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Today I am speaking with Marcus Gottlieb about sexuality in boarding schools. He talks about his experience of working with gay, lesbian and bisexual ex-boarders. 

He also talks about how boarding school was like “a penal colony on Mars” for him. He talks about fagging, being given sedatives as a home sickness medicine, what boarding school syndrome is and how it impacts adults.

A really fascinating conversation.

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Marcus Gottlieb is an experienced psychotherapist of humanistic and integrative orientation. He is registered with the UK Council for Psychotherapy and accredited by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. One half of his practice is supporting boarding school survivors.

Questions for Marcus:

1. I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?
2. Could you please talk about boarding school syndrome. What is it and how does it impact adults?
3. How was your boarding school experience like?
4. Boarding schools claim to instil 'character', self-confidence and self-reliance. Do you agree? What is your clinical experience?
5. What are some of the symptoms of boarding school syndrome as an adult?
6. Could you talk about the impact of sexuality in a boarding school setting?
7. How does boarding school impact us sexually, especially if we are gay, lesbian or bisexual? “...all experienced their schools as profoundly homophobic environments.” P.20
8. Why is it difficult for gay men and women to come to terms with their boarding school experience?
9. Other areas to talk about:
   1. The double bind
   2. How the body restricts itself – throat, chest
   3. Denying and ignoring the needs of the body
   4. If our leaders who have attended BS have denied and ignored their own needs how might that manifest when they are looking after a whole country?
   5. Timetabling
   6. The lack of privacy
   7. BS seem to “produce compliant conformists and sabotaging rebels.”
   8. “repressive, austere, joyless institutions from which everything tactile, sensual or voluptuous was deliberately excluded.” P.20

To reach out to Marcus or learn more about his work please visit either: https://nottinghilltherapy.co.uk/

Or: https://www.bodyinmind.london/

Or the website: https://boardingrecovery.com/

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.

He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1

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Piers Cross

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Filmmakers Jesse Short Bull and Laura Tomaselli talk about radical optimism, and their documentary Lakota Nation vs. United States. It screens Sunday June 18th at 1pm at Water's Edge Cinema at the Provincetown Intl Film Festival.

It tells of the century-long struggle to reclaim the Black Hills, sacred land stolen in violation of treaty agreements. 

Through clips of Hollywood films and TV clips we see the reinforcement of the same stereotypes that justified the stealing of land, the abuses of residential schools and other injustices done to indigenous Americans. It’s a story of reckoning, resilience and hope.

In this episode Jill, Laiya, and Aja talk to intuitive education coach Sharon Green. Sharon and Jill walk through her experience finding the best educational options for her son Jett. If you want to learn more about finding the right school choices for your family check out some of the articles below. If you want to work with Sharon, you can connect with her through her company BloomTree Educational Services, bloomtreeinc@gmail.com.

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Unmarked graves, lost family members, and a reckoning long overdue – it is a story familiar to Indigenous peoples in Canada and the United States, where residential schools for native children ripped apart tribal nations. The US boarding school system was even more extensive than Canada’s, but much less is known about it, and its history is often surrounded by a culture of silence. Today, we’re revisiting this story and still wondering what will it take for a reckoning in the US.

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• Kavitha Chekuru (@KaviChek), producer for Al Jazeera’s Fault Lines (@AJFaultLines)
• Denise Lajimodiere (@DLajimodiere), author and academic
• Eleanor Hadden, descendant of boarding school students

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This episode was updated by Alexandra Locke. The original production team was Alexandra Locke, Dina Kesbeh, Amy Walters, Ney Alvarez, Priyanka Tilve, Natalia Aldana, Stacey Samuel, Graelyn Brashear, and our host, Malika Bilal. Our production team also includes Chloe K. Li, Ruby Zaman, and Ashish Malhotra. Our sound designer is Alex Roldan. Our engagement producers are Aya Elmileik and Adam Abou-Gad. Ney Alvarez is Al Jazeera’s head of audio. 

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Laura reports from “He Sapa‘’, the sacred Black Hills of South Dakota where NDN Collective is reclaiming ancestral lands to address homelessness, addiction and violence against Native Americans. Catalyzed in 2020, by an action in which Land Defenders blocked former President Donald Trump’s road to Mount Rushmore, this Landback campaign is about reclaiming, along with stolen land, native ceremonies, spirituality and traditions of community care. In this special feature, Laura reports on Camp Mniluzahan, a tipi village built on tribal trust land, that welcomed hundreds of unhoused Indigenous people and others in the Rapid City area in the dead of winter last year.  Laura’s guests, Oglala Lakota activists Nick Tilsen, Krystal Two Bulls, Sunny Red Bear and Hermus Bettelyoun of NDN Collective. 

