The Divorced Woman's Guide Podcast

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Divorce isn’t a punishment. It’s an opportunity for your rebirth.

I say this because of my own experience that has allowed me to start relearning everything. It sounds scary, but wallowing in a pity party won’t help you get there. It’s about making a conscious choice on what you truly want to do in your life.

The slate has been wiped clean. Now’s your chance to fill it with the things that bring you joy!

Tune in to this episode - Divorce is a Rebirth & Awakening

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Look for the light amidst the darkness. Yes, you made mistakes. But you can now forgive yourself and open your eyes to the light. That’s where the lessons are. That’s where love and gratitude are waiting for you.

✔️ Learn how to ask for help. Our negative inner voice can be loud – so have a trusted friend who is louder! They should be saturating your mind with encouragement and empowering you to believe in yourself. You don’t have to do it alone.

✔️ You’re stronger than you think. You can pick yourself off the floor and try again. You give yourself permission to live life on your terms. Listen to your intuition, and do what you feel like doing!

✔️ This is your chance at a spiritual awakening. You get to gift yourself a new life that you desire. No more feeling stuck about where your ex has left you with.

Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” on Amazon!

👉🏼 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BV9BXNWX

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Comedian Andrea Rappaport knows what it's like going through life's biggest jokes — a love story turned toxic relationship and signing divorce plans that went wrong. 

In this episode, the How Not to Suck at Divorce podcast host shares her journey going through the process with her two young boys making many painful mistakes and shedding light on how you can avoid them.

▶️ What To Do And Not To Do After Divorce with Andrea Rappaport

✔️ One of the biggest mistakes people make post-divorce is to stop going to therapy because they think it's over. 

Andrea pleads those going through a rough patch never stop getting professional support pre and post-divorce. "One of the biggest things I recommend is keeping your butt in a therapist's chair. Keep talking. I have a personal therapist. I have a therapist who helps me with my children, who helps me navigate my kids' needs based on what they went through and all that stuff. And I have a therapist for my current relationship because I want to make sure that I'm not repeating behavior and traits that I picked up in past relationships."

✔️ A parenting agreement is a tough document to change. 

Never miss out on having a professional help you through that step. Andrea says, "It's easy to make mistakes, especially if you are in a high-conflict divorce or where there's abuse of different types going on. There's a myriad of reasons why these mistakes get made in a parenting agreement. What are your child's needs at that point, and what is the best scenario for your kid? It is not an agreement for the parents. It's an agreement for the child, and I can't stress that enough."

✔️ Taking advice from friends and family can keep us stuck. 

They try to take you out of your emotion because they're uncomfortable being in it with you. If you choose to do things independently, you will waste more time, even if you feel you are strong enough. Experts come in to guide you through the process and provide actionable steps that will get you back on your feet faster.

✔️ We will do things in our divorce that will hurt the kids and ourselves.

Yet, we must do it to make peace and end the chronic conflict. We teach our kids to make similar choices by not settling for less and support them well to become more empathetic and resilient adults.

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Andrea Rappaport is a humorist and image consultant. Funny people are usually a result of something very unfunny, and Andrea is no exception. Known for her candor on her Instagram platform @theandrearappaport, Andrea shares the journey of her traumatic divorce and single mommy life with two young boys. She mixes plenty of humor, because laughter is her favorite form of cardio.

Professionally, Andrea provides goal-based consulting to individuals and businesses. She blends her 20+ years in the beauty and fashion industry with her expert communication skills from her 20+ years of acting training and 40+ years of therapy. Andrea's clients learn to speak effectively to their audience while showing themselves in the most authentic way. Her clients range from small businesses looking to rebrand to post-divorce individuals looking to get back on the dating scene.

A graduate of Chicago's Second City Conservatory, Andrea's wit has been featured on TODAY Parents, The Jam, The Tamron Hall Show, Windy City LIVE, and Great Day SA. Her story has been shared in Uploader Magazine and Voyage Chicago. Her hobbies include: keeping her boys alive, watching her own insta stories, and bragging about her VIP status at Marshall's/TJ Maxx/HomeGoods.

Check out Andrea's FREE GIFTS up on her website:

www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com. 

And contact her on Instagram @theandrearappaport

@hownottosuckatdivorce

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com

My journey of self-discovery was a process where I was able to truly understand who I was based on my experiences.

