Married to Military

Even when something as devastating as infidelity occurs, there is still hope that you can work towards the best marriage you’ve ever had. In this episode, I share a client’s experience of infidelity, and what we did in the very beginning and throughout this (admittedly messy) process. Prepare for goosebumps as we dive into a heartwarming follow-up over a year later - they're now stronger than ever! This is not just for couples going through infidelity, but anyone wanting to gain insights on how to feel better in their marriage!

Tune in for:

• The crucial first step towards healing after infidelity

• Why things typically get worse before they get better

• What you may find surprising about my work with clients after an infidelity

• How to make amends in a way your partner needs

• Permission to never invalidate yourself when thinking “things could be worse”

• Overcoming the isolating feeling of struggling alone in your relationship battles

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Let’s unravel the mysteries of healthy relationships in our society. Because no one taught us how to have a healthy relationship (or marriage), so it makes sense that so many of us are struggling. Join us as we challenge common misconceptions and uncover the secrets to fostering deeper connections and greater happiness in your marriage.

Tune in to discover:

• The surprising truths about what we perceive as normal in relationships

• Debunking myths surrounding passion in marriage

• True or false: do our partners truly hold the key to fixing our feelings?

• Uncovering the unintended consequences of well-intentioned behaviors

• Navigating the topic of guilting and understanding its impact on relationships

• Dismantling the habit of deflecting responsibility

FREE LIVE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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“I don’t know what my needs are in my marriage after having kids, I just know they’re not being met.” Sound familiar?

In this eye-opening episode, I share the (not often talked about) challenges we face after welcoming children into our lives and the profound impact they have on our overall happiness and marital bliss. 

Join me as I explore the hurdles of parenthood and share actionable strategies to strengthen our marriages amidst the chaos.

Let's normalize the inevitable dip in happiness (it's not your fault, nor your partner's!) and open up the conversation. Because the more we discuss these issues, the closer we come to finding solutions.

Tune in for:

• How children can strain your marriage, leading to various challenges

• All the new issues that emerge, from differing parenting styles to financial strain post-kids

• Shifts in identity, desires, and needs after becoming parents

• How the love for your child differs from that for your spouse

• The result of increased transactional conversations

• One amplified new role that potentially adds complexity to marital dynamics

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Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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Welcome to the rollercoaster ride that was our life after welcoming our second child - it was simultaneously easier and more challenging than the first go-round.

Join me in this episode as I share the highs and lows of navigating parenthood round two with an international move and my spouse's deployment thrown into the mix. Find out what worked wonders in our marriage, what didn't quite hit the mark, and the unexpected twists we faced.

Tune in for:

• A game-changing move I made (and would totally repeat if more little ones were on the horizon)

• Our biggest and longest fight during pregnancy (and what I wish we did differently)

• Why I firmly believe there's still time for you and your spouse, even in the chaotic world of parenting

• The exhaustion and mental load that reached levels I didn't think were possible

• How we became better support systems by understanding and meeting each other's needs intentionally

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Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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Want the inside scoop on what went down in my marriage after the birth of our first daughter?

In this episode, I’m sharing what we did well in our marriage (which wasn’t much!), what did not go well, and how things changed for me - which contributed to the challenges I experienced in our relationship. 

Even with all the preparations we made and intentional conversations we had prior to our daughter’s birth, we still had difficulties in our marriage. That’s why this episode is vital for anyone who has kids or is planning to have kids someday. Maintaining a strong relationship after kids is possible!

Listen in to hear:

• An insight into my postpartum period and the struggles I experienced

• What led to friction in our marriage after our daughter was born (and why I unfairly blamed my husband for the problems)

• What helped our relationship in those early stages of parenthood

• One wildly helpful exercise to improve the mental load of mothers

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Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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Welcome to Married After Kids! I’m kicking things off by sharing personally about the early days of my own marriage, giving you an inside look at what it was like BEFORE kids entered the scene!

We're diving deep into my past relationships, unpacking the nitty-gritty of our marriage pre-kids – the highs, the hurdles, and the heartwarming moments. Get ready to share a laugh over the things we nailed, chat about what I wish we'd known, and discover some golden nuggets that resonate, whether you're navigating parenthood or dreaming about it one day.

Tune in to hear:

• A sneak peek into my previous relationships

• What we mastered in marriage before having kids

• The chats I wish we'd had before diving into parenthood

• What you can glean from this episode to enrich your own marriage

• Prompts to deepen your connection with your spouse

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Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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I have something special to share with you! In this unique episode, I am unveiling a very exciting update. Your support is invaluable and I can't wait to hear your thoughts (and all the feelings that may come up for you!).

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Ever found yourself at odds with your spouse, unable to agree on something important? In this episode, we're exploring what to do WHEN disagreements arise. 

