The Terri Cole Show

How often do you check social media throughout the day?

Do you feel the need to respond to comments or DMs right away?

Do you procrastinate by scrolling rather than doing something productive or nourishing? 

Do you feel like you might be addicted to tech and are you inseparable from your devices?

If you answered yes to any of these, this episode is for you.

I am sharing the common struggles we all face with social media and tech addiction, what the science says about it, and ways you can begin setting boundaries around tech and social. 

Let’s dive in. 

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I am so excited to have my pal Dr. John Delony back on the show to talk about his new (and much-needed) book, Building A Non-Anxious Life. 

Since the pandemic, so many of my clients, friends, and family members are anxious in a way they've never been before. I've even noticed it in myself, and I do not consider myself an anxious person!

I love the accessibility of John's work and his ideas. During the episode, he reviews six practical ways we can choose to do things differently to build non-anxious lives.

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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When we think about boundaries, we often think about how we relate to others.

But what about boundaries with ourselves?

How we relate to ourselves is just, if not more important, than how we relate to others. We need to get clear on our relationship with ourselves first, which is why this episode is all about strengthening internal boundaries: self-talk, self-regulation, self-care, self-soothing, and self-love.

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I am so excited to have my pal, psychologist and couples therapist, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on the show to talk all about relationships. 

She is such an original thinker and I love the way she presents information on Instagram (@drtracyd) because it's accessible. Her book, I Didn't Sign Up For This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy In Relationships...Including Her Own, is full of wisdom for anyone trying to navigate challenges within their relationships. 

We covered a ton during our conversation, and if you resonate with high-functioning codependency or feel resentful about having to do it all, you'll want to listen as we touch on this throughout. (Because no surprise, we've both been there!)

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Does your job exhaust you? 

Do you feel like you need to respond to your colleagues as soon as you receive a message from them, even after you’ve ended your workday?

Do you say ‘yes’ to tasks you don’t have the capacity for?

Many of you have told me you struggle with work boundaries. In this episode, I am sharing tips and tools you can use to make your job work for you with more ease and less frustration.

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I am so excited to have Dr. Ramani on the show today to discuss concepts from her new book, It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People. Many of you are likely familiar with her work, and for good reason– she is a brilliant clinician who breaks down narcissism in an accessible way, which helps people heal.

I've been a fan of hers for years and I am thrilled to bring you this conversation where we explore everything ranging from how narcissists are made, the impact of love bombing on victims, how narcissistic supply works and what it is, the difference between narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and what the healing process looks like. 

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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How is your relationship with money?

Do you tend to overspend?

Neglect your bank account balance out of fear?

Self-soothe by making impulse purchases?

Many of you struggle with financial boundaries, and in this episode, I talk about your money blueprint, how it influences your relationship with money, and how you can develop a better awareness of your spending habits.

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Today I’m doing something a little different: I’m sharing an episode of my friend Marie Forleo’s show where I am the guest! 

She asks me about my own origin story, shares a listener question, and we talk about finding the courage to express preferences, desires, and dealbreakers– And how you might express them differently in close vs. distant relationships. 

I hope you enjoy today’s episode, including the chance to see me as the interviewee rather than the interviewer.

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Do you people-please to avoid hurting them?

Are there decades-long friendships you’re afraid to lose, despite having outgrown them?

If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking all about boundaries with friends: why some of us have misguided loyalty, the qualities of a good and healthy friendship, and how to raise your awareness around disordered behaviors in your friendships.

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I am so excited to have my pal and award-winning podcast host, John R. Miles, on the show to talk about his new book, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. 

I'm excited because intentional living is how I live my life, and I teach all of my clients and students to do it, too. There is nothing quite like harnessing the mind-blowing power of our own intention. 

But what does that look like in practice? John is here to break it down with examples from his own life and case studies from the book. I hope you enjoy this conversation with John as much as I did.

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Does Valentine’s Day feel meaningless without someone to spend it with?

Does it cause more disappointment than happiness?

Or are you simply tired of all the hype around it?

You are not alone, my friend. I am not a big fan of Valentine’s Day myself. 

What if we did something different? What if we focused on the power of self-love this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself this Valentine’s Day?

If this sounds better than the usual alternative, I got you covered with three steps you can take to celebrate YOU, whether you are single or partnered.

