Uniquely Brilliant Podcast

When we forget to treat our needs as equal to the needs of others in our lives, we become stressed and frustrated. We prioritize their needs over our own and shortchange things like rest and relaxation. We also neglect enforcing our boundaries which puts on the highway to exhaustion.

Becky and Diana discuss the tricky areas of honoring our time and our money.

Diana reminds us that money is an exchange of energy. And it’s easy to find ourselves in debt, overspending, or giving our money to others. When we’re not mindful about money matters, we feel drained.

Becky shares her struggles with managing her calendar (aka her time). She forgets to do things like schedule enough times between clients and allow time for rest. When we overcommit by doing too many things or by not taking breaks, we can feel frustrated and overwhelmed.

Becky brings up a favorite Uniquely Brilliant discussion topic: Essentialism. She’s reading another book relating to essentialism: 4,000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman. The concepts in the book echo the concepts of Essentialism: setting priorities, saying no, and enforcing boundaries.

Some tips on putting our needs first and equal:

1. Establish boundaries. When we set and enforce boundaries around the time we want to spend communicating with others or on social media, it helps us maintain our positive energy.

1. Ask for help. It’s important to be bold when we ask for what we need. If we need to reschedule an appointment, ask for it. As Diana mentions, oftentimes we don’t even know what our needs are and that’s ok! When we figure them, it’s okay (actually, it’s critical) to put our needs at least equal to the needs of others in our lives.

Additional Uniquely Brilliant episodes on essentialism:

Episode 130: Essentialism and Coronavirus

https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/show/uniquelybrilliant/id/13999148

Episode 88: Essentialism

https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/show/uniquelybrilliant/id/5585187

©2022 Cronecast Podcast Network | Music ©2015 Max Brodie

On today’s episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Diana Bader and Becky Berry discuss the March Slump. 

Diana begins this episode by reminding us that two years ago at this time the whole world was shut down because of COVID, and our feeling that we’re in a slump could be a trauma response.

The pandemic and the response to it are different now, but not completely different. Masks, boosters, quarantines - change constantly.

Becky and Diana point out that everyone has a different comfort level with how to approach the world today. While Covid is still a big threat, Diana points out that there are equal threats to those who are immunocompromised that are rarely mentioned. 

Becky points out that because of the strangeness of our last two Marchs plus  now, it’s easy to lose our sense of agency. We can forget that we can impact our own lives by the choices that we make. 

The unpredictability of the weather in March adds to the slump. The temperatures and weather are all over the place: it can be 80 degrees one day and snow the next day. 

Diana and Becky share their strategies for maintaining their equilibrium. The overarching strategy is to go with the flow of the weather. Diana takes advantage of sunny weather by pursuing outdoor activities. When it’s cold, she stays inside and cooks. 

They also touch on the power of doing activities that soothe you. They go deeper into the power of soothing in Episode 146. 

Full link to 146:
https://uniquelybrilliant.libsyn.com/episode-146-soothe-yourself-by-grounding

We can empower ourselves by:

• Picking our battles by choosing what we think about and focus on
• Looking our emotions in the face and accepting them and choosing whether to surrender to the current circumstance or rise above them
• Staying in the moment
• Distracting ourselves with something that makes us feel lighter - listening to music, watching tv, reading, or cooking
• Changing scenery - going outside, taking a drive, taking a walk

When we purposefully choose what we focus on, we feel a greater sense of agency.

©2022 Cronecast Podcast Network | Music ©2015 Max Brodie

In this episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Becky Berry and Diana Bader discuss ways to approach the smorgasbord that is life.

Diana starts by discussing her recent experience on a cruise where she learned cruises no longer put out smorgasbords of food like they did before COVID. She draws a parallel between choosing from a smorgasbord and choosing priorities and goals that allow us to enjoy the smorgasbord of life. 

Becky brings this back to essentialism, since essentialism is about focusing on solely the things that are essential to our lives. 

Additional episodes where Becky and Diana discuss Essentialism:

Episode 88: Essentialism

Episode 130: Essentialism and Coronavirus. 

They also discuss the importance of delegating tasks so we aren’t taking on everything that’s thrown at us. Diana points out that in order to delegate, we must be able to relinquish control of the task. This also requires asking someone we trust to follow through with the task.

