

    Key Highlights:

    • Understanding Post-Traumatic Growth: Dr. Tedeschi explains the process of turning adversity into advantage, challenging core beliefs, and emerging stronger.
    • Trauma and Core Beliefs: An in-depth discussion on how trauma can shake the foundations of what we believe, leading to anxiety, confusion, and ultimately, growth.
    • Expert Guidance: From his extensive experience as a clinician, researcher, and professor, Dr. Tedeschi shares valuable insights on navigating the complexities of trauma.
    • Personal Transformation: Discover how traumatic events can reshape your view of the world, strengthen relationships, and open new life paths.
    • Healing and Moving Forward: Practical advice on overcoming the overwhelming feelings of trauma and channeling them into positive life changes.

    This episode is a must-watch for anyone looking to understand the psychological impact of trauma and the potential for positive change in its aftermath. Whether you are navigating personal challenges, supporting a loved one, or simply interested in psychological resilience, Dr. Tedeschi's insights offer a beacon of hope and a roadmap to recovery.


    Today's Guest: Dr. Richard Tedeschi

    Dr. Richard Tedeschi is Executive Director of the Boulder Crest Institute for Posttraumatic Growth, in Bluemont, Virginia, where he has been one of the developers of  programs based on posttraumatic growth principles to help combat veterans and first responders. He is also Professor Emeritus in the Department of  Psychological Science at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, where he served for 42 years.

    He has published nine books and numerous professional articles on posttraumatic growth, an area of research that he developed while at UNC Charlotte.

    Dr. Tedeschi serves as a consultant to the American Psychological Association on trauma and resilience, and is a Fellow of the Division of Trauma Psychology and the Division of Psychotherapy. He is also a member of the Division of Military Psychology and the Division of Independent Practice.  He is a Past President of the North Carolina Psychological Association. 

    LINKS:
    https://bouldercrest.org/
    Read More About Post Traumatic Growth

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes

    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usJanuary 23, 2024

    Mastering Habit Transformation with Dr. Mel Davis

    Mastering Habit Transformation with Dr. Mel Davis

    Unlock the secrets to lasting habit transformation with Dr. Mel Davis, a brilliant mind in neurobiology and behavior, as we unravel the layers of willpower management and habit building. Dr. Davis guides us through the journey of self-improvement without overwhelming oneself, highlighting the significance of incremental changes and the patience required, similar to mastering an instrument or earning a degree. We delve into prioritizing habits that will most positively impact your life, offering actionable strategies to build momentum and bolster self-efficacy.

    Confessing my personal struggles with syncing my nutrition with my steadfast exercise regimen, this episode offers a candid look into why it's tougher to break old habits than to form new ones. Dr. Davis shares her expertise on the psychology behind habit formation, discussing the ins and outs of a balanced diet rich in vegetables and the necessity of focusing on behavior for sustainable health. Especially as the festive season brings its share of temptations, learn how to enjoy life's indulgences in moderation and maintain a consistent approach to wellness.

    Strength training myths get debunked regardless of gender, as we illuminate its benefits, from osteoporosis prevention to body composition enhancement. We discuss the right equipment for every level and the proper frequency for strength sessions to maximize benefits while managing hunger on a calorie deficit. Dr. Davis also imparts wisdom on protein and macronutrient balance tailored to individual needs, ensuring listeners leave armed with knowledge to navigate their fitness journeys with confidence. Join us for a robust conversation that marries exercise, nutrition, and the craft of developing habits that stick.

    Today's Guest: Dr. Mel Davis

    Dr. Melissa Davis holds a PhD in Neurobiology and Behavior and has 10 years of research experience. She has earned awards for teaching, scholarship, and research. A Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt and a repeat IBJJF Master World Champion, she has represented the U.S. in the Abu Dhabi World Pro twice. She currently does contract work for Renaissance Periodization, where she writes books, coaches clients, and develops nutrition and training products. In her free time she hikes, backpacks, hunts, forages, gardens, and trains her horse and mule in Montana. 


