Tumi's Daily Grind

In this episode, I delve into a profound revelation inspired by the wisdom found on page 61 of Alcoholics Anonymous and page 421, where the intricacies of human nature are described. I explore, through my experience, strength and hope, the intricate balance between my desire for my rights and expectations, and the chaotic discord that often ensues. Drawing upon the insights of ego, selfishness, and self-centeredness, I uncover how clinging to these notions can lead me to misery,  disarray and restlessness, irritability and discontentment.

Through introspection and reflection, I take a deep dive into the path towards serenity by shedding the burden of my rights and expectations and trusting God instead of taking back control. 

Within this space, I was able to discover the truth and find a way to relinquish the insanity with the understanding that this construct is not a sign of weakness, but rather a courageous act toward finding freedom, serenity and peace of mind. 

My transformative journey helps me embrace the freedom of letting go and find solace in acceptance and serenity.

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In this episode, I look into the intricacies of the Silent Treatment and its impact on relationships. From real-life examples across various relationship dynamics, especially intimate or romantic relationships, to the psychological effects on individuals, exploring the reasons behind this communication tactic and its potential long-term negative effects. Discover communication tips, the importance of seeking professional help, and practical strategies for building healthier communication habits. 

Let's understand, navigate, and break the cycle of silence for stronger, more connected relationships.

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In this reflective episode, on this continuous journey of self-discovery, I speak about the inevitable growing pains that accompany change. Life, much like the ancient philosophy of yin and yang, is a delicate balance of highs and lows, victories and setbacks.

With a blend of vulnerability and optimism, I explore the profound idea that both good and bad experiences are intrinsic to the human experience. I delve into personal anecdotes, and how these instances have contributed to my ongoing evolution.

This episode serves as a powerful reminder that while good things are bound to happen, challenges are inevitable too. I emphasise the importance of enduring and actively learning from past mistakes. Through introspection and self-awareness, I discuss the transformative process of turning setbacks into stepping stones toward personal growth.

So I challenge you to reflect on your own journey, recognizing the beauty in embracing change and learning from life's dualities. Whether you're in the midst of a major life transition or simply seeking inspiration, this episode offers some insight into how to navigate the ebb and flow of life with grace and resilience.

"Embracing Growth: Navigating Life's Yin and Yang" conversation with self, will hopefully encourage self-reflection, acceptance, and the continual pursuit of becoming the best version of oneself.

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I explore the incredible capabilities of the human mind. "Unlocking the Power of the Mind: A Journey Within." I unravel the mysteries of neuroplasticity, mindfulness, positive thinking, cognitive biases and how our thoughts shape our reality.

In this episode, I look at the brain's remarkable ability to reorganize itself and form new connections. Discover how this adaptive process influences our learning, memory, and overall cognitive function, empowering us to grow and evolve throughout our lives continually.

Explore the transformative impact of mindfulness and meditation on mental well-being. Uncovering practical techniques to harness the mind's potential for stress reduction, increased focus, and emotional resilience, and examining how our thoughts and emotions can influence physical health. From the mind's role in pain management to the connection between positive thinking and immune system function, uncovering the holistic nature of well-being.

Join me on this enriching journey of exploring the mind and practical ways to tap into its power.

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In this episode, I look into the transformative journey of recovery through the lens of step work in programs. "The Path to Healing: Embracing Honesty in Step Work" explores the crucial role that honesty plays in the Twelve Steps, examining how it catalyzes self-awareness, breaking through denial, and fostering connection within the family, and the recovery community. 
Let us navigate the challenges and triumphs of individuals committed to facing their truths, building trust, and achieving spiritual growth on the road to lasting recovery. 
Honesty is a cornerstone of the recovery process and needs to be practised always.

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In this insightful episode, I delve into the challenging realm of chronic relapse, seeking to unravel the complexities surrounding its causes and potential solutions. As an individual with lived experiences, I share my perspective based on a share I listened to today, about why some individuals find themselves caught in a cycle of relapse despite multiple attempts at recovery.

Working with others has made a drastic impact lately to my recovery. Could this be the solution for me?

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In today's episode, I look at nuances of my human experience and explore the often-overlooked facet of my emotions, specifically that subtle yet persistent companion in my daily life - Annoyance, irritation and frustration, as I examine the root of its emotional presence within my daily interactions, lately.

