attachment style

On this week's episode, Brianna delves deep into the world of attachment styles with guest Eli Harwood. They explore the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, discussing everything from the nuances of different attachment styles to the interplay between trauma, parenting, and personal growth. Eli shares their personal journey, revealing how overcoming a tumultuous family history led to a career focused on helping others understand and heal their attachment wounds. The episode also touches on the complexities of parenting in the context of attachment theory, with practical advice for navigating high-conflict situations and fostering secure relationships. Brianna and Eli conclude by discussing the importance of empathy, vulnerability, and choosing relationships that nurture growth and security. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the deep-rooted patterns that shape our connections with others.

More About Eli:
Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, author of the book Securely Attached, educator and creator of Attachment Nerd who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plant babies.

Connect with Eli:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/
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• Courses, Guides, Community: www.attachmentnerd.com
• Coaching: www.attachmentlabs.com
• Social Media: @attachmentnerd 

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In today's podcast, we dive into the intersection of faith and attachment styles. In this episode, I sit down with Rita Blevin, who developed an avoidant attachment style after being separated from both of her biological parents due to an international kidnapping. Through her vulnerable and transparent testimony, Rita shares how she coped with the effects of her avoidant attachment style, including her relationships with her parents, romantic partners, and even with God.

Growing up without a stable family structure, Rita found herself constantly seeking independence and distancing herself from emotional connection. Even though she had family members who treated her well and provided a safe environment, she did observe that  avoidance led to difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships in other areas of her life. Rita also shares how her avoidant attachment style affected her Christian walk. 

However, through her journey of healing, Rita found hope and restoration through the guidance of a Christian therapist. She shares the tools and techniques she learned to cope with her avoidant attachment style in a healthier way and how this has transformed her relationships, including her relationship with God. 

Join us as we unpack Rita's powerful story and learn how God used a therapist to help her find healing and ultimately develop a more secure attachment to Him. 

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In this episode, Lacy, Jessica, and Dr. Tara delve into the profound landscapes of grief, unveiling how it intertwines with blind spots, manifestation, and healing. Grief and loss come in all forms: from experiencing a loved one passing on, to the end of an era in your life, to the end of a friendship or romantic relationship. Grief is something we all go through as we experience life’s journey, and this episode serves to remind you that you’re not alone – as well as offering helpful tools and resources for you to better understand and navigate your unique path through grief and loss. Join us as we unravel the intertwined tapestry of grief, manifestation, and self-discovery, empowering you to navigate life's inevitable transitions with resilience and grace.

Trigger Warning: This episode explores themes of grief, loss, shock, and trauma.

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In This Episode We Talk About:

• What is grief and what does it mean to let go?
• Examples of grief and “the change curve”
• The Kubler-Ross model of grief and why understanding phases can be helpful to process traumatic events
• How not fully healing can keep you in an unproductive loop
• Why acceptance sets the stage for moving forward
• Types of grief including anticipatory, shock, ambiguous, cumulative, complicated, and collective grief
• Manifestation and letting go as two sides of the same concept
• How grief relates to blind spots, letting go, and shadow work
• The importance of self-worth and reflection can be important in processing the end of relationships
• How even these “crucible moments” can create a new phase or way of being
• Mindset shifts around grief and loss

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• Experiences and life shifts that may harbor grief and trauma (00:10:12)
• Tools and pillars that can be supportive during times of grief (00:33:40)
• How self-worth and self-awareness can help navigate low points (00:49:30)

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Episode 103 of Ask Dr Jessica features Dr Sarah Bren, who hosts the podcast "Securely Attached".  In this episode, we talk about what a secure attachment is exactly, and why it's important for a child's development.  As parents, we want our kids to feel safe, trusting and close to us--but how do we ensure we are doing this?  Dr Bren reviews the key factors to help kids securely attach, and she also discusses ways to help repair insecure attachment.

To learn more from Dr Sarah Bren, check out her podcast, Securely Attached, which has new releases every Tuesday and Thursday.  Her website is drsarahbren.com and her instagram is @drsarahbren.  She is the co-founder and clinical director of Upshur Bren Psychology Group in Pelham, New York that offers therapeutic services and coaching for children, parents and families.

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Join me in this transformative episode as we embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth. We all have stories of toxic relationships, challenging cycles, or life circumstances that have defined us in survival mode. As you're manifesting a new reality, or stepping into a brand new life after a personal rebrand, parts of yourself can still be attached to your past identity. In this episode, we take a look at how you can detach yourself from that past identity, how to notice the limiting beliefs around leaving that identity behind, and how to fully step into a new identity of ease and attraction.