    Links:

    Instagram: @regressive_underload 

    Habit Book: ebook: https://rpstrength.com/evidence-based-habit-building

    print, kindle, audio: https://www.amazon.com/Evidence-Based-Habit-Building-Finally-Done/dp/B09HHM1NL4

    RP Coaching: https://rpstrength.com/rp-coaching?selected=diet-and-training-coaching-menu_coaching


    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usJanuary 16, 2024

    "Madly In Love" Researcher Talks Love, Limerence, and Mating For Life with Dr. Helen Fisher

    "Madly In Love" Researcher Talks Love, Limerence, and Mating For Life with Dr. Helen Fisher

    Unlock the mysteries of your heart as we traverse the captivating landscape of love with the guidance of Dr. Helen Fisher. This episode promises a profound understanding of the intricate dance between brain chemistry and romance, as we delve into why we fall for the partners we do, and whether that intense spark of new love can blossom into a lifelong flame.

    Join me in this heartfelt conversation with Dr. Fisher, where we dissect the essence of limerence and its metamorphosis into enduring love. Ever wondered if there's a science to staying happily in love? We've got you covered, sharing secrets on maintaining passion, the art of emotional regulation, and the magic of 'positive illusions'. Prepare to be enlightened by the anthropological undercurrents of relationship dynamics and practical strategies for rekindling romance, armed with wisdom from both Dr. Fisher and relationship expert, John Gottman.

    As we wrap up our journey with Dr. Fisher, we shed new light on how novelty, personality, and even the biological forces at play shape our romantic relationships. Explore the four personality styles that dictate our love lives, and understand the profound implications of love in our later years. We'll also unveil the biological patterns that often lead to divorce and why long-term commitment holds the key to a healthier, more fulfilling life. This episode is not just a treasure trove of insights—it's a roadmap for deepening the connections that mean the most to us. Let's dive in!

    Today's Guest: Helen Fisher, PhD Biological Anthropoligist

    HELEN FISHER, PhD BIOLOGICAL ANTHROPOLOGIST, is Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute; and Chief Science Advisor to  Match.com .  She uses brain scanning (fMRI) to study the neural foundations of romantic love, attachment, rejection in love, love addiction and long-term partnership happiness. She has written six internationally best-selling books on mate choice, romantic love, marriage, gender differences in the brain and the evolution and future of the family in the digital age. Her books include: ANATOMY OF LOVE (2 ND  ed); WHY WE LOVE; and WHY HIM? WHY HER?.  Fisher is currently studying the biological basis of personality--using her fMRI data and data collected from her questionnaire, the Fisher Temperament Inventory, now taken by 15+ million people in 40 countries.  She is currently writing her 7th book, applying these data on four foundational temperament dimensions to business and personal living. Her personality questionnaire has been called “a disruptive technology” and “the next Myers-Briggs.”  Helen is the co-founder of a business consulting company, NEUROCOLOR.  She is in the media regularly. She is a TED All-Star with over 21 million views of her TED talks, a recipient of the American Anthropological Association’s Distinguished Service Award for her work at presenting anthropological data to the public; and chosen in 2015 by Business Insider as one of “The Fifteen Most Amazing Women in Science.”

    LINKS:

    Website:
    https://helenfisher.com/
    Personality Test
    Books:
    https://helenfisher.com/books/

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlyb

    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usJanuary 09, 2024

    Why THIS Fad Diet Isn't Good - Try These Goals Instead

    Why THIS Fad Diet Isn't Good - Try These Goals Instead

    As the confetti settles and the last echoes of "Happy New Year" fade away, I'm reminded of my New Year's Eve wedding and the profound sense of beginning anew it instilled in me. That's why this episode is dedicated to the art of self-reflection and goal setting, not just as a seasonal tradition, but as a transformative practice that can steer the course of our lives. I'll take you on a personal journey through the highs and lows of setting intentions, sharing the heartfelt story of how my own New Year's resolutions have evolved—from festive ambitions to a deeply rooted pursuit of personal growth.

