Understanding Betrayal - Rape, Childhood Sexual Violence and Incest 2020 and 2021 BLACK PODCASTING AWARDS NOMINEE

I struggled to find the least destructive words to tell my son of our shared paternity
A child of rape or child of incest.

This podcast took a lot out of me to produce as I became enraged reading the number of times that I saw politicians, leaders of anti-abortion groups, and religious groups proclaim a 10 year girl should be forced to have a child conceived by rape or incest.

How is it possible that these young girls' bodies, minds, and their hopes, dreams and futures be sacrificed because some man decided he had the right to rape her.

Why should they be reduced to collateral damage for the righteous of the anti-abortion movement

Greetings

This second episode of my Roe v Wade the New Jane Crow discusses the abortion exception bans for those impregnanted by rape and incest.  It provides the history of the American Legal Institute a nonpartisan group of lawyers, scholars, and judges that proposed a broader group of exceptions which included - threaten  health of the mother, certain fetal abnormalities, and rape and incest

Yet, since the overturn of Roe v Wade many states have outright ban these exceptions and others have imposed arduous challenges via reporting processes and time lines for abortions. 

The question, I keep asking is what happened to this country, where is our compassion, how is that the unborn has more rights then those victimized by rape and incest.

I hope you enjoy this episode

theresa

In 2013 I found an article discussing the New Jane Crow - "it is a system of laws in which pregnant women are treated as an underclass, in which pregnant women lose virtually every other right by virtue of being pregnant."

The punitive laws and bans states are attempting to install as the result of the overturn of Roe v Wade are based on not only banning abortion but controlling the lives of women, young girls, medical staff who work with women, and those who help women seek an abortion, role in voters rights, and the powerful of the unborn fetus while limiting the rights and concerns of its mother, family, and community

This podcast series will be eye opener

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thanks
theresa

Greetings All,
First want to apologize for the delay in producing this podcast.  I’ve been  busy - I’m getting married next week and needed time to digest the righteous vitriol spewing as result of the  overturn of Roe v Wade.

First the good news, me at closing in on 74 years old is marrying my junior and high school friend. I’ve been divorced since 1999 and never ever thought I would remarry.  For the first time in my life I feel safe, protected and loved.   I’ve enjoyed every minute of shopping for rings, dress, shoes, and sharing the good news. 

Now for the ugly, the overturn of Rape v Wade.  I wasn’t surprised.  I’ve lived long enough to watch and experience the benefits of Supreme Court rulings- Brown v Education and Civil Rights (voting and  the knocking down of State's Rights  a nice way of talking about the heinous Jim Crowism) and watch the slowing take away of our rights because somehow we folks got Uppity.  We failed to remain in  “our lanes” of being less then.  

But the overturn of Roe v Wade is more then just the rights to abortion - it’s about  mostly religious  groups who believe their God is better then ours, trying to impose  their beliefs, telling us how to raise our children, who we can love and marry on everyone else. 

They want to limit contraceptions,  politicians are arguing queuing up to say a 12 or 14 year girl who is raped or victimized by incest  must give birth to her baby, limit access to pregnant women with proven medical complications for her and the unborn child, they now have ethic panels  intervening at the most vulnerable point in parents lives if they must go forward with prefetch that jeopardizes roe life of the mother or force her to carry a child that medically proven the child will die soon after birth, as one woman described it she felt like a walking coffin as she carried her deceased in the womb unborn,  and now in some states the unborn has more rights then the mother, parents, and family it would be born into.

They are talking about ending same sex relationships and marriages.  
Let’s not forget about investigation parents of trans children and force removal of medical care

It is time, we who refuse to be controlled to stand up

The next 8 podcasts will talk about ways to stand up, 

Be safe 
Theresa 

Greetings All

Of all the episodes I've done this was the hardest
Why, because I finally talked in details of what the challenges are raising a child born of incest and rape.

I've talked about it and around it but never in such details.

Even stranger, i singled handily proclaimed myself the Face of Roe v Wade

I hope you enjoy this podcast

thanks
theresa

Greetings, this was a difficult podcast for me to produce

As I was finalizing my Journey to Healing program, once again, for six week I dealt with this nagging sense  that my mother, the woman who gave birth to me, was dying.   She died last week and I don’t know how to grieve.

I hadn’t seen or spoken to her since 2007. I spent two long hurtful weeks in 2007 with her. She was in early stages of Alzheimer’s yet she was still controlling, lethal,  and master of manipulation.

I hadn’t seen in at least 10 years prior to the  painful 2007 debacle

I’m 73 years old and the most intimate one on one time I spent with her was the 10-11 hours she was in labor with me. If I combine  all the minutes, hours,  days, weeks, and months of my 73 years  together, the most we spent 3 years of pure hell, of constantly being reminded she abandoned, rejected, and bragging that she never changed my diapers or feed me.