Becky shares her struggles with wanting to provide instant answers to everyone. She reminds us that we do not always have to answer questions immediately. It’s critical to ask when someone needs an answer so we can figure out where the request fits in our priorities. 

Diana and Becky observe that our priorities change throughout time. So, we may find that things we put on our plates even a year ago are no longer critical to us.

It is important to constantly query our options and evaluate what we can let go of that’s not important to us and what we can delegate.

When we like something, it’s okay to try it or taste it. And, if it’s not to our taste, we don’t have to do, wear, or consume it. We can think about our priorities, and choose to put it down. 

Diana shares that many of the things she procrastinates on are frequently things she can turn over to someone else.

Becky and Diana wrap up by reminding us that it’s okay to ask for help and stress that it’s critical to our mental health to know when to ask for help. And, if the people we ask can’t help us, we can ask them to refer us to someone who can. 

©2022 Cronecast Podcast Network | Music ©2015 Max Brodie

Diana Bader and Becky Berry discuss examining our assumptions about rules.

Their conversation is based on an article Becky read that reminded her to question the rules. In the article a therapist told a client who was struggling with depression and being able to do the things she wanted to get done on a daily basis that she could put her crusty, dirty dishes in the dishwasher and…wait for it…run it twice!

Sometimes we assume things are hard and fast rules when they’re not. Running the dishwasher twice is both energy and water efficient, while rinsing and scrubbing them by hand is not.

Becky and Diana also discuss Diana’s progress on tapping into her creativity again creative (you can hear the original discussion in Episode 157).  As a first step, Diana turned to cooking. Cooking grounds her because she uses all of her senses and creativity. She observes that cooking is creative and it gives her the means to prepare and freeze nutritious food for times when she might not have time to cook.

They remind us that coloring outside the lines is cathartic and remind us that not all decisions are black and white. As Diana says, when we look at things in terms of black and white, we miss out on all of the color.

They also talk about the little tasks you can do to gain control over a situation when everything seems to be going wrong. It can be as simple as running that cruddy load of dishes through the dishwasher twice. It can also be as simple as making our beds. Becky shares that making her bed soothes her into her mornings (because she’s *not* a morning person).

Diana reminds us that embracing the power of saying no to things eases our anxiety! Saying no determines where our energy goes, It defines our boundaries and priorities with others.

How we spend our time shows the world what we value, and having boundaries protects us from being overwhelmed because it helps us to say no when we need to.

Becky talks about different ways she makes her mornings less stressful, and Diana talks about how she’s learned to ignore things until she has met her priorities!

©2022 Cronecast Podcast Network
Music ©2015 Max Brodie

In this episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Diana Bader and Becky Berry talk about the importance of resting, resetting, and recovering.   

They begin this episode by discussing how many people experienced the beginning of 2022 as a rough start. They talk about their feelings about Omicron, the latest COVID-19 variant, and emphasize the importance of staying in the present moment.

One of the ways to cope with our problems and the world at large is to find humor everywhere we can. We can find sistraction in television show or movie that we enjoy. We can also hang out with a friend who makes us laugh. 

Diana doubles down on our need to be in the moment.  We experience huge amounts of stress from not forgetting to live in the moment. 

She suggests that we keep a list of things we enjoy doing so we can pull it out when we are feeling down. When we do something on the list, it helps us stay in the moment so we can enjoy it.

We can also think about our values (one of Diana’s is creativity) and do activities that align with them. Diana has noticed she needs to dive back into creative pursuits to help her ground herself. 

Becky and Diana give us permission to stop reading a book in the middle or listening to a podcast anytime we want if they’re not helping us feel better. 

They point out that it’s important to consume media that lifts us up.

They remain convinced that we have agency over how we move through our lives - even in year 2 of a worldwide pandemic.

©2022 Cronecast Podcast Network Music ©2015 Max Brodie

In this episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Becky Berry and Diana Bader talk about the value of being our uniquely brilliant selves.    When we embrace who we really are and how we really think, we embrace our unique brilliance!

 In their conversation, Diana and Becky recap some of the character differences between extroverts and introverts - including how they process information. Extroverts like Becky frequently process out loud, while introverts like Diana process within their own minds. 

