Secrets with Kate McGwire

It's no secret dating was a real struggle for me. I thought once I found my person I'd be on Easy Street and everything would be simple. The joke was on me! At 40 years old I decided to live with someone for the very first time! 

I crashed into a wall with this podcast this year. Instead of pretending the elephant isn't sitting in the room, I'm going to address it. I want to share with you why I got stuck this year and what I decided to do about it. 

Single parents need loving too! But I wasn't going to be the person to do it. I had a rule. I wouldn't fall for someone who already had someone else to love. Please know all the rules get tossed when you're dating someone who has a kid. 

Until you have the talk about being exclusive, assume he is dating more than just you. And you should be dating more than just him! And you shouldn't be upset about it! With that attitude, there is no need to be spending your time on this Facebook page that goes against everything I believe when it comes to dating.

Love is not a gender thing, it's a human thing. In my mind it was hard for women to find love, but not for men. If they were single later in life it's because they chose to be. This episode shows how small minded that thought is. Men crave that human connection as much as we do and as time races by they feel just as frustrated and hopeless as we do. Well at least the good ones do. 

Nothing in my dating life went as planned. It's only when I stopped fighting it that the plan I dreamed of became reality and so much more! 

Dating always felt out of control for me. I was always reacting instead of being proactive. Then I switched things up and decided to do what was best for me and crazy things happened!  

You can't survive 25 years of being single without picking up a few tricks & strategies along the way to handle being dumped. It wasn't pretty but I found my way through it. 

DON'T SKIP THIS ONE! Yes, manifesting love sounds hokey! I 100% agree with you. Just listen for a short 20 minutes. If anything you'll get a good laugh at the crazy things I did to find love.  

I give this guy a standing ovation on the way he broke up with me. That was the only memorable thing about our time together!

I can't be constantly telling you to have hope and stay positive if I don't talk about the other side of being single later in life. The side that is lonely and not always up for a party. The side we don't share. The side we pretend isn't there and will hopefully go away one day. Today we talk about it! And laugh about it! 

The only regret about my past that I have is that I stayed way too long in unfulfilling relationships. After chatting with my guest & relationship expert, Sandra Wood, I learned this is a struggle for many of us! 

Listen to hear you're not the only one. Listen for great takeaways on how to walk away! It's the only way to get to the good stuff! 

There are bad dates, and then there is her bad date! Your jaw will drop when you hear this story! Then you'll laugh out loud. Because that's really all you can do when you hear what he did! 

I've been a wife now for 1 year! And just like all the other years of my life, I've learned a few things. It's been fascinating to see how being single for 40 years has really played a role in my ability to share my life with my husband. There are definitely benefits to finding love later in life and there are definitely a few challenges for a single girl who is now married. 

WARNING: This is cringe-worthy...for me! As embarrassing as this story is, I have to share it. Please listen with love & laughter, not judgment.

If you have one foot in the past and one foot in the future you're pissing all over today. Staying focused on the moment you are in does not come easy but my guest tries her best to practice this with every dating experience. She hasn't found her person yet, but she's learning a lot about herself along the way!

My guest has the most beautiful, positive attitude not just about love but about life! She has the bride-to-be glow, which you'll hear but after hearing her story I know she has always been an optimistic person. She never stopped believing and definitely didn't listen to the nay-sayers instead she forged ahead and found love! 

Two divorces, lots of bad dates and she's not giving up! My guest this week looks at her love life in such a positive & hilarious way (as we all should)! Instead of condemning herself for the choices made, she laughs it off & looks to the future with hope. You'll laugh at her crazy dating life and you'll be inspired to keep dating!

It's tough enough being single long after your friends get married. But it's even tougher when your family and your religious background pile on the expectations for something that is out of your control. 

Special Guest: Sheli Fulcher Koontz

There are so many steps to dating these days! Create the perfect online profile. Connect with someone who is preferably not a troll. Move from messaging to texting to talking on the phone. Then hopefully you both want to meet face to face. Don't give up now! Go meet the guy! It's just one drink. Just go!