bessel van der kolk

Are you tired of getting by? Ready to move beyond burn out? Discover the *real reason* you're burning out (it has nothing to do with meditation or caffeine intake) and how to stop settling for a life running on 20% battery. Perfectionism Leveraged client Kevin bravely shares his story of being the all-star perfectionist parent addicted to stress, on the verge of divorce living in a pressure-cooker of his own making and resentful AF. Hear how he moved beyond band-aid solutions burn out, let go of the need for control and rewired to become a playful parent, partner and person

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Listen to the Full  Episode To Hear:

• Why you want to alter how you perceive and react to your symptoms of burn out
• How adverse childhood experiences  contribute to.over functioning 
• What Kevin did step-by-step to go from from overfunctioning stress addict to rewire and redefine success on his own terms

Resources Mentioned:

1. Neurosculpting™: Proprietary method combining neuroscience, somatic and mindfulness proven to permanently rewire perfectionism and reduce stress.
2. The Body Keeps Score: A book that delves into how the body stores stress and trauma, emphasizing the importance of treating both mind and body.
3. Perfectionism Leveraged: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge, leverage their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you’re designed to be.

EPSISODE 179 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:23-Understanding the real root of why Perfectionists are Burned Out

02:41-Kevin's Story: From Stress Addict to Playful Parent

04:05-Exploring the Roots of Over functioning

06:17-If I do it all perfect and stay in control then I AM SAFE

07:11-Diving Deep into the Psychology of Perfectionism

09:16-Olivia Benson, Special Victims Unit + Owning Your Over Functioning

10:20-How Shooting Up Heroin is just like Using Perfectionism To Manage Stress

12:15-Assessing the Impact of Burnout + Doing Life at 20%

13:42-Neurosculpting: A Holistic Approach to Healing Perfectionism

16:10-Why Band-Aid Solutions Like Therapy Make Burnout Worse

17:18-Developing Customized Proven Pathways that Integrate your Somatic

18:32-The Simple Science Of Tracking Detailed Data for Progress

21:55-How to Recognize Early Signs of Burnout

22:47-Celebrating Kevin's Transformation and Triumph

25:19-Who Will You Choose to Be? Warning Label or Shining Example?

According to Linda Thai, "the role of therapy is to help you to get to know yourself and to experience a sense of dignity." Our conversation dives into therapeutic solutions that are trauma sensitive, trauma informed, and trauma driven as we explore the root causes of trauma, empowerment through somatic strategies and "me-search". Linda also guides us through a brief yet grounding orienting exercise at the end of the conversation that can be practiced anywhere and anytime.

Linda Thai describes herself as a somatic therapist and trauma therapist, free-lance educator, public speaker and storyteller, group facilitator, collaborator, infiltrator, cross-pollinator, community-builder, agent of change, former child refugee, happy human being. her expertise includes the fields of meditation, yoga, and self-enquiry, addictions and behavioral health, childhood adversity and resiliency, colonization, intergenerational refugee trauma and social justice, grief, loss and reclamation. More about Linda Thai-

INSPIRATION: For the purpose of empowered self-awareness. To liberate the joy and peace at the essence of our beings. To ignite a passion and excitement for life, to connect us back to ourselves and to each other.

LAND ACKNOWLEDGEMENT: Linda would like to acknowledge that she lives and works on the unceded lands of the Dené Athabascan people of the Middle Tanana Valley. She has been nourished by the healing forces of the Alaskan wilderness and exposed to the ancestral wisdom of the custodians of these lands. Shifting out of an extractive economic and philosophical relationship with the natural world has opened her up to living and operating in mutuality with all forms of life, including herself. Quyana, Tsenaa-‘ii, Gunalchéesh, Dog in dihn’, Háw’aa, DOIKshin, Ana masee’, Masi-cho, Anna-Basse.

When Krista interviewed the psychiatrist and trauma specialist Bessel van der Kolk for the first time, his book The Body Keeps the Score was about to be published. She described him then as “an innovator in treating the effects of overwhelming experiences on people and society.” She catches up with him in 2021 — as we are living through one vast overwhelming experience after the other. And The Body Keeps the Score is now one of the most widely read books in the pandemic world. His perspective is utterly unique and very practically helpful — on what’s been happening in our bodies and our brains, and how that relationship can become severed and restored.

Bessel van der Kolk is the founder and medical director of the Trauma Research Foundation in Brookline, Massachusetts. He’s also a professor of psychiatry at Boston University Medical School. His books include Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on the Mind, Body, and Society and The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.

Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.

Krista interviewed the psychiatrist and trauma specialist Bessel van der Kolk for the first time in 2013, as his book The Body Keeps the Score was about to be published. He is an innovator in treating the effects of overwhelming experiences. We call this “trauma” when we encounter it in life and news, and we tend to leap to address it by talking. But Bessel van der Kolk knows how some experiences imprint themselves beyond where language can reach. He explores state-of-the-art therapeutic treatments — including body work like yoga and eye movement therapy — and shares what he and others are learning on this edge of humanity about the complexity of memory, our need for others, and how our brains take care of our bodies.