Becky talks about the importance of working out her thoughts verbally while Diana discloses that she’s been working on building her ability to process out loud over many years.

They also discuss the difference between introverts and extroverts in terms of where they draw their energy. Generally speaking, extroverts are energized by people and flourish in groups. Introverts (again, generally speaking) prefer solitude and quiet.

Becky discusses one of her most frequently quoted phrases: “This is going to work out better than I can imagine.” She uses it because it reminds us to get out of our own way so we are open to possibilities out there that we can’t see or imagine.

Diana relates this to being in the woods with headphones on. If we are going through the woods with headphones on, then we miss the flowers blooming and the critters running around. When we remain open and remove our headphones, we can see opportunities when they occur. 

Diana and Becky also discuss what it’s like to fully embrace our uniqueness, and how it feels to reject it. They point out that it’s easier to be ourselves when we are in tune with others who are being themselves.

They also discuss the strange fact that many of the things people have told us are wrong with us are, indeed, the very things that make us uniquely brilliant.

Their conversation also covers why having allies at work, or anywhere we feel vulnerable, makes it easier to step into our unique brilliance and be our full selves. 

©2022 Cronecast Podcast Network Music ©2015 Max Brodie

Diana Bader and Becky Berry talk about their words of the year in this podcast episode! They choose words of the year as a means to focus their thoughts around their intentions for the coming year. In past years, Diana has selected bliss, blessed, and extraordinary, to name a few. She’s been doing this for ten years - she even had a word for the decade: impact.

The idea for the word of the year came from the book, Lifeword: Discover Your One Word to Leave a Legacy by Jon Gordon. Below is a link to the book. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N79M0D7?ref=KC_GS_GB_US

Becky's been doing the word of the year exercise for three years. Her first word of the year was unleashed; her second was steady.

This year Becky has chosen Knowing and Diana has chosen Release.

Becky explains why she chose an affirmational word instead of an aspirational one. She also writes about this on her blog: https://beckyberrycoach.com/your-word-of-the-year/

Essentialism episodes:

Episode 88: Essentialism -  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4G6TFbBuQ4tIi1zv8zCwnm?si=ab950ce6a1c24585

Episode 130: Essentialism in the Time of Coronavirus

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6FP70rbs96Ld1aHzHF4UMP?si=0148320a08fd4136

©2022 Cronecast Podcast Network Music ©2015 Max Brodie

In this episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Becky Berry and Diana Bader talk about the value of blowing things up.

• There is still so much uncertainty in the world during this pandemic. It makes it hard to feel settled.
• Diana talks about her criteria for an event mask being mask worthy. 
• Becky and Diana talk about how this pandemic differs from the 1920 pandemic. Becky points out that the main difference comes down to 3 words: international air travel. 
• Diana discusses the results of neglecting one of her core values: creativity and shares tips for bringing it back. 
• They also discuss resilience, its importance, and how we can only be resilient if we have a sense of agency in our lives. Agency is understanding we have the ability to impact our own lives. We exercise agency when we trust our gut instincts and continue to do the things we know will keep moving forward.
• Episode 114: Agency v Control talks about the importance of exercising agency in our lives.
• It’s necessary, not scary to blow things up when it’s time
• It’s important to be willing to blow things up (change everything) when things are not working for us and finding another way to move to the next place in our lives.

Episode 153: Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

In this episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Becky Berry and Diana Bader discuss the importance of getting out of our comfort zones.

We don’t always realize that we’re coasting in our comfort zone, so it can become uncomfortable when we do. 

For example, it can be our default to stay in a job because it has health benefits even when we don’t like that job. We end up stuck there because we think we can do the job for one more day, then another, and another - and, all of the sudden we’ve been there for years!

Luckily, we do not have to leap out of our comfort zones. We can tip toe out, instead. Once we’ve identified what we are struggling with, we can then evaluate what we are doing now compared to what we would like to do.

Diana talks about tip-toeing out of our stuckness requires us to assess our quality of life factors.

We can start by listing what we do not want to do and why we don’t want to do them as a means of evaluating why we choose to stay.

