The Flexible Neurotic

EP 72 Pt. 2 of 2: Menopause can feel like a midlife cluster, especially if you’re trying to navigate it on your own. Are you wondering about the best way to stay in shape during midlife and menopause? Do you find yourself reaching for the sugar-filled treat to satisfy midlife cravings? Ready to learn exactly how much protein you should be eating? And the key to really preventing chronic illness in midlife? Menopause and midlife are not excuses for us to suffer from stubborn weight and inflammation…get ready to learn everything you need to know about taking control of your midlife health. 

Welcome back to part two of my discussion with “menopause normalizer and problem solver”, Dr. Mary Claire Haver. In this episode, we discuss the third pillar of The Galveston Diet, protein, how the heck to calculate how much you need in midlife, and the importance of exercise, which I learned isn’t just about toning the midlife muffin top. We wrap up part 2 by going over key measurements for midlife body composition, ratios of muscle-to-fat, and how those ratios can give you crucial information about your health. And remember if you haven't heard part 1 then go listen to that first!

Some Highlights: 

• What type of exercise should I be incorporating in midlife?

• What’s Omega three and how do I get more of it?

• How do I know if I’m getting enough protein?

• Do yourself a favor and incorporate avocado in your daily snack list because half an avocado a day contains half the daily minimum fiber for a midlife woman. 

• What is visceral fat and why is it important?

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EP 71: Have you ever wondered what a psychic medium does and whether their guidance could help you build your “midlife remix”, not “midlife crisis” dreams into a reality? Let’s get our midlife “woo woo” on! Do you want to meet your unique “midlife spirit guides” and co create a midlife personal journey with them?  Ready for the juicy midlife chats about what the second half of your life will feel and look like? Have you ever wanted to connect with deceased loved ones and receive their encouragement…or, just know they are there to support you? Putting yourself first is one of the hardest things we can do in midlife. And, finding time for any kind of spiritual practice is an essential part of self care and midlife self-reinvention.

This week, I chat with MaryAnn DiMarco, internationally recognized psychic medium, healer, spiritual teacher and two time author with a new book called Medium Mentor: 10 Powerful Techniques to Awaken Divine Guidance for Yourself and Others. MaryAnn walks us through how she discovered her innate abilities for mediumship and went on to hone them with a consistent spiritual practice and belief. We dive deep into how and why connecting with our “midlife spirit guides” can help us. MaryAnn and I lay out the actual steps in how we can connect with our “midlife spirit guides” and loved ones.  It’s a process of learning to listen and receive.  And most importantly, it’s creating a spiritual practice that is authentically you. 

Some Highlights: 

• What is a psychic medium?

• Everyone can connect to their own loved ones and also the medium can make this connection on your behalf

• What is a spirit guide?  

• Your spirit guide wants to give you direction and help you see your path

• What is a “clair”? 

• An angel number or a symbol, like a rainbow could be a sign from your guide

• Your spiritual practice is self care

• Why is gratitude practice important in connecting with your “midlife spirit guides”?

• Make your spiritual practice authentic

• It’s ok if you don’t hear anything right away

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EP 70: Do you ever wonder how your own “midlife hormonal” self can better parent and connect with your hormonal teen/teens? Is your teen showing anxiety around school, friends, college applications and self-image? Is the “loudness” of your chewing and breathing just too much for your teen? Lol! Are you going through your own set of emotions and changes during perimenopause or menopause and sometimes want to scream? If so, you are not alone. This is me. This is most parents of teens. This is the midlife & teenage hormonal stew! Do you want to simmer down the dual set of hormones and create healthier communication & connection with your teenager while teaching them how to self-regulate on their own? This episode is for you!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Midlife Parents Managing the Teenage Buffet of ‘Big Feelings’…Real Tools!”. My guest, Dr. Lisa Damour, is a clinical psychologist, two-time best selling author, and podcaster. We discuss the inner emotional lives of teenagers. Lisa teaches us real tools we can start using today to strengthen our teen’s mental health and our relationship with them. Lisa dives into the hottest topics in her newest book, “Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable and Compassionate Adolescents”. Lisa has her finger on the pulse with research in her clinical practice on the topics of adolescent development, how to create good communication and managing mental health. She is also on “the ground” as a consultant with schools & their students and her personal experience as a midlife mom with one teen daughter and one college-aged daughter. Lisa is here to give us real life advice on how to calmly stir the midlife & teenage hormonal stew. She isn’t promising that your loudness of chewing won’t still bug them, but you will have a stronger connection with them. And, equally as important, the teens will have learned to regulate “big feelings" on their own. 