Bessel van der Kolk is the founder and medical director of the Trauma Research Foundation in Brookline, Massachusetts. He’s also a professor of psychiatry at Boston University Medical School. His books include Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on the Mind, Body, and Society and The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.

This interview is edited and produced with music and other features in the On Being episode "Bessel van der Kolk – Trauma, the Body, and 2021." Find the transcript for that show at onbeing.org.

This show originally aired in July 2013.

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk wrote the book on trauma. "The Body Keeps the Score" - a long-standing New York Times bestseller - provides a thorough analysis of trauma and our responses to it. In this episode, Dr. van der Kolk joins us to expand on that work, discussing how, for survivors of domestic violence, trauma changes the brain. Dr. van der Kolk guides us through approaches to self-regulation, rewiring the brain, and more so we might understand ourselves and our responses to trauma, and ultimately take control of our lives. This episode discusses domestic violence, physical violence, PTSD, and the experience of military combat.

Sometimes we're asked to tell stories of our childhood and we can't. We assume we don't have any memories, yet we sense that much of our present reality was shaped by things that happened to us. Why is that? Why do we FEEL something that makes no sense according to our "memory"? Chris and Beth Bruno discuss the difference between explicit and implicit memory and why our body remembers more than we're often cognizant of.

Mentioned in the show:

Dr. Daniel Siegel's Mindsight
Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score

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Learn what CPTSD is and experience a motion to help resolve it. Join host Pamela Stokes in this fourth episode of the PTSD Awareness Month Series. Using the HeartMath Institute technique of Heart Lock-In, we can connect with our younger self and clear the past experiences out. Just like PTSD, CPTSD can also be cured. You don't have to live with it.

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This week, we are welcoming Lauren Taus to the table! Lauren is a beautiful heart-centered clinical psychotherapist. She works with ketamine-assisted psychotherapy. Her wide range of experiences as a therapist, psychedelic practitioner, yoga teacher, and meditation guide provides her clients with a powerful healing experience. Lauren provided us with beautiful perspectives and teachings, such as "interrupting the default allows for a new mind." Listen for:

• Lauren’s journey with psychedelics and how she came into her work as a psychedelic-assisted psychotherapist
• Why life is psychedelic without psychedelics
• The limitations of traditional talk therapy
• What is ketamine and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy?
• How psychedelics allow for a new way of thinking and resetting generational beliefs that proceed our lifetime
• The dark side of ketamine: abuse, addiction, and k-holes
• How Lauren introduced her father into the world of psychedelics, who is also a medical doctor
• Lauren’s unique approach to working with her clients
• How trauma gets stored in our bodies and how psychedelic may help release it
• The common thread that connects psychedelics, therapy, yoga, and other healing modalities
• Lauren’s take on integration
• Detachment, healthy completions, and letting things go in a healthy way
• How to approach working with psychedelics with reverence

Mentioned in the episode:

• MAPS MDMA training in Israel
• MAPS Phase 3 trials with MDMA
• Trauma Institute
• Rick Doblin
• Adele Lafrance
• Carl Rogers

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Joost en Yonda spreken prof. dr. Bessel van der Kolk. 
Bessel van der Kolk is een Amerikaanse trauma specialist en auteur van de bestseller ‘Traumasporen’ (The body keeps the score).

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Show host Ryan Nell interviews New York Times bestselling author, thinker and therapist, Resmaa Menakem, who wants to help us heal from racial trauma. Brilliant, furious and powerfully raw, Resmaa is on a mission to cure and then inoculate us against the virus of "white-body supremacy". His prescription is a living, embodied, anti-racist philosophy called Somatic Abolitionism — "a way of being in the world... a return to the age-old wisdom of human bodies respecting, honouring, and resonating with other human bodies".

In this heartfelt, funny and provocative conversation, we discuss what's happening in Minneapolis, the harm of "feral policing", and the recent tragic killings of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery and Breonna Taylor. Resmaa talks about the collective grief that has ensued. The danger of ignorance, white silence, and the problem with white people saying "I didn't know". The whole problem of setting up the white body as the supreme standard (and by inference the black body as the deviant). The unlikelihood of overcoming white-body supremacy through intellect alone. The necessity of embodied work, getting uncomfortable with each other, and "doing the reps" to create a post-racist culture. 

We discuss the idea that trauma could get passed down at first epigenetically, and later, decontextualised, as culture. And that this also happened to the European settlers of America, that they were fleeing violent, powerful people, and that this "fleeing energy", wasn't properly dealt with, but was instead played out on the colonists treatment of the black and indigenous people. We talk about the origins of the idea of race, the 400 to 500 year weight of the concept and its effects, and the naivety of many white people when it comes to race. 