This episode serves as your roadmap to leave behind the burdens of survival mode and step boldly into a life of ease and abundance. 

Welcome to today's important episode covering the topic of high sensitivity. Sometimes the world around us is just a bit much. Loud sounds, bright lights, violent movies. I have begun my own journey into understanding more about my sensitivities and changing my thinking to understand this infact is my superpower. Knowledge is power and today I wanted to open the discussion of being a highly sensitive person who feels everything deeply and what that looks like & tips for managing this in today's world.

Book recommendation:
The Highly Sensitive Person by  Elaine Aron.

This episode is based on some of the findings and information provided in this book. If anything from this episode resonates with you, or it may apply to a loved one, I would recommend reading this book to increase your awareness on the topic.

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This week's episode we introduce the first of many psychology topics (which I am SO excited to get into), starting off with the fundamental ATTACHMENT THEORY. I am not going to lie, I really did nerd out creating this episode and it just re-ignited my passion for Psychology. Keeping in mind not all of you are interested in the nitty-gritty research behind this theory, we have kept the explanation of John Bowlby's research brief and concise\, offering a summary of his research and findings. 

We go into:
-the research behind Attachment Theory
-the role childhood development has on adulthood
-the importance of learning yours & others attachment styles
-working out which of the four you may best fit into (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganised or Secure)
-I unpack my own attachment style

You can test yours here:
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I am looking forward to sharing some more learnings from my Psychology degree with you all in the future episodes of this season. 


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What is attachment, and how does it relate to ghosting in friendships and dating? How can I learn my attachment style? How can I heal relational trauma? 
In this episode, Relationship Expert and Attachment Specialist, Rose Viggiano, answers these questions and more! Rose shares how she knew she was healing her relational trauma, including how she began choosing people based on how they showed up, stopped taking every rejection as a sign that she was unlovable, and started speaking the truth lovingly and firmly. Whether you've been ghosted in romance or by a friend, this show provides valuable information to help you reflect and make healthy changes in your relationships. 

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Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. 

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages).
When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

It is difficult to manage attachment styles because they tend to be deeply ingrained in our personalities and are often formed during our early childhood years, making it hard to unlearn deep-rooted behaviors.

Attachment styles can affect relationships in a variety of ways, including the levels of trust, communication, and emotional connection one tends to form, thereby impacting the fulfillment and satisfaction of each relationship dynamic.

In this episode, we will explore some tips and strategies to manage our attachment styles

Have you ever thought about how attachment style affects our ability to forgive one another?   I discuss a study that helps us see how important attachment style is as it relates to our ability to forgive one another.

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Ken Reid is a relationship counselor who helps those who have been in relationships that are more avoidantly traited. On this episode we discuss all things about people with avoidant attachment style.

In this episode: Traits of avoidants • Narcissists versus avoidants • Avoidants and guilt • Avoidants and relationships • When an avoidant comes back • Avoidants and ghosting • How to spot an avoidant • Should we feel bad for avoidants? • If they wanted to, they would? • How avoidants can heal

Books Referenced in this Episode
The Truth by Neal Strauss
Attachment and the Defense Against Intimacy

Where to find Ken
Website
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Stop Ghosting People.

This is the traditional episode where I review the current season, which guests came on the podcast, my own solo episodes and what you can go back and listen. 

I enjoyed this season, as we had diverse subjects: recovery, coaching, movement/expressive therapy, first responders, attachment style, embracing the suck, and correctional staff. It was a very human season with all these guests and I was able to discuss my journey from Montreal to Boston to become the mental health counselor I am today.

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In this episode, we talk with Marc Sholes, a therapist in New York City. He has 35+ years of experience helping people get healthy, tidy up their world, and straighten out their lives. He wrote a book called "Resetting Your Romantic GPS" which talks about attachment style and how it plays a factor in the partner you seek.

During the interview, we talk about a variety of topics on this subject, including how to change your attachment style, vulnerability in relationships, as well as how to find a safe relationship by avoiding the comparison game.   

You can buy his book by clicking here.

You can also find Marc on his website here.

You can also find his Instagram here. 

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In this episode, Benjamin Kandt and Sara Nixon fill Nate in on the third week of Following Jesus in Soul Care. Sara explains how the window of tolerance works, and then Ben and Sara go back and forth through the insight skills that they taught this past week. Nate throws in some insights from cutting edge neurocardiology for good measure, and hopefully it all comes together for another helpful window into the value of this learning community at NewCity.

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In this episode of Calm Talks, we discuss the often-complicated dating scene and share 4 tips for finding a compatible partner. Whether you're looking for a casual or serious relationship, these tips can help you navigate the dating landscape with confidence and intention.

