Quit Kissing Frogs

“40 is the new 30!”
“You can freeze your eggs!” 
“Your 20s is the time to focus on your education and your career." 
"You can always have children later, but these professional opportunities will only be open to you for a short while.”

Sound familiar? It’s the message that’s been preached to women for years by society at large, and often by their own (well-meaning) friends and family. Far too many women today are deluded into denying their biological reality, and as a result, many of them end up facing a lot of heartache because they believed this narrative. In today’s controversial episode, Dominique breaks down the biological realities women face in dating, including the truth about female fertility, the innate female desire for motherhood, children, and family, and the ways that women need to date differently if they wish to get married and raise a family of their own. It’s not politically correct in the slightest, but it’s an important episode for any woman in the dating world to hear.

Mentioned in today’s episode: 

Interview and Discussion on “Unchosen Childlessness” 

Pod: Episode #43 How Netflix’s Jewish Matchmaking Can Improve Your Love Life

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If you haven’t seen Netflix’s “Jewish Matchmaking,” you’re missing out! In this new reality dating show, matchmaker Aleeza Ben Shalom helps Jewish singles who are looking for their match. Her approach to matchmaking is thoughtful and thorough, and there are some great lessons to be learned for anyone who is dating - even if you are your own matchmaker! In today’s episode, Dominique breaks down three keys to Aleeza’s matchmaking that you can apply to your own dating life to improve your chances of finding the right match for you.

Mentioned in today’s episode:
Netflix’s “Indian Matchmaking”: Episode #24 Reality Dating Shows Worth Watching (& What You Can Learn From Them)
Creating Intimacy Too Early: Episode #42 Is False Intimacy Sabotaging Your Dating Life? 

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Most people know that physical intimacy takes a relationship to a new level - that’s why jumping into bed with a guy on the first date is a terrible idea. But it’s easy to forget that emotional intimacy deepens a relationship, too. Far too many women are unknowingly sabotaging their relationships by getting “emotionally naked” with the men they date - often even BEFORE the first date! In this episode, you’ll learn about the different ways women allow a false sense of intimacy to build into their relationships, how doing so wrecks a woman’s dating life, and what you can do to avoid these mistakes and set yourself up for healthy relationships by cultivating real intimacy. 

Mentioned in this episode:

Pod: Episode #26 The Dunning Kruger Effect in Dating

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Conflict is something many people dread, especially if it comes up early in a dating relationship. In reality, conflict is inevitable, and it’s also neutral - it’s HOW you handle it (and the root cause behind it) that can make conflict a bad thing. But you can handle it in a way that is constructive and improves your relationship and your bond. This is especially important early in a relationship, when you are setting the tone for your future and establishing how you communicate as a couple. In today’s episode, Dominique shares 3 key strategies that will empower any woman to handle conflict in dating and relationships in a constructive way.

Mentioned in this episode:
Body scan
Deep breathing
Grounding techniques

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How do you evaluate your dates? Oh, you don’t? Well, you ought to! First dates can bring up a lot of different feelings, and the emotional haze that follows a date can make it difficult to think clearly about things. Taking time to deliberately reflect on your date can be very illuminating, and it likely will reveal more than you think about the guy you went out with and your potential budding relationship. In turn, this clarity helps you to make better decisions in dating and move forward in a relationship with more confidence.  In today’s episode, Dominique walks you through five simple questions to ask yourself after a first date to help you improve your dating life by sifting through the bad dates and douchebags more quickly, and identifying good guys and promising relationships more effectively.

Mentioned in this episode:
Pod: Episode #5 Deal-Breakers & Deal-Makers

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Today we have another episode in the “Frog Breakdown” series. If you want to date better and meet the kind of man you truly want to be with, the first step is to quit kissing frogs…and that starts with being able to identify those “frogs” when you encounter them in dating. This series explores the different “frogs” that many women fall for and what it is about these guys that makes women spend so much of their time and emotional energy on them. Today, Dominique discusses The Guy Who Just Wants To Be In A Relationship - what makes this guy a frog, and why would a woman end up so invested in a guy who is so wrong for her? And, just as important, what should you be looking for instead?

If you didn’t catch the previous Frog Breakdown episodes, be sure to check them out!

