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    Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

    Dating can be a hot mess, from being ghosted by your crush to realizing that you've been catfished by a Tinder match. Why Won't You Date Me? is here to help. Join Nicole Byer, the perpetual singleton, as she invites fellow comedians, friends, and ex-flings to talk romance and share their wildest dating tales, from cringeworthy first dates to jaw-dropping hookup stories. Nothing is off-limits.
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    Episodes (333)

    The Art of Kissing (w/ LU KALA)

    The Art of Kissing (w/ LU KALA)

     Musician LU KALA joins Nicole to discuss why the dating world feels so broken after COVID, the skill behind a good kiss, planning what should happen to your sex toys when you die, the stigma around dating a plus sized woman, and roleplay flirting with each other. Plus, Nicole receives an unexpected large black dildo to her door. 

    Check out LU KALA's new single, Looking for Love.

     

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    Proposals (w/ Rory Scovel)

    Proposals (w/ Rory Scovel)

    Comedian Rory Scovel joins Nicole for a chat about their Valentine's Day experiences, dealing with horny audience members, his cute proposal story, and the ways parenthood has transformed his relationship dynamic. Nicole shares her fun time smoking weed before performing. 

    Check out his special, Rory Scovel: Religion, Sex and a Few Things In Between, on Max.

     

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    Dating with Anxiety (w/ Lamar Woods)

    Dating with Anxiety (w/ Lamar Woods)

    Comedian Lamar Woods (New Girl, Grand Crew) joins Nicole to discuss their 2024 vision boards, taking yourself on self care dates, the best ways to manage anxiety while dating, and how to be open about your sensitivities to a potential partner.

     

    Check out Lamar's new album, Highly Sensitive Person at lamar-woods.com.

     

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    Valentine's Day (w/ Laurie Kilmartin)

    Valentine's Day (w/ Laurie Kilmartin)

    Comedian Laurie Kilmartin (Conan) joins Nicole to discuss all things Valentine's Day - the gifts, their dream dates, and Nicole's regrettable Valentine's Day experience. They open up about their most regretful hookups, the time Laurie's date called her out in a YouTube comment, and Nicole's experience sleeping with a member of her audience.

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    Singles Mixers (w/ Rashida "SHEEDZ" Olayiwola)

    Singles Mixers (w/ Rashida "SHEEDZ" Olayiwola)

    Comedian Rashida "SHEEDZ" Olayiwola (Jury Duty) joins Nicole to discuss the best places to go for singles mixers, the time she learned her date was homeless, and the struggle of finding men who can listen to your basic needs. Plus, Nicole realizes her birth control is making her depressed.

     

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    Faking Orgasms (w/ Stavros Halkias)

    Faking Orgasms (w/ Stavros Halkias)

    Comedian Stavros Halkias (Fat Rascal, Stavvy's World) joins Nicole to discuss hooking up with audience members, why he believes he would be perfectly cast for 90 Day Fiancé, and faking an orgasm during a disgusting fling just to be polite. Plus, is the golden age of dating apps over? According to Bustle, it is. 

     

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    Heartbreak at Homecoming (w/ Garrick Bernard)

    Heartbreak at Homecoming (w/ Garrick Bernard)

    Comedian and writer Garrick Bernard (Rick & Morty, Solar Opposites) joins Nicole to discuss finding love at BuzzFeed, the awkwardness of audience members hitting on him while on stage, and why homecoming was the worst day of his life. Plus, they explore their mutual obsession for cars. Vroom vroom! 

     

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    Orgy Invitation (w/ Mark Rennie)

    Orgy Invitation (w/ Mark Rennie)

    Comedian and friend Mark Rennie (The Onion) joins Nicole to share his experience attending a gay meetup on a Star Trek cruise, and being invited to an orgy. Nicole shares her idea of a dream orgy to attend, plus the plans for her funeral which involves inviting all of her ex-lovers to talk about her pussy. They also discuss determining your needs in a relationship, their goals for 2024, and Nicole's recent attempt to date a redhead in Dublin, which didn't quite go as planned.

     

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    Married to a Man-Ho (w/ Lisa Ann Walter)

    Married to a Man-Ho (w/ Lisa Ann Walter)

    Comedian Lisa Ann Walter (Abbott Elementary) joins Nicole to share her unique marital experiences, from a husband who eventually came out as gay to another who was an absolute man-ho. She shares the struggles she's faced touring as a mom, comedy clubs now allowing her to work "blue", and reflects on her time in the industry being recognized as "The Body".

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    Baby Daddy Drama (w/ Liz Barlow)

    Baby Daddy Drama (w/ Liz Barlow)

    Comedian Liz Barlow discusses breaking up with a boyfriend who doxxed people, her challenging experience dating women, the story of a stalking chucklefucker, interracial threesomes invitations, and unravels some jaw-dropping baby daddy drama. As an exercise, Liz and Nicole roleplay talking to men. 