Some Highlights: 

• Helping your teens regulate & express their emotions

• Why “big feelings” help teens grow & create grit

• Harmful & helpful coping practices 

• Navigating trauma & depression with your teenager

• Teens are their own type of beast…don’t take it personally

• How you can help teens raise their self-esteem outside of school

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EP 69: Calling all midlife women who are questioning their “who, why, what and where” in midlife…divorce, dating, remarriage, and finding your midlife “bold” again. You aren’t destined to sit on a park bench in midlife. We are reframing the midlife narrative “boldly”, our way!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Living Midlife ‘Boldly’...Just the Way we Like it!”. My guest, Tamsen Fadal, is an Emmy award winning journalist, podcaster, evening news anchor and author. We discuss how to live “boldly” in midlife by taking a deep dive into Tamsen’s personal experience with menopause, aging, her public divorce, remarriage and so much more! We cover the importance of rediscovering yourself in the second half of life. Tamsen is a midlife woman like me, who is sharing her vulnerabilities to change the midlife narrative from “taboo” to “everyday” conversations. She explains that this second half of life is now the “prime” of her life. Tamsen teaches us how to live the “midlife runway” our way! Bye bye “midlife have to’s” & hello “midlife want to’s”.

Some Highlights: 

• Midlife divorce & trusting your intuition
• Personal rebrand & vulnerability
• Finding appreciation in aging
• Making new friends as a midlifer 
• Finding your “bold” in midlife
• What are pink flags?
• Saying goodbye to “midlife have to’s” & hello to “midlife want to’s”

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EP 68: Weight loss & diabetes drugs in the news and social media? Some of the drugs you are hearing about are Ozempic, Wegovy & Mounjaro”...with article titles like, “Hell for Your Post Ozempic Body”, “Skinny Rich”, “What is Ozempic Face” or “How Kim Kardashian’s Mystery weight loss to fit into Marilyn Monroe’s Dress has led to a TikTok craze”...Do you feel a little “off” in your midlife years? You might be moody and more “muffin toppy”...You are struggling to lose weight or maintain your current weight? Your insulin resistance and cholesterol numbers are climbing. Your bone density is declining. You have been doing the same workouts and following a healthy nutritional lifestyle since your thirties, but all of a sudden you aren’t seeing the same results you used to? Do you want to work with your body and find the healthiest treatments and solutions for you? Do you want to find answers not just in the weight number on the scale, but overall midlife metabolic health?

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Weight Loss Drugs & Metabolic Health in Midlife”. My guest, Dr. Rocio Salas-Whalen, is a triple board certified physician with vast experience across all areas of endocrinology with an emphasis on obesity, diabetes, metabolism, thyroid disorders and osteoporosis. We discuss metabolic & obesity (insulin resistance and thyroid) issues and drugs that are getting a lot of media coverage right now and dig deep into why they are important factors in reviewing the health of midlife women. After working with patients facing metabolic and obesity issues for over a decade, Dr. Salas knows the difficulties midlife women face when trying so many different methods and being given misinformation through media sensationalism. With her evidence-based private practice, New York Endocrinology, Dr. Salas gives patients one-on-one time and care with the mission of helping them feel good and healthier in their own skin. If you’re looking to feel the same and want a deep dive into medical facts and not sensationalism, then listen to this episode full of expert info and golden nuggets!

Some Highlights: 

• We can't just lie down and let “midlife and menopause” happen to us. We have to take ownership
• This class of drugs are called incretins. Learn the three types
• Who is a good candidate, generally speaking?
• 70 percent of women in the perimenopausal category are considered obese and overweight and hits a peak of 76 percent, before declining after age 75
• Why is insulin resistance such a hot topic and the importance of controlling it?
• What is visceral fat and why should we care about it?
• The definition of obesity
• Why is obesity not just an “aesthetics” issue?
• 72 million people in US have obesity and 42 million have diabetes (10% of the 42 million have type 1 diabetes and can’t take this drug)  
• Finding your appropriate hormonal, diabetes and weight loss treatments for optimal metabolic midlife female health
• Making sure your doctor is fully knowledgeable in the appropriateness of a drug and their experience in prescribing them
• Knowing the key ways to lessen the side effects that many people face with these drugs
• Why gaining muscle & resistance training is “not optional” in midlife
• The definition of A1C and the importance of testing your A1C for metabolic health
• Be an advocate for yourself & know your body

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EP 67 Pt. 1 of 2: Midlife can feel complicated and layered. You have always done things in a certain way, your kids might be grown up and now you are open to thinking about how to give yourself permission to do things differently. Ready for the “let go”? You might want to shake up your nutrition, add some supplements, “cold plunge” or even jump on a mini trampoline for lymphatic drainage. 