    Goal setting can sometimes feel like a mountain that's insurmountable, especially if we're scaling it with the wrong equipment. That's where I challenge the one-size-fits-all mentality of popular programs like the 75 Hard challenge, and instead, advocate for a more individualized touch. I delve into the nuances of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, supported by the insights of psychological experts Sheldon, Elliot, and Deci, to reveal why some goals stick and others slip away. In this heartfelt discussion, I emphasize the power of aligning goals with our innermost values and passions, paving a path that's uniquely ours to tread.

    As we wrap up this episode, I invite you to contemplate self-concordant goals—those that not only resonate with who we are but also connect us to something greater. I'll share strategies for setting purposeful objectives that bolster our sense of autonomy, competence, and relatedness, creating a harmonious balance that elevates our wellbeing. You'll leave this conversation equipped with the knowledge to choose goals that not only promise a year of intention but also a lifetime of fulfillment—goals that are as unique and personal as the stories we write with each new chapter of our lives.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usJanuary 02, 2024

    Lessons I Learned From 2023

    Lessons I Learned From 2023

    2023 has FLOWN by! We thought we would put together an end of year recap of the most popular episodes of the year! We'll be back next week with an all new episode to kick off 2024 ❤️

    Episodes:
    Sherry Gaba
    Dave Delaney
    Toi Sweeney
    Julie Beckerman
    Dallas Jenkins
    How Attraction Leads To Love
    Jamie Gagnon
    Karla McLaren
    Dr. Laurie Watson
    3 Steps to Heal A Broken Marriage
    Jefferson Fisher
    Andrea Beach

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


    Thanks for listening!


    Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes


    Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!


    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usDecember 26, 2023

    How To Spot A Liar: Unraveling Truth and Trust in Relationships with Andrea Beach

    How To Spot A Liar: Unraveling Truth and Trust in Relationships with Andrea Beach

    Are you feeling overwhelmed by dishonesty and half-truths in your life? Join us for an engaging and enlightening conversation about communication, truth, and trust. In this episode, we're joined by Andrea Beach, a renowned hypnotherapist, who explores why people sometimes choose to be untruthful and how we can detect these falsehoods. We'll look at the impact of deceit on relationships and the importance of honesty in strengthening our connections with others.

    Get ready for an insightful journey as we tackle how to confront deception in our lives. Drawing from our own experiences and offering practical advice, we'll discuss the importance of trusting your instincts when dealing with dishonesty. Plus, we'll introduce the unique TEAM framework - Touch, Education, Affirmation/Appreciation, and Metrics - a powerful tool for building trust in your relationships.

    This episode isn't just about improving communication and trust; it's a guide for personal development and success in both personal and professional realms. If you find this episode helpful, please share it with others who might benefit and consider leaving a review to support our show's growth. Let's dive in!

    Today's Guest: Andrea Beach

    Andrea Beach is an entrepreneur, investor, humanitarian, and a highly acclaimed life & business coach. She has empowered thousands of people from all around the world through her Master Classes, books, videos, and live events. A leading authority on human behavior, Ms. Beach is a certified hypnotherapist, and trained in NLP (Neuro- Linguistic Programming) and DHE (Design Human Engineering). She has worked with Fortune 500 companies, and people from all walks of life to create successful programs for transformation and success.

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    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usDecember 19, 2023

    Transforming Communication with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Diana Hill

    Transforming Communication with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Diana Hill

    Are you ready to transform your communication skills? Let us accompany you on this insightful journey with clinical psychologist and author, Dr. Diana Hill. Be prepared to reframe your approach to challenging conversations, armed with acceptance, compassion, and a respect for the delicate dance of human interaction. Dr. Hill generously imparts wisdom from her own recovery journey and research, expertly merging scientific insights with spiritual influences. She also introduces us to acceptance-based practices such as Aptide Awareness Training and dialectical behavior therapy, showing us how aligning our actions with our personal values can lead to a life of deeper meaning.

    Next, we delve deeper into the world of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) guided by a therapist who has co-authored a journal on this very topic. Find out how ACT stands apart from other therapeutic methods and how you can apply its principles in your daily life. We’ll navigate through the concept of creative hopelessness, acceptance, the importance of being present, and committed action, all crucial components of the ACT process. This is an enlightening exploration for anyone curious about ACT or those seeking tools to navigate changes and live a life of fulfillment.