This meant letting go of comparison, intentionally living a meaningful and happier life, and choosing self-forgiveness.

These three things sealed my success in healing and ultimately, opened up my life to new possibilities. Only when I made that empowered choice to go through the journey that things started to change for me.

Tune in to this episode on My Journey of Self-Discovery After Divorce

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Mistakes aren’t a bad thing. It’s part of being human. But owning your mistakes and doing things differently moving forward is what matters.

✔️ Stop self-loathing. Don’t feed the guilt. It’s important to be able to face your flaws and admit them. This creates less resistance and more ease into flowing into that healed state that you want to be in.

✔️ Make amends with yourself, and take small steps to change. You did what was best for you during those difficult moments. Now, it’s time to take action. Have someone who can help you develop new coping mechanisms to avoid falling into old habits.

✔️ Forgiveness is the most freeing thing you can give to yourself. As you work on not doing the same mistakes again, empower yourself to make choices that feel good to YOU. That’s when abundance will start flowing into your life.

Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” on Amazon!

👉🏼 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BV9BXNWX

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

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The missing piece to achieving healing after your divorce is a spiritual awakening. And you have the power to uncover it yourself.

It may feel like nothing’s working out. But once you start paying attention to the universe and being receptive to what’s handed to you at the moment, your key to a more purposeful, abundant life could be waiting for you in the corner.

Tune in to this episode on Uncovering the Spiritual Gift of Divorce

Key points covered in this episode: 

 ✔️ The divorce recovery process happens in three stages.

• Being in the thick of it.

• Fully committing to rehabilitation.

• Finding your life purpose.

 ✔️ Focus on healing. You’ll get there. The universe will put on your path the tools and resources you need to clear your mind. Be receptive to what is around you. You could still be in the process of receiving your spiritual gift.

 ✔️ Opening your heart can transform your life. Going through Theta Healing allowed me to receive, forgive, and unlock the door to abundance.

✔️ Your divorce has led you to your spiritual growth. You’ll notice that everything will start to come together when you find out that every problem always has a spiritual solution.

✔️ In spiritual growth, problems become detours. Everything that happens for you is a chance to realign with your heart. As you’re operating at a higher vibration, you can now thrive in any circumstance that comes your way.

Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” on Amazon!

👉🏼 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BV9BXNWX

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: contactwendy.com 

Abundance isn’t just about money – it can also be applied to time.

I’m inviting you to surrender all your limiting beliefs and remember: What you think, you create. Step out of your comfort zone and embrace your power. You have the ability to shape the life you so badly desire once you apply these actionable tips to shift your mindset.

Tune in to this episode on Mindset Tips about Time to Create Abundance

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ When creating abundance, time doesn’t exist. 

It has to do more with who you are being and what you’re thinking. These factors are what will transform your reality.

✔️ What is meant to be will come. 

Co-creating with the universe means our desires manifest in ways we don’t expect. Let go of control. Stop thinking of immediate results. Allow the universe to deal with the “How”. Pay close attention to the signs.

✔️ Set your intentions. 

As you go about your day, have a purpose for everything you’re doing. For example, I intend to inspire and motivate you with my work. And it has reflected in the abundant life I have today.

✔️ Regularly check in with your higher power. 

Ensure that you’re aligned with the life you wish to create. Make use of the tools and resources to get you back in that aligned state when you feel like you’ve fallen out.

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Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” on Amazon!

👉🏼 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BV9BXNWX

Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Divorce is painful. And unknowingly, this pain we feel stirs up anger inside of us that is so difficult to let go of.

I’m here to tell you that holding on to this resentment won’t change your circumstances nor will it make you feel any better.

Let me share with you three ways you can finally release these emotions and open yourself up to a new life of joy.

Tune in to this episode: How to Stop Resenting Your Ex

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Acknowledge your emotions. 

Step out of the victim mindset, own what happened and how you feel, and name that feeling. Being aware of its existence helps you move forward in dealing with it.

✔️ Express your anger. 

You can do it in a healthy way, such as writing a letter or talking aloud in the car – as long as nobody hears you. What’s most important is releasing it.

✔️ Heal yourself. 

Recovering from emotional hurt is no different from a physical injury. Nurture yourself, give yourself compassion, and pick up the lessons you need to move forward.

Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” on Amazon!

👉🏼 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BV9BXNWX

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast

For a woman from a household with two incomes or a wife relying on their former spouse as the breadwinner — going through a divorce can be downright horrifying. What happens when you think you are left with "nothing"? 