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Midlife’s 10 Things…Freedom For Reinvention in Self-Awareness, Marriage, Nutrition & Empty Nest”. My guest, Abbie Crane, is an integrated health coach, brand marketer and nutrition enthusiast. This is a two-part episode where we discuss how Abbie “lives from the inside out” in midlife. In part one, Abbie dives deep into how she is beginning to live her life with more presence and personal nourishment. We chat about her longtime marriage and how she is keeping it fresh…& the transition into empty nest. She also explains how and why she makes it a priority to focus on nutritional, physical and mental health in midlife. In this second chapter of her life, Abbie is giving herself permission for the “self reinvention/midlife remix” to live by her own set of rules in her wellness lifestyle and personal life. If I peaked your interest, then this is the episode for you. Don’t forget to listen to part 2 afterwards for even more juicy golden nuggets!

Some Highlights: 

• Letting go & giving yourself permission 
• Emotional & physical nourishment
• Primary vs secondary food
• Transitioning into empty nest
• How to evolve your midlife marriage
• Live in the moment & embrace your emotions
• “Living from the inside out” 

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EP 67 Pt. 2 of 2: Are you looking for a mix of “kick in the butt” and “chill” when it comes to your wellness lifestyle? Do you want to change your nutritional lifestyle in a way that is easy and not restricting? Are you searching for new ways to make your workouts more enjoyable?  

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Midlife’s 10 Things…Freedom For Reinvention in Self-Awareness, Marriage, Nutrition & Empty Nest”. My guest, Abbie Crane, is an integrated health coach, brand marketer and nutrition enthusiast. This is a two-part episode where we discuss how Abbie “lives from the inside out” in midlife. In part two, Abbie gives us the inside scoop on how she makes focusing on her nutritional and physical health look easy! She is telling us all of her midlife modalities for us to think about (with doctor consultation of course). From diving into a cold plunge to eating algae supplements and jumping on a mini trampoline…Abbie is showing us how she enjoys the process. In this second chapter of her life, Abbie is acknowledging the changes midlife brings and replying with fun and satisfying ways to keep herself in check. Nutrition and exercise don’t have to be boring! If I peaked your interest, then this is the episode for you. And if you haven't listened to part 1, then what are you waiting for? 

Some Highlights: 

• The benefits of Chlorella & Spirulina algae 
• The importance of supplements in midlife
• Why you might consider a dry brush
• Taking the plunge in midlife!
• Finding enjoyable exercise as we age
• Bounce into physical health with a mini trampoline (you have to pee first)

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EP 66: In midlife, what are you really hungry for? Is a cupcake or the fries going to satisfy that craving or is there a deeper longing or need? How do you physically and mentally feel in midlife?  And, what nutritional elements can help change that? What “non-food” joys, purpose and personal meaning can we integrate into our daily routines? How can you easily incorporate healthier meals & snacks, and more nutrients into your life? Can we consistently “dabble” in the “midlife well-being buffet”, for optimal well-being?

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Midlife Nutrition & ‘Well-Being Buffet’...3 Experts”. In this episode I go back and revisit some of my favorite conversations with three fabulous nutrition experts. All three women are using their different life experiences and educational & professional backgrounds to inform and help women gain a healthier midlife by finding our “good enoughs”, asking ourselves the important questions about ourselves and what we are really hungry for in our lives. Each of my guests explains her nutritional practices and how they communicate with their clients about the “midlife nutritional dabbling buffet”…eating, exercising and nourishing ourselves with other things than just food. If you’re looking to satisfy your internal hunger, use food to heal your mind & body or change your nutritional lifestyle, then you don't want to miss out on all of the juicy golden nuggets!