Sometimes we stay in our comfort zone to avoid conflict and hurting others’ feelings, which is a kind of conflict in and of itself.

To begin moving out of our comfort zone, we can reach for the thing that’s just a little bit out of our reach.

Just say yes to something. What is the smallest thing we can say yes to?

We can also change up our perspective by taking a new class or talking to someone.

Diana also talks about EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, or tapping. She uses the technique to help clients balance their energy.

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The Missing Step? Savoring Our Work

On this episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Diana Bader and Becky Berry talk about the missing step in our work and personal lives.

Diana begins the episode by talking about a conversation she had with her son about how he was improving his life. She shared his experience of playing a video game where he and a friend  came to the conclusion that to get tasks done in life, we must break each part down into little pieces. 

We should also remember to look at where we came from, and the work we did to get where we are. When we forget to look back to where we came from and the steps we took to get to our end result, we are being dismissive of the work it took to get there. 

Becky summed up this process by naming it “chunk and reflect.”

When we review the work that brought us to our current place, we are supercharged going forward. It gives us a focused momentum because we understand where we came from and acknowledge what it took to get here. 

Also, when we take what we like and leave the rest, we move forward. We unbind ourselves from other people’s ideas and expectations and exercise agency in our choices. We let go of what isn't working. 

Reviewing our work forces us to pause. And, when we embrace the pause, we think more clearly while moving forward. 

The process? 

Review progress (How did we get here? What needs to change?), Savor that progress, then move forward to the next action or project.

In today’s episode, Becky Berry and Diana Bader talk about the difference between presence and focus.

Being present is being fully engaged in the moment. It's taking the time to listen fully. 

Since energy flows to where our  thoughts go, when our thoughts are scattered, our energy is also scattered. Being present mentally and physically keeps us aligned. 

When our energy is aligned, our thoughts are calmer. The act of being present allows us to focus. 

We have to engage our bodies before our minds. When we align our bodies, and ground ourselves physically in the present, we think more clearly. 

Focus is a brain activity. When we bring our energy into the moment we can bring our minds into it, too.

Diana has Becky do the 5 Senses Exercise to demonstrate how to be present (aka grounded). Here’s how it works: 

• We look around and name 5 things we see. 
• We close our eyes, listen closely, then name 4 things we hear.
• We reach out and touch 3 things and notice how they feel. 
• We sniff and identify 2 things we smell.
• We identify 1 thing we can taste. 

As we go through the exercise, it brings us back into our bodies and into the present moment. 

Where our energy goes, our mind flows. 

The book referred to in this episode is The Extended Mind: The Power of the Thinking Outside the Brain by Annie Murphy Paul.

In this episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Becky Berry and Diana Bader talk about thinking, the third component of productivity from the book, Essentialism by Greg McKeown. 

Becky shares how she gets blocked when she does not think before she makes a big move.

The precepts of Essentialism consist of narrowing things down to the essentials. The process is virtually impossible to accomplish if we don’t invest time in figuring out what is essential to us. 

Sleeping, thinking, and playing are the three pillars of being productive. And, the most successful, productive people schedule thinking time on their calendar!

It’s when we invest our time in stopping and thinking about what we want, that we can create purposeful movement forward. By gifting ourselves with time to think, we create room to identify what is truly important.

Diana reminds us to view the big shifts that happen as a result of our thinking as adventures. 

Sometimes we have to get lost in our thoughts to figure out what we’re really thinking about!  

Thought gives us the ability to see where we are and where we want to go from a fresh prespective.

Pause and think!

In this episode of Uniquely Brilliant, Diana Bader and Becky Berry discuss our absolute need for adequate sleep, how to get it, and the results of inadequate sleep.

Good sleep is critical to our bodies performing to the best of their abilities. 

Sleep protects both our physical and mental assets.

Even when we miss sleep and feel like we are doing ok, the lack of sleep will eventually catch up to us.

Our brains store what they learned during the day while they sleep. And, while we’re sleeping our brains also get some well-needed rest!

When we’re not sleeping enough, it’s impossible to be as productive as we could be. 

Yoga Nidra is a yoga practice that simulates what the brain does during sleep. It has said to be as refreshing as 8 hours of sleep. Here’s a 20-minute practice video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7H0FKzeuVVs

Becky and Diana share how they feel after a night of no sleep. Diana says it's much harder to work out, and Becky says she feels heavy.