Join me in this powerful episode with Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Lisa Zeiderman, who shares valuable nuggets to help you address your finances with less stress. 

▶️ How to Navigate Complex Financial Issues and Find Empowerment Through Your Finances with Lisa Zeiderman.

✔️ As a matrimonial attorney, CFL, and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Lisa Zeiderman shares her inspiring origin story of helping women and families go through a divorce. After getting into the fashion business at 18, she survived a divorce and custody case. "What most people find frustrating is a lack of responsiveness. I experienced the same with my attorneys. The client needs to feel we have their back. I decided then that I could be helpful to people. And so that's why I ended up going to law school."

✔️ There's so much emotion tied to divorce when divorce is a business transaction, yet we bring that emotional piece into it, especially regarding our finances. Lisa shares that women need to be reassured that they can go through the process less stressed. In consultations, two main issues must be addressed: custody of the children and finances. 

✔️ Achieving a less complicated divorce process and a rewarding future requires setting reasonable expectations as early as possible. Divorce is hard, but you must be kinder to yourself and allow others to come in and give you the strong support you need. 

✔️ No matter what the situation, divorce disputes are resolvable. People have to realize that it is a marathon and not a sprint. Lisa establishes that the lack of understanding makes divorce scary and way more stressful for many women. Her essential piece of advice: don't let that fear control YOU. Resources and services are available to help you start separating the emotion from the financial element of divorce.

✔️ Do not do divorce by yourself. You want reliable and credible people in your corner, explaining the law, the finances, and the psychological aspects of the divorce process. It would be best if you had a passionate and empathetic team who has your best intentions in their mind. Are you clamming up pursuing your legal separation, or are you ready to open the door for better resolution and positive outcomes? 

Let us come to your rescue and make this divorce your life's most significant gift. 

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Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements.

Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Woman Attorneys for 2022, as well as a Crain’s New York Notable Diverse Lawyer for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among many other awards, Lisa is a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children. Lisa is also a member of the Forbes Business Council.

In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and by the Forbes Business Council. She is also interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to child custody in a host of media.

Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the Board of Savvy Ladies, Inc., and on the board of LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today.

Website links: 
https://lisazeiderman.com/
https://www.savvyladies.org/

IG: @lisazeiderman
FB: @lisazeiderman
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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/
Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy
Twitter: @thedivorcerehab
Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2022-11

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast

Do you feel constantly stuck in lack, like everything could be taken away from you at any second? If so, you may suffer from a scarcity mindset. This harmful narrative leads you to believe that there are not enough resources available for you and that anything could vanish without warning. 

Tune in to the ᴅɪᴠᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ'ꜱ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ show — Shifting Your Mindset Out of Scarcity After Divorce.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Embracing an abundant mindset comes in many forms. 

It's not solely financial but knowing that prosperity and overflow are possible in all areas of life. Having an abundance mindset means having faith that there is more than enough out there and knowing you have all the resources available to you.

✔️ You are not your failed marriage or your past. 

Your history, whether a failed relationship or divorce, does not define you. Stop allowing it to damper what you are meant to be. You are nothing less than light, love, and pure joy!

✔️ Let me remind you today that YOU ARE ENOUGH. 

Every time wounds of the past become fresh with memories of abandonment, betrayal, and deep sadness, remember that you have released yourself from the people who did not bring out the best in you.

It may be hard to come to terms with what and who you have lost, but all that has come to be is to create a more meaningful and beautiful future. 

#divorceadvice #divorcecoach #divorcehelp

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast

Positive thinking has the power to transform your life, no matter what your current circumstances are.

Quantum physics tells us that we are all made up of energy. And energy carries a certain frequency or vibration. The more positive frequency we give off, the more we attract it.

This means that you have the power to control what happens in your life. You get to manifest positivity into your reality, even if you’re going through a divorce.

Tune in to this episode on Power of Positivity in Creating Abundance after Divorce.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Apply positive thinking in your life.

You can do this through visualization and gratitude. Be mindful of your thoughts and spin negative ones into ideas that serve you.

✔️ Positive thinking impacts your health and well-being.

It encourages us to take care of ourselves more, cope with stress better, and prevent ourselves from falling into a state of depression.

✔️ Drink from the half-full glass.

Instead of dwelling on the things frustrating you, focus on the good things you have now and what you can change.