Some Highlights: 

• Finding midlife “good enough” in nutrition
• Working with hunger in midlife, not against it
• We can’t satisfy our hunger for perfection
• Cravings of creativity & meaning
• Dig into the mental & physical health “vending machine”
• What is a food flexitarian & the 80/20 rule?
• Upleveling your meals & finding your personal nutrition blueprint 
• How to treat yourself without feeling guilty…eat the damn cupcake!

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EP 65: Do you ever wish that you had a magic mirror to give you the answers to all of your midlife questions? Well, it’s not that easy…Unfortunately, the magic mirror isn’t always truthful and can create distorted images of how we view ourselves. What do you see when you look into the midlife mirror?

In this week’s minisode, “Midlife Mirror Mirror on the Wall…Who am I After All?”, I talk about the importance of how we define ourselves in this midlife process. I take a look at society’s impossible aesthetic standards and expectations of midlife women. I dive deep into how famous midlife women, who were once viewed with a spotlight and seen as perfect representations of how a woman should look and act, are now being cast aside because they are past their “prime”. I give examples of six midlife celebrities who are pushing back against Hollywood’s rejection of midlife & aging women and showing what the “midlife remix” is all about. We do not need a magic mirror or society’s standards to tell us our worth, beauty and sex appeal! We have to tell ourselves this. We have to stand up for ourselves, put ourselves in the forefront and choose what we want in midlife…without the approval of the external peanut gallery.

This minisode is part of the Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Series. This new minisode series is highlighting resonating & edgy midlife sh*t from my IG, solos, and short pop in guests on stuff we are all thinking about, but maybe too embarrassed to ask…and, of course, more random stream of consciousness rants with loads of sarcasm, relatable humor mixed with expert info. Why would you skip?

Some Highlights: 

• Making midlife issues less taboo & finding answers
• Working with the physical changes, not against them
• Learning how to laugh in the midlife chaos
• What does “midlife sexy” mean to you?
• Being vulnerable & unfiltered 
• Defining who you are in midlife

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EP 64: Midlife brain fog is real. My brain feels like mashed potatoes on many days. Why did I walk into this room? Why did I show up to this appointment on the wrong week? I bet you can relate to midlife “mashed potato brains”. When you’re sitting at the dinner table on Thanksgiving, what are you giving thanks for? Is it the food? Is it your family and friends? Is it your personal accomplishments?...Or all the above? 

This week, I chat about what is making my Thanksgiving extra special this year in a minisode called, Midlife “Mashed Potato Brain”…5 Things I’m Thankful For… I use my golden sh*t shovel to dig deep into the things I am thankful for, all while my brain is feeling like mashed potatoes…What is midlife “mashed potato brain''? Listen to find out more details! I also share some gratitude practices I’ve learned from previous guests…it’s the perfect time of the year to try them out! This is my usual stream of consciousness rant on wtf is going on in my brain right now. My midlife self-reinvention journey made a big effect this year and has given me so many things to be thankful for. I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without it! What are you giving thanks for on this year’s Thanksgiving? It’s time to use your golden SPOON (instead of our proverbial sh*t shovel) and dig into those mashed potatoes lol! 

This minisode is part of the Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Series. This new minisode series is highlighting resonating & edgy midlife sh*t from my IG, solos, and short pop in guests on stuff we are all thinking about, but maybe too embarrassed to ask…and, of course, more random stream of consciousness rants with loads of sarcasm, relatable humor mixed with expert info. Why would you skip?

Some Highlights: 

• Stepping out of my comfort zone…Don’t doubt me!
• Making new midlife friends
• Midlife women supporting women
• Viewing midlife through a lens of “I got this!”
• Be proud of yourself!
• Family dinners & soon to be empty nest
• Gratitude practices

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EP 63: Are you looking to be “heavily meditated” in midlife? Is the chaos of midlife becoming overwhelming? Do you want to slow down when it feels like everything is in a rush? Are you in search of the answers to your midlife struggles, but don’t know where to start? 

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Heavily Meditated in Midlife”. My guest, Davidji, is a globally recognized mind/body health & wellness expert, mindful performance trainer, meditation teacher and author. Often referred to as the “Velvet Voice of Stillness”...Davidji is here to help us get “heavily meditated” in midlife! He chats with us about his “first” life, a life changing event, then his “second” life path…that brought him to the world of meditation. Davidji teaches us types of meditation and easy tips & tricks, and more importantly a different way of looking at it. He also explains the benefits of practicing meditation in midlife and how it can affect the various changes we are going through. Look no further because your new midlife meditation guru is here!