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Welcome to a super special edition of The Terri Cole Show where I am doing something I've never done before: interviewing my husband, Victor Juhasz, along with bestselling author, Steven Pressfield. 

Vic and Steven collaborated on Steven's new book, The Daily Pressfield, which is an excellent companion for anyone giving a creative endeavor their all. (Currently me, writing my second book!) Vic provided the illustrations and the book is filled with Steven's wisdom from the many years he's spent in the writing trenches. 

In this conversation, we talk about how the book and illustrations came together, our experiences with resistance and creativity, imposter syndrome, fear, self-sabotage, inspiration, and so much more. 

You can get a signed copy here: https://sassmediallc.com/products/the-daily-pressfield-hardcover-signed-copy

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Welcome to part two of a two-part series I am doing on high-functioning codependency. 

In part one, I talked about the high price we pay for over-giving, over-doing, and over-functioning. I also share my personal and professional experiences with it. If you missed it, read it here.

In this part, I break down the 6 archetypes of high-functioning codependency and give you tools and strategies you can use to free yourself from it. 

When you raise your awareness of these disordered behaviors, you can change them. You do not have to live in the endless exhaustion of high-functioning codependency.

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I am so excited for frequent-flyer guest, Ross Rosenberg, to be back on the show. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute. 

We cover so much: Ross's definition of codependency, why codependents and narcissists are attracted to one another, how to detach from a narc (Ross's technique is called "observe, don't absorb"), why narcissists try to induce conversations, love bombing, and so much more.

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Are you endlessly giving and doing for all the people all the time?

Do people come to you when they need something because they know you’ll get it done, no matter what?

If you are nodding your head, you might just be a high-functioning codependent, and this episode is for you.

I am covering what high-functioning codependency is, the considerable cost of being a high-functioning codependent (on you, your relationships, and others), and sharing my own experiences with these disordered relational behaviors– both personally and professionally.

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I am so excited to have my pal, bestselling author and personal finance expert, Farnoosh Torabi, on the show. 

We are talking about her new book, A Healthy State of Panic: Follow Your Fears to Build Wealth, Crush Your Career, and Win At Life, which Newsweek chose as a "Best Book of 2023." I don't know about you, but the title definitely resonates with me!

In this conversation, Farnoosh shares how she shifted from being limited by fear to constructively responding to fear. She also offers a few tips you can use if you struggle with fear around money and reveals what we can learn from fear if we allow it a chance.

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Are there couples in your life who make you think, what do they know that I don’t know? They seem so happy! How do they do it?

Or do you see couples in movies or TV and wonder, does the kind of love they have exist, and if it does, where can I find it?

If you think other people have love all figured out and you aren’t sure how to figure it out yourself, this episode is for you. 

I am sharing my personal 20 tips for curating, creating, and attracting epic love in your life whether you are single OR partnered!

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I am so excited to have award-winning TV host and cook, Daphne Oz, on the show. Daphne and I have known each other for over a decade and it has been so fun to watch her career flourish. I love watching her cooking and makeup tutorials on Instagram, too. 

If you love Daphne's recipes, I think you'll enjoy this girlfriend jam because we go much deeper into Daphne's food philosophy, the childhood experiences that shaped who she is today, how she navigated the trial-by-fire of a college book tour and being a co-host on The Chew in her 20s, and so much more.

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Do you think true love is never having to say you are sorry?

Do you think boundaries are unnecessary with real love?

How do you feel about unconditional love? Do you believe it exists? Or that it is something to aspire to?

Many of us were indoctrinated to believe in these myths about love, but from my 25 years as a psychotherapist and my own experience, I believe real, epic, healthy, and amazing love is boundaried and conditional.

Read on to discover why.

I also cover questions you can ask to unearth your downloaded blueprint around unconditional love and I’m sharing some concrete steps you can take toward better, healthier love in your relationships.

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I am so excited to welcome my pal and brilliant clinician, Dr. Mariel Buqué, to the show! Her new book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma is a salve the world needs right now (in my opinion), and I am so grateful for the wisdom she shared in this conversation. 

We talked about how to start to heal intergenerational trauma, what it looks like, what causes it, and so much more. 

If you have, or suspect you have been affected by intergenerational trauma, you'll want to watch this.

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