    Our conversation doesn’t end there. We examine the challenge of aligning our efforts with our values, particularly for those with ambition and drive. Here we discuss the idea of wise effort, a guide for channeling our energy effectively. Learn about the importance of setting boundaries in relationships, embracing honest communication, and remaining steadfast in our values. This episode promises to be a compass guiding you towards a life that’s healthier, more productive, and ultimately, more fulfilled. Don’t miss this opportunity to turn your listening time into a masterclass on personal growth! Let's dive in!

    Today's Guest: Dr. Diana Hill

    Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, the ACT Daily Card Deck, and the upcoming book The Self-Compassion Daily Journal (May 2024). A leader in the practical application of acceptance and commitment therapy, Dr. Hill trains mental health professionals in ACT, hosts the podcast Your Life in Process, blogs for Psychology Today and Mindfil.org and teaches on Insight Timer Meditation. Dr. Hill regularly leads workshops and retreats at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, Mindful Heart Programs, Yoga Soup and PESI Conintuing Education. 

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    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usDecember 12, 2023

    The Undervalued Power of Attachment Styles in Relationships with Dr. Stan Tatkin

    The Undervalued Power of Attachment Styles in Relationships with Dr. Stan Tatkin

    Get ready for a transformative journey into the world of relationships with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned expert in human behavior and relationships. In our discussion, we explore the critical role of attachment styles and their significant influence on relationships. We delve into the challenges commonly faced in relationships, focusing on how stress-induced reactions, rather than the issues themselves, escalate conflicts.

    Our conversation with Dr. Tatkin also covers the complex dynamics of differing relationship structures, examining the principles of honesty and mutual agreement essential for relationship success. We discuss the biological aspects of attachment and how they can be misconstrued as love, as well as the impact of children on a relationship.

    Further, Dr. Tatkin sheds light on the "fish bowl effect" and its effect on relationships, revealing how our childhood experiences shape our attachment styles and influence our behavior as adults. We critically analyze the behaviors of people who tend to either cling or distance themselves in relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and resilience in developing secure, healthy relationships.

    In a vital part of our discussion, Dr. Tatkin introduces the concept of secure functioning in relationships. This involves establishing social contracts and agreements to reduce stress and foster harmony and safety between spouses. We delve into the significance of shared principles, mutual respect, joint decision-making, and embracing each other's differences. This enlightening conversation offers valuable insights and practical advice for anyone seeking to understand their attachment style and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Join us for these invaluable insights from Dr. Tatkin, and don't miss the chance to enhance your understanding and connection in your relationship. Let's dive in!

    Today's Guest: Dr. Stan Tatkin

    Dr. Tatkin is an expert on human behavior and relationships and can speak on all topics related to relationships, dating, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. He speaks and teaches around the world on how to understand, create, and support secure-functioning relationships, along with authoring six bestselling books, and training thousands of therapists around the world.

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    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usDecember 05, 2023

    Overcoming Denial and Betrayal in Relationships with Dr. Jane Greer

    Overcoming Denial and Betrayal in Relationships with Dr. Jane Greer

    Do you ever feel like you're blind to your own actions? Or maybe you're caught in a pattern of self-blame and denial in your relationships. I had the privilege of sitting down with Dr. Jane Greer, renowned author of "Am I Lying to Myself? How to Overcome Denial and See the Truth," to discuss these very issues. Together, we shed light on denial as a defense mechanism, how it can distort our reality and ultimately lead to betrayal in relationships. Dr. Greer's expertise helped us explore the intricate dynamics of setting boundaries, dealing with demanders, and navigating the challenging path of overcoming betrayal.

    We offered insights on navigating these difficult issues and moving towards a healing path. So, take a seat, open your mind, and join us on this journey of overcoming denial and betrayal in relationships. Let's dive in!