     

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    His & Hers: Home Decor Compromises (w/ Katrina Davis)

    His & Hers: Home Decor Compromises (w/ Katrina Davis)

    Comedian Katrina Davis joins Nicole to discuss holiday gift giving, the delicate process of home decorating when moving in with a partner, and her experience being cock blocked by racism. Plus, the story of a forced double date that lead to a car theft.  

     

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    Being a WOMAN (w/ Sasha Colby)

    Being a WOMAN (w/ Sasha Colby)

    Drag queen mother Sasha Colby (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S15) sits down with Nicole to discuss the unique challenges of dating as a trans woman. Sasha shares her experiences of dating in the closet during high school, recounts where she's had heartwarming meet-cutes, and delves into her personal interpretation of what it means to be a ~Woman~. Nicole pays for the Raya feature that shows who's liked her.

     

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    Surprise Date Ideas (w/ Lisa Gilroy)

    Surprise Date Ideas (w/ Lisa Gilroy)

    Comedian Lisa Gilroy doesn't want you to think about her little tiddies, okay? So she shares her adventures in surprise dating, complete with tips on how to execute your own fun surprise date for your partner. Lisa reflects on her journey as a 'teenage bride,' recounting her marriage to her high school sweetheart. She pitches an innovative concept for a live dating show to help Nicole find love, and Nicole opens up about her humiliating experience on Celebrity Dating Game.

     

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    Cancelled (w/ Kathy Griffin)

    Cancelled (w/ Kathy Griffin)

    Comedy icon Kathy Griffin sits down with Nicole to tackle the burning question: Is she still cancelled? She discusses her relationship with her tour manager, who supported her through a tumultuous five-year period marked by FBI investigations and a struggle with pill addiction. Kathy shares stories of her past relationships, including dating Quentin Tarantino, lying about her age to date Joey from NSYNC, and sleeping around with her students at the Groundlings. Plus, get the scoop on what it was like living next door to celebrities Kim and Kanye. Is Kanye as weird to talk to in person? The answer will not shock you.

     

    Get tickets to Kathy's upcoming tour at kathygriffin.com/tour.

     

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    The Celibacy Choice (w/ Kel Mitchell)

    The Celibacy Choice (w/ Kel Mitchell)

    Comedian Kel Mitchell (Kenan & Kel, Good Burger) joins Nicole to explore his evolution from teen heartthrob to youth pastor. They delve into the merits of building romance on the foundation of friendship, the transformative impact of three years of celibacy on his relationship, and the art of mastering conflict resolution in partnerships. Kel recounts an unforgettable wingman adventure, plus, Nicole dishes on a juicy juicy couple's argument she overheard.  

     

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    How to Spot a Hobosexual (w/ Alesha Reneé)

    How to Spot a Hobosexual (w/ Alesha Reneé)

    Actress & TV personality Alesha Reneé (Grand Crew, Girl Code) joins Nicole to delve into the world of 'hobosexuals,' revealing her experience dating one and offering tips on how to spot if you are too. She opens up about a past partner's breach of trust, when she found out he had been secretly reading her diary. They review the "worst" places to go on a first date, and Alesha shares the bizarre story of how she got robbed by a clown. Plus, Nicole opens up about her first attempt at cooking for a man, and let's just say, it didn't quite go as planned.

     

    Check out Alesha's new series, Unleash for Love, available on Audible!
     

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    Reading Nicole's Fortune (w/ Witch Sutton Crawford)

    Reading Nicole's Fortune (w/ Witch Sutton Crawford)

    Ever wonder what it's like to have your tarot cards read? Witch and intuitionist Sutton Crawford gives Nicole an on-air reading regarding her love life. Sutton shares her journey to recognizing her own intuitive gifts, and chats about the mystical effects of eclipses and the cosmic influences you might be feeling. Plus, she shares a chilling ghost story and teaches how to set firm boundaries with the spirit world to keep those unwanted ghostly visitors at bay.  Meanwhile, Nicole opens up about establishing new boundaries on dating apps.

     

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    Saying I Love You (w/ Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins)

    Saying I Love You (w/ Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins)

    Actress Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins (Dear White People, Grand Crew) joins Nicole to chat about her perfect engagement story, getting over the nerves to say "I love you", and learning how to enjoy the beauty of being single. Meanwhile, Nicole is living her "horny for love" era. While some of her manifestations are starting to come true.... the question remains: can she manifest the partner of her dreams?

     

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    Kink Gone Wrong (w/ Jonathan Van Ness)

    Kink Gone Wrong (w/ Jonathan Van Ness)

    Hairstylist and icon Jonathan Van Ness (Queer Eye) shares with Nicole an unforgettable and horrifying story about his first foray into the kink of watersports, what it was like to have his wedding over Zoom, and consults Nicole on her Instagram page, offering savvy tips on how to up her dating game on the app.

     

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