Some Highlights: 

• The answers to your questions lie within
• Establish yourself in the present moment & then perform the action
• Ritualize your meditations 
• What is beditation?
• How meditation can ease stress & menopausal symptoms 
• Finding the “sweet spot”

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EP 62: In midlife, if it doesn’t bring you orgasm, inspiration or income it does not belong in your life, Boo! Cut that out…PERIOD!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Orgasm, Inspiration & Income In Midlife…PERIOD!” My guest, Joey Zauzig, is a digital entrepreneur, viral video creator and motivational speaker. Joey is an Instagram phenomenon, Tik Tok superstar and if he isn’t already, your new BFF, he will be after this episode! Do you know that “good juju” energy you feel when you see or meet someone with uplifting vibrational energy…well that is exactly what I felt when I came across Joey and watched his inspirational videos. Joey is here to chat about building self-love and so much more. He says the real “plot twist” in life is building confidence by practicing self-responsibility and taking action. He talks about taking those steps to getting to having a life that you want to get out of bed for…He is helping us block out the haters by “choosing us” no matter what negative energy is thrown our way. You only get one midlife, so live it the way you want…PERIOD!

Some Highlights: 

• Self-love & confidence go hand in hand
• Take that break
• How to practice gratitude
• Stay in your lane, ignore the haters
• Everything is an energy exchange
• Self-responsibility, mental & physical action steps

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EP 61: Are you a midlife woman experiencing the ebbs and flows of perimenopause and menopause? The midlife vintage vagina issues are real…dryness, pain, lower sex drive, no orgasm…and, the list goes on…so many VJ issues related to menopause…“It hurts, I am not in the mood. Omg! Are you back for more?” Do you want to hear explanations and solutions to the everyday midlife vintage VJ issues? It’s a review of the five best VJ Gyno expert guests that I have had on the podcast with me chiming in per usual. It is like the “cliff notes” golden nugget summary version of midlife VJ and sex drive solutions. It’s on! Take that walk or run your errands while you listen to this one. 

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Midlife Vintage VJ’s…Five Experts”. This episode marks the two year anniversary of The Flexible Neurotic Podcast! Throughout these past two years I have learned so much from my fabulous guests that I thought the best way to celebrate would be to go back and revisit some of my favorite conversations. It also happens to be Menopause Awareness Month, so, this episode will be all about menopause and the midlife VJ…I mean c’mon it was meant to be! Listen to hear the juiciest menopausal midlife VJ and libido tips and tricks from my five expert guests. The golden nuggets are dripping! It’s time to give some much deserved attention to the “Midlife Vintage VJ”.

Some Highlights: 

• Society’s view on “the change”
• How to identify the start of menopause
• The difference between perimenopause & menopause
• How to decrease pain & increase pleasure
• The importance of knowing your body inside & out
• Don’t settle for “this is just menopause, your new normal”
• Understanding the anatomy of the vagina
• The benefits of coconut oil 
• The “out of service” clitoris 
• Understanding & igniting midlife desire
• The benefits of novel stimulation with your partner 
• Getting to the bottom of the “orgasm gap”
• How lube & vibrators can make a big difference in the bedroom

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EP 60: Does midlife sometimes feel like a giant fckn’ mountain with varying terrain, no water, no sweatband? Then that same mountain, the next day is easy peasy, you could hike in 15 minutes without sweating? This is “Midlife Mountain”. You never know what to expect from day to day. There are huge challenges, the never ending hamster wheel of boredom, potentially some annoying teens (but you are savoring cause they will be out of the nest soon), and never ending “to do” lists, while you are sweating in unexpected places. “Midlife Mountain” is a metaphor for all the physical and psychological changes in midlife, or what sometimes feels like a slippery slope! Wanna feel and know that you aren’t the only one feeling like you are in a dungeon or on top of the sky, then listen here for the mountain weather conditions and tips for all the terrain ahead.

This minisode is part of the Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Series. This new minisode series is highlighting resonating & edgy midlife sh*t from my IG, solos, and short pop in guests on stuff we are all thinking about, but maybe too embarrassed to ask…and, of course, more random stream of consciousness rants with loads of sarcasm, relatable humor mixed with expert info. Why would you skip?