    Dr. Jane Greer's bio:
    "I am a Marriage and Family Therapist, Psychotherapist, Author, and Radio Host of the Doctor On Call Show at healthylife.net featuring Shrink Wrap, Pop Psych, and Let’s Talk Sex: conversations about love, work and life. My Shrink Wrap brand focuses on the trials and triumphs of relationships, with a spotlight on what we can learn from the celebrities.

    I have been a prominent national authority appearing on numerous television shows including Oprah, The Today Show, The Early Show, CBS News, Dateline, The View, Good Day New York, CNN News, Anderson Cooper 360, and Fox News.  I have contributed to newspapers and magazines such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, The Chicago Tribune, and I have been featured in People, US Weekly, In Touch, Cosmopolitan, Self, and Life & Style.

    I was a contributing editor writing the  "Let's Talk Sex Column" for Redbook Magazine and am a blogger for Psychologytoday.com and Brides.com.

    My newest book, “AM I LYING TO MYSELF? How To Overcome Denial and See The Truth” is now available."

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    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usNovember 28, 2023

    Mastering the Art of Communication with Jefferson Fisher

    Mastering the Art of Communication with Jefferson Fisher

    Ever wondered how to turn a heated argument into a productive discussion? This episode promises to decode the art of communication with our special guest, Jefferson Fisher, a lawyer, acclaimed for his practical advice on effective communication. From his journey transitioning from law to social media, we uncover the power of dialogue, insightful phrases, and strategies to navigate conversations with not just colleagues, but also children and spouses. 

    Dive into the world of conflict management, guided by the experiences of our guest, raised amidst a family of attorneys. Discover how a calm demeanor and a lower voice can de-escalate tense situations. The emphasis here is on how communication positively impacts relationships and conflict resolution. As we shift gears, we plunge into the realms of AI, the responsibility of voicing opinions in the social media space, and the art of parenting with effective communication principles. 

    Each chapter of this conversation is a treasure trove of communication wisdom, from understanding others' perspectives to setting clear goals and boundaries. The episode culminates with three key takeaways for having productive arguments and conversations, and Jefferson Fisher's enlightening inputs on these strategies. This episode isn't just a podcast, it's a masterclass in communication. So, lend us your ears, take notes, and transform your conversations. Remember to share this episode and leave a review to help us grow. Let's dive in!

    Today's Guest: Jefferson Fisher

    Jefferson's mission is to revolutionize the legal landscape by creating a transparent and technologically advanced law firm that prioritizes client advocacy. With an unwavering commitment to client-centered approaches, he emphasizes the value of teaching clients to argue less and communicate more effectively.

    Today, we'll explore Jefferson's insights on teaching clients to engage in productive conversations, especially with loved ones. We'll also delve into the profound impact of finding one's purpose, drawing from Jefferson's own journey. Join us as we uncover the secrets to better communication, personal growth, and purpose-driven living.

    Website: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usNovember 21, 2023

    How To Shift Your Mindset for Health Success with Nate Palmer

    How To Shift Your Mindset for Health Success with Nate Palmer

    Do you ever wonder how much our mindset influences our health goals? We’ve been doing some thinking about it too, and today, we bring you an enlightening chat with Nate Palmer, a renowned coach, best-selling author, and speaker. Sharing his remarkable journey from overcoming childhood trauma to becoming an authority in the health and wellness world, Nate highlights the transformative power of shifting from a fear-based mentality to a positive-based one.

    We promise you a deep dive into the world of goal setting and language's powerful role in our approach to achieving these goals. Nate shares golden nuggets from his book, "The Million Dollar Body Method," and gives us a peek into the seven daily investments pivotal in reaching your health goals. But that's not all, we also have a candid conversation about nutrition, the pros and cons of intermittent fasting, and the significance of a high-protein, fat breakfast to maintain steady blood sugar levels throughout the day.

    Taking it a step further, Nate guides us on understanding our body's energy levels and how to optimize nutrition around glycogen for sustained energy. We also unravel the enigma of parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous system dominance and how it impacts our energy level and performance. Listen closely as we touch upon the importance of movement and finding the right balance of calories. To top it all, we reveal the benefits of a simple 90-second morning routine, the power of fasting for 24 hours, and the transformative power of positive self-talk. Remember, Nate is giving away a free copy of his book — you don't want to miss out on this offer!