They discuss how we all function differently when it comes to sleep and our innate biorhythms.. Some people are morning people, and others function better at night - and that’s perfect. It is important that we understand our own biorhythms so we can respect them. 

Becky and Diana also discuss different ways to get to sleep. Diana does a guided meditation, while Becky reads on her Kindle. 

They share the concept of making a list of things to do to help us get to sleep. 

Sleep gives us the energy and brain power to handle whatever comes at us the next day!

On this episode of Uniquely Brilliant Diana Bader and Becky Berry talk about the importance of play.

Lila is Diana’s word of the year. Lila, which means playful manifestation in Sanskrit. She shares how she is enacting its spirit.

They talk about the way spending 5 minutes in a day can change our outlook.

Becky shares three things you need to be productive: sleep, play, and then planning and guarding those things with your life.

What constitutes play? We may hear the word play and think, oh that sounds frustrating. Perhaps we’re thinking of  childhood games that everyone but you loved. Tag, anyone?

Play can be anything that you enjoy doing!

As Becky says, if you like cooking, then that is playing. If your favorite thing to do is run then that is play for you!

If you find joy in it, it’s play.

They talk about strategies to find your joy when you need a lift. Diana suggests making a playlists of songs you like to dance to and playing one of the songs to access that lift.

We need play to be more productive. Without the release of play, we cannot perform at our full potential.

We can train ourselves to look for playful moments.

Some playful things include coloring, doodling, watching funny videos, and sharing gifs with friends.

Schedule five minutes of play everyday!

How do we know how to get to the next place when we don’t know what the next place is? 

Becky Berry and Diana Bader cover this question in this episode of Uniquely Brilliant.

Diana points out one way is to focus on the short term because we must get out of crisis mode and make a plan for the near future. 

Becky reminds us that we have to remember things are different and we must just get through things now, while Diana reminds us to let go of how things were before the pandemic. 

By letting go of the past we are able to move forwards, which leads to growth. Going backwards keeps us stuck and improves nothing. 

Fear and panic will not help us to move forward either.

Becky admits that going with the flow is not her natural mode, but she tells a story about her 85 year old mom going with the flow when the eye doctor told her she couldn't drive anymore. 

If you allow change to become an adventure and look at the opportunities presented in the moment, you can do things differently. 

Diana hints at a secret project she is involved in all because she was open to change and new opportunities.

You can’t go with the flow if you are weighed down by the past; And, if you fight the flow you’ll eventually be beaten down until you go with the flow or end up stuck where you are.

Diana shares this analogy: When you are on the water, you aren’t in charge of the water, so you just have to go with it.

Expressing agency (Becky’s favorite word) in these situations occurs when you know you are in charge of your actions and you go with the flow by thinking through things (instead of reacting) and trusting yourself and your experience.

In this episode, Becky and Diana discuss what it's like to be living in today’s world, including questions like: How do we deal with the new reality of not knowing if you should hug people or fist bump?

Diana Bader talks about how everything is just a little disjointed. 

They discuss the importance of knowing how to ground yourself. Diana shares this sensory exercise for grounding: Identify five things you can see, four things you can hear, three things you can smell, two things you can touch, and one thing you can taste. Becky tries it on for size.

This exercise helps to bring you back to your senses. Plus breathing - always remember to breathe. 

Becky Berry mentions walking in the grass with bare feet to ground herself. 

They share their experiences around mental grounding and meditation. They observe that not everyone can visualize, so it's a great idea to use guided meditations or other meditations that work better for you.  

Shamanic Drumming and Humming on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/ivCOrc1HWxI

Today’s Tidbit

Find what soothes you when you’re feeling disjointed and out of sorts. It could be a bath, glass of wine, or meditative chants.

Diana Bader and Becky Berry talk about a favorite topic: adventure!

Diana refers to everything as an adventure. As a matter of fact, originally, each episode of Uniquely Brilliant was called “The Adventure of ....”. 

As Diana says, “Life is an adventure because you never know what is coming.” She talks about her experience moving back up north to Ohio from Atlanta. She felt the full force of the good and the bad and how it’s critical to not set expectations.