I discovered the importance of reflection on the validity of my experiences as well as other people's experiences and opinions on matters related to recovery programs, scripts and doctrines.

As I reflect on annoyance, I explore coping mechanisms, strategies for better understanding and managing these feelings, and the potential for growth and self-discovery that lies within them. This episode aims to offer a fresh perspective on annoyance, transforming it from a mere inconvenience to a valuable source of self-awareness, growth and willingness to learn.

Perhaps it is time to embrace the annoyance in my life, seeking meaning and wisdom within those moments of discomfort, caused by irritation.

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The first step toward recovery involves acknowledging powerlessness over alcohol or addiction and recognizing that life has become unmanageable. It encourages individuals to admit their inability to control their addiction and to accept that intervention from a higher power is necessary for recovery. This step sets the foundation for the 12-step program and emphasizes self-awareness and humility as essential elements in overcoming addiction.
In this episode, I talk about the first step and the essentials of recovery: i.e Honesty, Open-mindedness and Willingness.
This is the first episode of 2024, and I thought it might be a good idea to speak about step 1.

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References:

Alcoholics Anonymous: the story of how many thousands of men and women have recovered from alcoholism. (Fourth Edition, pp. 1–44). (1986). Alcoholics Anonymous World Services.

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In this special episode, I speak with Natalie H, a remarkable individual who has not only overcome the challenges of addiction but has also dedicated over 30 years of her life to the practices of meditation and yoga. Natalie's story is one of resilience and transformation, and her journey from addiction to mindfulness is nothing short of inspiring.

The episode begins with an introduction to Natalie's background, highlighting her years of experience in meditation and yoga. We learn about the turning point that led her to seek healing and recovery.

As we delve deeper into her story, we explore meditation and yoga's role in her recovery journey. Natalie shares her experiences of how these ancient practices helped her regain control of her life, manage stress, and find inner peace. Listeners will gain insight into mindfulness and body-mind awareness's profound impact on one's life, especially during challenging times.

Throughout the episode, Natalie provides practical advice and tips for incorporating meditation and yoga into daily routines, even for beginners. She explains the science behind the practices and offers guidance on how they can benefit mental and physical well-being.

Natalie's wisdom and expertise shine as she discusses the transformative power of mindfulness and the importance of holistic well-being. 

This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration, guidance on meditation and yoga, or simply a heartwarming story of triumph over adversity. Natalie's journey serves as a reminder that anyone can find their path to recovery and healing with dedication and the right tools.

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Gaslighting - A serious emotional and psychological form of abuse.

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Lesson: How to stop Managing others and start caring for self.

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This episode is inspired by Brianna Wiest's book, "101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think," which provides valuable insights into the dynamics of love and relationships. 
These insights offer a valuable perspective on love, self-acceptance, and the importance of taking responsibility for your own happiness and well-being before seeking it in others.

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How I'm dealing with my blow-up?

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The Friendship Graveyard

In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on our emotions and personal growth.

Highlights:

• Reflecting on Loss: We share our experiences of friends who have drifted away or ended relationships. We candidly discuss the emotions of losing friends and the lessons we've learned from these experiences.
   
• The Complexity of Emotions: The hosts explore the range of emotions associated with the Friendship Graveyard, from nostalgia and longing to acceptance and closure. We discuss whether it's possible to fully move on from losing a friend.
   
• Missing Pieces: We delve into whether we truly miss those friends and what it means to miss someone who was once an integral part of our lives. We explore how these missing connections shape our sense of identity.
   
• The Desire to Reconnect: Tumi and Thato explore the idea of wanting to reconnect with lost friends and whether such reunions are feasible or healthy. We discuss the potential benefits and pitfalls of attempting to revive friendships.
   
• The Evolution of Relationships: The episode also examines how friendships change and why some connections may naturally fade away. We share how growth and personal development can impact our relationships.

This premiere episode, "Unrestricted", sets the stage for open and candid conversations tackling sensitive and thought-provoking issues. Join us as we navigate the intricate landscape of friendship, loss, and the deep-seated human desire for connection.

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The Friendship Graveyard

In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on our emotions and personal growth.