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    Today's Guest: Nate Palmer

    Nate helps entrepreneurs and busy parents get into the best shape of their lives using simple training & nutrition frameworks and without tracking a single calorie.

    Being in amazing shape gives a massive advantage in business, focus, and family time, and that’s why Nate is so passionate about helping leaders maximize their impact and legacy using fitness and nutrition as force multipliers for their personal mission. 

    He also happens to be a dad, husband, the author of bestseller The Million Dollar Body Method,  and he’s been told that he makes a mean taco. 

    Find out how to get back in the best shape of your life here:. http://milliondollarbodymethod.com

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usNovember 14, 2023

    Quick Tips To Build Your Ideal Morning Routine

    Quick Tips To Build Your Ideal Morning Routine

    Ready to power up your waking hours? I've got you covered. This episode is an exploration of morning routines and their transformative effect on productivity and creativity. I'll share my personal journey and how this simple yet powerful habit has drastically reduced stress levels. I'll guide you on how to carve out a routine that fits your lifestyle, emphasizing the need to pre-decide morning activities. Plus, discover the profound benefits of keystone habits and why hitting the pause button on email, Instagram, and the news first thing in the morning can be a game-changer.

    Stepping into the spiritual realm, I discuss the invaluable practice of decision-making in advance and adherence to it. I'll touch upon how it can skyrocket your success rate. Drawing inspiration from the tale of King David, I underline the perils of depending too heavily on personal strength and neglecting faith. Trust me, this can be a real eye-opener!

    Transitioning into the calming world of meditation and mindfulness, I get to grips with how a mere five minutes of 'me' time can reset your amygdala and enhance resilience. Picture the tranquility of a serene place, focus on your breath, and let the magic happen. Learn how the four-by-four breathing technique and harnessing your five senses can ramp up your mindfulness experience. Get ready to start your day from a place of presence, gratitude, self-awareness by blending gratitude with meditation. Give this episode a listen, and I promise you'll welcome your mornings like never before! Don't forget to spread the word and leave us a review! Let's dive in!

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usNovember 07, 2023

    Unlocking Financial Freedom with Dan Ockey

    Unlocking Financial Freedom with Dan Ockey

    Wondering how to break free from your financial struggles and take control of your money? Join me as I sit down with Dan Ockey, co-founder of Centsei, a financial coaching company that helps people escape bad money habits and build wealth. In our candid conversation, we draw from his personal journey from a debt-ridden past to financial freedom, revealing strategies that could help you face your own financial challenges no matter your current situation.

    From discussing the financial challenges faced by different types of individuals and couples, to unraveling the concept of free cash flow and its role in financial advancement, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom. We also explore the power of identifying and questioning your money scripts, a crucial step in realigning your beliefs about money and self-worth. Whether you're a single parent striving for financial stability, a big earner struggling to save, or a couple aiming at joint financial goals, you'll gain valuable insights to fuel your journey towards financial freedom.

    But we don't stop at just discussing. Prepare to learn about practical tools like Mint.com that can give you a clear view of your spending habits, and how Dan's coaching service, Centsei, can help you make wiser money decisions. This episode isn't just about managing your money; it's about creating a healthy mindset and relationship with it. So, are you ready to reframe your financial narrative and set achievable financial goals? Tune in and start your journey towards financial freedom today! Let's dive in!

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    Today's Guest: Dan Ockey

    Dan Ockey, the Co-Founder of Centsei, a financial coaching company. Dan and his wife, Kay, founded Centsei after facing their own personal finance struggles, which nearly led to the end of their marriage. They now lead a team of financial coaches and have helped over 1400 individuals and couples regain control of their finances and find financial peace.

    Dan and Kay live in Charlotte NC, with their 3 children, and spend as much time together outside as a family as possible.


    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.


    Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.com


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    It Starts With Attraction
    en-usOctober 31, 2023