How do I grieve for a woman who  the one and only time time she had to sign a permission slip for me to go on a filed trip, ask me how did I spell Theresa with a H or E

How do I grieve for a woman who as a small child I craved for her to look at me, to comb my hair, to touch me, to kiss me to do the things I saw my friend’s mothers do.  I wanted  her to know my favorite cookies were oatmeal raisin, my favorite color was blue, and praise me for being in a gifted program at  small.  

For the first 14 years of my life we lived with 3 blocks of each other and  we ignored each other.  I stop calling her Mama by the age of 9, she was just Jeri, a woman I refused to speak to.

How do I grieve for a woman who had no problem rejecting me, who would when speaking of her daughters she would tell me, not you, she only considered two younger sisters as her daughters.

As I child I longed for her, to see, her, to have her touch, hold, kiss or even acknowledge me in some form of kindness. At best she grunted at me

There is no pain greater  than  living your entire life as a Motherless Child.
It makes you doubt everything about yourself. What was so wrong with me that own mother didn’t want me.

This is a woman who handed me over to my father, a pedophile. This  man  screwed or attempted to screw   four Willard girls and women.  He  married the eldest, attempted to rape the middle sister, had transactional  sex with my 14 year old mother for a coat, and at 14 he began raping me.  

She willingly handed me over to him to do with me as he pleased.

The results, he raped me for 3.5 years and impregnated me with my eldest son.

How am I grieving, I’m not, all I feel is numbness 

Greetings All,

I started this podcast series two years ago, terrified that no one would listen to what I had to say or found it valuable.

Boy, was I wrong, two years later I have this wonderful supportive international audience, 

I recognized the need to build an educated audience on the history of epidemic levels of childhood sexual violence and rape in our communities.

Why race, culture, religion, gender, and sexual orientations must be addressed  not only in breaking the silence the majority of us has endured but the foundations on how we learn how to heal.

It has taken me a year to develop and trademark  the course contents, modules, charts, and graphics. 

  What was supposed to be a 2 weeks to develop and publish, according to the online course platform, it took me  6 weeks.

Here is the online link for your review and hopefully enroll
http://journey-to-healing3.teachable.com/

 The extra time was a gift, as it allowed me time to understand the importance of building a program that is supportive, encouraging, and build a safe environment in which you can succeed.

As you listen to this podcast you will understand my dedication, respect  and appreciation I have for each of you who listened to me over the past two years.

Greetings, it's been a while since I last released the  podcast, Journey to Healing
while I was off line I spent the past 3 months finalizing all the details to enable all of you to take a journey to healing

Please enjoy this podcast and I appreciate each of you
theresa

Greetings All,  

For the past 48 years as a nation and worldwide we’ve been actively locked down along political and religious lines as folks debate Roe v Wade.  

Think how many Federal Supreme nominees, politicians, and religious leaders are asked about their stance on Roe v Wade.

While this battle is taking place, it has subtly taken our eyes off a growing menace - the
normalizing of rape culture.  The ever expanding of judicial rulings of dumbing down sexual violence to just sex, the gutting of protections afforded  by Title IX, and  oh too common excuses, boys will be boys or it was just youthful indiscretion, or he is a good family man a good provider.

We can no longer take our eyes off the fact that every 73 seconds in this country someone, as in 90% are women and girls, are being sexually assaulted.  That 93% of children victimized by childhood sexual violence knows their predator.  

Not doubt, we must  remain focused on Roe v Wade but it’s TIME we expand our thoughts, our actions, and our commitment to the eradication of sexual violence and hold those who violate us and the judicial systems that minimize these crime accountable.

Greetings

I’m honored  to have Jeanne,one of our podcast followers join me on this podcast
I received a n angry email from Jeanne following the dismissal of Bill Cosby from prison
To say she was angry was an understatement .

We agreed to do this podcast without acknowledging or speaking his name, why because we refuse to give him power by saying his names

Think of the sexual predators in our lives, how saying their names or seeing their faces rile us up
Sometime sending back to places we don’t ever want to go

Hence the title Predators Whose Name We  Shall Not Speak

Be safe 
Theresa

Greetings All,
As I say in this podcast the acceptance of the term Rape Culture is appalling.  The acceptance of the term grants a pass and  viable excuse for predators - boys will be boys and youthful indiscretion. 

Those of us victimized are what, collateral consequences, the spoils of sexual warfare, some asses ablility to prove his manhood.

It is time, beyond time, that we raise up and fight back.  

I hope you join me as I launch this campaign 

You can reach me directly at thughes@hhcdgroup.com

Theresa

Greetings 
This is part two of the Social Injustice series. 

Why talk about Social Injustice because there are millions of us, generationally deep whose face, voice, and pain were never seen, heard, and pain were dismissed.

We are often forced to lie, to deny, and defy that we were sexually violated. All in the name of not brining shame on to our family, to protect the “good name” of our predators, and not bring same on our race, culture, religion, and family.

This podcasts as in all the previous ones debunks the long held belief  that we are either victims or survivors.  I know we are so much more.  

Let’s shout from the roof tops who we really are. Strong. Powerful and Victorious 

Be safe and thanks for listening
Theresa