Highlights:

• Reflecting on Loss: We share our experiences of friends who have drifted away or ended relationships. We candidly discuss the emotions of losing friends and the lessons we've learned from these experiences.
   
• The Complexity of Emotions: The hosts explore the range of emotions associated with the Friendship Graveyard, from nostalgia and longing to acceptance and closure. We discuss whether it's possible to fully move on from losing a friend.
   
• Missing Pieces: We delve into whether we truly miss those friends and what it means to miss someone who was once an integral part of our lives. We explore how these missing connections shape our sense of identity.
   
• The Desire to Reconnect: Tumi and Thato explore the idea of wanting to reconnect with lost friends and whether such reunions are feasible or healthy. We discuss the potential benefits and pitfalls of attempting to revive friendships.
   
• The Evolution of Relationships: The episode also examines how friendships change and why some connections may naturally fade away. We share how growth and personal development can impact our relationships.

This premiere episode, "Unrestricted", sets the stage for open and candid conversations tackling sensitive and thought-provoking issues. Join us as we navigate the intricate landscape of friendship, loss, and the deep-seated human desire for connection.

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Uncertainty is a pervasive aspect of life that involves a lack of certainty or predictability about future events. 
In this episode, I speak about my response to finding myself in this period of uncertainty, what it means to me and the direct impact of this change. 
I aspire for positive change with the acceptance of the outcome surrendered to my higher power.

Sources quoted: Deepak Chopra and Hireclitus (Heracleitus).

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The Friendship Graveyard

In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on our emotions and personal growth.

Highlights:

• Reflecting on Loss: We share our experiences of friends who have drifted away or ended relationships. We candidly discuss the emotions of losing friends and the lessons we've learned from these experiences.
   
• The Complexity of Emotions: The hosts explore the range of emotions associated with the Friendship Graveyard, from nostalgia and longing to acceptance and closure. We discuss whether it's possible to fully move on from losing a friend.
   
• Missing Pieces: We delve into whether we truly miss those friends and what it means to miss someone who was once an integral part of our lives. We explore how these missing connections shape our sense of identity.
   
• The Desire to Reconnect: Tumi and Thato explore the idea of wanting to reconnect with lost friends and whether such reunions are feasible or healthy. We discuss the potential benefits and pitfalls of attempting to revive friendships.
   
• The Evolution of Relationships: The episode also examines how friendships change and why some connections may naturally fade away. We share how growth and personal development can impact our relationships.

This premiere episode, "Unrestricted", sets the stage for open and candid conversations tackling sensitive and thought-provoking issues. Join us as we navigate the intricate landscape of friendship, loss, and the deep-seated human desire for connection.

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Detaching with love: The practice that promotes healthier relationships, personal growth, and emotional well-being. Detaching with love doesn't mean we care any less – it's a way of showing our care in a more balanced and sustainable way. In this episode I delve deep into this concept, following personal experiences from the past week.

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References:

Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. (2006). Hope for today. Al-Anon Family Groups (Australia.

Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. (2008). How Al-Anon works for families and friends of alcoholics. Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters.

Al-Anon Family Groups. (2018). Courage to change—one day at a time in Al‑Anon II. Al-Anon Family Groups Inc.

Al-Anon Family Groups. (2021). Opening our hearts, transforming our losses. Al-Anon Family Groups Inc.

Al-Anon Family Groups (Australia. (2013). Paths to recovery : Al-Anon’s steps, traditions and concepts. Al-Anon Family Groups (Australia) Pty Ltd.

Alcoholics Anonymous. (2001). Alcoholics Anonymous : The story of how many thousands of men and women have recovered from alcoholism. Alcoholics Anonymous World Services.

Beattie, M. (2009). The language of letting go. Phoenix Audio.

Beattie, M. (2011). Codependent no more workbook. Hazelden.

Cloud, H., & John Sims Townsend. (1995). Boundaries. Workbook : when to say yes, when to say no to take control of your life. Zondervan Pub. House.

Don Miguel Ruiz. (2008). The four agreements. Hay House Inc.

Wilson, L. (1979). Lois remembers: Memoirs of the Co-Founder of Al-Anon and wife of the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous. Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Incorporated.

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Instincts and Addiction

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Moving from Intuition to Intention

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