Shit We Don't Tell Mom

Vincci Tsui, a mother of a three-year-old, balances her parenting knowledge from how she was raised with what she believes to be best for her daughter.  We discuss what we’ve learned from our parents and what has been taught to us from living in a western society. Which teachings to adopt and which to unlearn? What fears do we have as new parents? 

“This is something that's new for so many people, like not just from a cultural perspective or generational perspective […] we're not alone and we're probably not going to scar our kids for life if we're doing the best that we can.” - Vincci Tsui

Resources & Mentions:

• Vincci Tsui (Website & Instagram)
• How Co-regulation with Parents Develops into Self-Regulation in Children (Article)
• Your Brain's 3 Emotion Regulation Systems (Article)

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It’s official, Kristy is now single after a 6-year relationship. In this episode, we process the emotions after a breakup, recognize what is “overly independent”, and discuss fears of the future after losing a partner. Our Shit is a series where we update our lives with each other and how we cope with its challenges.

“I felt like if we stayed together, we would've been living a compromised version of a life that neither of us really wanted” - Kristy Yee

Episodes Mentioned:

• Ep 45. Our Shit: What I Learned from Breaking Up a 6 Year Relationship
• Ep 47. To Have or Not to Have Babies... and Why
• Ep 49. Attachment Style…It Makes You Feel Some Type of Way
• Ep 51. The Joy and Grief of Adult Friendships

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Angie has been cheated on. Kristy has done the cheating. Inspired by the recent events in the Try Guys, we chat about our own experiences with infidelity including physical cheating, emotional cheating, micro-cheating, work crushes, and how to move on.

“You're not a cheater,  [...] you had cheated. But you’re not a cheater. It's not a identity thing, it's an action thing.” - Angie Yu

Resources & Mentions:

• What Is an Emotional Affair? (Article)

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Kristy and Angie sit down to talk about adult friendships during Kristy's road trip across Canada. Analogies are made, lyrics are quoted, and tears are (almost) shed.

"I'm gonna hedge my bets if I have a lot of friends that are within the close circle. If a few of them left, then I'd be fine. As long as I keep filling this first ring, then it'll never be empty. And I think that was my protection mechanism." - Angie

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Tam is in the “middle generation”. The balance between talking about mental health with her parents and learning how to teach her son to be in tune with his mental well-being. We discuss:

• her parents talking her out of using therapy
• people-pleasing tendencies as a survival tactic
• how to be there for other people but also set boundaries for your own emotions
• create space to process instead of suppressing your emotions 
• childhood bullying trauma 

Bonus: Kristy and Angie get their Oracle cards read for the first time

"I so much want to be the obedient good daughter to them, but I don't wanna do it at the expense of my own health.” - Tam Tran

Find Tam:

• www.stigmafreemovement.com
• Instagram @stigmafreemovement

Resources & Mentions:

• Oracle Deck by Rebecca Campbell (cards)
• The High 5 Habit by Mel Robins (book) 

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What is your attachment style? Have you always wanted to do one but are not sure how it’ll go? We’ll do the quiz and narrate as we go and share some of our childhood memories and…well the answer may surprise you! Angie asked how understanding attachment helped in her current relationship and Kristy gave us a relationship update. As always, we discuss some deep shit.

“I just cannot rationalize my emotions away. Like I have no control over my emotions and they take over my life.” - Angie

”Well, the emotions are not logical, so you can’t rationalize something that’s... not logical.” - Kristy”

Resources & Mentions:

• Attached (Amir Levine, Rachel S. F. Heller)
• Free Attachment Style Quiz (Psych Central)
• Free Attachment Style Quiz (The Attachment Project)
• Attachment Styles Inforgraphic (Parenting for Brain)

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We decided to share a popular episode from season 1 from the summer of 2020 about how we talked ourselves out of our depressive episodes. We share audio clips of our actual voice messages with each other to show our realistic experiences, thoughts, and feelings. We talk about potential coping methods and understanding the different drivers that keep us going.

"I just cannot rationalize my emotions away. Like I have no control over my emotions and they take over my life." - Angie

"Well, the emotions are not logical, so you can't rationalize something that's... not logical." - Kristy

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Angie always imaged having babies. Kristy is on team no kids. But lately, they’ve both been having different thoughts. In this episode, we explore why we originally wanted/not wanted babies and why we are changing our minds. We also chat about endometriosis, discussing babies when dating, abandonment fears, trust issues, and mom’s guilt tripping us.

