Real World Peaceful Parenting

Hannah is a mother of 4 small children and a member of our Hive. She shares her struggle as a mom of young kids and the overwhelm that brought her to Real World Peaceful Parenting. Hannah graciously shares her experience and the shifts she has found through the support of our program.

I break down what Real World Peaceful Parenting is in its essence. Together, Hannah and I discuss co-regulation, brain development, and learning tools to implement as a parent when our children storm. Find out how to meet your child’s needs with curiosity and calm.

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Today’s podcast is part two of my Stop Punishing, Start Guiding Series. We want our children to be able to create decisions from a calm, regulated state. When you set limits, it helps your child feel supported and also encourages the development of an internal compass. 

We look further at guiding your child to make better decisions and I break down offering choices, redirection, repair, and recovery. We look closely as a real-life example to explore methods for honoring your child’s perspective while creating safe boundaries, so tune in to start guiding your child today.

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Peaceful Parenting revolves around connection, not punishment. Punishment creates a power struggle that breaks trust and erodes relationships. Instead of promoting support, it emphasizes obedience. When we establish supportive systems, both we and our children can learn more effectively.

Setting limits is all about creating a calm framework that keeps our kids safe while sharing social skills, and teaching family values. Our children are bound to make mistakes, but with limits in place, we can establish clear boundaries while prioritizing their needs. Tune in to learn how to use this essential skill today.

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Research has shown that the more you resort to punishment, the less likely your child will want to cooperate. The only way we can encourage change in our children is by building trust.

I share how I discovered that threatening, dominating, commanding, and enforcing punishments are not the best way to communicate or make a change in my child. Tune in to move away from dominating and toward collaboration with your child today.

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Do you find yourself looking for an ulterior motive in your child’s actions? When we believe we are going to catch our children at their worst, that is what we train our brains to see.

I offer a solution to stop keeping score. It begins with your thoughts. Learn how to calm your mind, feel prepared, and use your child’s hyperfocus and strong will to talk honestly so that you both feel seen. Tune in to stop negative future forecasting today.

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Are you overwhelmed by all the information, advice, and parenting how-tos out there? While seeking out expert advice is good, I often see parents who lack confidence in their parenting struggle to perfectly implement all the ideas they’ve heard with their own family.

Learn how to become your own expert as a parent. I explain why it’s important to be confident in your parenting and how you can choose what you believe about your parenting.

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Imagine you’re in a situation where you step out for whatever reason and your co-parent has to take over parenting during that time. You’re at the gym or with friends or helping your mom, and your co-parent texts you a question about the kids or unloads on you about the past few hours as soon as you get home. You struggle with feeling empathy for your partner while also feeling resentful and frustrated.

This week, I explain why it’s essential to communicate and set boundaries in this frustrating situation. I discuss why it’s important to recognize that your co-parent has a completely different skill set from you and why that means it’s okay for them to struggle sometimes.

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I’m joined by Deena, a Hive member who has undergone a massive transformation in her parenting. Since joining The Hive, Deena said her parenting has gone from one characterized by “screaming, chaos, and feeling alone” to “calm, peaceful, and empowered.”

Deena and I discuss her road to peaceful parenting. Deena shares the techniques that have helped her the most in her parenting and why The Hive has impacted her.

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As parents, we can often find ourselves asking our children “why?” Why are they acting this way? Why do they always forget things? Why are they not listening? We think that what our kid is doing is the problem. If they just acted differently, we wouldn’t get so frustrated and dysregulated. In reality, we have to step back in these moments and realize that it’s not our kids that are the problem, but really our thoughts that are triggering us.

This week, I talk about why asking your kid “why” is never a good idea. I discuss why choosing different thoughts and answering that “why” on your own can lead to a greater connection with your kid.

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A lot of times when our kids do something that upsets us, we quickly jump to conclusions about what it might mean about them and how they feel about us. Often, this can result in us getting triggered and no longer parenting from a calm, empathetic place. One of the best things you can ask yourself in these moments is “what am I making this mean?”

