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Happy Masturbation Month! Elite Daily Sex & Dating editor Iman joins us to talk about self-love, the impact that writing about sex has had on her sex life, being basic and loving it, the obsession with chill, getting started with anal play, and so much more. Iman and Lauren also have a very real heart-to-heart about their respective struggles with disordered eating and the role that "detox" teas played in the cycle. You can find Iman's beautiful writing on Elite Daily, Bustle, Teen Vogue, and Man Repeller, and make sure to give her a follow at @imanharirikia.

Iman is involved with legislative efforts to make detox teas and other dangerous diet pills illegal to sell to minors. If you or someone you know is battling an eating disorder, there are so many resources for you. My DMs are always open, and you can call the National Eating Disorder hotline at (800) 931-2237, or visit https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org.

In one of our most interesting episodes to-date, we meet Becca: a queer, polyamorous woman whose beautiful perspective on relationships and connection is both inspiring and eye-opening. Themes include: communication, passive aggressive instagram posts, self-care and being “selfish,” emotional labor, safe sex, boundaries, insertable condoms, how to get started on your polyamorous journey, and much more. Becca also introduces us to lots of fun inclusive vocab, like polyamory, relationship anarchy, ethical non-monogamy, swinging, triads, metas, nesting partners, fluid bonding, and much more! 

Devin has a lot of stories to share with us, including how his ex sent him a venmo charge for $5,000, a sex story involving back-humping, the time he walked out on a date, dating a police officer, and so much more. We also look up Lauren’s "Florida Man" birthday story and discuss forming a new porn site that doesn’t have any incest content (you’re welcome). Not to be confused with the unforgettable Devon of episode #8, Devin leaves us with a golden piece of relationship advice at the very end of the episode, so get excited!

In which we discuss dating while still being TECHNICALLY married, how finding the right therapist is like dating, being with someone with vastly different sexual needs, the politics of paying for your partner (in more ways than one), dating with anxiety and being on the spectrum, when to throw in the towel on someone who doesn’t want to see you anymore, and so much more! Steven’s charity of choice is End Cash Bail. Visit https://chicagobond.org/advocacy/ to learn more and donate!

Today's guest has to decide what to do when he runs into his childhood crush at their 10 year high school reunion.; the story that unfolds is both tangled and illicit. We also discuss how confidence can come with age and how to stop being nervous about dates, how female orgasms are a spiritual experience, Carl Jung’s anima and animus archetypes, and much more. 

In which we discuss delayed puberty, soulmates, how 2018 was no one’s year, having sex in public, what it means to be closed off to marriage or kids at a young age, a one week stand versus a one night stand, unwarranted touching from strangers and how to deal with it, and why it’s never okay to make assumptions about someone’s sexuality. 

In which we discuss getting fed up with “dating” (what does dating EVEN MEAN???) and being in limbo, what “love at first sight” actually means, how to form meaningful friendships, how meeting new people can drive you back to the comfort of an ex, the concept of virginity, celebrity crushes, how to ask someone to “come over,” and dating with a chronic illness.

In this episode, Katie takes us through the details of her profession as a pelvic floor PT and drops some valuable knowledge on disorders like dyspareunia and vaginismus. We also dive into what exactly the pelvic floor is, why involuntary pain during sex is NEVER normal, PT-approved lubes, what a dilator is, how to actually wash your vagina (hint: don’t), and techniques for relieving pelvic pain. This episode is a must-listen for anyone with a vagina!!

In which we discuss the demise of his 7-year, long-distance relationship, what it’s like to go on a date for the first time since age 20, how tacos are a substitute for personality, splitting checks and how that aligns with feminism, “incels” and the reddit community, how virginity is a myth, and in which we relive prom.

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In which we discuss time zones and how they’re bullshit, how to really make a girl laugh, not having a lot of boyfriends, the sexual act of Burning The Toast, why sex can still be awesome without an orgasm, how to start having conversations about sex with your partner, how to have respectful rough sex, the worst date story we have EVER heard, and the most beautiful tribute to the relationship between Devon’s parents. Link to donate to Reece's Rainbow: https://reecesrainbow.org/sponsorship/voiceofhope

In which we discuss what to call a significant other, not agreeing with podcast guests on everything, how to have successful FaceTime sex, how dating apps can be an ego boost, falling in love fast and trusting your feelings, body compatibility, annoying movie tropes around sex, self-judgment during sexual experiences, orgasmic meditation, and the one thing every couple should try. Check out Richie's awesome brand, My Poet is a Pervert, at https://www.mypoetisapervert.com to shop sex positive greeting cards and more!

In which we discuss losing a condom inside of yourself, how exactly girls orgasm, the dynamics of dating someone who is converting in order to marry you, privacy and the value of keeping sex intimate, how to be in love with someone who has different political opinions, taking Plan B, level of volume during sex, and Lauren’s life motto.

In which we discuss the right time to send a dick pic, why meeting a straight guy at a gay bar is the ultimate dream, how sharing your expectations while dating is important, how okcupid is like Netflix, why keeping your sex life as private as possible can be a good thing, how long you should text before meeting up (hint: not long), and why ghosting gets easier the more you get ghosted.

In which we discuss what you should be upfront about on first dates, the question you should ALWAYS ask the person you’re dating, why 69ing is the worst, pain during sex and why you should talk to your doctor about it, how guys just assume women are on birth control, how texting boundaries are a real thing, why independent women like being dominated, and Charlotte’s go-to line to see if someone is dating other people. Link to donate to Planned Parenthood: https://www.weareplannedparenthoodaction.org/onlineactions/hkv0R7LN0E-Q-U5mXFaXRA2?sourceid=1004272&ms=4NALz1800K1N1A&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI7_O4wYWE3wIVxbrACh0New-1EAAYASAAEgIKo_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

In which we discuss upgrading from surgical lube, why 26 is the prime age for dating, how to jailbreak Bumble, how religion can impact sex positivity, and how to find out what sex is if no one ever tells you. Caring Choices donation link: http://www.caring-choices.org/donate.html 

In which we discuss leaving marks on someone after sex, how having selfies on your dating profile is a cardinal sin, how all first dates should be on a Tuesday at 7:30 pm, why girls don’t message guys they like on Bumble, how men persecute us for being cat ladies, how all nipples are not created equal, and where we discover that I indirectly set Chelsea's roommate and boyfriend up together.

In which a total stranger comes to my apartment and we talk about how Scott just broke up with his girlfriend ten days prior, how looking for a relationship can lead to the wrong thing, how to get out of a bad date, how ghosting gives you bad dating karma, how Jewish men have a duty to make women orgasm, and where his friends intermittently text him to make sure he’s still alive.