"Maybe the reason why I always wanted to have a baby is not why I should have a baby" - Angie Yu

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**Content Warning: Death, Depression, Suicide**

We are joined by psychotherapist Shirvin Lee who gets vulnerable and shares her childhood traumas of facing sexism and insurmountable pressures from her family. We also learn how to process and understand emotions better.

“Happiness is not the baseline.” - Shirvin

Resources/Mentions

• Dopamine Nation (Book)
• Why Are Emotions So Important? And How to Address Them (Article)
• Dialectical Behavior Therapy - Self Validation (Article)

Find Shirvin:

• Fundamentally Human by Shirvin Lee (Podcast)
• @therapywithshirvin (Instagram) 

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This is an intimate story about my recent breakup with my partner of 6 years. I share my fear of judgment from friends, staying vs. leaving the relationship, the lessons learned, and how I plan to move forward. 

“I can’t just keep quitting every time something goes wrong in a relationship” - Kristy 

Resources/Mentions
Paired - App for Couples

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Toronto. Teenhood. Puberty. Friendships. Filial Piety. Emotions! The movie Turning Red is about a 13-year-old girl who is torn between her duties to walk down the path paved by her ancestors and her desire to find her own path. Kristy and Angie, both of whom happen to have been 13-year-old girls in the early 2000’s, weigh in on the key themes like intergenerational trauma and loss of identity. Turning Red is a gift to the Asian-diaspora community delivered in a shimmery wrapping paper of hope and optimism. 

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Justine shares stories of telling her Catholic Filipino parents about dating a black man, potentially not getting married, and potentially not having kids - even though she wants 4 of them. We explore why women tend to choose “fixer-uppers”, and why we are fixated on romantic relationships to bring us happiness. She's a recovering people pleaser, avid baker, and sex educator in New York City.

“Why are we giving so much credit to that one thing, one place, one person, to give us happiness” - Justine Ang Fonte

Find Justine:

Website: https://www.justinefonte.com/
Instagram @imjustineaf

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Are we loveable? Insecurities can stem from so many different sources but how do we manage them and prevent them from ruining our current and future relationships? We dive into our experiences with our past and figure out how to notice our triggers and re-work our thinking so we can have healthier relationships.  

**Content Warning: Death, Depression, Suicide**

Takeaways:

• Don’t give up after the first time you seek professional help because it’s about the right fit and right timing
• We inherit unhealthy emotional attachments from our families but we can unlearn them
• No one is responsible for our emotional labour but ourselves
• Your partner has the right and is responsible for choosing you

Resources:

• How to Overcome a Fear of Rejection
• Communicating Your Needs Isn't Selfish, It's Selfless
• Four Ways to Stop Feeling Insecure in Your Relationships

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Teacher by day, gogo dancer by night. We discuss (rant) how we deal with nagging mothers, life as a gogo-dancer, struggling with body image, and how to make hard life decisions. 

"No one is really looking at you. They're so concerned about their own lives. They have no time to judge you. And even if they do, it's such a passing fleeting moment."

- Special Guest
 
Takeaways:

• Give less Fs
• Our relationship with mom might never be perfectly healthy 
• Some of us are still avoiding, and that’s where we need to be 
• Our living environment shapes how anxiety manifests
• Think back to when you did something scary and how you’ve done it 
• Make decisions based on your 80 yo. self rather than who you are today

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Inner child. Trauma. Reparenting. The Little Prince. In this episode, we sit down to talk about the first time that we confronted our inner child and how we rekindled that relationship. We dive into our definition of inner child and how we practice hanging out with our inner child. Angie also shares her experience with imaginary exposure therapy which exposed some of her deep inner child wounds.

Takeaways:

• Connecting with your inner child can be done by interacting with a younger version of yourself
• Don’t stop doing things you enjoyed doing as a child
• You don’t need a therapist or a counsellor to heal your inner child but you must want to do the work to heal
• Inner child wounds that go unattended can turn into toxic behaviours as adults
• We can now provide for our wounded inner child 

Mentions & Resources:

• The Little Prince and You (Angie’s story)
• Le Petit Prince
• 6 Signs You Have a Wounded Inner Child (Psych2Go Youtube)
• Finding and Getting to Know Your Inner Child 
• Healing Your Inner Child 
• Deep Secrets and Inner Child Healing

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Mimi Young is a spirit communicator. She left the corporate 9-5 world to invest in a relationship with the unseen. In this episode, we explore how Shamanism is a way to honor our ancestry, what is dream hygiene and how you can benefit, and how to get back in touch with your cultural roots that have been lost through migration and cultural revolutions. 