Pod: Episode #33 Frog Breakdown: The “Nice Guy” Who Never Makes a Move

Pod: Episode # 35 Frog Breakdown: The Guy Who’s Not Actually Into You

Pod: Episode #37 Frog Breakdown: The Guy Who Wants to “Keep It Casual”

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Narcissism is a psychological buzzword that has become much more widely discussed and recognized in recent years. Unfortunately, there’s a lot of misinformation out there, too, leading a lot of folks to misunderstand what narcissism is and struggle to recognize a true narcissist when they encounter one. Today Dominique is breaking down the narcissism myths that pop-psychology has perpetuated and explaining how to deal with narcissistic behavior. This episode will help you understand better what a narcissist is, how to spot one (along with other problematic behaviors), and how to protect yourself in dating.

Mentioned in this episode:
Pod: Episode #27 How to Set and Enforce Healthy Boundaries in Dating
Pod: Episode #5 Deal-Breakers & Deal-Makers

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Today’s episode is the third in the “Frog Breakdown” series. If you want to date better and meet the kind of man you truly want to be with, the first step is to quit kissing frogs…and that starts with being able to identify those “frogs” when you encounter them in dating. This series explores the different “frogs” that many women fall for and what it is about these guys that makes women spend so much of their time and emotional energy on them. Today, Dominique discusses The Guy Who Wants To “Keep It Casual” - what makes this guy a frog, and why would a woman end up so invested in a guy who is so wrong for her? And, just as important, what should you be looking for instead?

If you didn’t catch the previous Frog Breakdown episodes, be sure to check them out!

Pod: Episode #33 Frog Breakdown: The “Nice Guy” Who Never Makes a Move

Pod: Episode # 35 Frog Breakdown: The Guy Who’s Not Actually Into You

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Many people struggle with depression for a variety of reasons. And being depressed can make dating pretty difficult. The important question is - should you be dating at all if you’re depressed? The answer is nuanced, so in today’s episode, Dominique discusses the potential benefits as well as drawbacks of dating when y ou’re feeling depressed. This episode also goes over several questions to ask yourself if you’re feeling depressed to help assess whether dating is a good idea for you.
 
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Referenced in this episode
Pod: Episode 28 "How To Build Confidence & Improve Your Dating Life"

Mental Health Resources
For help finding mental health support, you can contact SAMHSA's National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (1-800-662-4357).  SAMHSA offers help 24/7 and can assist with finding appropriate treatment resources for you (English and Spanish). 

If you are in crisis, there are resources available to help you - please reach out. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24/7 at 800-273-8255. You can also text "HOME" to the Crisis Text Line at 741741. 

Today’s episode is the second in the “Frog Breakdown” series. If you want to date better and meet the kind of man you truly want to be with, the first step is to quit kissing frogs…and that starts with being able to identify those “frogs” when you encounter them in dating. This series explores the different frogs that many women fall for and what it is about these guys that makes women spend so much of their time and emotional energy on them. Today, Dominique discusses The Guy Who’s Not Actually Into You - what makes this guy a frog, and why would a woman end up so invested in a guy who is so wrong for her? And, just as important, what should you be looking for instead?

If you didn’t catch the previous Frog Breakdown episode, be sure to check it out! Episode #33: Frog Breakdown: The “Nice Guy” Who Never Makes a Move

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Many women find themselves disillusioned with dating apps and discouraged by their lack of success in finding good dates (let alone a good relationship). The key is that dating apps can be a valuable tool, but like any tool, you have to know how to use it effectively. Unfortunately, many women are using dating apps in a way that ends up sabotaging their efforts. Today’s podcast will cover five of the most common mistakes women make on dating apps, and the simple solutions to implement instead. With these strategies, dating apps will become less stressful and much more successful!

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Today’s episode is the first in a series of “frog breakdowns,” where Dominique will break down the different kinds of “frogs” that women wind up with if they are not being very discerning or using good judgment.  One of the biggest reasons women struggle to get what they want out of dating is that they keep “kissing frogs.” It’s all too easy to find yourself spending time and energy on guys who are not the kind of guy you actually want to be with in the long run. That’s a bad investment of your time and effort, and it only delays your ability to connect with the RIGHT guy. To break this cycle and meet the guy who is the right match for you, you’ve got to quit kissing frogs. And that starts by being able to spot a “frog” when you encounter them in the wild (aka, the real world of dating). Today, Dominique discusses the “nice guy” who never makes a move, what makes him a “frog,” and what qualities you want to be looking for instead.