Disagreements are inevitable and can range from small to significant topics. Arming yourself with the knowledge of what to do when they happen, will prepare you for a strong and successful marriage. 

We’re digging into:

• The often-overlooked factor when facing different perspectives

• Strategies for handling situations when you and your partner aren't on the same page

• How to get a deeper understanding of your spouse’s wants and needs (and vice versa)

• Collaborating (and getting creative!) on finding a solution that accommodates both sets of needs - the key to preventing resentment later on!

• Recognizing the moments when it's beneficial to pause the conversation and focus on loving each other

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Struggling with feelings of being unloved and unsupported in your marriage? These emotions can be challenging to navigate, yet they're a common theme among many of my clients. In today's discussion, we dive into the unique challenges faced by military spouses and provide empowering insights to help you strengthen the supportive foundation of your marriage.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The secret element in your marriage you need to make EVERYTHING easier

• Actionable steps to ensure you feel the deep level of support you deserve from your spouse

• How to identify and communicate your needs effectively

• The significance of evaluating your thoughts about your spouse and their level of support

• Ways to prepare for and initiate a conversation with your spouse about the support you need

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Happy New Year! If you want your relationship to improve this year, run (don’t walk!) straight to this episode. There’s no denying it can be difficult to make changes, and that’s why I’m sharing insights on how you and your partner can continue building a successful marriage and rediscover the “new relationship” energy you had when you first started dating. 

Learn how to implement changes you want to make in your marriage this year to spice things up and make your relationship better than ever. Remember, there’s always room for improvement no matter where you are in your relationship currently. 

We’re exploring:

• How to evaluate your successes and areas for improvement from the last year

• The exact questions my spouse and I ask each other for reflecting on the previous year, along with our candid answers

• My top advice on where to begin once you’ve identified areas for improvement in your marriage

• How to support each other effectively in making changes, even when it’s difficult

• Methods to consistently maintain and check in on your relationship goals for year-round success

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

We’ve all heard about mindset work, right, but what does that REALLY mean? If you’re wondering WHAT inner work you can be doing to make a difference in your marriage and life, let me break that down for you! 

Join me as I share what it means to do the work in your own military life and tangible tools you can use while answering some of the MOST popular questions I get on this topic. Learning this will help you if you want to feel more like a priority with your spouse, don’t like your duty station, and so much more!

Tune in as we explore:

• The reason why most people aren’t doing their mindset work 

• What exactly IS the mindset work that will make a difference in your life and marriage

• 4 BEST mindset tools you can start using today

• There’s no one-size-fits-all to mindset work and how this can look different for everyone

• Why the HOW isn’t important when it comes to your daily mindset routine

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The new year is a great time to figure out what you want to change, but also what you want to stay the same. And if you feel like rigid resolutions don’t work for you, don’t worry! In this episode, I’m sharing 5 SIMPLE and EASY ways to set you (and your marriage) up for the MOST successful 2024—so you can have a fun and positive year regardless of what the military sends your way!

Tune is as we explore:

• How to create simple and positive habits that will serve you all year long

• Why this ONE shift can be the most powerful thing you do for yourself this year

• What a little decluttering can do for your mental well-being (and your marriage, too!)

• Setting small goals that nurture you and your marriage

• Why you need to audit how you spend your time—and how to create boundaries when things aren’t serving you

• My favorite SIMPLE ways to bring positivity to your year 

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to have the best holiday ever - for yourself and your marriage? We’re digging into the thoughts and actions crucial for the best experience during family gatherings, festive parties, and the busiest season of the year. Being prepared is key to ensuring a holiday season that aligns with both your and your spouse’s desires.

In this episode, we explore:

• How to reflect on our feelings and roles of past holidays, traditions, and expectations (and I unveil one unrealistic expectation that made me completely miserable!)

• Understanding the role of your close family unit and extended families during the holidays

• Discovering what to do if you’re feeling overwhelmed or disappointed about the holidays this year

• Learning how to have each other’s back this season (and ensure YOU are getting the support you need)

• Insights into what to prepare before planning your Christmas calendar, ensuring a stress-free and enjoyable holiday season.

• My favorite tool to use daily throughout the holidays

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

There’s an unspoken expectation that you know what you signed up for as a military spouse. I call BS on that.

Nothing prepares us for the challenges we face, such as managing our own career while constantly relocating, the familiar feeling of resentment, and the struggle to maintain a sense of self outside the military identity.

In this episode, Jenna Griffith, International Best Selling Author and Coach, shares insights on overcoming these challenges and empowering other military and first responder spouses to find their purpose, embrace their individual skills, and thrive.

The key takeaway: A happier you translates to a happier marriage!

We’re exploring:

• The biggest barriers that keep military spouses from executing their dreams

• One powerful tool you can use today to help uncover your purpose (without feeling overwhelmed!)