✔️ Positive thinking builds resilience.

You know bad things just happen. And it’s not the universe that’s out to get you. You’re able to make the most of what’s happening in the present.

✔️ You can always start over.

Positivity allows you to wipe the slate clean, learn from your mistakes, and create something new.

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Do you want to know what your deepest divorce Super Power is? Of course you do! Take my brand new quiz and discover more about yourself and the super power you possess that will take you through divorce into your dream life. https://thedivorcerehab.com/quiz-start-site-podcast

I struggled with forgiveness so much. In fact, it was the hardest part of my recovery process after my divorce.

And I know you are going through the same things, too. So today, I’ll be breaking down these struggles we experience as we get ourselves on the path to forgiveness.

I’ll also be sharing why it’s so important for you to forgive yourself so you can finally move forward into the new life you deserve.

Tune in to this episode: Why Forgiving Yourself is Crucial For Moving On

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Carrying guilt hinders us from forgiving ourselves. You may feel you’re half-responsible. But guilt just gets in the way of you seeing your true worth.

✔️ Self-blame only fosters more shame. My kids heard me kick their dad out. It was difficult to process that it wasn’t my fault. Trust me, you’ll get to the other side.

✔️ Break the cycle of negative self-talk. No wonder our self-esteem is in the toilet. You’re powerful enough to silence this pesky voice in your head.

✔️ Who cares what others think? You know yourself best. Being able to move on emotionally doesn’t make you the villain. Say no to self-judgment.

✔️ Release the pain. Resentment is drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Don’t allow yourself to rot. Choose to step into that world of forgiveness.

✔️ Move into your new life by practicing these:

• Self-love.

• Gratitude

• Self-compassion

✔️ You deserve to forgive yourself. Nobody’s perfect. We all make mistakes. What matters is what you choose to do moving forward.

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

A miscarriage, a huge Christmas Day fight, and the decision to make a change.

Jen Riday was able to pivot and find her happiness as a married woman. Through her experience, she proves to us that if you’re feeling stuck, divorce isn’t always the answer. Maybe all you need is an intuitive hit and the mindfulness to create time for your self-care.

Tune in to this episode on Choosing Your Happiness in Marriage with Jen Riday

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ All you need is five minutes. Yoga is Jen Riday’s choice of grounding activity. If you’re scared of starting a new activity, remember that all good things are on the other side of fear. Your brain (and even your partner) will thank you for it.

✔️ Expand time. The more you believe you have time, the more it’s true. Cut out activities that don’t serve you. For Jen Riday, it’s social media and streaming, unless it’s with family.

✔️ Accept your partner’s differences. They don’t always have to enjoy the same things you do. But their presence and energy must transform you and allow you to live unapologetically YOU. Give each other the grace to let them be who they want to be.

✔️ How happy are you willing to let yourself feel? Your happiness is your responsibility, and you get to create it. Think of ways to make today great, and allow yourself to do it!

✔️ Happiness is the greatest gift you can give. If you can do the things that make you feel truly alive, it’s not a selfish act – it’s everything you need to share your vibrancy with the world.

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Dr. Jen Riday is the founder of the Vibrant Happy Women movement, host of the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast, and mom of 6. She resides outside of Madison, Wisconsin. She helps burned-out moms slow down and start taking care of themselves so they can get their sparkle back.

Website: https://www.jenriday.com/about/

Facebook: Jen Riday

Instagram: @jenriday

LinkedIn: Jen Riday

Twitter: @jenriday

YouTube: Jen Riday

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

This is a sign that it's time to make a change. Stop allowing the struggles and sorrows to steal more of your precious time. Acknowledge, feel, and release those difficult emotions, and you can finally leave them in the past where they belong. 

Tune in to the ᴅɪᴠᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ'ꜱ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ show — 3 Steps To Manage Your Emotions and Find Healthy Ways To Cope With Difficult Feelings.

✔️ Stop being so hard on yourself. 

Here we are, beating ourselves up, often playing the Should Have game. Humans as we are, we never have the power to see how our marriages can fail, or we can end up getting divorced. When you speak like this to yourself, ask if you would ever talk that way to your child, a best friend, a family member, or a colleague. If you can be an encourager to others, why are you blaming when it comes to yourself? 

✔️ Release the pain. 

