Use the End of a Relationship as an Opportunity to Reinvent Yourself
S3 Episode 6: Use the End of a Relationship as the Opportunity to Reinvent Yourself
Episode Summary
Breaking up may be hard to do, but getting a fresh start can be life-altering. Instead of seeing the end of a relationship as a negative, use it as an opportunity to do something different in your next romance. Do a deep-dive into the relationship and identify things that didn’t work for you and decide to make a change.
Make sure to be honest with yourself and acknowledge any responsibility you had in the demise of the partnership. Remember, you are in the driver’s seat when it comes to your love life so you get to decide how you want to move forward. Instead of repeating the same pattern, try doing one thing differently and see what can happen.
The possibilities are endless if you make a major or minor shift in what you look for in a partner or modify something about your own behavior, wants or needs. When you take the opportunity to learn from your past, you don’t repeat the same mis-steps in the future.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss how unfair it is when a partner applies a double standard to sex in the relationship.
Show Notes
Every ending is also a new beginning. When you leave a relationship, you can take what you’ve learned from it and use it to elevate yourself. If there was something about the relationship you didn’t like, analyze it and address it.
This could have been a communication style, boundaries, division of labor, economic strategies, and so much more. You’re in the driver’s seat—you can change anything. It’s also the perfect time to reflect on what you look for in a partner and what you really need.
Breakups are often both a golden opportunity along with a really harsh wakeup call. But going forward, you can take what you wish you would have done and start implementing changes right away. For example, perhaps in your last relationship you were financially irresponsible, and it came back to haunt you when the breakup happened. Now is your chance to become more financially competent.
Romancipation is about taking responsibility for yourself including what you say, where you go, what you spend, and so much more. This is why reinvention and romancipation go hand in hand. Think about what you did and what you allowed to happen, and then do what you need to do to give yourself a new chapter.
In this episode, the vent session topic is: When a person applies a double standard to sex in the relationship. Any time a double standard is applied, it can make you feel so frustrated. It causes resentment and can be a total turn-off. The constant application of a double standard regarding sex absolutely signals a power imbalance.
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