We talk about the relatively clean pain of the California wildfires (versus the dirty pain of avoiding discomfort when it comes to our relationship with race). We talk about the need for putting ourselves in areas so uncomfortable that the only way through is growth. We talk about the things in us that seem defective, actually being protective. We talk about the challenges of living on a US military base in Kandahar with open sewers, and how they illustrate the need we have to "embrace the suck". How we can best do this in groups. How when you're trying to contemplate how your life might look inside this huge marble block, thinking won't work, you need to get to the business of carving.

Most of all though, Resmaa's message shines through, that the necessarily hard work will take us to a better place.

Episode recorded 17th September 2020, and published 23rd October 2020.

Mature themes:

Please note, this episode contains discussion of trauma, sexual violence, racism, and can make for uncomfortable listening. However, please stick with it, because as Resmaa suggests, it is when we are uncomfortable that we grow. Please also do ensure an adult is present (if you're not yet one yourself). 

About Resmaa:

Resmaa Menakem, MSW, LICSW, is a therapist with decades of experience currently in private practice in Minneapolis, MN, specializing in trauma, body-centered psychotherapy, and violence prevention. He has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show and Dr. Phil as an expert on conflict and violence. Menakem has studied with bestselling authors Dr. David Schnarch (Passionate Marriage) and Dr. Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score). He also trained at Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute.

Episode links:

• Resmaa's webpage: resmaa.com
• Resmaa's best-selling book: My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies (Penguin UK / Amazon USA)
• Resmaa on Instagram: @resmaamenakem
• Resmaa on Twitter: @ResmaaMenakem
• You can also take Resmaa's free e-course on Somatic Abolitionism here

Also referenced in this episode: George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, Bessel van der Kolk, Rachel Yehuda, 

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For most of us, falling in love with the absolute wonder of being alive is a distant dream.  Nonetheless, changing how we feel is the goal of most self-help courses, a great deal of therapy and most of the routes that lead to alcohol and drug abuse.
Suppose we could do it intelligently, with a generosity-of-spirit that allows us really to fall in love with the act of living.  So that each moment of life becomes a wonder, however it is lived?
In this final podcast of series 1, we take a look at this ultimate sticking point in our society. For many of us, feeling just isn’t safe and feeling good is either self-indulgence or self delusion.  Or at least, that’s what we’ve programmed ourselves to believe.

But imagine a world where everyone was in love with living every moment of the day. Where we knew as a felt sense, that life was inspiring, and there to be explored. Where the magic of the days touched every interaction with ourselves, other people and the world around us.

None of this is impossible. Childhood trauma notwithstanding, we do have the ability to choose how we feel, moment by moment, hour by hour, day by day. I can open to the things that make my heart grow – or I can recycle the things that make it shrink. (With the coda that for some of us, our history of trauma is too great and we are hijacked by the impact of that on our bodies – therapy is a key resource and one to be used if at all possible.)

For most of us, though, we let our default feelings define the tenor and thread and weave of our lives. And we don’t have to. In fact, we need not to do this for any longer than we can help.

In this podcast, we explore the ways we can shift out of our defaults to something that lets us flourish. Because the world needs nothing less from us now.

Jonathan Haidt - the Righteous Mind   https://www.amazon.co.uk/Righteous-Mind-Divided-Politics-Religion/dp/0141039167/ref=sr_1_1

Bessel van der Kolk - The Body Keeps Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma  https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00IICN1F8/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0

Peter Levine: In an Unspoken Voice: how the body releases trauma and restores goodness   https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B009BVWRLO/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i2

Stephen Porges: Polyvagal theory: https://www.stephenporges.com

Jonathan Franzen - What if we stopped pretending? https://www.newyorker.com/culture/cultural-comment/what-if-we-stopped-pretending

Jem Bendell - Deep Adaptation: http://www.lifeworth.com/deepadaptation.pdf

Rupert Read: This Civilisation is Finished: https://www.amazon.co.uk/This-Civilisation-Finished-Conversations-Empire/dp/0994282834/ref=sr_1_1

Psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk is an innovator in treating the effects of overwhelming experiences. We call this “trauma” when we encounter it in life and news, and we tend to leap to address it by talking. But Bessel van der Kolk knows how some experiences imprint themselves beyond where language can reach. He explores state-of-the-art therapeutic treatments — including body work like yoga and eye movement therapy — and shares what he and others are learning on this edge of humanity about the complexity of memory, our need for others, and how our brains take care of our bodies.

Bessel van der Kolk is the founder and medical director of the Trauma Center in Brookline, Massachusetts. He’s also a professor of psychiatry at Boston University Medical School. His books include Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on the Mind, Body, and Society and The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.

Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org. This show originally aired in July 2013.