If the pain's still not going away, what you're doing isn't working. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm inviting you to do something different. Allow yourself to feel it, to name it. Because when you do, you heal and release it. You stop giving it power. You stop giving it your energy. 

✔️ Be gentle with yourself.

 Going through a separation and divorce spurs the hidden pains of your past. By showing love and compassion to your inner child, you connect with the part of you living with that wound for so long. Allow yourself to see that you did the best you could with the tools and wisdom you had at the time. 

Know that this isn't who you always have to be. You have the power to shift, and you have the ability to change. 👑

#divorceadvice #divorcecoach #divorcehelp 

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/
Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy
Twitter: @thedivorcerehab
Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2022-11

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

Setting up boundaries is incredibly important for having the co-parenting relationship work. Learning how to communicate with an ex to make decisions for the kids is a lifelong skill you will require to ensure you achieve the life you desire. 

Tune in to the ᴅɪᴠᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ'ꜱ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ show — Important Co-Parenting Boundaries You Need To Follow.

✔️ Refrain from badmouthing your co-parent. 

As hard as it is, spurting negative things against our ex puts our children in the middle of our relationship with our co-parent, and that is not the place that our children want to be. What we need to do is put them in the center. That means keeping comments to yourself and separating your relationship with your co-parent from the ties they have with their dad or mom.

✔️ The communication that happens between our children and our co-parent is truly none of our business.

How often have you been tempted to pick up the phone, open a text message or make that call and intervene in the children's relationship with your co-parent, especially if you don't agree with what is happening? 

Undermining this could be devastating and put your child in an uncomfortable and potentially damaging situation. Be supportive by listening to your child, creating a safe space, and encouraging a healthy environment. 

✔️ Communicate with your co-parent in a businesslike manner.

👉🏻 Yes, you are in the 'business' of raising children. 

When dealing with your co-parent, being businesslike means taking care of yourself, being thoughtful in your interactions, and choosing to respond instead of react.

✔️ Only communicate about your child. 

Never make conversations a session where you are to personally attack him or vice versa. A lot of times, our co-parents try to manipulate us or to try to poke a nerve or to push a button that if we take the bait, then all of a sudden, it becomes about you and him instead of about your child. So remember to focus the conversation around your child; that is how you keep them in the center instead of putting them in the middle when it has to do with the two of you.

✔️ Communicate with your co-parent respectfully and disagree privately. 

Even when you and your co-parent disagree, consciously hold back from the instant need to snap back and argue. It's not always easy, but it's certainly worth it! Co-parenting boundaries set you up for less stress and establish a positive environment for your kids. 

Find success in co-parenting by establishing appropriate boundaries. Set yourself up for less stress and adapt these critical communication and decision-making abilities. Ensure that your kids feel as stable as possible and that you and your co-parent show you love them by making the best decisions with them in mind. 

Access my CoParenting Apart full course here: 

https://the-divorce-rehab-by-wendy-sterling.teachable.com/p/co-parenting-apart

#coparentingdoneright #coparentingapart #divorcedwomanguide

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com 

Order a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: The 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR

The way to unlock abundance in your finances and in every aspect of your life lies in one word: Forgiveness.

You may be wondering, “What does that have to do with money?”

You’ll be surprised to discover that letting go of resentment actually determines your ability to be wealthy, successful, and joyful after your divorce.

Tune in to this episode on Take Control Of Your Financial Future and Create Abundance.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Forgiving doesn’t mean letting the person off the hook. Holding on to bitterness blocks that flow of abundance because you had set limiting expectations on what you wanted your life to be like with them.

✔️ Forgiveness is all about YOU. It’s an empowering move! The frequency of forgiveness is a catalyst for you to fully heal and shift your alignment to what you truly want. It’s a decision that’s solely yours.

✔️ Forgiveness is an acronym. Letting go is as simple as this:

• Face it.

• Own it.

• Rectify it.

• Give yourself forgiveness.

• Ignite it.

• Vocalize and visualize what will come into your life.

• Embody your desires.

✔️ Look at what things in your life need forgiveness. Instead of making up stories about how you could’ve done things differently, why not write the NEW ones of you living your dream life?

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Money can be an overwhelming source of stress or anxiety before, during, and after divorce. While it can be difficult to confront $$$ issues, women going through divorce and debts can start recognizing that it is just a number. Taking that first step towards knowing that is something you should be proud of. 