Some Highlights: 

• The 3 terrains on the “Midlife Mountain”...what path are you on?
• Midlife is filled with hurdles & challenges you can overcome!
• Some days are rocky & moody and some are smooth & creative
• What are you willing to work on & what lessons are you willing to learn?
• It’s not just about the finish, the journey is just as important
• Let yourself explore in midlife, mentally, physically & emotionally

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EP 59: Are you a midlife woman looking for some secrets & answers just like me? You want answers on how to live your best “everyday midlife” and how to find your next thing in the second half of life. And, some pro makeup tips, products and ideas on how to take care of your skin, create definition and look natural all at the same time. You want to hear from someone who has successfully done it and continues to inspire women each day? Then listen here!

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Everyday Midlife” with Bobbi Brown. We discuss her entrepreneurial highlights by founding Bobbi Brown Cosmetics and, more recently, Jones Road Beauty. We dive into multiple makeup tips and products that are essential in midlife…hydration, contour, color…Yes, Bobbi is THE makeup guru! We chat about Bobbi's everyday life, such as how she maintains a great marriage, how she learned how to stop comparing herself to others & finding her own beauty and her philosophies on exercise & nutrition. Yes, Bobbi is not only a successful entrepreneur, but she is also on her own midlife journey just like us…even for her it’s not always glamorous. She’s doing the “work”, just like us. Listen to find out how Bobbi navigates business, family and midlife, and she tells us her fave bread, snacks, workout plan…all the things.

Some Highlights: 

• Bobbi’s favorite part about getting older
• A good life is filled with hard work
• An attitude adjustment can help in difficult situations
• Stop comparing yourself to others, you are your own type of beautiful
• Learning as you go, being scared and doing it anyway
• How to create healthy midlife marriage energy
• Exercise because it feels good for YOU!

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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EP 58: Midlife couple’s 50 Shades of Gray with my teenagers away (a month) this summer, NOT quite! No underboob sweat in summer, NOT quite! “Me time bliss” with my husband having a colonoscopy, NOT quite. While summer had “joy points”, it also had some doozies… I am selling off the last midlife brain summer “f*cks” I have left. Are you ready to sell off your last “f*cks”?...then listen to my end of summer random stream of consciousness rant! 

This week, I use my golden sh*t shovel to dig deep into the eventful summer I’ve had in a minisode called, “Midlife Brain Yard Sale”. This summer feels like it has been a chaotic and underboob sweat-filled hot mess and I’m ready to lay it all out. This summer has drained me, but when I find myself in the midlife brain fog/cluster, I remember the things that get me excited & creative to keep going on this midlife journey; this podcast & IG, my friends, online shopping and “light” exercise, so I don’t need to wash my hair. Peeps, it’s the end of summer and I’m selling all the rest of the “f*cks” I have left…and for pretty cheap too lol! What does your midlife brain yard sale consist of?

This minisode is part of the Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Series. This new minisode series is highlighting resonating & edgy midlife sh*t from my IG, solos, and short pop in guests on stuff we are all thinking about, but maybe too embarrassed to ask…and, of course, more random stream of consciousness rants with loads of sarcasm, relatable humor mixed with expert info. Why would you skip?

Some Highlights: 

• How new school years feel like the new year
• My new school year resolutions
• One month of empty nest gone wrong
• Hand fans are a lifesaver!
• Random sickness puts damper on alone time with husband
• Instagram husband’s colonoscopy
• Empty nest feelings already starting, one year countdown to kid number 1

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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EP 57: Are you feeling the midlife muffin top? Do you want to manage it, but don't want to get sucked into diet fads? Do you know about the “shimmy & squat” technique for “tucking in your muffin top”? Are you feeling overwhelmed by crazy workouts? It’s time to find your “good enough” in midlife!

This week, I use my golden sh*t shovel to dig deep into body weight, body image and muffin top “growth & management” in midlife, in a minisode called, Muffin Tops & “Good Enough”. I talk about what I call the “good enough” philosophy and how it is not about accepting mediocrity, but giving yourself reasonable goals. We don’t have to become super skinny or eat healthy 24/7…but we do have to take accountability in the lifestyles we choose, while enjoying life. What are you willing to put more work into or cut back on? Some of us will pick eating cleaner, some of us will pick more exercise, while some might not do either. It’s all about finding balance peeps! What is your “good enough” in midlife? What does your “good enough” look like & feel like?