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There’s nothing like springtime - with the promise of sunshine and warmer weather on the horizon - to inspire a fresh start. While you’re decluttering your closets and Marie-Kondo-ing your kitchen, why not apply some “spring cleaning” to your dating life? Today’s podcast brings you three different ways that you can hit the “refresh” button on your dating life this spring. In this episode, Dominique gives practical suggestions that will help you put your best foot forward in dating and maximize your odds of meeting the type of guy you’ve been hoping to meet all along.
 
Mentioned in this episode:
Blog: 3 Tips for Dating in the Digital Era
Pod: Dating In The Digital Era
Pod: How to Build Confidence & Improve Your Dating Life

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Is it possible to be friends with an ex? Many women find themselves trying to remain friends with their ex after a breakup, with varying degrees (and definitions) of success. But if you’re asking yourself, “Can I be friends with my ex boyfriend?” it’s safe to say that you’re asking the wrong question. In this episode, Dominique breaks down the risks and benefits of being friends with an ex, how to navigate the post-breakup dynamic, and the REAL question any woman should ask herself if she’s considering trying to maintain a friendship with an ex.

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Most women have a general awareness of the safety concerns to be aware of in dating, but very few women actually do the right things to mitigate those risks and decrease the odds that they will end up in a dangerous situation.  In this episode, Dominique covers 10 mistakes women commonly make in dating that make them more vulnerable and more likely to become a target, and the 10 things to do instead to be more aware of dangerous situations and prepared to protect yourself if things go sideways.  It can be scary at first to think about the potential dangers in dating, but when when women are prepared for that and know what to do to minimize those risks and keep themselves safer, it's empowering and it allows you to enjoy dating more.  This is a great episode to share with your friends, sisters, and all the ladies you know  - it just may save their life.

Mentioned in this episode:
Book recommendation: The Gift of Fear 

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For many women, one of the biggest struggles in dating isn't that they can't get dates...it's that the men who are showing interest in them are not the kinds of men they want to date, let alone consider settling down with. And the kind of men they do want to date aren't showing much interest in them.  Talk about frustrating!  In this episode, Dominique explores the reasons why this happens for so many women, and how you can start attracting the kind of men you actually want to be with.

Mentioned in this episode:
Blog: Where Have All The Good Men Gone? (article)
Pod: Where Have All The Good Men Gone? (episode #14)

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We all struggle with confidence from time to time, and dating is an area that tends to stir up insecurities and can make you feel your least confident. This often makes dating feel intimidating and frustrating. The good news is that it's possible to build confidence, and it's easier than you probably think! In this episode, Dominique gives you practical strategies to build confidence, including the specific steps you need to take to feel more confident in dating. No more letting your feelings of insecurity keep you from going on dates or building a healthy relationship - you can start becoming more confident today.

Mentioned in this episode:
How to Set & Enforce Healthy Boundaries in Dating (Episode #27)

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Boundaries can be transformative in any area of life, but especially in dating.  Good boundaries are particularly crucial in the early stages of dating, because those early weeks and months of dating set the tone for the future of the relationship. In today’s episode, Dominique goes over the basics of what boundaries are and how they work, discusses important areas to have boundaries in a dating relationship (spoiler: it’s about so much more than just physicality!), and explains exactly how to express and enforce your boundaries in a constructive way. By the end of the episode, you’ll be equipped to both know where to set boundaries in your dating life and how to respond effectively when your date or your boyfriend - or anyone else - pushes your boundaries.  

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Have you heard of the Dunning Kruger effect? Although you may not recognize the name, you’ve almost certainly witnessed this psychological phenomenon in others and likely  experienced it yourself. In today’s podcast, Dominique breaks down how the Dunning Kruger effect plays out in the early stages of dating and can lead to disappointment, heartache, and poor dating decisions for many women. By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to spot the Dunning Kruger effect in yourself and others, and you’ll be prepared to effectively counteract it so that you can be more discerning, make better dating decisions, and enjoy healthier, happier relationships.

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Valentine's Day can feel pretty loaded for a lot of us - it’s a Hallmark holiday centered on the emotional aspect of romantic love, and that can stir up a lot of emotions, both good and bad. This mixed bag of emotions can come up whether you're single or in a relationship. Today we'll go over 7 different emotional challenges Valentine's Day might be bringing up for you, and how to deal each of those different emotions in a healthy way so that you can enjoy Valentine's Day for whatever it means to you. Whether that means a day of indulging in chocolate, an occasion for mushy romance, or just another day, this podcast will help you make February 14th a great day.

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Affordable Date Night Ideas for Any Budget 

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