Our friend Britt Baker, the money management expert over at Dow Janes, recommends mindset shifts and a weekly money ritual to help you overcome the dread, take the burden off and make taking care of your finances a light and pleasant experience. 

▶️ Tune in to the ᴅɪᴠᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ'ꜱ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ show — How Taking Care of Your Finances Is a Practice in Love for Future You!

✔️ Creating that financial self-care practice is part of the healing process. 

Taking care of your financial health should be just as much of a priority as taking care of your physical and mental health. Have the courage to get to grips with your numbers, and don't delay it any longer. Financial wellness is the new self-care. 

✔️ Shine a light on your mental relationship with money.  

If you could manifest whatever vision you have, no matter the cost, what would it be? Imagine working on a blank canvas and painting the big picture for your life. See and feel what can bring you true satisfaction in your relationships, career, and finances, and you will find it easier to take concrete steps in making them a reality. Clarity is an essential element of financial well-being.

✔️ What is your own story that you're going to write with money? 

Our concept of money comes from the mindset that our families passed down consciously and subconsciously to us. Making better spending and saving habits and becoming a more reasonable financial decision-maker requires altering our attitude toward money. 

Britt recommends creating a clear picture of what kind of person we want to be when it comes to money and why we want to possess it. We should strive to write our own narratives rather than blindly accepting ones written for us.

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Britt Williams Baker is a Harvard Business School graduate, an expert investor with 10+ years of experience, and a money mindset coach. 

She co-founded Dow Janes, to teach women+ how to take control of their finances with a step-by-step education and community of support.

Free Gift:

Free Guide to Creating a Weekly Money Ritual: https://try.dowjanes.com/ritual/ 

Connect with Britt: 

Website link: www.dowjanes.com 

Email: britt@dowjanes.com 

Instagram: @dow.janes 

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/williamsbritt/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedowjanes/  

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/dowjanesfinance/ 

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dowjanes 

#divorcefinancialhelp #divorcefinancialplanning #financialclarity

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com 

Marriage is hard. Deciding on divorce is even harder.

We have this internal conflict about whether to make the move because the choice impacts more than just us. Some will choose to cling to the illusion that things can be fixed or will get better.

But not all marriages are salvageable. And the best thing to do is to choose what’s best for you.

Tune in to this episode on Steps to Determine Whether Divorce Is the Right Decision for You.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Your communication is broken. Before the ultimatum, take active steps to resolve the issue. Ask for help from experts if needed. If the other person seems disinterested, that’s your answer.

✔️ You feel a little suspicious about random acts of generosity. If your partner suddenly spoils you with over-the-top gifts, granted that they never did this before, this could be overcompensation for something they’re hiding.

✔️ Divorce is in your mind during arguments. Intimacy should be created after fights. But if the opposite happens and the other can’t allow space for your differences, that’s a red flag.

✔️ Past memories bring more joy than the present. If you feel your marriage was better back then, work together to create more memories. Step back and evaluate if your partner refuses to participate.

✔️ You enjoy spending more time apart than together. Your partner should be investing their time and energy with you. See your worth. You don’t have to settle for less.

Are you enjoying the show so far?

Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or leave me a comment down below because this greatly helps in spreading my show to those who need it the most.

An amazing community of women is waiting for you in The Divorce Rehab™. Join us now!

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Get VIP access to my upcoming book!

👉 www.divorcesucksnowwhat.com

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Where I’m at today is nowhere near close to where I used to be when I first discovered my 20-year marriage was over.

I went from having the rug pulled out of my life to creating this amazing present for myself, finding love, and building a six-figure business out of nothing.

It won’t be easy to get there, but I want you to see me as an example that it is possible for you, too.

Tune in to this episode on Rebuilding Your Life after Divorce.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Get out of your own way. Stop trying to learn everything by yourself. This isn’t the time to prove anything. Having hands-on experience is where you start to gain real knowledge about where you are. And gather as much support as you can.

✔️ Put out a positive frequency with the Five Ds.

• Allow yourself to dream and believe they can come true.
• Declare your vision.
• Discover your superpower.
• Have the drive and determination.
• Have faith in the divine.

✔️ Look outside the box. See the areas where you need support. Find the right tools and strategies to heal your mind, body, and spirit. 

✔️ Believe that you’ll get there. If it can happen to me, it can be the same for you too.

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Are you enjoying the show so far?

Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or leave me a comment down below because this greatly helps in spreading my show to those who need it the most.