[Camp Mniluzahan] is... a teaching moment [about] what could happen. We're envisioning what could be if we actually had control of our lands and what it would mean to have land back.  -Sunny Red Bear, Director of Racial Equity, NDN Collective; Lakota from the Cheyenne River Sioux Reservation

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Sunny Red Bear, Director of Racial Equity, NDN Collective; Lakota

Amy Sazue, Education Equity Organizer, NDN Collective; Sicangu & Oglala Lakota

Nick Tilsen, President & CEO, NDN Collective; Oglala Lakota

Krystal Two Bulls, Director of LANDBACK Campaign, NDN Collective; Northern Cheyenne/Oglala Lakota

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On Indigenous Peoples' Day, Laura reports from “He Sapa‘’, the sacred Black Hills of South Dakota where NDN Collective is reclaiming ancestral lands to address homelessness, addiction and violence against Native Americans. Catalyzed in 2020, by an action in which Land Defenders blocked former President Donald Trump’s road to Mount Rushmore, this Landback campaign is about reclaiming, along with stolen land, native ceremonies, spirituality and traditions of community care. In this special feature, Laura reports on Camp Mniluzahan, a tipi village built on tribal trust land, that welcomed hundreds of unhoused Indigenous people and others in the Rapid City area in the dead of winter last year.  Laura’s guests, Oglala Lakota activists Nick Tilsen, Krystal Two Bulls, Sunny Red Bear and Hermus Bettelyoun of NDN Collective.  Music in the Middle:  “Stadium Pow Wow” by A Tribe Called Red featuring Black Bear from their album We Are the Halluci-Nation, released on Radicalized Records.

[Camp Mniluzahan] is... a teaching moment [about] what could happen. We're envisioning what could be if we actually had control of our lands and what it would mean to have land back.

-Sunny Red Bear, Director of Racial Equity, NDN Collective; Lakota from the Cheyenne River Sioux Reservation
 

Guests

Hermus Bettelyoun, Racial Equity Organizer, NDN Collective; Oglala Lakota

Sunny Red Bear, Director of Racial Equity, NDN Collective; Lakota

Amy Sazue, Education Equity Organizer, NDN Collective; Sicangu & Oglala Lakota

Nick Tilsen, President & CEO, NDN Collective; Oglala Lakota

Krystal Two Bulls, Director of LANDBACK Campaign, NDN Collective; Northern Cheyenne/Oglala Lakota

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Love is something we all need, cherish, and desire in our lives. As Indigenous people we have always known that being in good relation with people, creatures, and the land is integral to wellbeing. Western science is just catching up to discover what we have known for time immemorial. Indeed, love and relationships are arguably the most important things in life. As settler colonial trauma and violence such as boarding schools have damaged our ability to love we know it is important to discuss how we can heal. We all have different forms of ceremony to find love within ourselves and there are so many ways to love. Thus, in this episode we ask how do we heal from historical trauma to love again? 

We are so grateful to welcome an incredible First Nations scholar for this conversation.

Geraldine King (Anishinaabe) is a member of Kiashke Zaaging Anishinaabek located in the Robinson Superior Treaty area, northwestern Ontario.

Her research interests include: Anishinaabe erotics, ethics of intimacy, kinship studies, theories of Anishinaabe phenomenologies, eco-erotics and Indigenous pedagogical transformation.

Also joining us is Aunty Jillene Joseph (Gros Ventre) the Executive Director of the Native Wellness Institute. She has traveled to hundreds of Native communities and interacted with and learned from thousands of people. Whether she is providing youth leadership training, assisting women heal from childhood trauma or helping to bring wellness to the workplace, Jillene shares her passion for being positive, productive and proactive. 

Through reflection, stories, laughter, and personal perspective this episode delves into a great deal of what love looks like in Indigenous context. We should not have to talk about love in its proximity to whiteness, rather we hope to get a place where we can talk about love without violence. In spite of it all we are still here, still singing, still dancing. Call love into the world so you can feel and experience in it, that is ancestral love. You are not alone cause the earth is holding you, find love in all its forms. Good relationships founded in love keep us happier and healthier... period. So, let’s talk about how we get there. 

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