I discuss the power of asking the question “what am I making this mean?” when you’re being triggered by your kids’ behavior. I talk about how just asking this question can be an opportunity to connect with your kid and heal your own inner child.

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One of the most frustrating situations in parenting is when your kid just won't take “no” for an answer. Most of the time, our instinct is to explain back to them why we set a particular boundary and try to make them understand our reasoning. 

The problem with this response is that we're looking for our kids' approval and they are just not going to give it to us. 

In this episode, I’ll discuss the dangers of being a people-pleasing parent when our kids won't take “no” for an answer. I’ll explain why being firm with our boundaries actually teaches our kids resilience, models healthy behavior, and ultimately makes them feel loved.

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What’s something your child does that triggers you? Maybe it's sneaking sweets or doing something they knew was wrong because a friend encouraged them to. Usually, the behaviors that trigger us the most are the ones that make us fear for our child’s future and the kind of adult they’ll become.

I explain why the best thing we can do when we’re triggered is to get neutral. I’ll give you some tools to show up for your kids in a neutral way and get away from fear-based parenting.

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One of the most powerful tools you can implement as a parent is the pause. Although it might seem small, just pausing during your parenting allows you to do so much.

I discuss the power of the pause as a parent. I talk about the major benefits of learning to pause in a difficult moment with your child – how it can help you to better connect with them and teach them how to regulate their own emotions.

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Our kids can be great teachers in showing us the things we feel shameful about or have tried to hide from the world – our shadow side. Often what we project onto our kids are wounds we developed as children ourselves.

I’ll show you how to start identifying your shadow side and how you may unknowingly project it onto your child. I’ll also explain how healing your inner child can help you overcome a major roadblock in connecting with your child.

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As a parent, the role you play at home has a completely different job description from the role you play at your corporate job. Different tools are required for different jobs, and it is so important that as parents, we take the time to consider this, and think about what needs to go into our parental job description.

Learn what new tools you can put in your toolbox to get closer to the parent you want to be and how this concept can completely change your life. Whatever transition you are struggling with right now, what I’m teaching you this week is sure to help.

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One of the major roadblocks many of us have on the road to peaceful parenting is our relationship with our own parents. They can be well-meaning and involved, but they are dominant.

I offer you a chance to become the cycle breaker you want to be by learning how to take small steps in setting boundaries with your parents, even when it feels wildly uncomfortable to do so. Discover why setting boundaries is always for yourself and never about the other person, and how to finally start taking control of your thoughts and actions when certain situations arise.

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There is a right time and a wrong time to parent your kids, and when you are stuck in dysregulation and anger, this is the wrong time.

I share a 3-step process to help you move from reactive parenting to responsive parenting. Hear one of the best ways I know to work on your triggers and reactiveness to them, and how to manage your thoughts and change your behavior to become the responsive peaceful parent you know you can be.

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Do you feel like you are at the end of your rope with no option to deal with your kids other than to yell? Do you ever feel trapped in the cycle of resorting to physical and verbal punishment when your kids’ behavior pushes you to your limit?

Learn how to break the generational parenting cycle and create connection with your kids instead of fear and compliance. Discover the importance of modeling behavior for your children, how the way you are currently teaching your kids could be leading to further dysregulation, and how to model the behaviors you want to see from your children.

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Witnessing your child in pain is one of the hardest things you can experience as a parent. You might think it’s your job as a parent to fix all their problems, fight all their battles, or soothe all their heartaches, and it’s natural to want to rescue your kids from their suffering. But this week, I share a different perspective and show you why doing so is a problem.

Find out why you are actually doing your kids a disservice when you try to fix their emotions and how to listen to your kids without the intention of fixing the situation.

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I am so excited to welcome an incredible guest to the show this week. Kiva Schuler is the Founder and CEO of the Jai Institute for Parenting, the world’s leading parent coach training institute. Kiva is a very special person in my life. She is a friend, a mentor, a sister, and a colleague in this revolution of changing the world one family at a time, and she joins me this week to share more about the mission we’re on together to help you uplevel your parenting, and more about the peaceful parenting revolution.

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