• Tip 1: Date with intent or don’t intend to date
  When it comes to dating, it's important to have a clear idea of what you're looking for in a partner. Are you seeking a casual relationship or something more serious? Knowing your relationship goals can help guide your approach to dating. For example, if you're looking for a serious relationship, you may want to consider meeting potential partners through mutual friends or in more low-key settings like libraries or coffee shops. If you're looking for something more casual, apps and bars might be more suitable for you. Whatever your relationship goals, it's important to be honest and upfront about your intentions, whether you're dating casually or seriously.
• Tip 2: Know your basis before your bases
  Before you start dating, it's important to have a clear idea of your "non-negotiables" – the baseline of things you are not willing to accept in a partner. This could include things like religion, political views, or lifestyle choices. By identifying your non-negotiables, you can save yourself time and energy by focusing on potential partners who align with your values.
• Tip 3: You’re only allowed 3 wishes
  When it comes to finding a compatible partner, it's important to prioritize what you're looking for. Most people tend to prioritize looks first, but what's more important? Emotional compatibility, religion, or something else? By ranking your priorities, you can make sure that you're focusing on what really matters in a relationship.
• Tip 4: Don’t look for the right partner, look in the mirror
  When it comes to finding a compatible partner, it's important to remember that you can't change someone else. Instead of searching for the "right" partner, focus on becoming the kind of person you would want to be with. One way to do this is by understanding your attachment style, which can affect your relationships. To learn more about attachment theory, visit the show notes for a link to additional resources.

Resources

• Myers Briggs Test 
• 16 Personalities Test (Free Myers Briggs Test)
• Big 5 Personalities Traits
• Attachment Theory

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In episode 111 we have the pleasure of talking to Marc Sholes, who shares his wisdom with us when it comes to making the best partner choice for you. Marc explains attachment styles and why you should 'privilege character over chemistry'.

Marc is a highly experienced New York City psychotherapist and psychoanalyst with 35+ years of experience helping people get healthy, tidy up their world, and straighten out their lives. In this episode Marc talks about the following:

-What is an attachment style and why is it the biggest hindrance to people attaining their goals and finding happiness?

- How to change your attachment style so you can stop pairing up with the wrong romantic partners, stop wasting time and emotional energy on toxic relationships, and get busy living the life you should be living.

- Why are you attracted to your opposite 

- Uncovering your more authentic self so that you may regain authorship over your life

Marc is also the author of the popular book 'Reset Your Romantic GPS: Why You Steer Toward the Wrong Partners and How to Change for the Better', which explains the idea of attachment style, a psychological force we develop in early childhood, and how it influences every emotional choice and decision we make.

The book has sold thousands of copies internationally.

Marc's areas of expertise include couples therapy, marital challenges, anxiety, depression, employment difficulties, sexual dysfunction, and eating disorders.

He is also a board member, faculty, and supervisor at the National Institute for the Psychotherapies, a leading training institute for psychotherapists, and a former associate editor of Psychoanalytic Perspectives: A Journal of Integration and Innovation.

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Carista Luminare, Ph.D., has more than 40 years experience as a counselor, consultant and educator to individuals, couples and families. In her private counseling practice, she integrates her lifelong research on how our early bonding patterns profoundly impact our self-identity and adult relationship dynamics. She uses her unique attachment approach to rewire relationships from insecure to secure love and well-being.caristaluminare@gmail.com

Topics discussed in this episode . . .

• Carista’s work preparing parents to guide their child’s’ development in the most supportive way possible
• Creating a sense of love and security for a baby while they are still in the womb
• How we project our early attachment style from childhood onto our adult partners
• Trauma bonding
• The self-awareness required to provide a sense of security and safety for our children and how to know when we need help
• The deep need for children to have a “go to” person they feel can get help from when they are in distress
• What is trauma?
• What is secure love?
• The four attachment styles between parent and child
• How different attachment styles can play out in adult relationships
• Can attachment issues be healed and transformed?
• Recognizing we are triggered and how this limits our capacity to navigate conflict
• How Carista works with clients to heal trauma somatically
• Collective trauma
• The difference between self-regulation and co-regulation
• How narcissism and codependency can express in relationship
• Carista’s experience helping clients with psychedelic integration
• Is humanity ushering in a higher consciousness? Is there hope for our world?
• Daily practices that can help us be more grounded in these challenging times

Carista Luminare’s Links

• www.ConfusedaboutLove.com
• www.TrueSelf.net
• www.HealingNarcissismandCodependency.com
• www.LuminaryLeadership.net
• Book: Parenting Begins Before Conception: A Guide to Preparing Body, Mind, and Spirit For You and Your Future Child - http://tiny.cc/p6f2vz