Becky talks about her experience with her coworking space and the trials of letting it evolve in a pandemic. 

Diana shares the losses she has experienced in her life and the reason she continues to see possibilities everywhere.

They identify the 3 things that help turn things from ordeals to adventures: Curiosity, Wonder, and Risk Tolerance. 

Diana reminds us to live in the moment because the only way you make memories is when you’re in the present moment! 

What is an adventure if not the ultimate good memory?

Today's Tidbits:

1. Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure. 
2. You know you are having an adventure when it’s cool and scary at the same time. 
3. We can continuously build our own adventure - see #1! 

Becky and Diana talk about all the ways people feel about talking.

Becky shares her experience in opening a second business (her coworking space for women, MAD! Workspace) and all of the feelings that go along with starting it up and keeping it going in a pandemic. 

She also talks about how she processes things through talking. She needs to hear the words coming out of her mouth to figure out what’s going on.

On the other hand, Diana is an introvert, so she doesn’t need to talk things out to process them. She likes to mull things over, then figure some of it out herself a little before she shares. And, when she does share, there are only a few people she wants to share her thoughts with - like  Becky and this entire audience. 

Diana points out that the difference between fear and excitement is breathing! Both emotions tap into the same place in the brain.

They also talk about the importance of making deep connections with people and how rare it is to make deep connections with new people. The problem in making deep connections is that it takes time. And those people are important to have around you so you don’t feel judged.

Diana talks about how she sometimes shuts down around people who are not open minded, and Becky reminds us that when we are ourselves, we find people who complement us.

They also address this question: What do you do if someone doesn't want to talk? They agree that the best way to get someone to open up with us is to create an environment of trust by being patient and asking good questions.

A key (and brave) question to ask? Why don’t you want to talk about it? 

Something to ponder: Small talk means I see you. It serves a valuable purpose in setting the table for deeper discussions and connection.

Today Diana and Becky talk about how they get to do it (everything) differently!

It’s hard to remember to rephrase the idea from “having to do it differently” to “getting to do it differently” but it makes a big difference in our mindset. “I get to do it differently” indicates agency and choice.

They talk about VISION BOARDS!

Diana shares her new workout with The Exercise Coach and how it meets her goals and desires..

They both cover how we can all do things differently, and how feedback can be important for growth.

When we do it differently, we release any need to apologize or justify our actions.

The critical takeaway is that everyone’s different is - wait for it - different! Choosing to do anything differently also means figuring out our unique differences.

When we focus on strengthening our strengths instead of our weaknesses we own the power and value of our own experiences!

Pause a minute and reflect on how today was a success!

In this episode, Diana and Becky talk about the Art of Maintaining. This is a great episode for people who are struggling lately or drowning in the shoulda, woulda, couldas. Becky and Diana bring it back to the present and ask hard questions about what is really important and how we NEED to take care of ourselves. And Becky advocates for getting rid of the words “strive” and “working hard.”

Sometimes in life we find ourselves needing to maintain rather than excel, and that's okay.

Diana talks about appreciating the moment instead of settling by pushing through it. She also discusses the system she created to help her get through her days when she needs to just maintain.

Diana also discusses how hard it was to maintain when she had a young child and how people in her life continuously pressured her to get more done.

Becky reminds us that maintaining is a big part of Essentialism because when we choose to maintain instead of striving for more, we are claiming our own priorities and owning that it’s ok to be in the moment and take care of ourselves.

When we tell ourselves we “should” be doing something, there is always someone else’s belief behind it. Instead, we must stop and ask ourselves if this belief is true right now or if it even matters to us.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling like you need to be doing more.

Maintaining is giving up the illusion of control.

Diana compares maintaining to being a superhero. To expand on the metaphor, when we maintain, we become like The Flash because we are slowing down everything around us and focusing solely on the important parts.

While in Maintaining mode, priorities get really small and specific. It’s like wearing blinders and earplugs - and it takes a lot of practice.

Self-care is the cornerstone of maintaining. Becky talks about the importance of having support for our self-care. We can enlist the help of family members, or friends, or acquaintances to remind us that in order to get through the current situation, we must take care of ourselves.