“When we can return to our roots, practices and customs, in the context of magic and spirituality, it is an act of decolonizing because then you are saying - I am Chinese, and this is what we do” - Mimi Young

Takeaways:

• Listen to your surroundings and traditional folklore stories
• Reconnecting with your spirituality IS claiming your culture and identity. It is part of decolonization.
• Traditional Chinese Medicine is an art & science with connections to mediumship 
• Treat going to sleep like going out with friends; spend time to get ready for it 
• Politics IS informed by spirituality 
• The concept of permission is rooted in enslavement
• Learn to build systems that cultivate more serotonin rather than dopamine

Mentions & Resources:

• Shop Ceremonie by Mimi Yong (website)
• The Woowoo by Lindsay Wong (book)
• A Practice—and a Spell—to Find Meaning in Your Dreams (article)
• Listen to more Mimi Young (podcasts)
• Astral dream mist 

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After being hospitalized for a week, Tanushree gets diagnosed with dysthymia. Then things got messy. Unintentionally triggering friends. Fighting with parents about using medication. And what self-care looks like right now. Tanushree is a fellow mental health advocate in the South Asian community. She shares her experiences being forced into a psych ward and then learning how to manage her mental well-being. 

“When you talk about destigmatizing, you really have to talk about culture” - Tanushree 

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Content Warning: suicidal ideations and self-harm 

Takeaways:

• Share about your mental health with others but also consider your audience and state of mind 
• Your self-care routine can change just as you are changing every day 
• You can choose not to share some things with your parents 
• Prioritizing your time and energy is also a form of self-care 

Mentions & Resources:

• Kristy’s psych ward story: Ep 2 & Ep 5
• Angie’s 9-year-old suicidal story: Ep 3 & Ep 6
• Website: www.tdcpodcast.com
• Facebook: @thedesicondition 
• Twitter: @tdcpodcast_
• Instagram: @thedesicondition 
• Email: thedesicondition@gmail.com
• The Desi Collaborative 

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Adult friendships. Confrontations. Empathy. Responsibilities. We confront our uncomfortable thoughts and compare our friendship and partnership to a romantic relationship. They talk about their mental health and how that has affected their time management and relationships.

Takeaways:

• Having doubts about something does not mean you don’t want it
• Adult friendships need maintenance and check-ins from both sides
• Healthy friendships mean you can share uncomfortable feelings with each other
• Consistency and kindness is more important than frequency and big gestures
• Life gets in the way and friendships require managing expectations

Mentions & Resources:

• How to be a Better Friend
• How to Not Suck as a Friend — Communicate Better
• Why Friendships Are So Important for Health and Well-Being
• Making Good Friends

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Self-shaming. Struggling relationship. Disappointing Chinese Christian parents. Lucas Ng, Canadian actor and co-host of “Have We Made It Yet” podcast, shares how he got fired from his job triggered a cascade of endless negative self-talk, thoughts of self-harm, and eventually going to therapy 5 years later. 

**Content Warning: Self Harm**

Takeaways:

• Traumas can resurface years after they happened
• Can’t expect your partner to be your everything 
• A constant need for control might actually be your own denial of your mental health struggles 
• Talk with your younger self with compassion and love 
• 20s is when you figure out who you are
• 30s is when you figure out what you want 

Mentions & Resources:

• Lucas Ng Instagram
• Have We Made It Yet Podcast (Documenting experiences as new entertainers and artists looking to "make it" in the entertainment industry)
• Ep 27. Our Shit: Suicide Ideations and the Depression Roller Coaster

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IUDs. Sex during periods. Pain. Discomfort. The tampon tax and all the other costs associated with our menstruations. Kristy and Angie tackle some burning questions about the ever so enduring, unbelievably persistent, biological event we unwillingly go through - our periods. We hit up our male friends and asked them to tell us something they know about menstruation and then ask something they want to know about menstruation.

Takeaways:

• We need men to do the work to normalize periods for everyone
• Periods are expensive, and pads and tampons are just the tip of the icebergs
• Severe menstrual cramps are debilitating, physically and mentally
• Just because we experience periods on a regular (or  not so regular) basis, does not dilute its severity or legitimacy 

Mentions & Resources:

• IUD Expulsion: is it as scary as it sounds?
• Intrauterine Devices (IUDs) 
• What is Dysmenorrhea?
• Effects of Premenstrual Symptoms on Bipolar
• Ovulation. Breastfeeding, and Being A Chinese Daughter ft. Georgie Mah
• Building Resiliency and Tearing Down Facades ft. Steven Ngo
• Social Justice with Your Asian Parents ft. Irving Chong

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