This minisode is part of the Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Series. This new minisode series is highlighting resonating & edgy midlife sh*t from my IG, solos, and short pop in guests on stuff we are all thinking about, but maybe too embarrassed to ask…and, of course, more random stream of consciousness rants with loads of sarcasm, relatable humor mixed with expert info. Why would you skip?

Some Highlights: 

• What is your “good enough”?
• You know your limits, don't push them because of societal norms
• Finding balance without going overboard
• Create a workout that is fun for you
• Stretchy jeans are a lifesaver!
• Do what soothes your soul
• Self obsession is allowed in midlife

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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EP 56: Um…Do you ever feel like your midlife “check engine” light is on? Your VJ, all its parts & your libido are in need of a tune up? Do you experience pain or discomfort during sex? Do you dread it? Are you an empty nester with more free time for pleasure (lol), but perimenopause or menopause is making it difficult? Your spouse thinks maybe you should take up pole dancing and you just want to crawl into bed with your ugly pj’s on? Do you feel you can’t reach the same satisfaction you did before midlife? Don’t give up! 

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Under The Midlife Hood.” My guest, Dr. Jill Krapf, is a Board-Certified OB/GYN who specializes in female sexual pain, including vulvodynia, overactive pelvic floor muscle dysfunction and vulvar lichen sclerosus. We discuss understanding vaginal pain and learning that it does not have to become our new normal. Jill teaches us not to settle for less when it comes to comfort and pleasure in midlife sexual and vaginal health. Jill also explains the importance of knowing our bodies, doing our research on vaginal products and finding a specialist if your needs are not met by your regular gynecologist. There are vulvar specialists just like her, if you can’t make it to Washington D.C.  Midlife is a time where we should focus on our health & happiness…and that includes in the bedroom! Use it or lose it baby!

Some Highlights: 

• How to decrease pain & increase pleasure
• Pain & discomfort are not your new normal
• The importance of knowing your body inside & out
• Picking products carefully
• Do not “just deal with it” in midlife
• Help is out there, try a specialist!

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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EP 55: When you are traveling do you ever feel like you’re constantly missing something? Do you get told you overpack? Have you ever had a family trip go completely haywire? Missing luggage, sicknesses, no toilet paper? And, if you haven’t, let me tell you how to avoid all of this. This minisode is quite the laugh!

This week, I use my golden sh*t shovel to dig deep into the origins of my travel medicine bag in a minisode called, “Never Carry-On Luggage In Midlife”. I’ve recently been posting my medicine bag on my IG and I have been getting so many comments on it! So, I thought I’d share with you the reason behind the medicine bag and why it has become THE essential travel item. I talk about the Kenya community service trip I took with my family, the chaotic events that occurred and why it sparked the medicine bag. I also explain why, as a midlifer, I NEVER just have carry-on luggage. Remember, it’s not over packing if you need all of it…

This minisode is part of the Fun Midlife Sh*t Quickie Minisode Series. This new minisode series is highlighting resonating & edgy midlife sh*t from my IG, solos, and short pop in guests on stuff we are all thinking about, but maybe too embarrassed to ask…and, of course, more random stream of consciousness rants with loads of sarcasm, relatable humor mixed with expert info. Why would you skip?

Some Highlights: 

• Always pack a medicine bag
• Don’t accept judgment for your packing choices
• Pack for all possible outcomes
• Don’t cut your connecting flights too close
• Extra tissues and socks are lifesavers!
• Don’t let others give you their limits

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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EP 54: Are you or a loved one currently going through a midlife “sickness” diagnosis or the weight of the mental and physical changes of menopause? Then this episode might be able to help shed some light on a sometimes seemingly dark path. 

Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Creating Light In Midlife Darkness.” My guest, Jen Delvaux, is a podcaster, author, health & fitness coach and cancer “thriver” and we discuss taking cancer by the horns, learning and growing from it. In this episode, we learn about Jen and her husband’s journey with their individual cancer diagnoses. Turning the “storm” into “silver lining” life moments & changes. Jen walks us through the changes she has had to make in her everyday life for recurring cancer prevention & midlife health. We also go deep into the difficult and meaningful conversations with her husband regarding the end of life, and her changed mindset all due to their diagnoses.

Some Highlights: 

• There is more than just medicine
• How to confront a loved one or friend who has been diagnosed with cancer
• Meaningful marriage cancer conversations
• You have to figure out who you are after your diagnosis 
• Enjoy the little things in life, don’t focus on the negative
• Fear is its own form of cancer
• It's all about the mindset

Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me!

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