An amazing community of women is waiting for you in The Divorce Rehab™. Join us now!

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Get VIP access to my upcoming book!

👉 www.divorcesucksnowwhat.com

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

I was so terrified of how my children would react to my divorce.

I was willing to stay in an unhappy marriage because I didn’t want them in a broken home.

But then, I realized I had to choose ME first, and I had the power to choose what my relationship with my kids would look like.

Tune in to this episode on How to Maintain a Good Relationship with Your Children after Divorce.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ No bashing. Kids are receptive when you’re badmouthing the other parent. Don’t make them feel bad for still loving your ex-spouse. 

✔️ Don’t ask your kids digging questions about what your ex did. You may ask them how their time went. Listen intently to their experience and let them have it.

✔️ Connect with your kids while they’re with the other parent. For older kids, you can have video calls with them at the end of the day. Make them feel that you want to be a part of their life.

✔️ Don’t let your kids relay messages for your ex. They shouldn’t feel like they’re in the middle of something.

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An amazing community of women is waiting for you in The Divorce Rehab™. Join us now!

👉 www.facebook.com/groups/divorcerehabwithwendy

Get VIP access to my upcoming book!

👉 www.divorcesucksnowwhat.com

Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Overly-controlling and perfectionist parents and discovering her husband’s addiction is what led international feminine-intimacy expert, Melisa Keenan to where she is today.

Taking a break from her marriage, she saw her relationship with her husband in a new light and unlocked a divine level of intimacy when they reunited.

“People need to know that it’s not a fairy tale,” she says.

She shares her valuable pieces of advice as to how you can also achieve intimacy and access your feminine energy – regardless of your relationship status.

Tune in to this episode on The Power of Intimacy with Melisa Keenan.

Key points covered in this episode: 

 ✔️There are three ideas of femininity.

• Cultural femininity – Notions of femininity depend on one’s culture.
• Masculine and feminine energy - Every person has them and demonstrates them in varied frequencies.
• Divine feminine - It is all the parts of what it means to be a full woman.

✔️ Intimacy is all about the present. To experience intimacy and closeness, let go of the past and don’t be worried about the future. What matters is the now. There are practices that we mistakenly associate with femininity like organization and service, but they are inherently masculine as they demonstrate control.

 ✔️ Intimacy isn’t just sex. It goes within, and even emotionally and spiritually. The physical act is only a gateway to intimacy. It involves safety, trust, and vulnerability.

✔️ We can’t experience intimacy with another more than ourselves. Take a deep breath and notice the feelings in your body. Understand your emotions so you can find out what you truly value and want for the future. Being busy doesn’t always mean self-healing.

✔️ Practice self-compassion. It all starts with putting your hand to your heart, telling yourself that it’s all going to be okay so you can finally extend your trust bubble and let love in again in your life.

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Melisa Keenan is an international feminine intimacy coach, visionary, and keynote speaker.

She is the trailblazer of a movement of powerful women who pursue the fullest experience of life by embodying intimacy, and leading with their feminine in both business and marriage. Her clients are women who know that “living the dream” is only as fulfilling as their most intimate relationship, and their impact is only as wide as they are willing to go deep, within themselves.

Melisa’s power lies in her ability to heal and claim joy for both herself and others, through the tremendous life experience she has overcome.

She enjoys dancing, singing, working, and praying at her hobby ranch in Northern Nevada where she lives with her husband, CJ, and their four children Elisagrace, Christopher, Daily Abundance, and Evelyn-Joy.

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Divorce sucks, but it doesn’t have to hurt for the rest of your life.

As I juggled the grief of losing my mother and my marriage, I learned valuable lessons and ways of pushing through the pain.

I hope that my advice will also empower and guide you in moving forward and seeing your bright future on the other side.

Tune in to this episode on How To Navigate the Ups and Downs of Divorce.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Lean into whatever feeling comes up. Let go of self-judgment, so you can acknowledge the roller coaster of emotions. Everyone’s experiences can look different.

✔️ Failure is part of picking yourself back up. As you get back in touch with your true self, you’ll realize abundance is waiting for you to open the door to your life.

✔️ Tap into your power. My upcoming book isn’t the solution but a source of inspiration for you to see your beautiful potential and shift yourself on a path to healing.

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Connect with Wendy Sterling:

Get VIP access to my upcoming book!

👉 www.divorcesucksnowwhat.com

Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07