• What can get in the way internally of pursuing your dreams 

• The (surprising) impact on marriages once you start uncovering your purpose and skills

• And so much more!

Jenna’s Service and Soul Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1956837264?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860

Jenna’s website: www.serviceandsoul.com

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

We all have preferences for how we give and receive love. Learning the love languages of both you and your spouse is a powerful tool to ensure that both of you feel deeply loved. But you may be surprised to know that it can create challenges for some couples. 

Tune into this episode as we explore:

• Overcoming challenging thoughts, such as “my marriage will never work” or “my spouse doesn’t care about speaking my love language”

• How to use love languages in the right way (*an absolute game-changer in my own marriage*) 

• What to do when you and your partner have different love languages (especially when it feels hard)

• The danger of putting too much pressure on speaking each other’s love language

• Discerning whether love languages are effectively working in your marriage

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I talk a lot about mindset (because it’s just that important!). In this episode, I’m unpacking a simple mindset shift that can transform your military life and marriage. And it goes beyond just military life – it's a game-changer for every facet of your life.

Discover how you can break free from the notion that happiness is conditional on specific circumstances. Instead, learn the art of finding joy in the present moment, even amidst challenges. Embracing the journey, with all its twists and turns, is not just a mindset shift but a pathway to getting positive results in your marriage.

We’re diving into:

• Navigating the dynamics of change, such as unlearning, breaking habits, and the amount of time it takes

• The toll of enduring prolonged periods of unhappiness and its impact on you and your marriage

• Real-life examples to anchor and reinforce this transformative mindset

• How to give yourself the option of being happy, even when it doesn’t seem like a possibility 

• Learning to love the journey to your end goal (and what to ask yourself to increase happiness at every opportunity)

• One empowering way to view your circumstance and how you’ll get through it

• Practical strategies to start feeling the way you want to feel right now

BLACK FRIDAY DEAL! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage Course: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Homecoming is often a magical moment, but the days and weeks leading up to it might bring feelings of fear, anxiety, and intense anticipation. This episode offers insights to help you prepare for your long-awaited reunion with your spouse by providing expectations and coping strategies for the most joyful experience possible!

Bottom line: Only do what feels good and what you have the capacity for, and don’t make yourself wrong for ANY of it!

Here’s what we cover:

• Exploring the common feelings of fear, anxiety, and pressure before homecoming

• The key to overcoming anxious thoughts and mental preparation for the big day

• Permission to prioritize self-care and manage overwhelming emotions during this phase

• Handling decision fatigue and readying yourself for unexpected changes

• Aligning expectations and desires with your spouse post-homecoming for a smoother transition

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Resentment can sneak into ANY marriage, and it often shows up in military relationships, sometimes even more frequently. In this episode, I dive into the core reasons behind resentment in military marriages and provide actionable solutions to dissolve it. However, it's important to recognize that feelings of resentment are quite common in many aspects of military life. What truly matters is knowing how to address it effectively, and more importantly, how to tackle it together as a team with your partner.

Tune in as we explore:

• The dynamics of division in marriages, especially in military marriages

• The roles of “default” and non-default” in every relationship

• Hidden sacrifices made by military spouses

• The profound importance of creating a culture of appreciation

• Tips to have a productive conversation with your spouse about resentment

• Shifting your mindset to embrace love and care, especially in challenging times

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to fight less? 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

If you’re tired of constant conflict in your military marriage, don’t miss out on this episode.

We're unveiling a powerful conflict resolution hack that can reduce arguments, boost your happiness, and transform those disagreements into productive discussions filled with love and respect.

Are you ready to discover this game-changing conflict hack?  Tune in as we explore:

• Unsolvable problems in your marriage (and how to manage them)

• The essential qualities to bring to your next argument

• Strategies for showing love and respect outwardly during an argument

• Practical examples to implement this conflict hack

• How to cultivate the mindset to have productive conversations with your spouse, turning conflicts into opportunities for connection and growth

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to know how feelings of isolation can become your source of connection and empowerment?

Meet our inspiring guest, Sarah Curtis, who doesn’t shy away from the challenging topics of military life. In this episode, we share aspects that are less commonly discussed within the military community, like the feelings of loneliness and the rollercoaster of emotions that can impact not only you but also your marriage.

Why is this conversation so crucial? Because it reminds you that you are not alone in your experiences. It's a reminder that your feelings of isolation can be shared by others, and together we can find strength and connection.

We’re exploring:

• Maintaining a strong marriage whether your spouse is home or away

• Embracing and normalizing uncontrollable timelines

• How Sarah navigated the questions “who am I?” and “what impact do I want to have on the world?”

• The importance of choosing compassion over comparison

• Addressing feelings of loneliness and isolation

• The duality of military life

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: https://amilitarywifeslife.com/

• Book: Sitting in the Unknown: A Collection of Poems for Military Loved Ones

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869